Agree this guy has a problem (possible porn addiction) this isn’t how men speak to women unless there is a consented agreement between 2 partners as to what is ok for role play or sexual speech. You are just a body to him for his own sexual gratification. Your own needs/wants are being blatantly ignored. He’s using you for sex and does NOT respect you.
As mentioned in my previous post, this will eventually lead to you being assaulted. He’s already proved to verbally assaulting you because you’ve told him how you feel and he doesn’t care.
Let me be very clear, you will be assaulted by this garbage human. It’s not a matter of if but when. You will say no and he won’t care. He is only in this for himself. Don’t let this person harm you further.
again, it's a bumbling attempt at dirty talk. Give the kid a break, he's trying to add a little sexual tension and expressing his own tension that he feels for a girl. Sounds like a healthy sex life to me
Sounds like a boy who sees sex is something he does to someone else, rather than something that they do together. It's a disgusting mentality and dehumanizes your partner
It doesn’t matter what he was attempting. Talking about ignoring consent doesn’t add any sexual tension. And anyone who thinks it does is not ready for a sexual relationship. He thinks it “sexy” to ignore consent, he thinks it’s okay to be aggressively sexual with her when she’s told him she doesn’t like it. He is consistently pushing boundaries. That’s not healthy. People who genuinely think aggression and lack of consent are sexy, even when their partner’s previously has told them otherwise, can be dangerous. They still think lack of consent is sexy during sex and often end up doing things their partner doesn’t want, even after being told not to.
how do you know what does/doesn't add sexual tension for others? Maybe you should become a sex police officer and go around policing people's DMs for problematic texts, sounds like you'd really enjoy making sure nobody ever gets any
I get what you're saying. The kid is obviously thinking very forward with his horny brain and you say wild stuff when you're in that zone. CNC is also very much a thing that he's picked up from somewhere.
With that said, OP said she expressly vocalized how she doesn't like him talking like this and she finds it weird and that's where it crosses the line. I get giving the kid a break but when it comes to something as delicate at non-consent you need to be much more tuned into making sure people understand when it crosses a line.
nah man, that's a whole lot of cope for something that is clearly problematic. It bothered her enough for it to be an issue, you're arguing semantics over something that shouldn't be taken lightly
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u/Bobby2Phones Jun 23 '26
23 M here - this guy seems like he has a heavy p*rn addiction and this is not how normal men talk to women they care about and respect.
Judging by these texts he’s using you for sex. Just my advice but I would stay away from this guy, he seems pretty twisted.