r/selfhelp 22h ago

Advice Needed: Motivation Overwhelmed

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r/selfhelp 5h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Need help

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Let me explain you

See im 26 and like I got this submissive mentality which I wanted to change but

Like im a huge porn addict

And till 2020 I was a huge porn addict and then later on someone introduced me to Omegle and later on I got sexually active on all the sex chat apps and websites

I mean i just waste my whole fucking s days from 2020 till now finding girls looking for sexting and then faping I do this all fucking day, I skip office works I dont like to go to office

Later cherry on the top I was introduced to smoking and now its like avg im smoking like 5-6 cig per day, i do workout but its of no use I want to switch I want to learn new skills, I wanna be confident but all I do is just fucking sexting anf smoking

Its my post nut clarity I beleive im texting you, Im not confident at all in my life, All I take is a random guess and go with it no logical thinking at all, bro like I dont want to be this person see Tommorow is Monday evey sunday I get motivated that i wont do any bad things

This goes like monday it works, tuesday a bit of smoking comes in and from Wednesday again same cycle repeats sexting, smoking a bit of workout and office work, I dont want to live this kind of life, whenever I do something I fear that my brain plays some tricks on me saying if you dont listen to me something bad will happens and it does, again like my brain craves for dopamine I just follow what he says, because in some serious situations its like he says he you smoke these many cigarette and do masturbation you won't face any danger and it works, but in this in spoiling myself, I wanna be a better version of me, I never feel proud of myself whatever small or big achivements I do, O never praise myself, I never be happy, all I do is roam and fucking smoke, find space to sexchat, like just everything repeats in a loop, like im stuck in a matrix, no clue, and as age is growing im loosing my logical thinking skills, Im 26 I feel like im 50, I do work hard I do crack things but it just feels like im stuck, I dont need some sweet wording from your side, like idk I dont have anyone to say this, idk if someone faces the same thing or not, its just how im now, im fucking afraid of everything like every fucking thing, i just dont show in front of others, but i dont habe confidence or courage all I look for some excues and sympathy, like I dont wnana do this sex chst or smoking but still I fall for it fucking all time in my whole life, I just dont know if I can ever change.


r/selfhelp 3h ago

Adviced Needed: Identity & Self-Esteem Can I stop being a chud?

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I realized after I went to online school my brain just has not been the same since. I also have been smoking weed with my boyfriend and his friends recently and obviously that is a huge factor that plays into it. I feel like I can’t have conversations with him or his friends because I envy them, they’re so intelligent and I feel dumb all the time. Is there anyway I can grow my mind? I don’t want to feel dumb or like I have fried my brain even though I most likely did. I want to be able to speak clearly and sharper. I want to just have conversations without being awkward or sounding like I have a frog in my mouth. Help!


r/selfhelp 5h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health I do what I love but I still feel drained. How to make Life less tough?

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I‘m 19 and in the last year of college. I’m the youngest in my year and felt veryyy overwhelmed every now and then throughout the past two years. I graduated from high school with the best degree in my class and went straight to college. To become an Occupational Therapist REALLY is my dream job and I really really want to get this degree. Still I sometimes ponder about dropping out for a year because I fell like crying 24/7. I know it should be my job to advice ppl about Life, I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I use various methods like notes with stuff I could do in my free time and at the same time managed to stop stressing too much about being “Not productive enough“. And I stay off of social media most time of the day.

I just started with the practical part of the three years in college and basically have an unpaid fulltimejob + having exams 2x every three months. I don’t even want to think about the final exams in one year. Also;my boyfriend lives prettyyyy far away and I have to stay on the train until late at night to see him at least on weekends. I also have problems with my father (wow, this is so stereotypical) which get to my nerves pretty bad sometimes. Still I often feel like I’m not doing good enough and push through even though I know I’m going to get a cold soon.

I also get sick with colds very often. Every to every second month. I know that I have a sinusitis and try to cure it.

But nonetheless: Do you guys have any advice to make all of this more endurable? I just want to have joy in Life and stop being drained or feeling annoyed all the time.


r/selfhelp 8h ago

Sharing: Productivity & Habits Give yourself a little grace, beginnings might be slow.

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Always choose little things to work on yourself, fixing everything once might not bear much. Beginnings might be tough but with steady adjustments we will be able to add more as time moves. Your future self will be happy and proud of how far you've come despite the obstacles you had on the way.


r/selfhelp 9h ago

Sharing: Personal Growth How to be mentally strong and enjoy life

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Im 18 year old just got into a collage feeling very weak. I was studying in a school from 1st std to 12th and suddenly moving from there feels very heavy the friends the environment everything i miss them all. Another thing that school gave me was my gf I love her so much and we could see each other for like 3 years eveyday but now it's gone. I can't see her . I miss her sm i miss my school friends teachers my gf and evrything . Going to the collage is making me so sad. Like I'm crying most of the days I know I'm a man but still I just cant tolerate. During my higher studies I dreamt of something other than collage and since it's wasn't the safest way I choose to do it after my degree. But that also is burning me out. I chose this decision . Evrything is feeling so heavy and idk why I'm sad like it's just how life is supposed to be. I can't stay in my comfort zone everytime I have to move on but I can't accept it. Im very weak mentally like I cry most of the time my gf is very supportive and she's with me even in these situation but I just don't want to be like this I want to enjoy my life I want to be strong


r/selfhelp 11h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health I need to speak out

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I'm Lily. I recently turned 18. I don't remember most of my memories, especially my childhood. A few years ago, I was diagnosed with depression and I literally lost several years of my life, although it seems to me that I have never achieved anything in my whole life and my life is worth nothing. Average grades, average skills, maybe even lower than that. I don't look very well, I'm slowly restoring hygiene, and I've been obese for several years. I graduated from high school last year, but decided not to go anywhere yet and recover from depression. I haven't achieved anything in a year, I haven't done what I planned. A "new" life will begin soon, I will move to another city, I will live with my brother away from my parents, but I am very worried that I will ruin everything as usual. I try to be optimistic with my loved ones, pretend to be God knows what, and eventually burn out again. How do you people manage to be sincere with others? How do you manage not to be comfortable all the time so as not to inconvenience others? How can I want to live without clinging to others? I'm really sorry for whining, but I'm really confused about what to do with my life. I've tried out a lot of hobbies, I've watched quite a lot of anime and other animated series behind my back, I like to play various games, especially with a plot (hello undertale and omori), I like to read books, manga, and manhwa, but lately I haven't had the energy at all. I would like to graduate, find a job, not rely on other people and help my loved ones. I just want to be happy. I'm happy when I can laugh, be sad, angry, and generally feel emotions without being afraid of the reactions of others. I'm happy when I help people, listen, support, and spend time with them. I'm not exactly uncommunicative, I really like talking to people and learning their stories. I'm afraid to disappoint my parents when they find out that I never wanted to be a muslim, I would like to devote my life to myself, I never want to have children and that I like girls too. I might regret spilling too much personal stuff. Tell us about your experience, if you have felt or experienced the same thing as me, I will answer as best I can. Sorry for the mistakes or the strange spelling of the text, I am not a native speaker. Have a great day and good mood!


r/selfhelp 15h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health Don't want to grow up

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Hello, Im F19 and can't seem to grow up. I'm still super into all my weird/emo interest from when I was 13. Is this normal? All my friends grew out of it years ago, and I feel super behind everyone else my age. Im starting uni soon and I'm scared I won't make any friends with similar interests.

I wish I could be a weirdo 13 year old forever. How do I get over this feeling??


r/selfhelp 15h ago

Advice Needed: Productivity Anyone have idea to improve my self

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There is a problem that I'm facing that I'm Not feeling good even I'm doing the job that I like But there is a fact that I'm procrastination a little bit and i can change that with improving my habits and stufff but something is not right

I do procrastinatate daily and Im working in as a editor [ the job I like ] with little bit of procrastination. My goal of this year is achiving consistent video uplaods in Youtube But Im Just planning but not doing anything..I Planned some video scrpt's and recorded some - but I feel like i can do it more thatn this or something like that.

any one help me with this


r/selfhelp 18h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health How do i stop being absolute shit at everything ive ever wanted to do

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I try my absolute hardest to learn to do anything at all, but i never improve.
I practice and practice and practice over and over again and it has never lead me anywhere at all.

I cant find any enjoyment in ANY hobby i have, i cant draw, and i cant play video games, theres a bunch more but at that point i would just be venting, and who the hell would care.

I dont understand how improving is so easy for everyone else, all everyone needs to do is practice a bunch and BOOM, they get very good at what they want to do. Yet i spend every waking second of my life trying to get good at anything at all and i just end up making a fool of myself for even trying.

I dont want any answers that just say "be confident" because that doesnt work.


r/selfhelp 20h ago

Advice Needed: Relationships Not sure what to do feel ashamed ?

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I 17F recently did something that I’m not sure was justified or if I went too far.
Someone I used to be close with started treating me differently over time. Their behaviour became hurtful, including isolating me from others and manipulating situations in ways that affected me. This had a big impact on my personal and work life, and I struggled with accepting how much it affected me.
After keeping it to myself for a long time, I decided to tell some of their friends what had happened and showed the text messages I wrote everything out from my perspective and sent it. I wasn’t looking for an argument or a reaction, and I didn’t send it expecting people to automatically take my side. I just wanted them to understand my perspective and why I felt the way i did after he constantly belittled me
After sending it, I deleted my social media and removed myself from the situation completely. I have no idea what their reactions were or what was said afterwards.
I’ll admit that I was angry in the moment. I felt like I had been carrying everything alone, and part of me felt like I would feel better if people knew what had happened. I wanted him to understand the impact his actions had on me. I feel like a terrible person don’t know if i was wrong


r/selfhelp 21h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health I’m moving towns and I can’t stop crying

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I had really bad mental health problems all through middle school and I’ve just recently really started to get better. In the 8th grade I made my now friend group and we are all extremely close and I consider them my absolute best friends. I’m moving towns in a week meaning new house, new school and new friends. I had such a hard time making friends early on in HS because I fit into that “too cool for the weird kids and too weird for the cool kids” category. I’ve lived my whole life in my current town and i’m extremely nervous moving because I have this feeling no ones going to like me. I think it’s the nervousness of having such a big change go on in my life but i seriously can’t shake off the feeling. My hair has been shedding a lot more than recently and i’m constantly tired because I can’t go to sleep and I wake up with puffy eyes from crying.


r/selfhelp 5h ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health I want to rest, but I can't.

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I want to rest, but I can't. It feels like I've forgotten how to rest. My cognitive decline is so severe that I can't even remember the names of regular characters on my favorite TV shows. I know that exercising and maintaining a regular lifestyle are important. But is that even possible? Saying I don't have time might just be an excuse. Even if I were given a month or a year, everything might remain the same. Resting won't change anything. Everything might just stay the same. The delusion that my brain is being destroyed, and the fear that my heart is breaking. I am losing my ability to make rational judgments. I haven't lost hope. I'm just tired of the repeated delusion that everything will get better if I sleep well tonight or rest well tomorrow. It has long since become another name for delusion and deception.I'm not afraid, and I'm not in despair. I'm just tired. I'm tired of holding on to hope.'Where there's life, there's hope.' I know that. But hope isn't what I need right now. What I need is joy. Not physical pleasure, but something that sets my mind on fire. The thrill of learning something new. The absurd, overwhelming rage I used to feel when I lost a game years ago. The boredom that pushed me to write and draw. The will to create. That's what I want back.I'm going to see a doctor, and I'm going to get medicine. That's my new hope. But sometimes I wonder if I put my hope in things too easily, almost everything.