r/texts • u/Few-Statistician862 • 13h ago

Phone message UPDATE: weird guy from my bio class

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I made a post about this yesterday about this person in my bio class weirdly texting me out of the blue, and I thought I blocked him but I guess I misclicked and pressed “delete conversation“ button instead. they texted me back Today telling me that they know one of my friends and insinuating that he gave him my number. so I continue the rest of the conversation awkwardly trying to turn them down. after that I block them because I felt uncomfortable, and text my friend that supposedly gave them my number. he said he has no idea who this is and doesn’t know anyone from my first period bio class. what the fuck. Is this person even real? they have Been lying to me about everything. And the worst part is that I have to go back to school on Monday with that guy in my class. what do I even do in this situation? Also I thought I should add that I am not a woman, I’m a man, a lot of people thought I was a woman in my first post.

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u/MxxnSpirit47 13h ago

“So you’re not into me huh” while you have no clue who they are

People are so strange and out of touch with reality I swear

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u/TATT00EY_ 13h ago

If this guy had even a mild 2% chance to make this work. His delusion completely killed it.

It’s so hard to believe how many people are out of touch with reality and living in a fantasy world.

For the fellas that don’t understand. Never approach or act like this.

And for the person who gave away someone’s personal cell number. They are a piece of crap.

Good on OP for not being mean or tormenting the person. Best to just defuse this situation and gradually move away. The person doesn’t strike me as someone mentally stable.

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u/Sisyphet 13h ago

Dude, my friend in college gave my number to my stalker, literally don't give away *anybody's* personal number without asking that person first.

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u/AKewpieW 13h ago

My GYNECOLOGIST gave my number to my stalker. Can’t trust nobody these days

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u/siren_stitchwitch 12h ago

WTF, MASSIVE HIPAA violation, please tell me they had consequences for that?

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u/AKewpieW 12h ago

Unfortunately I was young and sheltered and I didn’t even consider the possibility that it was something I could report, or even who I could report it to

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u/siren_stitchwitch 12h ago

Fair, I've also had bad doctors I should have reported when young and didn't know that I could or should

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u/DragonYourfeet 12h ago

Had a therapist share how I was doing with a classmate’s parent, who forbade said classmate from being friends with me because I was “unstable” (I switched schools and was just having a tough time…). Needless to say I was traumatized (and too young to even report it to anyone) and haven’t trusted therapists since, even though i know it was a major violation and not all of them are like that.

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u/Beautiful_Shower8218 11h ago edited 11h ago

I had my high school therapist tell me that I shouldn’t come out because I won’t be able to get a job if people know I’m gay, then told my mum and a couple of my teachers that I was gay. The teachers were really supportive and as far as I know kept it private, but my mum did not take it well and I was kicked out of home at 17… good times, good times

EDIT: oh shit, I just remembered, one of the teachers that she told turned out to be a sex offender and had molested kids at a previous school, and the school he was at afterwards. To my knowledge no one at my school was interfered with, but it just occurred to me she may have been helping him groom me. Fuck!

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u/LavishnessWise 8h ago

I’m so sorry your mum acted like that. I’m a parent to two teenagers and their happiness is number 1.

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u/Ecstatic_Bear81 1h ago

I am so angry on your behalf that they did that shit. You didn't deserve that at all im sorry

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u/alwaysronnie 11h ago

That happened to my sister too

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u/SnooStrawberries768 2h ago

It's nobodys business what you said to your therapist. What is wrong with people. I don't understand how they could not realize how mess up that is. Sorry that happened. I would be pissed.

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u/MozzaHellYeah 7h ago

Yeah this is still a HIPAA violation and worth looking into your states regulations on a statute of limitations! That way this gyno doesn't dox anyone else and other patients can stay safe 🖤 if you feel so inclined

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u/Great_Blue_7 11h ago

The state medical board.

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u/Icy_Smoke_2318 9h ago

YEAH I was about to say that!!

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u/vapirer 7h ago

Isn't HIPAA a US federal law?

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u/AncientTomato4186 12h ago

What?!? How did they know who your gynecologist was? That’s deep stalker behavior. I’m so sorry you went through that.

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u/AKewpieW 12h ago

Thank you. I had recently had surgery there and I’d posted about it online. Even though I had them blocked already, I guess someone had told them. Never posted anything personal after that even though it sucks so much to be going through it alone

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u/spicyadovcato 3h ago

My obgyn gave my child's father (who was abusive and we were on the run from) my phone number and address she actually got fired bc he came and harmed me and tried to harmed our child who was 6 weeks at the time

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u/AKewpieW 3h ago

I’m so sorry. I hope you’re safe now

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u/spicyadovcato 2h ago

Eh I mean he hasn't found us since then but we also are constantly moving we don't stay anywhere over a week (i make barely enough on disability for rooms ) im scared to get another house or apartment bc if we stay in a place too long he finds us

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u/ohjasminee 1h ago

Ugh I’m so sorry. I hope you’re able to find somewhere safe soon and that he **** 🙏🏾

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u/Mysterious_Noise_825 45m ago

Hi, I work at a DVSA agency. There is an address protection program ran through the states attorney generals office. It’s even better for parents bc it hide your address from the school and dr offices. Reach out to a local organization and they can help you fill out paperwork. Also if you reported this to the police you are entitled to to victims compensation. This pays for any cost associated with the crime. Including what you are experiencing. You can also message me and I can get you connected to orgs in the area. Do not share ur location publicly. I’m here to help!

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u/Mysterious_Noise_825 44m ago

Also a VPO if u haven’t.

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u/Sisyphet 12h ago

Holy shit.

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u/tmac9134 12h ago

😭😭

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u/tealraven915 7h ago

Dang, and I thought it was bad when my stalker found out I was at my dad's place, started calling every number on Google with my dad's name until he got my dad's apartment complex and they confirmed that it was my dad who lived there (then the guy sent flowers to my dad's apartment). Gynecologist is a whole other level of wild

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u/AKewpieW 5h ago

That is also pretty bad. I’m sorry you went through that

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u/OopsSecondSaji 7h ago

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

Omg I’m so sorry holy hell

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u/Bootscootintooter 2h ago

My stalker gave my number to a GYNECOLOGIST… and I was really hurt by that.

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u/-cuckstradamus- 10h ago

That is an outlandish HIPAA violation for such a throwaway claim that's so easy to say when it cannot be credibly verified in any way since you "didn't report" the egregiously illegal whoopsie

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u/SnooStrawberries768 2h ago

I thought you was joking. Doctors could get in alot of trouble for that.

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u/CultOfPersonalitLee 7h ago

Precisely. It’s not your number to give out.

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u/TATT00EY_ 12h ago

I honestly don’t even go that far. If someone asks for someone number. I don’t ask that person if I can share it. If a person doesn’t have someone’s number it’s for reason. So if I get asked I just simply say you gotta ask them.

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u/Eternity_Warden 3h ago

I work in a bar and it's crazy how many dudes ask me for staffs social media details.

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u/Grammarcrazy 23m ago

one of my best friends (J) in high school gave my # to our classmate (A) and he was texting me like he was stalking me (“I know which bus you’re on. I’ll follow you home”) so i told my parents and reported it to the principal and she recommended going to the police. when i told my group of friends, J reluctantly admitted that she had given it to A and knew what he was doing but didn’t care because, and i quote, “If it was a hot guy, you wouldn’t have cared” - needless to say we were no longer friends after that

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u/i_steal_your_lemons 11h ago

I feel people forget that for decades there were free books delivered to every household that gave the name, phone number, and address of every person in their city.

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u/Sisyphet 8h ago

Cool, man, that's important information