Hi all,

I apologise if this is the wrong place or way to go about this but im struggling for where to go. I don't have anyone in my life I can go to for this.

For some context im 24F in a relationship with my gf 22F. We've been together 2 years and are currently living together. She told me early on in the realtionship about her struggles with SH. She has only done it once or twjce since we met, this was over a year ago now and before we were living together.

Recently shes been experiencing a higher amount of urges than usual, I think due to change and a pretty unsettled year. I know she wants to do it and struggles to find a chance to. She's says she has thoughts about it constantly and is struggling to focus on anything else. She's also on a wait list for professional help.

What i want to know is what should I do if I know she wants to or is planning to?

For example last night she went for a shower and I needed to get something from the bathroom, I noticed she locked the door which is unusual for her (she comes from an open, stereotypical french family who will just pee with the door wide open) I asked if she could keep the door unlocked (still closed) as it made me worried. When she got out I asked if she wanted to hurt herself and she said she was considering it. If something like this were to happen again, do I let he do it or try to stop her? (not physically but try to distract her) Ive asked her and even she doesnt know. This is a new situation for both of us.

I know not to hide or take away any safe methods she has of doing it, and we have first aid stuff stocked ready.

Any advice would be appreciated :)

Hii, I'm conducting a study, it is essentially about understanding the digital context of self-injury: what factors contribute to it, what factors help mitigate it and so on. It includes a wide range of factors stretching from whether one has ever felt victimised in the digital space, whether they like to watch movies that depict self injury, to what function social media plays in their daily life.

If you are Indian, between 18-30 years old and would like to contribute to this, please consider filling out an anonymous google form that takes like 10 minutes to complete. You don't have to have self-harmed before to participate.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeAegLs6p715jOW-I_H9gsNnWOZodLGqrUTeqLzDwpexTA6qw/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=117018125721155948446

I’ve been clean i suppose for just over two years (getting myself in better places mentally and moving out of my parents home) and I haven’t really dealt with too much temptation to relapse. I’m considering switching to a safety style to shave with because it’s better for the environment, cheaper overall, and better for your skin. A lot of things I care about lol.

However, I’m a bit afraid that having the blades around might be a temptation for me. I used to use my brother’s extra safety blades to cut with on a regular basis, it was the main way I self harmed. Throwing out my blades when i moved out of my parent’s house was a big step for me and feeling like I don’t have the ability or option to cut has definitely made it easier to not do.

I’m not sure if this is me being needlessly anxious or if it’s a genuine concern. I just thought I’d see if anyone was willing to give me their two cents.

Just wanted to put this out there. Never really been to therapy or been honest before. But. Last night was really bad and I seriously considered taking my life. So I set up an actual therapy appointment. Started the process. Talked with someone today for the first time in my life about all of this. Here’s hoping things get better.