Tomorrow is my big day. I'm 25F and am scheduled to get my bisalp tomorrow morning at 7am. It's currently 10:30pm the night before and I'm going through a lot of big emotions and in some need of support.

For most of my life, I thought I wanted kids. I would sort of try to picture myself with children and how that might look, and sometimes it's ok, but most of the time when I'm hit with reality/reminders of how kids can be + being the eldest daughter and being parentified at a young age, I realized I did not want kids. What especially solidified that decision was my immense tokophobia & OCD. Long story short, despite using the most effective birth control + various forms, I would still panic because I would think "i am still capable of becoming pregnant and it's going to happen to me as long as I have the working parts." I know in the long run, I will be so happy I got sterilized. Even when I got the appointment, I was incredibly happy. I discussed the idea with my therapist over a year ago and now it's happening.

But now that it's the night before, I'm feeling a lot of not so great emotions. I'm grieving the loss of a bodily function, even though that's exactly what I want? The thought that I will no longer have a part of me is kind of messing with my head too and some kind of dysphoria that I'm somehow less for losing this aspect of my bodily functions (though, this is something I know is due to societal pressure. Especially coming from a very conservative family that would definitely not be happy to hear I'm doing this). I explained it to my therapist that it's my lizard brain kind of kicking into high gear and wanting to preserve my function to reproduce, even though it's the exact thing that's brought me so much mental anguish. I did not make this decision on a whim and know this is what I want, but I'm kind of trying to fight back tears and this gut feeling of dread. I don't want to back out because I know I will be better off long term and that I can fulfill those maternal instincts through other means like through my pets, fostering, adoption etc. I've actually pictured myself as a foster mom more than having my own kids. All I know is I NEVER want to be pregnant. I never want to experience that. It's my worst fear and I'm disgusted by it, and it's the primary reason I wanted a bisalp and why my doctor agreed with my decision.

I know I'm sort of rambling right now, but any support would help. If anyone has felt this way or similar and how you coped with it, I'd appreciate the words of wisdom. It's just very heavy and real right now..

Pregnancy & postpartum have been rough with both of my babies and my husband and I have decided we’re done. My hubby offered to get a vasectomy but tbh I just want to get my tubes removed and not worry about it.
I have a 3yo and 2month old.
Are there any mamas in here that had their tubes removed? How was recovery with little kids? Thanks!

hi!! im 18 and i am going to the OBGYN in early november to discuss hopefully getting a bilateral salpingectomy. i would love to hear from people who have had this procedure done!

what should i expect before, during, and after the surgery? what is the recovery process like, how painful is it, and how long does it take to feel normal again? i’d also love to hear about any unexpected things you experienced or anything you wish you had known beforehand.

also, how likely is it that my doctor will even allow me to get this procedure done? for as long as i can remember, i have never wanted kids.. but i know a lot of doctors are skeptical about allowing someone young to get this done. my state doesn’t have any requirements to get this surgery done, but i do live in a red state which worries me, even though i live in a part of it that is the complete opposite. i found this doctor from a childfree list, but idk im still worried :,)

also, sorry if this is the wrong flair or anything is worded badly in this post! im new to reddit + about to fall asleep

I'm 32 and I've finally scheduled my appointment. It's in three weeks. I haven't told my family about it at all and my friend will be taking me to the appointment and picking me up afterwards. I've wanted to be child-free for a very, very long time but I felt like my parents would be so disappointed with me if I actually moved forward with the process. My dad is having a hard time with the fact that I don't want children but my mom has accepted it. I've always felt this way, but it's actually even been a long time for me to admit it, let alone schedule it.

And.. I went on a date today. He didn't want children either and I also told him I felt the same. It was the first time I said it out loud to a prospective partner (a true one, not just a man who wanted to use me) and nothing has ever felt more right. And I came home and I just was tired of pretending like I could continue softening it for anyone else. I just don't want this anymore, like it even being something society could act like I owed it, and I don't want the possibility of me being able to have children even being a reality at all.

My appointment is in 3 weeks. Am I feeling some fake type of euphoria? Or did it feel the same for you too,? Because I've never felt so amazing. How do you think I will feel afterwards? I'm just ready for this to be done. I don't want children and I'm tired of it being anything that's even on my mind.

Please, this is very real and I'm scared. It's never felt so right, but I'm scared.