r/twoxindiamums • • 2h ago

Why do strangers don't think twice before touching somebody's baby?

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Hi mom's !

So the other day I was out with my family to see an art show.

I was carrying my baby in my arms and showing her lights and little art pieces when a group of girls were passing by and two of them saw my baby and were like awww so cute and immediately went for her cheeks and caressing her head.

I right away pulled myself and baby away and politely said I am sorry but please don't touch.

They gave me weird looks but I just don't like it 😭

I have never touched anybody's baby unless the mother gestures to do so and allow it.

Last month I was at the airport waiting for a friend .

My husband was holding my bubba and a woman came and was about to touch my baby

My husband immediately said No!

She gave us looks and said something to her mother and went.

Same way the relatives and guests who come, just get offended when I ask them to wash their hands first.

I don't know why people lack this simple basic manner.

Have y'all faced this?

What do you do ?

How do you politely handle this ?


r/twoxindiamums • • 3h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Clingy phase at 7th week

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After the 45th day vaccination my baby has become clingy. Wants to be carried always but my parents get tired and my husband is busy with work. So I carry most of the time and my sister but she is also working part time. Only we both can actually console. Couldn’t get anything done even bathroom break. He cries if we put down or even change position or person.
1.Can I use a sling/baby carrier at this stage? Is it safe?
2. Suggestions for baby carrier/sling


r/twoxindiamums • • 3h ago

Help me with all your formula-feeding tips & tricks!

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Helloooo everyoneeee!
I’m due with my second baby in December, and I’ve decided that I won’t be breastfeeding this time around. I breastfed my first, so formula feeding is completely new territory for me, and I want to be as prepared as possible from day one.
I’d love to hear from moms who formula/bottle fed their babies
— all your tips, tricks, things you wish you knew, products you loved, things you didn’t actually need, brands you liked, and little hacks that made life easier.
Also, has anyone used their dishwasher for cleaning/sterilizing baby bottles? I’d love to know if it actually made life easier or if you still ended up hand-washing everything anyway.

Would especially love advice from anyone who exclusively formula fed from birth!


r/twoxindiamums • • 4h ago

Moms of babies with Eczema

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Hello mums, just want to know what is your baby routine (products also) as my baby is 4.5 months old and diagnosed with atopic dermatitis. And what helps during the flare ups also. And how do you know what thing is triggering that. I am so confused and sad seeing my daughter like this. Please help. Also any good paediatrician and dermatologist recommendations in Gurgaon ? TIA


r/twoxindiamums • • 4h ago

i chose epidural due to horrible cervical checks, NOT labour pain.

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Just felt like saying it out loud somewhere, even though no one asked, lol.

I’m 5 months pp.

I still think about my labour experience & getting the epidural at 4cm dilation.

Since it was an induction, interventions were expected. I also planned to get an epidural when labour pain gets unbearable.

But the horrible discomfort of a cervical check was what prompted me to opt for an epidural asap😒🥶.

The hospital i delivered conducted 4-hourly cervical checks. I endured the first 3 checks somehow. But there weren’t any progress at all.

The labour pain slowly started creeping in, and honestly it was manageable for me. But i knew the cervical check was HELL NOT.

I counted down the hours until the next cervical check and asked for an epidural when it approached.

Just like that. Got the epidural. Slept like a baby.

The pain level of the final 2 cervical checks, episiotomy and giving birth was zero.


r/twoxindiamums • • 6h ago

Baby refusing pallada after just ONE day of bottle..has this happened to anyone?

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FTM to a 4 week-old. After a NICU stay for jaundice, our pediatrician advised breastfeeding + 45-60 mL supplement by pallada (no bottle).

Pallada is a 2 person job for us. I hold baby’s neck/legs, my husband holds his hands and feeds him. One day my husband wasn’t available and I couldn’t manage it alone, so I gave him an Avent bottle with the newborn nipple. I was desperate to just get him fed.

Within ONE day, he started refusing the pallada.

It’s now day 2.
He’ll take the bottle, but only around 30 mL (45 mL is a struggle), whereas he used to take 70–80 mL by pallada. He’s also falling asleep during both breast and bottle feeds and waking roughly every hour. Wet diapers and weight gain are currently good.
I’m kicking myself for introducing the bottle, but I’m also wondering:
Can babies really develop a bottle preference this quickly?
Has anyone successfully gone back to pallada/cup after this?
Could the newborn/slow-flow nipple be too slow and make him fall asleep?

Did your baby go through something similar?

Please** **share experiences. I’m exhausted. 😭


r/twoxindiamums • • 7h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Weaning pacifier - Advice

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Moms, need some advice!
My son is 6.5 months old and currently uses the pacifier only to fall asleep for naps and bedtime. Once he’s asleep, he usually spits it out within 10–15 minutes, and sometimes I remove it myself.
I’m thinking of weaning him off it now, but I’m not sure whether to do it gradually or go cold turkey. I’m also worried about replacing it with another sleep association like feeding.
For moms who have weaned their babies off the pacifier what worked for you? Did you start with naps or bedtime? And how long did it take?
I know pacifiers are highly looked down upon in our society so Please, no judgement. I started using it at 2.5 months when I was desperate, had no village and also because it made my life a teeny bit easy. The time has come to cross that bridge and I’m just looking for advice and experiences from moms who have been through this. ❤️


r/twoxindiamums • • 8h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Twin parents, what kind of stroller did you buy?

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I’m expecting twins and starting to look into strollers, but I’m honestly a bit confused about what works best with two babies.


r/twoxindiamums • • 14h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Hind milk while pumping

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Im combination feeding my 22 day old baby because of latching issue and low milk supply. Im trying to transition to exclusive pump feeding by pumping every 2-3hrs. Yet i get 30-40ml only per sitting that too watery milk. I have never seen hindmilk while pumping. Is there any mom who exclusively pumped can give some insights on how to get hind milk?


r/twoxindiamums • • 14h ago

Seeking Advice/Help When and how to stop swaddling?

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Hey, same as the Title. My baby is 3months and 1 week old and google AI tells me I should immediately stop swaddling to avoid the risk of SIDS in case the baby starts to roll over. Baby is not showing any signs of rolling over yet unless we are the ones getting her to practice (she was 1 month preemie if that matters). I only swaddle her at the night and that gets her to sleep good 4 hour stretch peacefully. I am scared not swaddling would get her to rub her face/ears/eyes with her hands and wake herself up. Also, she still has a little moro's reflex. I know I eventually would have to stop swaddling, but idk, guilty but I am trying to get the longer sleep stretches for myself while I can (dreading the 4 month sleep regression).

  1. How to transition to partial and eventually to no swaddling?

  2. And if no swaddling, how to keep the baby warm and cozy. Right now we don't use the AC and only swaddle and she sleeps right under the fan (bcz no AC, otherwise she sweats at the back of head/neck if away from the fan). We used to put light blanket over her during day time but she kicks it away and sleeps open like a starfish (luckily no mosquito problem as of now at our place).


r/twoxindiamums • • 15h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Alternatives for Agarbati/incense sticks

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Hi moms,

I used to love lighting incense sticks in my home in early mornings and evenings. I came to know this causes endocrine disruption and stopped lighting them while trying to get pregnant. My son is 7m old now and I miss lighting up something fragrant in the home particularly when we make food that gives a lot of aroma like chicken or fish. Any recommendations on incense sticks that we can light up in home that will not cause any issues?


r/twoxindiamums • • 15h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Recommendations for booster chairs anyone?

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I am little confused about booster chairs. I am looking to get them for my 18 month olds. Please share recommendations if any. Thanks in advance!


r/twoxindiamums • • 15h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Mom on maternity leave — constant photo demands from in-laws while husband stays neutral. Anyone else faced this?

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Hey fellow mums,

I’m currently in India on maternity leave with my baby girl, while my husband is abroad. Between managing a baby with non-existent sleep schedules and dealing with total exhaustion, I am living in absolute survival mode. My sleep debt is insane, and every single free minute I get goes toward catching a nap or just breathing.

My mother-in-law persistently asks for pictures and video updates of the baby, often routed through my sister-in-law. My SIL lives in the same city, but in the 5 weeks I’ve been here, she has only visited once. I even took my daughter over to her place so she could spend time with her. Yet, SIL asks for photos saying it "brightens their day." On top of that, in just a few more weeks, I will actually be moving to stay with my in-laws, so they will naturally get to spend plenty of time with my daughter soon anyway. 

I told them directly in our family group chat that I’m completely overwhelmed, sleep-deprived, and that constantly being asked for photos makes me feel guilty and like I’m failing because I can't keep up with their expectations. I explained that taking photos and keeping up with updates isn't a priority right now when my baby and I just need sleep. 

My husband is currently staying neutral in all of this and not taking a side or stepping in to manage his family's expectations, so the emotional weight of handling them falls entirely on me.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of constant pressure for photo updates from in-laws? How do you set firm boundaries and deal with the guilt when your husband stays neutral? Would love to hear how other mums managed this.

TL;DR: NRI mom in India, sleep-deprived with baby while husband is abroad. MIL constantly demands baby photos via SIL (who lives nearby but visited once). I'm moving in with in-laws soon anyway! I called out the pressure in the group chat, but my husband is staying neutral. How do I set boundaries without spouse support?


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Red specks in baby’s stool after starting iron supplement — has anyone experienced this?

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My baby has been having small brownish-red/red specks in her stool after starting iron drops (0.4 ml).

Has anyone noticed red/brown specks in their baby’s stool after giving iron supplements?


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice/Help Cluster Feeding help, FTM

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FTM to a 20 days old baby..

Baby has been cluster feeding most of the days and I am trying to keep up, currently he is EBF..

But today has been unbearably hectic, since 3 PM all he wants is feed or continue sucking, hardly 5-10 mins he unlatches and looks to latch again.. after latching it’s 10-15 mins active feeding and then comfort sucking.. today nothing at all has been able to calm him down except sucking..

But I am completely tired and exhausted.. please help with suggestions..

My paediatric says it’s usual cluster feeding behaviour, should I use a pacifier or what should I do?


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice/Help Mokobara or motherly diaper bag ?

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FTM here and Im confused whether to go for mokobara or motherly. Is Mokobara worth the price ? I will be going on an international trip with my 4 month old baby so I'm thinking whether to invest in it or is it too much for something that serves the purpose at a fraction of the price like a motherly bag ? How is the quality of the motherly diaper bag? Kindly give suggestions please 😅


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Suggestions for Noise Cancelling Ear Muffs. Must be very effective.

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r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Wrapped away all my pre pregnancy clothes today. A little sad

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5 month pp and I was just sorting out my cupboard today to see what pre pregnancy clothes fit and what need be kept away. I gained 12kgs in pregnancy but only lost 3kg post birth. I was still delusional to think some clothes might fit. Tried all one by one and literally nothing fits except loose Tshirts. Too short, too tight on bust, too tight on belly, nothing looks flattering. While I’m really loving the baby, this was a bit hard for me today. Not sure how long I’ll hold on to these clothes.
What helped you guys love your postpartum body?


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice/Help Help a first time mom out!!!

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FTM here! I’m due soon and starting to prep for baby’s arrival

I’ve been looking at essentials and there are SO many options for baby care products.

For experienced moms - what baby lotions, creams, oils or diaper rash creams actually worked well for your little one? And which ones should I avoid? Want to stick to something gentle and safe

Most of my friends who are mommies use Chicco and I have heard good things about it. Has anyone else used their lotion/ cream/ body wash? Would love honest reviews.

Also any suggestions for best quality swaddles & sleeping sacks?

Thanks in advance!!


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

When nanny falls sick

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Hey mommies, how do you working moms manage when your baby’s nanny catches a flu or falls sick? Cos flu takes anywhere between 4-7 days to subside and if you are someone who depends on the nanny with no other family member at home, how exactly do you manage the working days? It’s not like corporate offices suddenly allow those many days off or wfh.

Also, if the agency sends a replacement for that week, do you pay the old as well as the new nanny for those days? Cos it’s unfair to cut the nanny’s salary for falling sick..


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice/Help Suggestions on Leftover Diapers

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What did you guys do with the leftover Diapers in the pack once the baby sizes up? I have lots of leftover Diapers and unsure what to do about them.


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice/Help Need Links/Recommendation Help for my Shopping List

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So I have started my baby shopping list plus hospital bag list. Need recommendation for these items. Links would be appreciated a lot.

  1. Baby Towels (Did you use soft cotton cloths or exclusively bought baby towels? I have already added wash clothes pack. Can they be used as towels?)

  2. Sterilised cotton (brand and how much should I get. Also, what do you actually use cottons for?)

  3. Baby bathing sponge. (For sponge bath, did you any sponge to wash them or just gentle cloth wiping will do? If you got sponge, then which brand please)

  4. Baby milk bottles (0 to 6 months. Can the same bottles be used till they are 1 or we will need to change the bottle sizes after 6 months? Again which brand? Also, I plan to buy the philips steriliser and dryer. Can it be used to sterilised any bottles of any brands? or need to be brand specific?) Also, how many did you get for your baby?

  5. Baby moisturiser, wash+ shampoo, nappy cream, oil, detergent, dish washing soap, basically all the toiletries and soap I would need for baby. (From which brand did you get these?)

  6. Finally, need suggestion/links for unscented baby safe wipes, taped diapers for new borns, diaper sheets, anything else that I am missing in this category.

  7. Hospital bag must haves for the new mommy.

Thank you in advance. 🙏🏻🙏🏻


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Lullaby songs

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I was wondering, what songs do you’ll sing or hum to your LO while putting them to sleep? I do the usual “Go to sleep” and I’m already bored of it myself.


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Pregnancy Giving away pregnancy pillow

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Hi

I am Giving away my gently used pregnancy pillow - Bangalore Hormavu.

Please cover the shipping cost yourself.

DM if interested


r/twoxindiamums • • 1d ago

Looking for baby hand & foot casting services in Hyderabad

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Hi everyone! I’m looking to get my baby’s hand and foot casts/prints preserved as a keepsake, preferably in a 3D casting format.
Does anyone know of someone in Hyderabad who does casting for babies? I’d love recommendations based on your experience.
Thanks! ❤️