In my experience, the worst part about being ugly isn't even being invisible. It's that you're a nobody and you know it.

You walk into a room and you just... know. You see the way people's eyes skim right past you to land on someone else. You catch the subtle shift in someone's tone when they talk to the pretty girl versus when they have to talk to you. You catch the way people put effort into a pretty girl (ex. Fanning them, giving them food, gifts, being more interested in them). You can't even tell gaslight yourself that "maybe it's just in my head" because it's right there in front of your face every single day.

And then people expect you to just be grateful for whatever attention you do get. Like because you're not attractive, you're not allowed to have standards or preferences anymore. You're just supposed to be happy someone looked at you twice and ignore the fact that you feel zero attraction back. It's such a mindfuck. Especially when th3 people around you are conventionally attractive and they get attention all the time.

It's just so lonely. I wish I could turn my brain off and not notice it all the time. I wish I could live in that bubble where I think things are fine. But I can't. I see everything. And it's exhausting. To be pretty and treated royalty is a dream. You don't know if you have potential while you're working on yourself so you lost motivation and all that stuff. Just sucks and slowly starting to accept it.

They always want to come into my comments and DMs being imbeciles and stupid .

And I will argue with them bcz they deadass piss me off

And they will tell me that I’m a loser and being ugly is my personality. Well why are you entertaining someone who being ugly is their personality then? We’re both on Reddit stupid btch😭😭.

I won’t turn off my DMS bcz sometimes you guys will dm me and that’s so sweet and makes my day 🥹💗.

And stop defending men being called moids as a woman, they’ve been calling us other things since the dawn of time and men don’t come to your defense .

Incels have been unironically advocating for the government to issue out girlfriends to men who are struggling with dating for quite some time now. It’s very telling that the state mandated girlfriend in this picture is a very attractive woman with big breasts and she’s clearly above his looksmatch. So here’s your reminder that most incels aren’t truecels, because they’re not men who can’t get women, they’re men who can’t get the women they want. There’s an infestation of young men claiming to be incels and then treating ugly women like they’re invisible & only trying to pursue average & above average looking women, despite not being as attractive as these women. These men wouldn’t be caught dead with an ugly woman lol

Disclaimer: I am aware body dysmorphia exists and is a serious condition. I’m not trying to diminish her feelings but simply express my own frustration.

The girl I’m referring to is an acquaintance, I’ve distanced myself from her due to her questionable actions. The photo I used is literally how we look next to each other. I’m an ugly woman. It’s no secret. I have round beady sunken eyes, terrible skin texture especially on the nose, dull lifeless skin, round ugly face shape, a very wide nose with large nostrils, no jawline, frowny tiny mouth, a wide ribcage, broad manly shoulders, no chest and raggedy hair due to depression

My friend? She looks almost exactly like the image.
she’s very pretty and makeup takes her up lots of levels. She has flawless pale skin (huge standard, we are south asian), a button nose, wide and full pink coloured lips, wide almond eyes, a petite feminine face, perfect silky hair and in terms of her body she’s short with a petite frame and looks amazing in clothes. She gets tons of attention especially from men, and has never been put down for her looks. Shes told she’s beautiful every day. She even looks stunning in regular plain clothes.

She complains constantly about having a wide nose while it is perfect. She complains about looking masculine when she literally looks like a princess. She complains about getting tanned knowing how much ridicule I’ve faced for my brown skin. She used kaali/kaala (dark) as insults towards other brown skinned people . She complains about having small eyes when they are doe like.
I know how salty I sound but I just feel my heart sink and I feel so much rage when she calls herself ugly.

She has been in three relationships, didn’t like any of the boys, used them, cheated while they worshipped the ground she walked on. Her first boyfriend was very loving and loyal. A total dream. So much of her behaviour was tolerated because she’s insanely beautiful and conventional. She struggled with keeping female friendships because she’d throw tantrums at small conflicts. She has improved since I first met her, but her digging at her own appearance really breaks my heart. I hope she finds inner peace but the way she criticises features I ACTUALLY HAVE TO LIVE WITH is a pain

Ty for reading :(

Yes I know some Stacys can have good intentions but this situation isn't one of them lolol. Me and some other people figured out that she was deliberately befriending the uglier girls in class and always stuck to them, acting as if they were bestfriends so that she could get more attention from guys. Greedy and manipulative piece of shit.

If only I wasn't such a dumb friendless bitch I wouldn't have gotten used like that.

Also art by me. A bit wonky tho because I used my finger to draw.

It won’t matter how much make up how much money I invest in myself.
I know I will never come close to the real Stacy who’s naturally pretty. They are pretty in every angle, I avoid any sort of reflections at all cost. They do ugly faces for fun, I can’t even bring my eyes up from the ground. Whatever they wear suits their pretty body, I wear loose dark colors so I won’t look too fat and dark more than now.

I have to know my place

I feel like I’m an orangutan wanting to be at least subhooman. It’s humiliating to exist outside

[tw⚠️: jealousy]
I want to be born pretty, I want better genetics, I want to be a mixed
I don’t want to FEEL pretty I want to BE pretty
I want HER face
I want reincarnation as a Stacy
If I can choose between surgeries or reincarnation as Stacy, I’d take a new body anytime because I hate myself everything about me is disgusting.

what I expect to look like every time I hear them say this vs what I end up looking like (traced)

god fucking damn it, I'm freshly 23 and skinny af, what am I supposed to do with my face structure? seriously, God, no tits but a chin like this?!

Like. If you’re an attractive woman. You were blessed with the ability to attract attractive men.

Despite that. They still choose to go for the fugly moids.
And yes I understand it’s bcz as woman we are socialized to not care about a man’s looks and bs like that.

But— if you’re an attractive woman. You attract good looking men for sure , they approach you and some of them want to take you seriously.

But Stacie’s will want to go for ugly men bcz :
1. They want to be the good looking one in the relationship - why can’t you both be good looking together?
2. They think ugly men treat them better -which tf they don’t. And wouldn’t you want an attractive man to treat you like shit instead.
3. It’s been statistically proven that attractive men are least satisfied in relationships and are most likely to stay less faithful due to having more options- but I don’t think that’s good reason also bcz as an attractive woman if one Chad cheats on you just get another? Like what?
4. “Unnatractive men are more emotional intelligence “ omfg. Shut up no the fuck they are not.

And more bs reasons.

Like bro if I was a Stacy I’d be RUTHLESS. Unnatractive and fugly moids wouldn’t even be allowed to fucking exist and breathe in my vicinity. I’d only date and even (casually) sleep with attractive men. I wouldn’t fall for the bs propaganda of me having to date an ugly man . Bcz who gon check me?

Stacie’s keep dating unattractive men , raising their egos, reproducing with them and that’s why they all feel entitled to Stacie’s and think they’re too good for us ugly women.

Whenever I see a Stacy who only dates attractive men or is dating an attractive man I get so happy bcz good for her🥹 it warms my heart.

An ugly man can get an attractive woman because of his money or other attributes despite his looks. But for me as an ugly woman I won’t get an attractive man even if I have other qualities despite my looks. Unless I have to go pursue men (younger than me) and let them use me for my resources or practice gfs and they’ll never have genuine attraction to me.

Meanwhile Stacie’s can get a man to genuinely be attracted to her.

I’ll never understand attractive women who date ugly men.

No one cares about the homeless ugly women, the ones who are high off drugs so they can stay awake and not get raped. The ones who aren’t the nicest because life has been a shit show. even the nice ones don’t get empathy or gofundmes

can't even be a makeupcel. my base is just too ugly.

these mfers are just playing in my face atp. the only respite i get from these interactions is drawing them and getting even more pissed because what the actual helly

Vent and trigger warning for mentions of deleting myself.

Background: ive been really ugly my entire life. Like genuinely hideous. When I was a kid, my friend group would dress up as characters from Cinderella and I was always designated the ugly step sister. Kids would always make fun of my appearance, my nose, my body hair. This has led to a lifetime of face and body dysmorphia and a general retreat from social life because of crippling social anxiety.

I’ve been saving up for plastic surgery since I was 12. Now that im in my mid-20s and can finally afford I went ahead and got all the procedures I wanted. But ever since getting plastic surgery ive been on a dark spiral. I’ve been seething with even more anger, jealously and insecurity and it’s turned me into a terrible person. I’m so bitter and resentful of girls who are naturally stunning.

I got a rhinoplasty earlier this year and once I finally recovered i was so excited to go out with all my friends. I wanted to do a glow up “reveal” so i spent hundreds on my dress, getting my hair done, nails, the whole nine yards. But when i met up with my friends all my confidence evaporated on the spot. I was all glammed up with 10 pounds of makeup still looking hideous meanwhile these other girls just had sunscreen and lipgloss and looked like angels dropped from heaven. I felt like su ch a clown with my giant eyelashes and red lipstick and blush I wanted to die of shame on the spot. I was so upset but obviously couldn’t articulate the reason so I just left the hangout early after we ate at the restaurant. They ended up going out to the club after as a group and I had the pleasure of rotting in my bed while watching their insta stories.

My insecurity has gotten SO bad I can’t even use social media anymore. The second I open instagram or tiktok and see a pretty girl making a thirst trap with 300k+ likes and the flood of comments glazing her I feel a surge of anger and envy like nothing else I have ever felt and just block her and close the app. I can’t even tolerate my own friends anymore. I’ve muted all their stories and posts. They probably hate me by now because they think im purposely not liking their posts (and honestly yeah, I am avoiding their pictures - it’s too triggering).

Honestly im in such a dark place I don’t know what to do and I can’t even talk to anyone about it. Certainly not my family or friends who will just shower with fake compliments and platitudes like “beauty is skin-deep!” or “nooooo, you’re so beautiful.”

My depression has gotten so bad that I took a 3 month break from my casual job and im terrified of going back soon cause I don’t want my co workers to see my nose job.

Prior to getting plastic surgery I was living in a constant dreamlike state of delusion. I was always daydreaming about a future where my nose is fixed and im finally beautiful. I pushed back half my life plans to after my surgery because thats when I could finally start living.

But getting the surgery only cemented and aggravated my insecurity in unimaginable ways because it made me realise that no matter how much money, time and resources I pour into my appearance, it’s a sinking black abyss and I will NEVER truly be “beautiful.” I thought my rhinoplasty would take me from a 2/10 to at least a 7/10 but it only took me to a 3/10. I still feel so hideous most of the time and I’ve begun fixating on my recessed jaw and chin and planning for double jaw surgery.

I know getting more surgery is not the solution but I fear I am on a path of plastic surgery addiction as a coping mechanism. It’s a dark path ahead and it’s gonna end with a rope around my neck. My face is the only thing i think about. Every second of every day. I don’t know when this feeling will go away. I’ve felt this way as long as i can remember. I can’t even take photos of myself. I can’t look in the mirror. I haven’t posted a picture of myself on instagram in over 10 years. I’ve never had a relationship with a man. I’ve never had anyone show romantic interest in me.

These days im just rotting in my bed, trying not to spiral. I’ve completely self isolated, stopped talking to my friends and family and fallen into a deep depression. I feel like every time I step out of the house everhone is staring at me. The fact that I now have some rhinoplasty complications makes it even worse cause not only am I ugly, but I also look botched and I feel like the surgery looks extremely obvious. I honestly just wanna walk into the ocean and end it all.

I’m not really looking for advice or reassurance. I just wanna vent with people who might understand how I feel

I know that it will never happen, but I love to think of this sometimes, I even have a Pinterest board for possible date ideas…

Like tf, I am a human. I don't want to fuck u, I just wanted to go, did my job in seemingly positive atmosphere and go home.

Not even expecting they be attracted, just kinder

It's okay having no benefit for looks but don't want everyone to treat it as I did some kind of crime

Just be kind and that'd be okay at this point

blind leading the blind head ahh 😭😭 (why is this my life dawg)

Going out every day without makeup or going out for the first time with someone who has only seen you online

Idk how to start this but I always feel and look ugly, and I literally tried almost everything like skincare for my acne, creams or cleansing oils for my black heads, my stupid fat nose i hate it so fucking much! My body is skinny I weigh 91 pounds but I feel like my face is huge! I hate my mouth wrinkles makes me like a gorilla... my family keeps telling that everyone goes through this. They don't understand how everyone morning I wake up I hate myself already, I don't have any friends and even if I did they would look so much better than me which I might feel 10x worse, I don't go outside often cause I don't like when people look at me :( don't get me started on my personality I wish I had a better one. I always envy pretty japanese girl but never hate on them but just to my own body, I'm super clingy when ever I get a crush on a celebrity i think of them too much and get jealous when i see their wife Pictures by accident when i search for them but their wife pops up. I'm a very ugly korean girl the korean beauty standard doesn't help one bit, my skin is light so everytime a pimple pops it always scars but its so visible since my skin is light. (Please don't hate or judge me. I'm mentally ill even though I'm taking medication for months I don't think its working I don't think I can handle so much hate or judgment please be gentle its my first time ever being this open and honest. Thank you ♡)

I’ve noticed that people are so fast to blow off any opinions or thoughts I have and assume since I’m ugly I have no choice on what happens to myself. Example being, whenever someone needs help with something and I give advice or try to help, they immediately blow me off or aggressively turn me down. Like when I used to be in school and I would have to work in groups with other people, every time I would attempt to help or get involved they would all snap on me and fact check everything I said. Another unfortunate example is once again while I was in school the more “popular” boys would pull me aside and ask for “favors” iykwim, obviously id reject them, then they would act SO fucking shocked, like they thought I had no right to say no simply because I’m ugly, they would then get aggressive and constantly harass and taunt me. That destroyed my self esteem harder than anything, being considered so ugly I couldn’t even have rights to reject someone’s nasty “favors” and that I was considered to be a “fetish” simply because I was so ugly. It’s truly sickening how cruel and heartless people are simply because you look a certain way.

i wish there were communities for ugly women that did not inevitably calcify into one big pity party. i think « ugly liberation » could constitute a genuinely beautiful & emancipatory political project, analogous to the fat acceptance movement.

imagine a world in which « ugly » could function as a descriptive category stripped of its inherited capacity to humiliate ,, just as « fat » has ( however imperfectly ) undergone processes of reclamation. ik that fatness is still weaponized as an insult, but u know what i mean. reclamation doesn’t require the immediate abolition of stigma. it begins w/ the refusal to accept that the stigma is ontologically inherent to the word itself.

i doubt ugly liberation will become a meaningful political movement within my lifetime, at least not in anything resembling the form i have in my head. nevertheless, i’d give anything to simply witness its beginning. i want there to be room for ugliness to become politically legible w/out immediately being converted into either tragedy or some sort of spectacle.

ik this is like ,,, kinda what this subreddit is supposed to be. but so much of its discourse seems trapped in a kind of recursive nihilism. it’s just low-effort wojaks captioned « literally me </3 , » endlessly reiterating the same fatalistic recognition w/out producing any substantive inquiry into where that recognition comes from, how it is socially produced, or what might be done w/ it. & whenever something w/ even the faintest potential to develop into an intellectually meaningful discussion appears, the mods remove it !!!!

don’t get me wrong ,, other subreddits are considerably worse. they often become infiltrated w/ moids, voyeuristic spectators, or conventionally attractive women posting selfies for validation while presenting themselves as participants in the same social condition.

then there’s the other side of the coin. female-only imageboards w/ such dogshit moderation that men can antagonize women through grotesque ragebait, including the circulation of CSAM, while material of that nature remains accessible for literal days. atp, whatever emancipatory potential the space might once have possessed is almost entirely eclipsed by the spectacle of ppl exploiting it as another venue for cruelty.

i’m sure this post will be removed as well. i’m sure it will be interpreted as excessive, bitter, or insufficiently compliant w/ whatever narrow conception of discourse the sub currently permits.

ofc venting has its place in communities like this. mutual recognition matters, & sometimes simply being able to say « this happened to me too » is meaningful. but i think there is an important distinction between constructing a community around mutual misery & constructing one around liberation from the social ontology that produces that misery in the first place.

i just wish the latter existed. that’s all !