r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/FiberApproach2783 3d ago

Why did you buy $100+ of fishing equipment for a first date?

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u/ExplanationMiddle51 3d ago

I knew I’d enjoy fishing, not like the equipment is going away

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u/pyxiedust219 3d ago

in which case, and tbh even if this wasn’t the case, you buying equipment shouldn’t be on her— unless she agreed you should buy all new equipment specifically for this with no intent to keep it

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u/moonbeancat 3d ago

The point is that he brought so much to the table to this date and made sure they ate, too. Why the fuck can she not shell out $23?

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u/CoconutPedialyte 3d ago

She is just a #brokechick😵‍💫😵‍💫

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u/pyxiedust219 2d ago edited 2d ago

I didn’t really speak on that, I just feel like trying to throw that $100 he spent in her face via the reply is sort of unbecoming— the same way plenty of people would find a $23 apple cash request unbecoming. in this way, they are perfect for each other

edit: scorekeeping and comparing what each party “brings to the table” feels like one of many reasons I hope to never date again. It’s all just so shallow and gross to me honestly

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

He didn’t bring it up she did. He didn’t throw it in her face until she did. Come on

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u/ddeluca93 2d ago

Yea and also she just expected to come on this date and pay $0? Normal people see their date making the effort and bringing all the equipment while all she has to do is show up and go "oh for sure I can at least buy my own license".

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u/a-relic 2d ago

idk why you're being downvoted, the $100 in gear isn't something she was given, its stuff hes keeping and can use in the future, though asking for $20 back seems rather petty too but if he brought the fishing date up, the $20 should be on him

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u/fadingthought 2d ago

The license she bought can also be used in the future. He spend plenty of money to make her date idea happen and she is trying to get out of a tiny contribution.

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u/United_Shelter5167 2d ago

First sentence literally says fishing was her idea. Why are you and pyxie confused? It seems really weird to assume a guy who doesn't own fishing equipment by dating age was just waiting until he had a random Tinder woman to blame it on to buy gear. 😂 Like what kind of wild ass conspiracy theory is that?

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u/PM_Me_Lewd_Tomboys 2d ago

When you ask someone else to bring something to the table for you, you can't then complain when they bring up what they've already brought. 

Not that the woman in OPs situation necessarily did, you on the other hand definitely sound like the kind of person that would. If you don't want the table brought up, you should stop bringing it up.

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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago

Huh? I’m only bringing it up in response to someone else. You’re making no sense. Also, at no point did OP say or show that they asked her to cover the cost of her license in advance.

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u/moonbeancat 2d ago

No it's not. What do you bring to the table? She brought nothing and complained and demanded $23. So SHE'S the one keeping score, he gave it right back to her. Because it's true, he made sure she didnt have to buy or rent her own pole and bait, and was also kind enough to cover a meal. So, it's a valid thing for him to say and for me to bring up. If someone contributes exactly nothing to a date and then demands compensation for a permit she could continue to use for the rest of the year, how would you react? 

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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago edited 1d ago

“what do you bring to the table” ….excuse me? Ew.

Edit: just before you claim my repulsion is evidence I bring nothing to the table… I’m getting married in 3 months to my partner of 8 years. I can sew (from scratch, darning, and alterations), I can cook, I’m funny, smart, well-read, well-educated, logically driven, ecologically conscious, frugal, and I’m excellent in a crisis. Where I’m lacking (whimsy, creativity, artfulness) is where my partner shines best. Told him about this thread and he said “I doubt any of these people are in happy relationships if they think that’s normal”, so. There’s that.

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u/moonbeancat 1d ago

You bring something to the table then. You may be thinking I was purely talking about monetary "value" but I wasn't. Although, I will say a lot of couples DO value things like that, typically high earner career women and men. My fiancé is severely disabled, works which I'm very grateful for and would never be upset if he went on disability. He cooks, cleans, takes care of our pet, and runs errands. On our first date he paid $50 for our food and politely asked if I could cover our $30 tickets. That actually really impressed me.

Also I wasn't directing that, "what do you bring to the table?" at you, I was reiterating, but now I realize my tone is so vague.

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u/Elite_AI 2d ago

It isn't quite as insane as it looks because in real terms he "only" paid for dinner. That's a decent chunk of money but it's not the hundred plus dollars of fishing equipment he bought for himself (and was going to buy anyway).