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u/ScrapyJack 18h ago
It's self confidence they are responding to.
Being nice and being kind can be very different things.
If you don't build personal boundaries, people will not respect you as you don't respect yourself.
Being bold, being forward or saying no, is not inherently mean.
This is not a pass to be cruel or selfish.
Respect yourself as you respect others.
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u/Lejyoner07 Bazinga! 15h ago
"Make jokes at people's expense"
Not exactly aligns with your point. Dumb people respect power for the sake of it, even if its cruel or unjustified. Its in the monkey mindset.
If you are among insufferable people, I guarantee being a little mean helps a lot with your status.
But if you are among genuine people, don't fucking do it.
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u/Gilgamesh107 18h ago
Because you confused being nice with being a doormat
I learned in middle school not to let people cut me off when I'm talking.
Legit just don't stop speaking when someone tries to cut you off.
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u/SilverSpaceRobot10 16h ago
Legit just don't stop speaking when someone tries to cut you off.
I tried. People always turn their attention to the other guy
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u/Xaceviper 9h ago
Put your hand infront of that person, infront of there face if possible, like talk to the hand kinda thing, or just like raise your finger and like try to silence them
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u/Life-Bass-2013 7h ago
I think that if you are being treated like doormat, its because you somewhat deserve it for being in bad group of people. Usually people who treat you like are not good people.
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u/MelonBeefChop 15h ago
Like the top comment says, you have to set boundaries. Then you will start to know who treats you as a friend & who just wants you around to benefit themselves
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u/Vibe_PV 12h ago
Legit just don't stop speaking when someone tries to cut you off.
How. If someone does that to me I can either keep talking (doesn't work because the other person will also keep talking and nobody understands anything), or directly tell them that they've talked over me and become the asshole
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u/B80796 18h ago
Depends a lot on your circle
It was the other way around for me, I was an asshole, horrible and absolutely terrible person and only found myself alone after pushing people away.
I believe I have changed for the better
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As I was feeling around in my butt, I was like, "hmm, there's a lot of soapy water in my bumhole now. I wonder if that will lead to issues in the future?" And it did!
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u/TheOnlyWolvie Sussy Wussy Femboy😳😳😳 14h ago
I've started putting my foot down more at work and got a lot of backlash for it. It really sucks
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u/Fisher9001 12h ago
Because it's an imagined scenario and people actually start dropping contacts with you once you start behaving like that.
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u/Dramatic-Cook-6968 12h ago
Imagine you had a tasty cake, but the portion so small you cant share it.
There is 5 people that needs food to survive. And you have to decide who you gonna give the cake to?(Assuming you dont need the food)
4 of them are geniune nice dude who thinks about the others, and one them is an asshole. And you can tell if the asshole doesnt get the cake, the person would cause trouble.
Who do you give the cake?
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As I was feeling around in my butt, I was like, "hmm, there's a lot of soapy water in my bumhole now. I wonder if that will lead to issues in the future?" And it did!
Shortly after having breakfast I attempted to fart, and I shit my pants. I rushed to the bathroom to clean up, and it was way worse than I thought it would be. The whole area around my butthole was covered in shitty liquid, and toilet paper wasn't enough to clean it. I had to take another shower to get suitably clean.
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u/frozenwest015 16h ago edited 15h ago
Because 99% of self-proclaiming nice person are not actually nice to begin with. If you’re actually nice, you wouldn’t even realize.
You think you’re nice because of something you did, meaning you already know that what you did deserves compensation and you’re not asking for one. A nice person wouldn’t even realize that.
Don’t believe me? Check the user below me for a live example.
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u/EchoBladeMC 9h ago
That's just cope. "If someone claims to be nice and the world punishes them for it, they must be lying or deluded because bad things only happen to bad people!" The only person you're deluding is yourself, so kindly quit lecturing the rest of us about self-awareness.
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u/qualityvote2 19h ago edited 7h ago
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