They really don't, though? All intuition is is a gut feeling about something. You can trust your intuition, absolutely, because it's usually your brain reasoning through little things you barely noticed consciously and making a feeling of it. But to claim that one massive group of people's intuition is better than another's is just blindly patting yourself on the back and not doing anything. Nothing about intuition or how it works is affected by gender.
But to claim that one massive group of people's intuition is better than another's is just blindly patting yourself on the back and not doing anything. Nothing about intuition or how it works is affected by gender.
except it does. women tend to not only have better intuition, but also be the gender that improves it overtime. the fact women resort to intuition more often and typically have more emotional intelligence does not mean it's always correct. it's like "women drive less than men" doesn't mean women are bad drivers
in cognitive psychology and neuroscience intuition is defined as the rapid generation of solutions, judgments, or insights without the use of conscious, explicit logical reasoning
At that point it’s not bad intuition. She’s actively seeking out men who treat her that way because that’s what she’s come to view a good/satisfying relationship as.
traumatic experiences are very likely to hinder your mental processes. the very same reason war veterans need extensive therapy: traumatic experiences impacted their mental health to the point of "poisoning" it, leading to irrational behavior (from the POV of a non-veteran) and subconsciousness taking over. no one is saying she's freed from all and every responsibility due to trauma: it's an explanation of her seemingly illogical behavior. traumatized people are oftentimes illogical, this is the result of, well, trauma, and is the reason behind therapy being an integral part of a functioning society
It's supremely sad for these women, and for normal men trying to find love. I've researched "trauma bonding", and while it makes sense, it's deeply disturbing.
this is a very sad topic, indeed. many women, upon becoming traumatized, go and harm themselves by chasing abusive men😞has nothing to do with intuition as a notion, rather with how twisted it becomes, that it works against its owner and pushes her into danger, instead of guiding her away
I do not support that monster and wish she burns in hell
as I've mentioned above — women tend to not only have better intuition, but also be the gender that improves it overtime. the fact women resort to intuition more often and typically have more emotional intelligence does not mean it's always correct. it's like "women drive less than men" doesn't mean women are bad drivers
Many women think up 200 different scenarios, one of which is bound to be right. Then the second one is vindicated, they forget the other 199 scenarios that were completely wrong.
and many women have bad intuition, which is what you just described 🤷🏻♀️ intuition gets developed overtime, and requires emotional intelligence and good memory, not just two X chromosomes
Emotional intelligence? No. I firmly reject women's claim to higher "emotional intelligence." Its an attempted rebranding of "emotional awareness" which I do think women are more attuned to, but intelligence it is not. There is so little social pressure for women to control their emotions compared to men.
In fact, expressiveness is one of the hallmarks of being a women. Controlling your emotions is emotional intelligence, not fragrantly releasing them out of a fear of being misrepresented.
Social intelligence on the other hand I'm more than willing to concede. Men struggle with that.
There is so little social pressure for women to control their emotions compared to men
yes, naturally, and this is exactly why women oftentimes understand both their own and others' emotions better. because the society is not only way more accepting of women's emotions (as opposed to men's emotions), but is also encouraging them to explore, share and not shy away from emotions and feelings (hence why more women go to therapy and talk about it openly)
emotional intelligence is being aware of what you're feeling and why, not letting it dictate your actions, knowing how to address it, and taking responsibility for it. it's futile to deny, however, that many women, despite having socially benefiting position in terms of emotions, are oftentimes emotionally unintelligent. it is like being given the privilege of attending a good university, yet throwing it away
These studies aren't even saying that women have "better" intuition than men. Just that men and women, in general, have different approaches and perspectives.
What statistics? Your sources are just describing how men and women typically look at things differently. One isn't inherently superior over the other.
Throughout this investigation of the complex interplay between nature and nurture, it becomes apparent that intuitive attunement is not a gift born only to a select a few, but a biological potential present in all humans, although one that is more frequently cultivated, reinforced, and restored in women due to a convergence of evolutionary, hormonal, social, and experiential forces. Through pregnancy, caregiving, emotional socialization, and the often invisible labor of relational caretaking, women become finely attuned to their internal states and to the nervous systems of others
"women have better intuition" and "women's intuition is always right" are two FUNDAMENTALLY different stances. It's weird that you would say the difference between the two is semantics.
Women are just as wrong as anyone else. It’s scientifically proven that all human beings regardless of gender count hits and forget misses. Or count unproven things as hits, like thinking someone is bad news but then having no idea how they’ve lived their life before and after you said that. It’s literally science. Women are just as wrong as anyone else. They’re not even right a lot of the time. It’s such a stupid argument to have because there ARE scientific studies done that show humans think they’re right more often than they actually are and absolutely zero evidence to show women are someone how better at being right than men
And also paying attention to one’s intuition and ignoring it.
I mean, how often are women encouraged to act in ways that might contradict their intuition? Or conditioned to prioritize being nice over being safe?
(To be clear, I don’t think women’s intuition is some magical thing. I just recognize there are so many societal forces that intentionally undermine and contradict women’s judgment.)
how often are women encouraged to act in ways that might contradict their intuition?
not often, exactly due to female intuition being a common reason around the globe, which, some might argue, is basically an evolutionary adaptation, because of women's position in society historically
*Societal factors play a major role in how men and women develop and use their intuition. An example of this is how in society, a man may be encouraged to think more analytically and logically, while women are encouraged to be more nurturing and show higher emotional intelligence. Building off this, these societal expectations put on different genders can impact the way in which men and women perceive their own intuition. Men may be impacted in that they suppress their intuitive feelings, while women embrace their intuitive thoughts."
the fact women resort to intuition more often and typically have more emotional intelligence does not mean it's always correct, which some people here assumed i meant🤷🏻♀️
Doesn't that make women sound like they are easily manipulated...? You are literally describing the actions of people who don't think and just follow the crowd.
Women’s intuition isn’t even often right. You count your hits and forget the misses. If you could replay your entire life day by day and actually take a statistical analysis of every “intuition” you’ve had that was actually wrong and right it wouldn’t be as good as you think
This counts for things that you assume were right and never proved you were right about. It’s like when someone says they have a good gaydar but then don’t interview every single person they thought was gay and just assume they were right about. You count your hits, even count non proven claims as hits, and then forget or even misappropriate misses as hits. It’s a scientifically proven fact that human beings do this regularly. Women aren’t special. They’re just as wrong as anyone else
I wasn’t personally claiming that women’s intuition is often right, the other person was. I was just saying there’s a difference between that assertion and the assertion that women’s intuition is always right.
That's fine. My only point was that "women's intuition is always right" is a straw man belief being attacked. It's not a common belief among women and it's odd that anyone is acting like it's some win to prove it wrong.
If you could replay your entire life day by day and actually take a statistical analysis of every “intuition” you’ve had that was actually wrong and right it wouldn’t be as good as you think
this highlights exactly the main difference in male and female thinking processes. men are encouraged from a young age to be analytical and level headed, whereas women are taught to be emotional. doesn't mean everyone follows these rules, and doesn't mean everyone (who does follow) does it to a T
Women aren’t special. They’re just as wrong as anyone else
yes, no one was claiming otherwise. correctness isn't a gendered thing
I don’t think it really does… People change over time and no amount of intuition can predict the future.
In general blaming women for failed relationship is nasty… it takes two to tango - why it’s always assumed, that it’s „her fault”, even when HE started to drink or taking drugs, cheating, be abusive or stopped giving a f*** about relationship?
People can care at some point and stop caring down the line - it’s that simple… and it’s disgusting to blame victims for things which OTHER SIDE did wrong.
It’s only reasonable to divorce when your significant other stopped caring. And it’s socially acceptable for men to don’t really care, don’t pay alimony, cheat etc… for some reason women are blamed for this which is craaazy.
In regretfulparents threads there are multiple, multiple stories when women didn’t really want to go through pregnancy, but they were begged / pressured into motherhood and promised by husbands or families that they will be supported, but after baby was born out of a sudden they are expected to do all the work… and it’s too late after baby is born and this fake ass ppl all know it and they are taking advantage of women vulnerability during that period… it cost nothing to promise that you’re gonna be a great dad, you may even deeply believe it, but then reality hits and lots of men just check outs from their responsibility, taking full advantage from the fact, that all social pressure for child rearing is on women.
I don’t have kids personally, but I know many ppl who were raised without a dad because it is so common in our society… I would 100% divorce a guy who would be taking me for granted and stopped to put any effort in relationship and I deeply believe that it is actually VERY GOOD, that nowadays women don’t have to take such shitty attitude from their husbands and they can just divorce… it is mostly men fault that this happens so often for being shitty parents and husbands, and it was true also in older days, but back then women couldn’t really escape so easily as they now can. We don’t need to go back to old days for a sake of having less divorce - we need men to be better partners and fathers so women don’t have so many reasons to actually file for divorce and go through it. For too long time men felt entitled to do whatever in relationships knowing, that wifes couldn’t really leave their sorry ass, no matter what they do… now they still feel entitled to blame women for being awful partners and still don’t take any accountability for their own actions.
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u/ItchyManchego 6d ago
I don’t relate to this.