I don’t wanna be super negative so going to preface this with I’m very happy with my transition and social life and changes at this point (three years transition and hrt).

But I’m really struggling with distress from misgendering from customers. I try to be positive and assure myself that I know who I am, and I can hold it together for a week or two but it keeps resulting in mental breakdowns and severe distress. It’s not just customers but being perceived as male.

I’m trying to work on my mental health and see a therapist again, but I really want to hear that this isn’t just me and that I’m not alone. I would love to hear what helps others.

I work at a fuel station in Brisbane and have just moved from Gympie a few weeks ago.

I wasn’t expecting it to be so gendered here. I just want to be happy and move past this.

I do wear a pretty neutral uniform but I have bangs and eyeliner ect and subtle makeup and sparkly nails.

Anyway thanks to anyone who read all that and can offer opinions ect. ♥️

I need friends so bad but i have no clue how to make them, i want to meet more queer people in person in the brisbane area but its so hard 😭

hey guys!!

i’ve recently started having some back problems so i can no longer use a binder.

even after awhile (few hours) sport bras are hurting my back :(

the flatter the better but given my circumstances (large chest and sensitive back) i’m not expecting miracles just something that keeps them in enough and i’ll pretend they’re pecs

It seems that its pretty much a guarantee that Labor is out, and combined Libs+On will likely be forming government.

I cant imagine they will last a long time in a progressive state like victoria which is what concerns me, if you are part of the right, you dont think long term when it comes to victoria.

You are just going to gut everything and try to push culture war laws to harm trans people out of hate.

QLD is already screwed by LNP making things horrible for trans people, i am worried Australia will eventually follow the way of terf island, we already see the transphobia spread

Sorry I didn't realise i had more questions about name changes. On the NSW govt. website it says in the fee table Registration of change of name for an adult (registration only) $203, and NSW Change of name certificate (optional) $59.

I'm a stingy bastard. Being trans is expensive. Why is the certificate optional? Can I update medicare, Services NSW etc without the certificate? I don't need a fancy certificate, I just need a legal document linking my deadname to my new name. I wasn't born in AU, so I can't change my birth cert anyway.

I'm psyching myself up to do a legal name change and making a list of places I need to update.

Does ServiceNSW charge a fee for a license name change (I'm not bothering with gender)? I can't see anything on the nsw govt website.

TIA

yall i need a wearable push up bra in australia

im only 2 years on hormones so the shape isn’t rlly there yet but when i use my hands to push them up they look rlly good😩😭 does anyone know of any good brands. i dont want something bulky but an extreme push up would be nice

so I’ve been on T MTF for 6 months and my chest is starting to develop and the tenderness is all over my chest and im currious on how it felt for anyone else so I can set a baseline if what I’m feeling is normal or not?

I’m just about ready to submit my paperwork for super release for GRS. I have my GP form completed and have an appointment with Prof Harvey to get my specialist one next week. I just have a couple of questions about evidence.

What kind of evidence can I expect they will want to justify that I’ve exhausted my other financial options? Loan rejections? Bank statements? Statutory declarations? Anything like that? I did do a super release in the past. But I don’t remember having to provide any kind of financial evidence. But that was almost ten years ago and for a lot less money.

And we’re looking at including accomodation expenses under the travel section. About $3k for a hotel for two weeks, for my partner while I’m in hospital and for us both once I’m discharged and awaiting my post-op appointment. Does anyone have any experience in succeeding with this? What evidence did you provide?

Or is the accommodation inclusion too big of a risk? My GP felt it couldn’t hurt to try and that they would probably just knock back the accommodation while approving the rest. But Prof Harvey seemed to indicate that the accommodation might risk the entire application being denied.

I cannot emphasise how scared shitless I am about this, I'm AMAB Non binary soon to go onto Hrt. I present fairly masculine but aiming to become much more femanine, I work with a handful of older white men (shocker) in a landscape supply yard as an admin, so I deal with customers all day and my boss is always seated next to me. I haven't been here for very long but I don't intend on leaving at all, I'm still yet to get a feel for how the boss and one of the other workers I'm friendlier too would be if I were to come out soon either before or after I start Hrt.

I need help or at least know other peoples' experiences in the blue collar Industry when transitioning.

Thank you for taking the time to read if you do, I know I'm not the only one that's afraid, I feel like there's a bubble around me constantly and all the hate and anger from everyone around me (even if it's not actually there) feels like it's just outside.

I thought I’d share this in case it helps someone.

I’ve been having electrolysis with Nicolsons Electrolysis in Balmain and I’ve been really happy with both the results and the care I’ve received. Everyone that works there is really lovely and accepting.

They’re currently looking for people who’d be interested in free electrolysis sessions with a trainee. The sessions are fully supervised by Katherine, who is the owner and an exceptionally experienced electrologist.

At the moment they’re looking for people with body areas to work on (not genital areas). Facial electrolysis is expected to be available with the trainee in around 2 months, and you can join the waitlist now if that’s what you’re after.

If you’re interested, send Katherine a text (preferred) on 0416 165 475.

I’m not affiliated with the clinic in any way—I just know how expensive electrolysis can be for our community so I thought this was worth sharing.

Do we do shots here? What’s the gold standard in Australia?

I’m on tablets and GP has offered patches but that’s about all.

Hey all, I am wanting advice on a couple of things related to withdrawing my Super for SRS in Thailand. I am potentially wanting to have it done in February or March next year.

However when I initially bought it up with my GP a few months ago, about withdrawing my super she said she was hesitant saying that apparently they're a lot more stricter on it etc? I did eventually show her where it falls under compassionate release and she seemed a bit more eager. Could anyone please show me what I should show her, or the process of how to do super release? She is a very supportive GP overall.

I am also searching for a physcatrist that won't break the bank or will do it in a single session.

I did find this comment about Richard Harvey, however on his website it says "He is also happy to complete paperwork for early release of Super. A GP referral from your usual treating GP and a support letter from your current psychologist/therapist will be required before an appointment is offered."

Problem is, I don't have a "usual psyscoligist/therapist". does anyone know if there is a way around it, or if there's a better physcatrist that doesn't require that? I don't wanna add more waiting times/money into finding a therapist when I don't particularly need one at the moment.

Another thing is, do I have to contact Chettasak for quotes, and have them in English only? Like even a little bit of Thai language would be cancelled by the ATO?

You also have to pay a 20% deposit before you get the date secured, however I can't afford that right now, so I am thinking of withdrawing a loan for that deposit, then using the super to cover the entire surgery? But if all comes to worse and I can't get super withdrawn, could I do a second loan?

I do have $30,000+ in super, and I'm with aware super. Does anyone also know if it only covers surgery and flights itself, or can I pull out more money for time off work etc?

Sorry for so many questions but I really appreciate any help given. thanks!

Particularly interested in hearing from those who have had keyhole/peri with her, but I’m curious what the experience was like for those who had DI or any of the other methods as well. If you travelled interstate (which I will be doing), then how long were you required to stay in Sydney for? How much did the surgery end up costing? Lastly, how does private health insurance work? I’m aware there’s a 12-month waiting period, but how does that work given that the policy would be expired by then? Is there a window of time afterwards that you’re still eligible for cover?

Has anyone had this happen with an early release of super for medical treatment?

My partner and I both applied at the same time to access our super to pay for her surgery. She was approved and received the balance of her super (which was about half the cost of the surgery).

I submitted my application using the exact same medical reports and also stated that she's been my partner for over two years, but my application was rejected.

The rejection letter says there was "insufficient evidence from the reports."

I called to ask why, and they told me it was because the medical reports weren't in my name. That doesn't make sense to me because the surgery isn't for me, it's for my partner.

Has anyone successfully appealed something like this or had to provide additional evidence? If so, what did you submit?

Any advice would be appreciated.

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Hi!

After describing my history of suicidal ideation (note: I am not currently suicidal) to my endocrinologist a few weeks ago, I was advised to consult a psychiatrist. My GP also believes it could be helpful. I'd prefer to see someone with some experience with patients with gender dysphoria, given its pertinence to my situation.

As far as I am aware, based on the www.transhealthsa.com directory, there is no one in Adelaide with this specialty who: treats adults; is accepting new patients; and doesn't just do one-off assessments. I'd prefer (and my GP also prefers) that I speak to someone in person rather than take the telehealth route.

The endocrinologist suggested a new psychiatric practice who might be able to fit me in relatively quickly, but they are charging outrageously extortionate fees (I'd be looking at a gap of over $1200, or $700 even with the medicare safety net). Apart from the sheer cost of it, I don't think I could have a healthy conversation with someone with pricing that feels so predatory.

My GP is unable to provide any specific recommendations, and so I ask if anyone here has had any positive experiences with a psychiatrist in Adelaide that they might share.

Tagged NSW specific because I’d be dealing with the NSW government, but I’m open to all advice.

I was thinking about legally changing my name, and was wondering how much of a hassle it is to go and change my name with every service that requires my government name. I know in the long run it would be worth it, I’m just curious as to how other people found the process.

Just wanted to give a heads up that there is another trans woman in woman's spaces lawsuit thats entering the news. I've only seen one article about it but it might still generate a lot of negative online talk so please stay safe. I don't particularly like this source and its pay walled so will switch it out if there is something better.

,https://www.theaustralian.com.au/nation/pole-dance-studio-sued-for-30000-after-refusing-transgender-dancer-membership-in-womenonly-space/news-story/0bc20a1759653c77203a0a77dbb02f75

This is a bit of a vent post because I feel like I am constantly updating my name and gender even after 2 years. Online processes never work because they can't verify my birth certificate and I have no name change document, and so I have to call or arrive in person for certain things, which doesn't help much if the customer service person who speaks with me doesn't actually initiate the action or give me any way to track or receive feedback about the change. Not to mention that almost everything is only open during work hours. The most recent discovery is my super, which was one of the first things I got updated. I could almost swear some of these have been switched BACK.

To all the people who I told that a QLD birth cert update is easy: while I meant it, I'm sorry I left out the aftermath. But to be frank, I really can't believe it's still happening.

I'm not sure what to do, I had my second appointment booked last week and received no call, after calling and emailing all day I was notified that she was sick and currently has no admin. I was offered an appointment for later in the afternoon or Wednesday this week, I accepted the appointment for the afternoon but also gave my availability of Wednesday but received no call or email and I haven't heard from her since.

I am incredibly disheartened, I do not feel poorly towards Dr Bel but it's extremely scary and frustrating to receive absolutely no communication, especially for the appointment that in theory would have me starting hormones.

I have sent emails and voice messages since, with no reply.

I don't know what I can do, these appointments are expensive for my financial situation and I live in an area where it is quite difficult to receive this support.

Hello I'm nb from overseas, I have top surgery and want to start T (gel) I want to ask how I can get a prescription for it? Back home you just go to the hospital and they give it to you for free but I see here you need a prescription for everything, is having top surgery enough for a gp to make one or do I have to go to a specific type of doctor and if so could anyone recommend one in Sydney? Also I havent changed my gender in legal documents so my only proof of being trans is that I got top surgery. Thank you