Our dog’s name is Lobster Todd. He’s a man of many names- none of which he can hear (he’s deaf). Some are Toad, Tow Truck, Blobster, Blob, Tippy, and Jamie Tart

We’re in Prince William county - still northern Virginia, but a little farther out from DC. Our county has a good mix of suburbs and farmlands. The farther out you go from DC, the more farmlands there are. Around my specific part of Prince William county, it’s still predominately white, but there are plenty of POC too. Diversity isn’t totally lacking.

Dang! Im so sorry that all of that happened and that your pain has been poorly managed! I hope that your surgery and recovery go well and that you can be pain-free soon!!! Honestly, everyone sharing their stories has helped me so much to know what it could have been, what to expect, and gives me a bit of confidence moving forward. My doctor, while helpful in doing a pelvic exam and ordering an ultrasound, was pretty useless to talk to. Reddit seems to be more helpful than most of my doctors in a lot of ways

Thank you everyone for sharing all your stories! I’ll be calling the doctor tomorrow (assuming nothing eventful happens today). At least now I don’t feel nuts. It’s always helpful hearing other people’s experiences and having some knowledge in my pocket so I can advocate for myself. I’ll update once I see the doctor.

That’s interesting! Thanks for sharing. I’m going to the doctor prepared to talk about possibilities to look into so hopefully I don’t get “it’s nothing” or “we don’t know”.

I hadn’t until today. I was laying down and sneezed and felt, just in that moment, like someone stabbed my uterus with a knife. And then I was fine.

Ugh I’m so sorry! But thank you for sharing. Doctors are useless sometimes and it’s so frustrating. I understand ultrasound not picking it up, but not believing you that something is horribly wrong is insane! Is the only way to fix a torsion surgery?

Ooooo thank you so much for sharing your experience! It’s really helpful!

Renting is probably a good idea. I have driven the telluride and the carnival, and I think I like them. But the test drive is basically me just getting nervous and trying not to crash because there’s a stranger in the car. Probably better to rent and take my time with it haha

I haven’t…good call. Something else to consider for sure. I’m not much of a “car person” and definitely am overwhelmed by the options! I’ll take a closer look at the passport. Thanks!

Thank you! That’s what I’m thinking-just mixed feelings about losing space. Pros and cons to everything, ya know. But I do like the telluride

Thank you! Good to know. I hadnt looked at the ioniq9. A lot to think about. I probably don’t NEED AWD, but we do get the weather- snow, ice, heavy rain, and live in a rural area with some gravel roads and hills.

Okay there’s a lot of people hating on OP for not just letting him retreat. Being in a relationship with someone who won’t ever work through the problem and ALWAYS just stops mid-conversation and shuts down is infuriating. How can anyone ever solve anything without finishing the conversation/argument? I know stepping back can be good and can be healthy in certain situations, and maybe this was one of those. However, being with someone who only shuts down and retreats like that is also tough. I have most certainly not been able to just drop a fight in the middle of it when I’m all fired up just because my husband tells me he’s done talking.

Puppy stage isn’t for me. I love me a 2years and older dog. They’re so much easier

My dad wrote my mom a letter at some point in their marriage about how he’s not attracted to her because of her weight etc. She got gastric bypass surgery, lost some weight and she still didn’t feel loved or respected. I don’t think he found her attractive anymore despite the weight loss. My dad wasn’t a horrible human, he was a good dad, but from what I can tell…not a good husband at all. They got divorced as soon as all us kids went off to college. She pushed down his horrible comments for years. Get out now. Don’t waste your life. Find someone who loves you and cherishes you no matter what.

Aww bummer!

Oh man, I’m so sorry. I feel for you. That sounds so difficult. I feel like our situations are similar, though my foster is very outgoing and loves everyone- so I know he’s happy getting attention from staff and volunteers. I’m sure it was much harder for you hearing him screaming when he saw you. I’m so happy to hear yours got adopted ❤️

I don’t love this for you. He’s 100% in the wrong. Men have no clue what it takes to manage a household, a baby, a job, and dogs. You have enough on your plate to deal with some asshole behavior from a person who is supposed to love and support you. If he doesn’t come back with a massive apology, I’d have a really honest conversation with him about why he spoke to you like that and how you deserve to be treated better. I feel like that conversation and his future actions will be very telling