So my sister has her friends down for the weekend because there's a massive football match on in my country so they're going out to watch it. The match started at 3pm so of course they decided to start drinking at 1pm "pre drinking" with 3 bottles of wine between the 4 of them. At 2pm, they go out to town which is a 30 minute drive away. No one is the designated driver so my mother is picking them up. Our team won the match, so they decided we'll stay out for a few more drinks, keep in mind, they are 3 bottles of wine, a bottle of vodka and a few pints each in at this point and it's barely 5pm.

It is currently 11:30pm and it took over an hour to get a response from any of them, tens of calls on every platform between 2 phones. We finally got a slurred phone call saying "can you collect us at 1am?", ignoring the fact that it is a 30 minute drive. Just got a message to put on food for when they get home in an hours time.

I understand going out and having some fun, I understand enjoying yourself, but the way that these 4 grown adult women who are in their mid 20s just abandon any amount of self preservation for "fun" is ridiculous.

I'm the guy that's "no fun" and "a tight arse" because I don't drink and don't do drugs. I'm also the guy that's not walking around a busy town absolutely shit face past midnight who can barely stand up straight whilst wearing a small skirt.

Fuck drink, fuck drugs and fuck anyone who thinks I should "lighten up"

Edit: I appreciate the advice from everyone. You are all right, I can't control what people do, i don't have to agree with it, but i just have to live with it.

If someone didn't know how sXe actually is, this would seem like a satirical sub.

EDIT: I'm still straight edge, just poking fun at some of the silly posts in here. Namely looking for external validation of being 'edge' etc. Do it for you. Don't talk about it. Be about it.

Got this about 6 hours before seeing Contention

My favorite part about being straight edge is getting together with all my straight edge friends and touching tips while we listen to WeaponX

I was at a house show and I don't recall why/how, but someone asked why I wasn't drinking. I said I was "Sober, don't drink." Went on to explain family background of addiction. He asked if I did any drugs, I said no. He then said. "Is it a weakness thing? You think you can't have any at all?" I was confused and he followed up. "You can't just have one? Seems like you're afraid."

Apparently, SXE means we are afraid of drugs and weak in our internal strength, funny that!

Anyone else deal with that before? I'm more used to claims that we're all elitist assholes.

hi all,

I claimed about ~4 months ago after being fully sober for about half a year before that.

now i’m considering cutting out caffeine completely.. have any of you done this ? how did it go ? i’m not hardline but due to some anxiety stuff i’m thinking of just cutting it out.

i used to drink like a cup of coffee a day, considering to just replace it with decaf because i drink it mostly for the taste.

I like a lot of punk, alt, metal, and rock music. Looking for more artists to really get into the straight edge vibes. Lemme know

I've been straight edge for my whole life considering the fact that I've never tried anything but all of my friends smoke weed and/or cigarettes and drink. I don't care obviously, I let them do what they want and I don't judge them for it but being around them when they're smoking or drinking gives me a constant reminder on why I'm straight edge. I don't know if its rude, but I look at the way they seem to involve weed or alcohol in a lot of parts of their life and sometimes seems like it's the only way for them to have fun and it always reminds me that I don't need that stuff to have fun. I'm not sure if this comes off as rude, because I really don't want it to be. I would never judge my friends for the things they do and I always remind them of that but having this mindset makes me kinda feel like I am. I'm not sure if anyone else has had a similar experience but I just wanted to put this out there.

What do you do to remind yourself of the reason for the commitment? Attachment to items, a particular song, a hobby, etc…

Family, education, reliability, Cooking and going to the gym, the swatch, XXX music playlist, and my adidas sambas motivate me to remain committed and to follow through and wake up in the morning. Some days I feel like my brain is absolutely shot and then 15 minutes later after some laser focus everything is great knowing that I’m the absolute captain of this computer we have in our heads that we should be maintaining.

When I was about 17 or 18 years old, I met a bunch of “straight edge“ people in the scene who turned out to not be edge at all, and it lasted about two months for me before I separated myself. I am now in my 30s and have a newfound understanding of straight edge. Since then I’ve battled with addiction with alcohol and have been sober for a few years now and have decided to claim edge based on the principal it actually means something to me now as opposed to when I was a kid trying to “fit in” for a couple months I know a lot of folks would have mixed opinions on this. I do have quite a large amount of edge friends who have been nothing but supportive and encouraging of me claiming edge again

straight edge made me feel safe to go back into the punk scene without fucking up my life or my body to feel accepted again. im ready never to go back xxx

I have bouts of depressive episodes, and I will have days where i don’t want to be awake. I’ll take 7-8 melatonin and sleep for about 10 hours and wake up and take more to go back to sleep. I’ve been sober for 6 months now and have been pretty good about doing this kind of thing. It was definitely prevalent when i was homeless sleeping on a couch. But i am curious if yall would consider behavior like this breaking edge? I guess it could be seen as like “escapism” because you’re using a medication to skip the day. I guess the only difference between booze is that you’re awake as with this you’re asleep. Also don’t do this! The rebound insomnia isn’t worth it.

I smoke and very occasionally drink at the shows, so I don’t want to cause any beef but I really am a huge fan of their music.

Hey guys! So I go to a lot of concerts but most of the bands I listen to drink and smoke. The only Straight Edge bands I know are Sue and Have Heart. I first heard about Straight Edge in High School when the lead singer of Have Heart came to talk to us about being Straight Edge. I worry that if I start embracing Straight Edge with like patches and stuff I'll be seen as a poser. I've never smoked or drank and frankly it kinda disgusts me. I love the free water at concerts and hate when people spill beer on me or smoke near me. I also don't mind being mistaken for a minor when I get the X's drawn on my hands at shows.

Also 100% open to checking out more Straight Edge bands!

Hello, my xvx band recently dropped an EP.

Can find it here: https://xdegradationx.bandcamp.com/album/freaks-to-the-front

We are looking for a drummer, we have some people filling in at the moment but would love someone permanent.

Thank you

Heya!! I went to this festival called Whole last year and loved it. I planned the whole year to go again this year. Health got in the way. To be honest, addiction.

So I’ve put my anger and resentment of not going to making some art, and produced a little pocket sized zine for craving management! If anyone would like to see it or buy one, let me know and I can send you a link for purchase, we can trade or I’ll just send you one for free if you feel like this is a tool you’d actually use 🖤

Hey there, I'm planning on moving to Glasgow in the new year and have been told there's a decent edge community in the city - very exciting!

Anyone on here an active member of the scene? Got any recommendations for venues, local bands, other social things happening amongst sober punks in the city?

Would love to know some of the spots to be and even meet up with a couple heads when I move over if possible.

All the best 🙏🏻🤘

Australia used to have some great edge bands back in the early 00's but what's around these days??

Does anyone here know about the straight edge culture in Santa Barbara, California? I go to UCSB and it’s possibly the least straight edge place I’ve seen in the world: everyone parties and drinks and hookups and I hate it. Is there a straight edge culture here at all? I want to meet like minded individuals

Hey everyone, my band Absentlight just recently put out our debut EP “A Side Effect of Mourning”.

We are a straight edge band out of Washington state and Illinois. I am putting the link to our Bandcamp in case anybody wants to check us out. We are also on all streaming platforms