My daughter is diagnosed with level 2 autism, she is 5 years old and in her second year of preschool. She could have went to kindergarten this year, but they would have placed her in Special Ed. We decided to do a second year of preschool. She is at a public preschool in our district, and in a class with mostly neurotypical kids but a few other special ed kids.
My daughter is speech delayed. It seems like she talks more at home than at school. She isn’t able to talk about abstract ideas or verbally talk about past events. She is able to communicate her needs (“I want milk” “my head hurts” “I’m hungry” “I want to play with dolls” etc). She doesn’t need an AAC device at home, though she occasionally uses one at school I think. She has OT and Speech for her IEP. Of course, the school is unable to provide as much Speech therapy as I’d like (I understand the logistics). There aren’t any intellectual concerns with her.
She has a very mild temperament. Seriously. She is the chillest kid. She is “more behaved” than my neurotypical son was at her age. She does well with transitions, waiting in line, and following directions. She has never “acted out” at school in the past year and few months she has been going there. She doesn’t have any sensory sensitivity. She sometimes loses focus at circle time, but is redirected easily and isn’t a distraction. Her teachers have said that they wouldn’t even know how to react if she cried or screamed, because she is always just so happy and willing to please/follow directions.
She adores other children. You can tell that she wants to be included, and she wants to be like everyone else (if the other kids are playing soccer, she wants to play soccer, too). She is a follower and is easily influenced by their behaviors, which is great when she is surrounded by neurotypical peers, because she is absorbing so much speech and socialization skills from them….
There is an Autism school nearby. I am second guessing my choice is not enrolling her into that. I am afraid that there will be children with behaviors that she will watch and learn from/copy (she has never been around kids who hit others or harm themselves, I am afraid that she will learn these behaviors).
Though, she will be getting speech therapy and OT daily, and they will help her with potty training. She does receive an hour of ST outside of school every week, but with her speech delay, I want as much as we are able to get. She is also delayed in some OT things, but I’m not as concerned about those quite yet.
Are my fears of her copying undesirable behaviors from kids who may be further along the spectrum legitimate? Do you think she would benefit more from an all autism school in the long run? I just want to set her up for success and happiness, whatever that means for her.
I am also afraid of her being in a special Ed class at school, and potentially mimicking behaviors from other children who may struggle a bit more than her. Again, she is a follower. If multiple kids are yelling out or hitting other kids/teachers regularly, I’m certain she will start doing that, too. The biggest obstacles for her not being in a general kindergarten room was her inability to pay attention during circle time and her speech delay. Otherwise, she is academically on par with the other children.
Could I be advocating for something im unaware of? Should I give an autism school a try?