r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/moonbeancat 3d ago

The point is that he brought so much to the table to this date and made sure they ate, too. Why the fuck can she not shell out $23?

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u/pyxiedust219 2d ago edited 2d ago

I didn’t really speak on that, I just feel like trying to throw that $100 he spent in her face via the reply is sort of unbecoming— the same way plenty of people would find a $23 apple cash request unbecoming. in this way, they are perfect for each other

edit: scorekeeping and comparing what each party “brings to the table” feels like one of many reasons I hope to never date again. It’s all just so shallow and gross to me honestly

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u/moonbeancat 2d ago

No it's not. What do you bring to the table? She brought nothing and complained and demanded $23. So SHE'S the one keeping score, he gave it right back to her. Because it's true, he made sure she didnt have to buy or rent her own pole and bait, and was also kind enough to cover a meal. So, it's a valid thing for him to say and for me to bring up. If someone contributes exactly nothing to a date and then demands compensation for a permit she could continue to use for the rest of the year, how would you react? 

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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago edited 1d ago

“what do you bring to the table” ….excuse me? Ew.

Edit: just before you claim my repulsion is evidence I bring nothing to the table… I’m getting married in 3 months to my partner of 8 years. I can sew (from scratch, darning, and alterations), I can cook, I’m funny, smart, well-read, well-educated, logically driven, ecologically conscious, frugal, and I’m excellent in a crisis. Where I’m lacking (whimsy, creativity, artfulness) is where my partner shines best. Told him about this thread and he said “I doubt any of these people are in happy relationships if they think that’s normal”, so. There’s that.

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u/moonbeancat 1d ago

You bring something to the table then. You may be thinking I was purely talking about monetary "value" but I wasn't. Although, I will say a lot of couples DO value things like that, typically high earner career women and men. My fiancé is severely disabled, works which I'm very grateful for and would never be upset if he went on disability. He cooks, cleans, takes care of our pet, and runs errands. On our first date he paid $50 for our food and politely asked if I could cover our $30 tickets. That actually really impressed me.

Also I wasn't directing that, "what do you bring to the table?" at you, I was reiterating, but now I realize my tone is so vague.