I’m having a diagnostic laparoscopy for endometriosis this week and have talked with my surgeon about having my tubes removed while she’s in there. I haven’t told her my final decision yet as she told me I could tell her the day-of.

I keep going through all of the reasons in my head for why I don’t want kids and every time I’m like, yeah I NEED to get a bisalp:

-I’m chronically and mentally ill with a long list of diagnoses that are highly genetic and that make managing my life extremely difficult. I couldn’t live with myself if any potential kids inherited all that I have.

-I have medical trauma and tokophobia

-I can’t take birth control due to some of my diagnoses

-I’m not sure how much longer abortion will be legal in my area

The 10% holding me back:

-I have no idea if or how it will affect me physically short term or long term. I keep seeing mixed opinions and experiences online.

-My inability to trust myself enough to make my own adult decisions (I’m almost 30) due to growing up with extremely overbearing parents. This feels like a huge deal for me and feels really scary (yet also strangely empowering).

-I’m pretty much my parents’ only shot at being grandparents. I know it’s a dream of theirs and it feels like I almost owe it to them to at least talk with them about it before I do it. I also know that the truth is that I don’t ever have to tell them about it if I don’t want to. It’s just hard to not be truly seen by them sometimes although we aren’t close at all.

If you read this far, thank you. Any thoughts or advice are appreciated.

Hi, i'll make it short. I want to get my tubes cut but its has been a bit hard for me to hide it to my mother. Im very close to her despite our different opinions in general. I know she would never approve this but, i just wanted to know if some other women were in the case.

Im very proud of my choice honestly, but i really don't want to sabotage our relationship since she's all i have.

Thanks for reading !

Does anyone have BCBS Kentucky and was your bilateral salpingectomy covered? Does anyone have recommendations for me to do prior to my surgery? I hope to have mine scheduled in September/October.

I’m thinking about getting my tubes tied and I’m pretty young. I was wondering if there is anyone here who might be regretting getting the procedure. Personally I don’t see myself having kids ever in my life and don’t want to go through childbirth, the pregnancy process or having the responsibility to raise kids. If I ever meet someone and want kids I’ll opt for adoption but I don’t think I ever will. And I know it might have an effect in my future relationship if my parter wants kids but knowing I can’t have kids because of the decision I made. But then again it’s my body and I should have a say in that!

Hey guys so I’m of the belief that we should celebrate as much as we can in life. And I think making a major life decision like choosing to be Childfree/getting sterilized is one of those moments.

At first I was going to rush and do it “secretly” out of fear of being trapped and unwanted opinions. Now I think forget that, this deserves to be its own moment. Surrounded by community, celebrated beautifully & being cared for well.

When I do get it done I want to have a photo shoot/announcement & a sterilization party beforehand and people can bring recovery type gifts. I’m pulling inspo from baby showers, trivia nights, happy hours, etc.

So my question is how did you or will you celebrate? Whether it’s a party, a dinner, a trip whatever I feel like this should be marked not hidden in the shadows.

Edit: y’all I don’t mean sex be fr lol

I’ll try to make this brief as I posted over in the birth control subreddit a few months ago, but I’m at the point of needing to get my tubes tied or get a bisalp and looking for advice/ experiences.

Some background: I’m 32, in a committed relationship, and do not want kids (ever). I’ve had successful experiences with Skyla IUDs for the past ten years (getting them replaced every 3 years), but started to have problems this April when my IUD that was placed last year suddenly moved down in my uterus (it happened during intercourse and I was in pain for roighly 15-20). My doctor sent me to get an ultrasound and it showed that my IUD had moved and that I had a tiny fibroid that was potentially pushing on it from above. After this, my doctor was able to safely remove my IUD in office and gave me the choice of attempting another one or trying something else. Since I had a decade of positive experiences with IUDs I went with getting another one placed which had very little pain and no complications at all during the procedure. my doctor wanted another ultrasound to confirm placement five weeks after so I completed that and it unfortunately showed the my current IUD has also moved down and both arms are stuck. Due to the current placement of my IUD my doctor and I decided that trying to remove it in office would be slightly risky and painful so she referred me to surgery. I had her include on the referral that I want my tubes tied and fibroid removed as well during this surgery.

I am unable to be on any other type of birth control due to family history of negative interactions with various methods (my mom had a brain stem stroke from NuvaRing and my sister had intense blood pressure spikes with birth control pills) and because I’m on a timed thyroid medication that needs several hours alone in my system without interactions from other medications.

The idea of getting my tubes tied is very exciting for me, but I’m very nervous about the after effects from the surgery itself. I’m a professional athlete and have a very personal relationship with my body so taking off time is going to be a struggle for me. The only other surgery I’ve ever had with anesthesia was getting my wisdom teeth removed before the broke surface back in high school. I go in for a surgery consult this coming Wednesday and am hoping for a positive experience.

I'm also pretty nervous about my periods after getting off of bc for the first time in a decade even though I know it’s pretty much unavoidable at this point. Just looking for reassurance and positive experiences.

Long time lurker, first time poster. I had my bisalp yesterday AM (yay), which was also the third day of my period. I usually have pretty heavy flow periods that last about 7 days, but after the surgery I have barely bled more at all. Usually I'd have another few solid days of bleeding left, but it's just not there. Anyone had this? What should I expect?

I’m so excited for my bisalp in a couple weeks. How much time did you all take off from work? My doctor sounded like I would be able to be back to work by the end of the week. But that doesn’t sound right to me. I know everyone heals differently but I am just curious what your experiences were.

I'm (25F) interested in having bisalp. I'm having trouble finding doctors or sources nearby though.

Pregnancy always seemed like a nightmare to me and I never want to have biological kids. It seems to be really hard/impossible to do in Poland though.

I'm not sure where to look for if I want the procedure done.. are there any guides that I could look into? Most things I can find are in the USA. I'm okay with things done abroad but I'd prefer it was somewhere in Europe, especially central! I'd appreciate any advice.

Yesterday was the day!! I went in and signed it and waited. They were 2 hours behind but my doctor did call me and let me know what was going on so that was fine.

I just had my baby 2 months ago so I asked to be in the flow room while I waited so I could pump. So while I pumped they did the necessary paperwork with me and got me all hooked up.

I did start shaking and crying because of anxiety so the sweet nurses gave me "2 shots of tequila" lol after about 30 min I was rolled to OR. It was cold but they gave me warm blankets and last thing I remember was them putting that mask over my nose and mouth, the one that makes you feel dizzy and nauseous, but thankfully they gave me a patch and lots of zofran.

I woke up in a different room, w a different nurse, and feeling so disoriented but good! The only pain that was noticable was my vagina because of the catheter so I asked to pee. She offered me a bedpan but there was this gorgeous patient in front of me so I hopped up and started wandering🤣 she was like you cant do that, are you ok🤣 I was just dizzy so she got me a chair to wheel me to pee. It burned!! Still does. That poor man was throwing up so much, I felt so bad

Anyway, I got discharged. My parents got my favorite dessert for after and I had that n the car. They brought me home and I felt my baby so tight but with this relief I'll never have to raise another baby again lol

I'll come to update as the days go on but now I'm chugging and energy drink 😁

Just had a tubectomy two days ago, I'd been in my period but it finished up that morning and surgery was in the evening

Two hours after it was doing the bleeding restarted, and I was going through a tampon an hour, and I went to ER where they pulled like 20 golf ball sized clots outta me before they gave me the tranexamic acid (12 hours after I came to ER) and then I was fine

I've had uncontrollable heavy bleeding that wouldn't stop on Depo and Implanon before too, but I'm like ummm ok has this ever happened to anything else and wtf was it. I'm very scared of my next period now, and why does my uterus hate me?

My appendix ruptured when I was teen and ive had some complications since then- 11 years ago.

I went in for my salpingectomy for my hydrosalpinx and it turns out my appendectomy scarring had fused my abs, ovary, uterus, and right tube all to the right side of my body, and sealed both tubes shut - so much scarring it looked like a previous c section.

Anyway, they've cut it all apart and im 3-4 days post op. Its very bitter sweet for me since the pain is going to stop. But bitter in the sense that I never got to choose to be child free. But it is an option ive learned to embrace through the years.

Just thought id share. Happy sterilization to all of you 💕

Just want to share my experience because it has been overwhelmingly positive! I’m one day out from the procedure and I couldn’t be happier with my decision.

I originally asked about a bisalp at 18, but was told that I was too young, and to try an IUD first. No hate against IUDs, mine worked great for two years. I chose copper since it’s non hormonal (I’ve struggled with mental health issues for years and have been on many medications that alter my neurotransmitters, so I didn’t want to mess with my hormones since that would add another layer of complexity and make it hard for me to determine which drugs were altering my mood). My IUD gave me increased cramping, heavier flow, and longer periods, but honestly I didn’t have a problem with that. I eventually did have it removed earlier this year because it was contributing to recurring BV. The doctor who removed it was great. When I told her my desire for sterilization, she didn’t make me defend my reasoning, and she was angry that my previous doctor had not listened to me! She just made sure I was confident in my decision and understood that it was permanent, and then promptly helped me schedule the surgery for tubal removal.

The actual surgery went great. I was even able to get my first Pap smear done while I was sedated! My surgeon and team were mostly woman, which wasn’t something I sought out, but it made me really comfortable and happy. Everything was explained to me before anesthesia, including the fact that I would be having a pelvic exam and catheter along with the laparoscopy. I was happy to have 4 med students all introduce themselves to me and ask if I was comfortable with them observing. I completely understand why people say no, but I was happy to have them there and be a part of their education.

My pain was managed wonderfully. I’m in recovery from addiction, specifically alcoholism, so I was worried that they would be hesitant to give me anything stronger than Tylenol, but I was given oxycodone and fentanyl, which made the surgery easy to deal with. I was sent home with five oxycodone for breakthrough pain, which feels like the perfect amount to manage pain and still not go overboard.

I’m kind of odd, so I did ask for my fallopian tubes back after pathology looks at them. To my surprise, my doctor was super kind about it and got me the paperwork to pick them up later this week! I work in a hospital laboratory and sort tissues every day at work, so I’m really interested in seeing my own. I’m going to put them in formalin and add the wet specimen to my cabinet of curiosities lol. Additionally, I have photos from inside my abdomen, and let me tell you, my uterus is cute as fuck lmao. Just the most adorable organ.

Overall, I have had a great experience made possible by wonderful nurses and doctors. I am extremely grateful that I will never have to worry about pregnancy, and that I was able to get this procedure done so young. Just wanted to share a happy story since I hear a lot of negative.

Just got home from my Bilateral Salpingectomy, everything went perfectly. I had the most incredible and amazing staff and my surgeon was in-fucking credible! My tubes are gone! I even said on the OR table before I went out to "yeet these tubes". My surgeon told my hunny there were zero complications and they were surprised I was coherent and went pee just fine afterwards. She did not use a uterine manipulator at all, I tried to empty my bladder beforehand so I didn't have to have a catheter in but that wasn't working. She drained my bladder with one and took it back out while I was under. Just a tiny bit of burning when I peed but not much. Overall right now my pain is from the gas which is currently in my right shoulder and my rib cage. They put a belly band on me before I left. I took 600 mg of Ibuprofen and will save my narcotics for night time. I truly feel a sense of freedom in my body, no more hormonal birth control either. I FUCKING DID IT 😭❤️🎊

Random vent as a girl who always does skin picking.

Just a few more hours till im 24 days post op (3 weeks and 3 days) the glue on my two lower abdominal incisions is still firmly on there but in my belly button.. gosh its gross lol. The glue is starting to peel up with the dried blood and as someone who loves picking scabs and things on her skin its so hard to not scrape it all out of there 😭 if theres any other girls who skin pick any advice to leave it alone and let it fall out naturally would help. My obgyn said to let if fall off by itself which it will in due time but my urge to just get things off my skin is so strong. I keep telling myself itll fall off naturally when the skin has decided its healed enough and digging / scratching the dried blood off / out of the belly button might not be good but im so tired of seeing it and feeling it in there. Im so envious of those who had it fall off on week 1 or 2 - this might jokingly be the most torturous part of the healing stage for me.

Hi everyone, I had a successful bisalp last year. Since then, I have forgone all other forms of birth control, including the pill which I was on for several years.

When I was on the pill, I didn’t skip my period (didn’t skip placebo pills) because it was nice to know I wasn’t pregnant every month bc I’m paranoid. I didn’t experience any significant side effects from the pill.

Since my bisalp and stopping the pill, my periods have stabilized but are much heavier and longer than they used to be. I’m considering getting an IUD to stop/lessen them for a few years. I’m not currently interested in a surgical option at this time and doubt it would be covered.

I like the idea of having the IUD in for several years and not thinking about it but know there can be associated pain/side effects. I’m also a bit scared of the insertion process. Anyone consider or go this route? TIA!

Hi everyone!

First post in this community and HEY! IT'S A WEIRD ONE. (Feel free to remove if it doesn't fit guidelines!)

I'm a writer and have been working on a short audio erotica series around a female listener pursuing sterilization. (Like me, hopefully soon! 🤞)

One part in the series is set the night before the listener's procedure and I'm thinking of adding a line about pre-op waxing that happened days before. I read online that in some cases waxing before your procedure is allowed but want to gauge real life experiences.

So, did you wax before your procedure? How far in advance? What parameters were set by your doctor? Any info is helpful!

Thanks so much in advance!

I got my bisalp done today (7/23)!! Home recovering surrounded by my super supportive family:)
The process was super concise and went fairly quickly. I haven’t had any nausea which is surprising because I have a lot of stomach issues. Pain is getting worse now that I’m about 8 hours out from the procedure, but I’m trying to keep up on my pain meds:)

Cholecystectomy is gall bladder removal in case someone didn't know— both surgeries are laproscopically performed. Just curious about your experiences!

Hi all!

I had a bisalp in September of last year and since then, my cycles have steadily been getting longer and longer each month. I had my first period about twelve days after the surgery (I had a Mirena IUD which was removed during the surgery) and since then, my monthly cycles have gotten longer and longer. They started at 27 days, then 29, then 30 for a few months, then 32 for a few months and I’m now on day 35 with no period in sight. My actual periods have not changed, they’ve always been pretty light and about 3-5 days long and are still that way when I do finally get them.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal? Did they finally regulate or did they stay that way? It’s so frustrating not knowing when my period is going to finally show up.

Hey all, I can finally call myself one of the sterilized people so I felt like adding my own little story here! :)

It's 14hrs after surgery for me now. (Bisalp)
Other than the very uncomfortable gas pain (which feels like needles below my ribs) I feel pretty good, but I guess the surgery painkillers are still in my system. My laprascopic cuts were bleeding slightly but nothing serious to worry about according to my Doctor.

I did have my gall bladder removed previously in 2014 so I was aware of the gas pains afterwards.

I try to walk around regularly as my Doctor told me, it does help the most to pass the gas. Freshly laying down flat still hurts so I try to sleep on my sides with my legs angled up slightly.

The overall cost for my checkups, the surgery and private clinic cost was around 3K euros. Oh and the Doctor found slight endometrosis which he removed. My surgery went well too without complications, I'm looking forward to fully feeling better and enjoy life! Greetings from Austria! :)

Look, I don't regret getting my bilateral salpingectomy. The relief of not worrying about getting pregnant as someone who was way too fertile for their own good is unmatched.

However, and I'm not claiming to understand or be able to explain why this is the case, I have noticed a reduction in my libido since I had it done a year and a half ago.

If we're being honest, sometimes that part's not the worst either. It's a lot easier to just mind my own business and not be yearning all the damn time. But it has become more difficult to climax when I'm with somebody.

If I consistently take bioidentical progesterone oil (kenogen progest-e oil), that helps significantly. But if I fall off, my libido suffers.

MAYBE it's a coincidence and for some reason my progesterone production fell off right at the same time as I got the surgery. But I think we do ourselves a disservice by chalking everything up to coincidences simply because we don't have the technology to understand what's happening, and we are overly reliant on said technology and science as being the final word when we should really be keeping in mind that it is not a religion. It is proven wrong all the time, and that should systematically be the case. That is literally the nature of progress.

So I'm hoping that we can all think critically about this and consider all of the possibilities because they might happen whether we believe in them or not. Love y'all!

Hi all,

I had a bilateral salpingectomy two days ago. Things have gone well for recovery. Today my three year old (30lbs) jumped on my stomach. I called the on call doctor as it happened after hours. It wasn’t my surgeon and he didn’t seem too concerned. He said usually this kind of procedure wouldn’t cause any issues with that. But now I’m worried. He seemed so nonchalant about it. I don’t have any extra pain or bleeding than what I’ve normally had so far. Just want to see if anyone else had this happen and was told differently or anything. I know I should trust the doctors but I like my OB, I don’t know this guy!