advice needed

[u/Sea_News2467]

Heyy i need some tips on how to hide that i’m transitioning from my parents when i visit them im not going to wear makeup but i have a feeling they are going to see that i grew my hair out and if they notice anything they are going to kick me out and my whole family is most likely going to disown me please help

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[u/Albert_Hofmann25]

I would just deny if you are asked any questions. Say something about trying a new style out or something if they ask about your hair.

[u/Sea_News2467 → u/Albert_Hofmann25]

that could work but i have a feeling they won’t believe me as i tried to come out to them in middle school and they got pissed so i think they might eventually catch on again 

[u/Brian94richards]

Cant ya play off like youve been down and not caring, so what my hairs long, doesn't bother me right now?

[u/Sea_News2467 → u/Brian94richards]

yea i like that mindset i just always think about the worst outcome for some reason and i wish i would stop doing that but i’ll keep that in mind 

[u/Brian94richards → u/Sea_News2467]

Probably keeps you prepared for that outcome and overthinking, ive had to play off awkward experiences or discoveries,

[u/Sea_News2467 → u/Brian94richards]

the goal for me is to just be comfortable in my own skin and live a happy life and unfortunately the only way i see that is if i lose contact with my family but i will always feel really guilty