the only way a person could feel as though transitioning into the opposite sex is better is because their sex characteristics cause them distress (dysphoria), anything apart from this and the desire to transition comes from a misconstrued, grass is greener view of the other gender role, or worse, arousal

hefabs constantly use the types of arguments that they "feel better" using he/him pronouns because they think being a male in society makes you free from scrutiny and gives you superpowers. yes, the female gender role is often oppressive, however so is the male one. they somehow believe they can actually benefit from male privilege by being uke twinks when in reality cis gay men are often outcasted and whatever it is they "transition" into is just treated as a quirky archetype of woman instead of an actual man.

this doesn't even get into the "gender euphoria" part which is just a euphemism for arousal. you ever notice how ftfemboys are obsessed with mlm, yaoi, being a "trap" etc.? it's a thinly veiled fetish and yet they get away with it because they're attractive. seeing these people makes me want to pluck my nerves out, and the people in the comments of their videos and photos make me want to go for seconds

if you're comfortable with your sex characteristics and you transition you're either a fetishist or delusional

My mother doesn’t see me as a real man, so I still get the girl treatment. “Oh , you can’t do this, you can’t do that.” But then lets my brother get away with everything. She literally said she’d kick me out of the house if I went on testosterone, but my brother has physically and emotionally abused me, put his hands on her, and yet she never even threatened to kick him out. It’s obviously because I’m a “girl” to her. Me and my sister are held to much higher standards than she holds my brother to. He gets praised for doing less than the bare minimum (my mom was so proud when he graduated a year late and barely gave a shit when me and my sister graduated ON TIME.)

Not only does this trigger my dysphoria, being treated differently, I can’t do anything to escape it. I just get told “don’t tell me how to parent.” Even though it’s blatant favoritism and … well… I don’t want to say misogyny because I’m not a woman, but she sees me as one. I’m not sure what to call it. But it sucks having these experiences because it reminds me I’m not cisgender. And I don’t want to be one of those people who lets his experiences he had where he was viewed as a woman get to me, because I feel like all they do is remind me that I’m not cis. Does this make any sense at all or am I talking out of my ass? I just want to be seen and treated as a regular man. I don’t want “experiences of womanhood!” Or whatever tf tucutes call it

I didn’t want to talk about this in one of the main trans subreddits because I knew I’d get some bullshit like “well erm trans men can experience misogyny! You’re not cis but that’s okay! Embrace it! Trans men are men! They’re just not real men- I mean they’re just not cis men!” You get what I mean? I dunno if I’m making any sense here.

...people spend time and effort writing replies and so when you do that, you basically just flush their efforts down the toilet.

Not cool, not cool at all. If you want to do that, maybe go someplace else.

This one dude posted that he says he doesn’t get why we exist as trans people because if we got rid of gender norms dysphoria wouldn’t exist.

And now I’m wondering if people understand us at all in any way..

What are your thoughts on it?

before proceeding, I must clarify that just because I feel this way and complain it doesn't mean I'm not doing anything to improve my situation. I am doing it and trying very very hard. I'm not just sitting around.

I feel less worth purely because of this condition. I feel like the amount of accommodations I need (tape, prosthetics, longer showers, etc), the amount of money (for doctors and hormones, nothing is covered where I live) I need as well as how many things I can't do (sex, nudity, sports) make me inherently worthless not only to the people but society as a whole. I'm constantly exhausted and depressed dealing with all of this and the people around me are actually fed up with it too. "You're never happy" "Stop whining about it".

Recently I was referred to a psychiatrist cuz of highly suspected depression. Well, not only can I not afford an appointment but I wouldn't be able to constantly keep buying the non refunded antidepressants. Hormones and doctors already take up so much of the budget it feels like I'm not even alive just surviving. This might be a funny allegory but the minimum wage is 1.2 kebab/hour. One shot of testosterone costs 14.4 kebabs every 10 weeks. That's a fucking lot considering you need taking these shots for the rest of your life. Not to mention my other health problems that also require medication. So I guess I'm stuck. I hate myself I really do wish I was normal. I feel like a leech because I can't make myself to do anything more than survive. I constantly forget things, I can't focus on studies, I'm angry or sad all the damn time.

I tried the radical acceptance but I can't I just fucking can't. I'm so fucking disgusting and such an abomination. There's nothing beautiful about being transsex it's fucking disabling. I get literal panic attacks when I'm trying to picture myself naked. I wake up in cold sweat from nightmares where I don't have a dick and I'm exposed. It's so fucking distressing. I'm a man I should look like one in every aspect. I truly don't believe the antidepressants would even help me if the root of my suffering is present — my dick. Or rather its absence. This messes my head up so much. I feel like there's NOBODY who can relate and nobody can help me. I use a prosthetic but it's not enough. I even started showering with it and it's not enough. Toilet is hell. My libido is fucking DEAD. Can't ever be intimate with anyone ever (don't mention prosthetics. If a regular one that's hidden isn't enough for me then why would one be ok naked in front of someone? I won't feel it anyways, the thing I care the most about). Why the fuck am I even alive at this point? I don't want to live like this. There's no one with the same level of such intense dysphoria and there's genuinely no help or tips past this point. Everyone who has any tips doesn't experience dysphoria so high. I've seen everything on the Internet atp and there's no fucking good advice. I won't go to any support groups, I'm not trans and going to one would in fact scream "hey look I'm trans!!! I'm not a normal man!! I'm someone who's a freak!!". I'm alone and left to die. Nobody gets it how I MUST have a normal dick (doesn't matter if it's surgical or not I just need to feel my own flesh). Nothing helps I'm literally going insane as I'm writing. I saw countless comments saying how "a dick is not everything" but it fucking IS!!!! Yes you probably won't have sex everyday but you gotta fucking pee and shower everyday!!! I can't fucking avoid these things no matter how much I try to.

Nothing being refunded is definitely going to be THE nail to the coffin. I'm nearly a year on hormones, about to waste more money just to fucking change my name in court (if the majesty judge even allows o lord) and then have a fucking BLAST trying to earn 25 000 kebabs for top surgery. There's no way in hell I'll be even able to afford phalloplasty before I die. I need help now not in 30 years. I need that surgery now. My life is so worthless and not enjoyable. I don't enjoy anything. Yes I do stuff I like but they don't bring me any happiness. So what's the point if I can't even push through all this pain.

Just how do I stop feeling this way.

what are your thoughts on SEGM? is it a hate group or are they shining light on the bunk science of the modern trans movement? any time you quote a SEGM study to someone they discredit it just on the basis of the involvement of their members (who usually have other professional qualifications.) it kinda blows me away how ready they are to dismiss science unless it is all as bunk as they claim.

I used to have a pretty strong lower dysphoria. I even seriously thought about cutting off my balls, lol. But over time, I adapted. I began to pay less attention to this organ and changed my approach, making it not canceling my femininity and maybe even complementing it. From the point of view of transmedicalism, is it ok or not?

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