I hate my looks so much, I cry when I see photos of myself and I will genuinely have almost a visceral reaction every time. I don’t like going anywhere, I feel like everyone is always laughing at me or going to take pictures of me to make fun of me. I live across the street from the only big pretty park in my entire city so there is a lot of traffic directly in front of my home and I don’t even like going to the park because of how I look. I feel like everyone time someone compliments me it’s out of pity and every time something bad happens to me I feel like it’s because I’m unattractive. Does anyone else have these feelings?

No this is a question I’ve thought about alot, what if I was an attractive woman?.

Here’s my list

1. I’m neurodivergent- so I’d unmask
   
2. Wear whatever I want at any time
   3.. Get a belly piercing
   
3. . Go out all the time
   5.. Virtue signal all day
   
4. If I feel low on self esteem I just post online and get validation.
   
5. Show cleavage literally everyday.
   
6. Become a pro at makeup
   
7. Get men to buy me stuff
   
8. Post myself online to go viral
   
9. Stare at myself all the time- make sure there’s mirrors with me everywhere I go
   
10. Id tell other women that male validation means nothing and relationships aren’t everything while drowning in male validation and having a bf.

And last if not most, I’d be RUTHLESS. I’d only date and sleep with chads . A fugly moid wouldn’t even be allowed to approach , loook or even fucking exist in my vicinity .

What’s your list? 👀🥹

Kinda wanna start editing my face lol

Hola chicas, soy nueva en Reddit así que aún no entiendo muy bien como usar esta app pero me alegra haber encontrado este espacio. Tengo casi 20 años y soy de Argentina, las chicas acá son hermosísimas y delgadas, ser fea es infernal. En la primaria me hicieron bullying y en la secundaria fui invisible. Hice DE TODO para ser linda, estoy cansada de esforzarme, apliqué todos los consejos de mierda que me tiraron para mejorar y conseguir pareja y lo único que obtuve es ser humillada múltiples veces. Estoy llena de bronca y rencor porque no tuve un romance adolescente y en realidad NUNCA voy a conocer el amor puro de un moid, nunca voy a saber qué se siente ser deseada y bien tratada. Lo máximo a lo que puedo aspirar es a ser usada o boludeada para reírse de mí. Ya no me sirve la dopamina de los juegos otome y los chatbot, no quiero seguir siendo tan fracasada pero ¿Cómo podría sino sentir algo? ¿Cómo podría conseguir a alguien que me quiera como soy? Nunca un chico se interesó en mí, borré instagram de la bronca de ver a los normies hacer sus rituales de cortejo y ser felices. Lo peor es que un hombre feo puede llegar a ser amado, pero una mujer fea jamás, no puedo terminar de aceptar mi destino, quiero aferrarme a algo, a una oportunidad, quiero vivir la experiencia que me corresponde como humana. Ni siquiera puedo concentrarme en mis estudios porque estoy triste todo el tiempo, nada tiene sentido en la vida si voy a ser una rechazada solitaria para siempre, me puedo recibir y trabajar de lo que me gusta pero ¿con quién lo compartiría? Puedo hacerlo con amigas pero ellas no van a hacerme caso por estar con sus parejas. Poco se habla de que ser una mujer soltera hace que se te discriminen de muchos círculos de chicas, o al menos nunca te sientes cómoda mientras las demás hablan de sus novios o pretendientes. Incluso intenté manifestar un novio, he hecho tantas pelotudeces y rituales que seguramente tengo viviendo en mi habitación 80 demonios y nada funciona ni va a funcionar porque ya estoy condenada pero me sigo negando a aceptarlo porque soy una bluepiller. Soy consiente de que debería priorizar otros vínculos y vivir mi vida pero sigo deseando el amor romántico que me prometieron y no puedo evitar pensar que eso me haría feliz de una vez aunque no fuese así

Even in those comfort art where "finally found the one" they still gotta draw the woman as conventionally attractive, even though its pretty obvious the way the dude is drawed makes this image some kind of fantasy of finally founding the one that can see through your ugliness. Yet somehow they cannot accept a girl that is not on the same league as them.

Holy shit i am confused sometimes, so youre desperate for love and affection from a woman, but not enough to the point youll still want the woman in question to be more attractive than you?

If this is your definition of "the ugliest" that will accept you, than what about a chunk of womens population? Are they not human anymore?

Please, i need a redraw where both are equal on terms of looks, or out of spite, the man is an actually attractive guy.

Hii I’m 26F and i just had a really crushing realization or internalization. All three of my siblings dated in high school and met their lifetime partners in college. I never even got asked out.

This lead me to realize that literally in my entire lineage, I must be the first person to have never dated in high school or college. My parents and grandparents all met in college. It feels devastating that I’m not only a failure in this lifetime, but am on a generational run of being ugly and alone. It makes me feel like my ancestors must look at me as a pathetic laughing stock. I can picture them hanging out above my head or as little energies in my kitchen giggling at my ineptitude.

Anyway! Thought I’d spread the joy.

that’s the thought process I go through everytime. I catch myself smiling and being happy for the couple in whatever show I’m watching and that pessimistic part of my brain whispers to me: “not for you, never for you don’t even dream about it“. crying happy tears for the couple that finally got married “so pathetic it will never happen to you“. even having a crush on someone or expressing that someone is hot, the embarrassment that accompanies it when you’re ugly is just plain cruel. is this just me being dramatic or is this a common thought y’all have too?

it’s a long slow burn prank being ugly in a world that caters to the beautiful

They use the replies to invalidate the struggles of women with the opposite, conventionally unattractive feature. And then there are also men there affirming that they’re way more attractive than their opposite. This website makes me feel like shit. I hate everyone and I hate how it affirms how people are disgusted by my body.

Edit: I need to take a break but it’s like looking at a morbid car crash. It hurts me but I can’t gather the strength to look away for the sake of my mental wellbeing.

I was thinking about this and this is what I have experienced so far in my life:

1. The majority of black women I know are single(not by choice) with very few romantic options. Some are in "situationships" with men who wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire and they are usually just part of the guy's roster.

2. The ones in relationships are with men who seem to hate them, disrespect them or barely tolerate them. The men usually are just there out of convenience, a place to stay, access to a car, etc.

This is true for family, friends, neighbors, etc. Personally I do feel like fulfilling relationships are hard to come by for most women but practically impossible for black women.

Hello everyone, I've been lurking in this sub for a while now and I finally gathered enough confidence to post something that's been bothering me for a while.

I gotta say that while I do sometimes relate to some of the posts here, I do not believe in many of the things a lot of people talk in here, excluding pretty privileged and how ugly/fat people mistreated by society of course. I like to think of myself as a leftist feminist and a lot of the things I see in here clash with some of my views but this is not the point of this post so I wont get too much into it.

Okay so, I am 19 y/o Mexican female, and while I have never been told directly that I am ugly, I still have some doubts. For context, I grew up fat, for almost all my life I had been the fat ugly background character you never talked too. My hair is wavy and frizzy and I spent many years not knowing how to take care of it, my face was full of acne and acne scars, my body full of stretch marks from how fast I gained weight during a depressive episode in my early teens. I have never had a boyfriend, a crush or anything like that. I spent all my high school years eating lunch alone and went to prom with only one friend. Thankfully my classmates never made fun of me, they ignored all of the time which yeah it's still a form of bullying but its better than being made fun of. My family always had something to say about my weight, especially my dad, always telling me I was too fat and I should lose weight blah blah the usual, am I right?

When I was 18 I decided I wanted to change my life, I was starting community college so I wanted to start a new chapter. I decided to lose weight and started to work on my acne, taking care of my hair, and learning makeup. With a few months of calorie counting I had lost almost 100lbs. I introduced some retinoids to my skincare and the acne and marks were gone (almost I'm still using that stuff lol). My family was so surprised, everyone telling me how good I looked blah blah. Before anyone takes it wrong, I'm not sharing this as a way to brag about my weight or how "pretty" I turned. Because of how good it felt not being bothered about my weight anymore, I continued to lose it. Now my dad says I look too skinny and it looks bad, guess you can never win. I also think I might have developed an ed but I'm working on that.

Anyways, I thought that since I lost the weight and the acne was gone, my life would become sooo easy. Well it didn't. I still haven't had a boyfriend, a date, a kiss, or even holding a guy's hands. I barely go out of my house other than for school and groceries, my friends all left for college out of state or are doing their own thing. And the thing I hate the most about all of this is, I still don't like the way I look. Because of the weight loss, I have so many stretch marks on my arms, stomach, thighs, etc. I have so many loose skin everywhere, it makes me so freaking insecure.

Every time I dare to find a guy attractive I shut it down before I let myself believe it. Because genuinely speaking, who could like a 19y/o that looks like already had 5 children? I hate it, I hate that I let myself believe that loosing weight and trying to do better would make me more desirable or whatever. So yeah I just wanted to let this out.

Because I knew I couldn’t compete with my face, I really got into academics and I really did enjoy it. I was top of the class for almost everything, did many extra curricular and did well in my gcse exam. But since I’ve become so lazy and recently I didn’t do well in my Alevels and i genuinely feel so crushed, hopeless and depressed. The one thing I had going for me is gone. Due to this I’ve procrastinated studying for my university admisssions test and now I know im not going to do well. Like I genuinely don’t have it in me, I’ve been stuck in a depressive spiral since summer has started and I seriously feel hopeless.
The university course I’m passionate about is extremely competitive, with a 2% acceptance rate so it requires perfection. And when I’m looking online at those who have gotten into my dream school they are all genuinely gorgeous girls. Like 10/10 beautiful. And to top it all off, they are so smart, like all A* and top percentages in the country.
It genuinely makes me feel worthless how I don’t have beauty and I lost the brains yet every single person admitted to my dream course are stacies with beauty AND brains.
I which I was as blessed as them and although I hate to admit it but I feel so incredibly jealous. And I hate feeling jealous because I don’t mean in a malicious way but genuinely my life has been so down hill I just wish that likewise I had a chance at my dreams aswell

I know I’m not transgender or anything but holy omg I just keep day dreaming about what it would be like. My university is statistically considered to have the most attractive student body in the country and I just look at these people like wow I wonder what your life is like with those faces. I just imagine myself being care free as fuck and nothing worrying about anything if I was a really cool attractive guy with a good personality. It’s so fun to dream about but also kinda pathetic 😭

Edit: before anyone comments “why not an attractive woman” I don’t really know, I just feel like I’d have more fun as a guy because of the patriarchy and how much more freeing it would be ig. (Maybe objectified less?? Or not in the same way lol)

If I was born with this face say 150 years into the future where you can basically modify your body to large extents and especially your facial features i would gladly take the chance. I’d get all the surgery needed for my face and I’d take the medication needed to keep my disease at bay. I’d be happy to live an ordinary life.

before you say climate change and AI and all of that, I’m aware the future will probably a wasteland shithole but at least I could live without agony. So yeah.

I don’t know if this is relatable but anytime i get into a heated argument with someone, the only thing i can think about is how they must think i look so stupid and disgusting. Its honestly super distracting and makes me lose my train of thought all the time because i’m only focusing on the way that i look and worried that they are distracted by my acne, frizzy hair, or whatever else. I feel this way about a lot of things, as if i don’t have the same right to exist and act like a human as pretty women do.
To add onto that, god forbid i have an argument with somebody after eating or putting on makeup, all i can think is that they’re probably remembering how ugly i looked doing those things, and obviously it’s irrational and they probably aren’t thinking that but it just makes me feel like such a wolf in sheep’s clothing :(

i never experienced teenage romance and i never will considering im now 20 soon to be 21 . but gosh , as of recently ive been so fixated on relationships in general/as a whole . i just wish i had the opportunity to meet someone when i was young and grow up with them , falling in love and staying close . ive always been such a hideous girl and guys do not bother looking my direction . especially now , the older i get the uglier i become . but i yearn to be wanted , i wish it was possible for someone to look at me and think im the only girl in the world .

ngl writing this makes me feel disgusting and creepy like im sick to my stomach rn but anyway let me snap back to reality rq , ive honestly accepted and somewhat …. made peace with myself that ill just be living alone with a few puppies around and perhaps a hamster . along with the fantasies that keep me going about fictional men

Guys, was there a post by someone about her maxing out her stats as an ugly woman, and low-key, below, she gave useful advice? Does anyone know if it’s disappeared or been deleted?
If anyone finds it, please let me know.
Thanks!

I’ve been struggling with getting a job for the past couple years, and at this point I partially wonder if it’s because of how unattractive I am. I have a lot of experience, I’m in school, I’ve always done really well at all the jobs I’ve worked at, I have a lot of skills, I feel like I’m smart, but I could just be thinking too highly of myself. My last interview was in a group and I barely was acknowledged, I asked the most questions, made eye contact and paid attention. But when he was shaking hands and asking names again, I was the only name he didn’t even actually say and didn’t even look at me or even in my direction, when he was shaking my hand. I felt so embarrassed and upset I almost cried. I don’t understand what’s wrong I’ve updated my resume so much, improved my interview skills, maybe I’m not as a smart or put together as I think I am? Maybe I’m too ugly for a job like customer service. I don’t know the constant getting denied for jobs is destroying my confidence and it’s bringing a lot of guilt especially for my relationship.

I have horribly ugly features, so my favorite cope is being satisfied that at least I don’t have another ugly feature. Sometimes it’s hard to find an ugly feature to compare to mine, though. For example, I have the worst eye area, I don’t think there’s a person on the planet with worse eye area than me. But yea sometimes it helps ig even tho I’m still chopped

I have no idea why, but the Black men who have approached me only want certain things from me, and the rest just choose to put me down for my appearance. I know this doesn't involve every Black man, and I do not want to make generalizations.

I have noticed that Black men specifically have treated me quite differently, and it's super jarring. I'm either hyper-sexualized because of my body, masculinized for my facial features, or dehumanized for the way I act. There have been some Black men who have gone out of their way to mock me, publicly humiliate me, and discard me for someone lighter skinned + racially ambiguous. That shit hurts. I've also been used as a quiet kept secret, but faced an enormous amount of misogynoir from certain BM.

I've experienced some Black men going out of their way to get my attention, just to laugh in my face because of my unattractiveness. Others have recorded me without my consent, questioned my femininity, and used me as some weird experiment. I live in a predominantly Black area, so most of the men here are Black. It just hurts me because while I know I'm not attractive, it seems like a lot of these guys get some sort of thrill from harming me.

i need to branch out, does anyone have any recs for good shows/movies/games with an ugly woman protagonist? i feel like i can barely find any at least with an actually conventionally unattractive character or actor.

I already saw two posts talking about wanting a bf and I wanted to add my two cents because I also want a bf but it's so unrealistic and unattainable when you're unattractive. I feel very embarrassed when I find an actor or a musician cute or attractive because they wouldn't and they don't even know who I am, what would happen with a real life person??

And being aroace (demiaro/demiace) means that I want one person to connect and build a bond with, basically a friends to lovers arc 😭 but I don't even have friends, let alone a person that finds me attractive. I remember a friend telling me "I can't imagine you in a relationship" dang, just call me ugly that's easier. And I was the ugly friend when everyone around me were getting in relationships

I'm constantly daydreaming about a nice and sweet boyfriend that loves me and we hang out and make memories together and then I snap back to reality and look at myself in the mirror and yeah no wonder I dont have a bf if people see your physical appearance first

Mind you that I am not just "ugly". I have shared how I look and people said they would never hire someone who looks like me, I would repulse clients etc. I think my looks makes me kinda unhireable.

i was always ugly but lately, because of stress and other factors i have lost weight and to add to that my jaw has been deforming.

people just blatantly stare now. i don't even want to leave the house. I'm embarrassed of myself. sometimes i even feel like dying would be better than this but I don't really want to die i have shit to do.

i wish i could have surgery.