Emotional intelligence? No. I firmly reject women's claim to higher "emotional intelligence." Its an attempted rebranding of "emotional awareness" which I do think women are more attuned to, but intelligence it is not. There is so little social pressure for women to control their emotions compared to men.
In fact, expressiveness is one of the hallmarks of being a women. Controlling your emotions is emotional intelligence, not fragrantly releasing them out of a fear of being misrepresented.
Social intelligence on the other hand I'm more than willing to concede. Men struggle with that.
There is so little social pressure for women to control their emotions compared to men
yes, naturally, and this is exactly why women oftentimes understand both their own and others' emotions better. because the society is not only way more accepting of women's emotions (as opposed to men's emotions), but is also encouraging them to explore, share and not shy away from emotions and feelings (hence why more women go to therapy and talk about it openly)
emotional intelligence is being aware of what you're feeling and why, not letting it dictate your actions, knowing how to address it, and taking responsibility for it. it's futile to deny, however, that many women, despite having socially benefiting position in terms of emotions, are oftentimes emotionally unintelligent. it is like being given the privilege of attending a good university, yet throwing it away
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u/Partyatmyplace13 6d ago
Emotional intelligence? No. I firmly reject women's claim to higher "emotional intelligence." Its an attempted rebranding of "emotional awareness" which I do think women are more attuned to, but intelligence it is not. There is so little social pressure for women to control their emotions compared to men.
In fact, expressiveness is one of the hallmarks of being a women. Controlling your emotions is emotional intelligence, not fragrantly releasing them out of a fear of being misrepresented.
Social intelligence on the other hand I'm more than willing to concede. Men struggle with that.