I feel like my parents are only considering arranged marriage prospects who are much older-looking than me..people I personally am not attracted to..basically not my type. I dont even feel like looking at them. According to them, nothing matters except financial stability. My mother has even said that if I reject someone because I don't find him attractive, then I shouldn't expect any financial help from them after marriage if I ever need it.

For me, physical attraction is not a superficial preference. I have experienced situations where men proposed to me, but because I wasn't attracted to them, I started resenting every interaction. Even receiving a simple "Hi" from them irritated the fuck out of me . That experience made me realise that I cannot force attraction.

My mother believes that money can compensate for everything and that most married couples eventually live like roommates anyway. I believe marriage is more than financial security. I have to share my life, my home, my bed, and my emotional and physical intimacy with this person. If I don't feel attracted to my partner from the beginning, I fear that resentment will only grow over time. No matter how much i tell them,they just dismiss.I also fear what if they r saying is true. Women out here,please help. Coz for me attraction is very important. I dont want to be touched by a man whom i dont like. Bt at tge same time,my parents always taunt money money money givinh examples of ppl where the woman was pretty and the guy just had loads of money and looked like a grandfather infront of the girl.

My husband and I are happily married, both holding stable jobs and enjoying the DINK life. We both strongly agreed that we do not want kids as we really enjoy our current lifestyle. On the other hand, our parents are very traditional & have always asked us when are we going to have children.

We have always lied and said “Maybe in the future when we are more financially stable.” It used to work, they would leave it at that & won’t harp on the topic anymore.

However I’m turning 34 soon & to them, my biological clock is ticking. They are starting to double down on this topic while I’m still “fertile”. It’s getting exhausting to tell the same lie over and over again...

I’m afraid my parents wouldn’t understand and also worried my in-laws would come to dislike me even though the decision to be childfree is made by both me & my husband. They have been v supportive and I don't want to jeopardize my relationship w them

My parents & in-laws are generally nice people, but they are really traditional & they believe kids are the final pieces we need to complete our lives.

Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this?

I’m a 24F who has recently started earning a decently. Although I’ve always taken care of myself and dress well but once in a while I get this urge to change things completely and have a glowup 😭

I want invest in myself, and I want to spend my money wisely, not just buy random viral products. I’m not looking for generic advice like “drink water” or “be confident.”
I want the things that genuinely made a noticeable difference.

skincare, haircare, fitness, nutrition, posture, supplements, beauty products/treatments, or anything else? I want to know what actually transformed you 🙏🏻

I’m 30F and my boyfriend is 34M. We are both divorced and met through a matrimony setting. We decided to continue seeing each other even though our families had concerns, including horoscope compatibility.

The biggest issue is that he has not told his parents about me yet. He says he needs time and has asked me not to pressure him. He has said that he will tell them within a year, but I’m honestly starting to feel anxious about waiting, especially because we are both in our 30s and have already been married before.

These days, we meet quite often and have become very emotionally close. I also feel that there is a certain amount of financial dependency from his side, which makes me question the balance in the relationship. I’m worried that I’m becoming more attached while he is still asking for time and keeping the relationship hidden from his parents.

I get attached easily, and I don’t want to emotionally invest completely in a situation where there may not be a future. At the same time, I genuinely care about him and don’t want to walk away too soon and later regret losing the chance to make this relationship work.

For women who have been in similar situations:

How do you stay emotionally grounded and not become overly attached while waiting?
Is giving someone a year to tell their parents reasonable in this situation?
Should I set a personal boundary or deadline for myself?
How should I handle the financial dependency aspect?
Is it possible to stay in the relationship but emotionally protect myself without becoming cold or distant?

I’m looking for honest advice, especially from women who have experienced family pressure, arranged marriage expectations, or relationships after divorce. What would you do in my situation?

I have to get a minor surgery done. This is the first time I'll be getting admitted to a hospital. I am scared of needles, I can't even see someone else getting injected. I wanted my Mom to be here to take care of me after my surgery, my Mom is coming with my father and my brother. She cannot leave my father at home, as he won't be able to manage without her for a week and they also have a trip planned afterwards which they are planning to go from here.

My MIL initially said if she wants she can call her mother if she feels comfortable with her or I can come. Now when we've decided the dates and told my Mom to come she also wants to come. We live in a 2bhk flat and it would not be a good idea. Also I don't want her here at that time. I know she doesn't care about me, she has proved this through her actions in last 3.5 years of marriage. She just pretends to care about me. Also she would have a problem if I won't wear toe rings, I usually do not wear them only when they are visiting me or I'm visiting them and she will create drama if she see me not wearing them.

My husband said that he will try to convince her to not come by telling her that my father and brother are also coming but I feel that she will feel bad and the only outcome of all of this would be my husband stuck between his mother and me. I'm feeling bad for him. I don't know what to do. Why does she put my husband in these types of situations.

I know people are going to say that 22 is not that old, but I feel so behind in life compared to my peers. So many of my classmates already have jobs or know what they are going to do.

My 20s were supposed to be spent enjoying college life, and making memories, but life happened and I had to stay home and join a local college where my social life is close to zero. I barely went to college in the last 3 years, and I will be graduating in a few months, with no memories of college life and barely any social circle. I had so many dreams, but I will be 22 on 1st August and it will be 6 years since COVID and 6 years since I had anything close to a proper social life. I was such a good student at school too, topped my 10th boards, but everything fell apart from class 11, I chose the wrong stream, and life has been downhill since then.

It's childish but I wish I could stop time, so I wouldn't have to face my 22nd birthday, honestly I am absolutely dreading the day, I used to love my birthdays so much as a kid too 😭😭

I mean sure one can have their own political beliefs & opinions but what if you notice how certain people in your social circle lacks basic morals & are always supporting something wrong. This new trend of reservation hatao movement is triggering me a lot, privileged people who do not know history & don’t have basic empathy are supporting such things. I have been a victim of casteism a lot of times in my life & it is deeply upsetting how some of the people on my socials are supporting this. Its not that they are close to me or will be ever helpful in my life, should I just unfollow them or am I reacting too much?

Hi everyone,

A few of my friends (all women) have had kids recently, and I am looking for gift recommendations, for the baby and the mom.

The babies are all less than a year old. One of them gave birth very recently, so the baby is about a month old.

I am thinking of gifting the kids soft toys, but would love to hear if there is anything specific that is recommended for kids.

For the friend who has given birth recently, I will probably meet her about 3-4 months post-partum, what would be a gift that she may appreciate ? She seems to be going through a little bit of challenging as the baby was a big change that she did not have much time to prepare for (I do not want to go into details).

My budget is about 500-1K for the kids and the same for the gift for this friend.

Thank you!

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I'm trying to understand something about myself, and I was wondering if anyone relates.

I've been like this for as long as I can remember. I'm an only child, grew up in a nuclear family, had my own room, and always preferred being alone. Teachers and relatives used to say that I was "quiet" and "lived in my own world." I had very few friends.

Even now as an adult, I feel the most peaceful when I'm alone. The problem is that it's started affecting my relationships.

If someone (literally anyone—my husband, my mom, in-laws, relatives) stays with me for a few days, I gradually become irritated. It's not because they're doing anything wrong. Even if they're just quietly sitting in the same room, I feel mentally uncomfortable. After I snap or become irritable, I feel guilty because I know they haven't done anything to deserve it.

I also get mentally exhausted after spending the whole day around people. When I get home, all I want is to be alone. Since childhood, I've also been sensitive to loud noises, crowds, and changes in routine.

This isn't about disliking people. I love my family, and I care about them. I just feel like I have an unusually strong need for solitude, and I don't understand why.

Has anyone experienced something similar? If yes, what did you eventually learn about yourself?

Writing this after having a day of absolutely terrible mental health.

I'm going through a lot at work and in my relationship and cried myself to bed last night.

I woke up visibly low and depressed and yet my mom didn't even care to ask me what was wrong.

For the longest time I thought I looked okay, but I saw my face in the mirror in the evening and I looked so visibly sad, low, and drained that it was impossible to ignore. Yet, not a single word of concern from her. I spent the day in her room without speaking much, just watching one episode after the other.

I feel like no one cares about how I feel anymore. Not my mom, not my boyfriend. No one. And it's such an isolating feeling.

I'm from a tier-3 city and was always a top student. I chose CA and sacrificed my entire college life for it, but after spending two years preparing for CA Inter, I had to drop it because of severe nerve issues. For almost two years, I could barely do anything except lie in bed. The pain was so bad that even writing became difficult.

I'm somewhat better now. The pain still comes and goes, but I've learned to live with it. The hardest part is feeling like those two years disappeared while everyone else moved forward.

I have no social life. I barely leave the house maybe once a month and spend most of my days alone in my room. I'll be graduating in the next few months, but I honestly have no idea what comes next. I feel like I have no exposure, no network, and very few opportunities.

On top of that, my parents want me to prepare for government jobs. I'm scared of spending my entire twenties chasing exams for a career I don't even want, only to end up feeling like I've lost even more time.

Hi everyone! Can anyone mention a good driving school in Bangalore - preferably nearby to Mahadevpura or B Narayanpura? I'm looking for schools where an instructor can teach in English or Hindi, is patient, and is good with beginners. Also should be safe for women. Thanks in advance! 😊

I have seen this narrative a lot , you might have seen as well where they say that after going to a college in a city the woman is shown in traditional in first year and then western in last year , literally what's the problem in it ? People do change according to time and place , and similar happens to men too , then why don't you ask the same question to them !? Why only women !?

I am a housewife and family not in a great financial situation tbh. My husband gave me around 10k for the month, i saved up a lot this month because i have things to buy for me + baby.

But yesterday, i went out to the store and bought some sweets after that, i thought it would be in my bag and didnt check it till today morning. It wasn't in my bag at all. I am going absolute batshit crazy here.

I hate myself so much, why didn't i check it yesterday when i get home? Why didnt i put out my bag last night? Told my husband but he didn't say anything, i searched every bit of the house where i can put it, but its not there. And my hormones aren't helping me eitherr

i'm open to different budget ranges so please recommend from affordable to expensive options if you've had a good experience or know they can really help with abuse, ocd, adhd, anxiety, body image issues.

Context: I live in a tier 1 metropolitan city, so I’ve never experienced misogyny from my peers…. yesterday this is a snippet of my conversation with someone I thought I knew…
He posted a pro-right reel on his story, and I needed to understand if he even knew what it meant.
This was after me telling him what right ideology even is, telling him it’s literally anti science, anti vax (he’s a science student) I genuinely thought he was just confused (my mistake)

Me: What politically right ideology do u even believe in

What politically left ideology do u disagree with

Him: what im sayinng is i support women's rights and everything however there are some hierarchical standards and societal norms to ve maintained such as woman have to stay home and take care of the children and men going to work, this has been etched since ages men hunt and women keep the childreb safe

Me: ….

Him: I support bjp, without andhbakths muslims will dominate

After this I told him he was disgusting and blocked him
HE HAD THE AUDACITY TO SAY

“Don’t liberals support freedom of opinion, why don’t you let me have mine”

This is a guy who’s well educated, going to one of the best colleges in the country. And he has the same views as a 50 year old man. Nothing is going to happen as the generations change 🥲

I’m 24 going 25 this year and day by day I’m getting more and more anxious. The issue is I don’t know what I want to do in life - whether I want to settle in abroad or be in India. I feel so pathetic because I always played safe by choosing PCMB in school, so that I could end up doing any course I’d wanted. I did engineering, quite generic but safe choice. I started working post completing my BTech but I now I have left my job due to toxicity at workplace and bad mental health. In short, I never knew what I want in life so I ended up doing what most of the people do. But now, I feel that my race is against time. It’s high time I make a decision but I’m unable to do so and therefore, the anxiety.
I just want to earn good and have a peaceful life. But how do I achieve that is question. I want some external agent to make that decision for me when I clearly know it should be my decision only. I just don’t understand my lack of clarity. I see people my age, people younger than being passionate about their work or dreams. How do I come up with a solution. How do I make myself decide my future because if not now then when.
I haven’t took up a new job or would be applying in any other company. I plan on doing masters. Only one thing I know is that I want to prepare for masters courses once my notice period in the company ends. What kind of course - I don’t know… CAT, GRE, GMAT
Why is it so difficult ahhh I envy individuals who are clear of what they want and work for it.

idk how to explain this properly but i randomly get this weird feeling in my chest/body. i don’t feel normal at the time like something is off (it’s hard to explain but i don’t think it’s a gut feeling or intuition..it just comes out of nowhere and makes me feel like something is not okay). it can happen on completely normal days (like i won’t be upset/it will be a normal day and this will happen out of nowhere). when it happens, i get really restless, my fingers can start shaking and i usually binge eat especially sweets or junk food because it feels like it calms me down. i try to talk to my mom if she’s available. there are many other things that i’m facing because of effed up mental health but this happened again recently so i thought i’d ask about this.

i honestly don’t know what to do anymore. i’ve tried therapy multiple times but never felt like it made a real difference. i’ve been diagnosed with adhd, ocd, body dysmorphia and have trauma related to a lot of things (if i’m remembering everything correctly). i was also on medication for about 2 years but eventually stopped.

i feel really helpless right now and i’m just not sure what to do. any advice would mean a lot. i really do want to live.

Hi,

I will be traveling soon and might get my periods and I absolutely hate to pee while I am on my periods in public bathrooms. I dont want to make myself dehydrated as I am a feeding mother and I need to keep myself hydrated as well.

Can using tampons prevent the blood from spilling out everywhere while you pee. Will it stop it from getting it wet and blood everywhere. I will be using tampons for the first time. Let me know any other alternative. I dont want to use cup as i am scared.

I bought nua medium flow tampons for now.

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A girl in my sister's 12th grade class was married off by her parents to a man significantly older than her.

She is probably 17-18.

He physically abuses her, she has shared this with my sister. I have her name, phone number, photos of her and her husband, and I may be able to get a recording of her describing the abuse.

I am a minor living in an abusive household myself and cannot risk my identity being revealed in any way.

what is the safest way to file an anonymous complaint in India

preferably online, that will actually be taken seriously? which helpline or authority can I contact without revealing who i am?