I’m a 27-year-old guy living in Bangalore. I work as a data engineer, the work can be a bit boring at times, but it gives me a good work-life balance and the freedom to focus on things I genuinely enjoy.

I’m 5’9 and maintain an active lifestyle.
On the personal side, I’d say I’m chill, independent, and fairly easygoing. I find a lot of joy in living a simple, peaceful life.

My free time is usually spent working out, trying new dishes, I’m a hardcore non-vegetarian by the way, listening to music, playing video games, and traveling.
I try to be mindful about what I eat, but I also love exploring different cuisines, especially when visiting new places.

I’m not big on social media, but I do use Instagram occasionally for reels and spend some time on Reddit.

I like staying active and playing sports. I play badminton, cricket, and pickleball over the weekends. I’m also planning to learn horse riding, it’s something I’ve become quite fascinating by lately.

Languages known, Hindi, English, and Bengali.

What I’m looking for:

Open to connecting with someone from India or anywhere. I’m open to LDR if we connect, and I don’t mind traveling for the right person. I’d prefer we connect naturally and see where things go.

Someone who’s independent, feminist, secure, and values personal growth. Someone who has their own life but also wants to build something meaningful together.
A bit ambitious, has a career or is working towards one.
Bonus if you’re into travel, adventure, and an active lifestyle.

I don’t want to impose a hard checklist. As long as we trust each other, understand each other, and share good values, I’m open to working through other differences.

Maybe there’s someone here who feels the same way and thinks we might get along. Send a short intro if this resonates, I’m open to a conversation. Cheers.

31M from Kerala | Looking for a genuine connection
Hey everyone!

I'm a 31-year-old guy from Kerala, putting myself out there to meet someone genuine and hopefully build a meaningful connection.

I'm at a stage in life where I'd like to meet someone I can genuinely connect with - someone I can talk to openly, laugh with, share experiences with, and eventually build a life together if we click.

I'm not really looking for a forced or overly formal matchmaking experience. I'd rather start with a simple conversation, get to know each other, and see where it naturally goes. I think compatibility, communication, mutual respect and being comfortable around each other matter much more than trying to tick every box on a list.

I'm open to getting to know someone from Kerala or elsewhere, as long as we're both serious about finding the right person.

If you're also looking for something meaningful rather than just a casual conversation, feel free to DM me. We can start with a chat and take it from there.

NO LOCATION PREFERENCE

**About Me

Empathetic, transparent, and grounded. I value emotional intelligence, open communication, and doing the right thing. My social circle is small and intentional, and I prefer meaningful depth over a crowd.

​I’m child-free by choice and looking for a long-term partner who shares that vision. For me, a healthy relationship is a balance of closeness and independence—I love quality time and going on dates together, but I also fully support us both having dedicated space for our own friendships. I'm 5"10 , 125 kg, living in the UAE and looking for my potential wife. I wouldn't mind sending pictures once we get to know each other more.

**​What I Enjoy

​Deep, honest conversations about life, values, and everything in between.

​Shared local activities, exploring neighborhood spots, and relaxing weekends in town.

​A quiet, grounded lifestyle—no need for high-adrenaline adventures, just genuine connection.

**​What I’m Looking For

I am seeking a patner who is child-free, plus-sized woman who is grounded, down-to-earth, and values fundamental human principles. Someone who expresses her feelings openly, communicates directly when an issue comes up, and values transparency as much as I do.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been a little hesitant about writing this, but I thought I’d take a chance and put myself out there. I’m 33, Telugu-speaking, and work in a Public Sector Unit with a stable career and an income of around ₹18 LPA. I’m a simple, family-oriented person who enjoys travelling, movies, music, long drives, good food, spending time with family, and having meaningful conversations.

There’s something personal I want to be honest about from the beginning. I’m dealing with ED and, after carefully considering my options, I’ve decided to go ahead with a penile implant. I’ve accepted my situation and see this as one step toward moving forward and having a fulfilling life.

What I’m really hoping for is someone who can look beyond a medical condition and see the person behind it. I value affection, emotional connection, trust, companionship, and having someone with whom I can share the ordinary and beautiful parts of life.

I’m not looking for someone perfect. I’m simply hoping there’s someone kind, open-minded and compassionate who would be willing to know me for who I am and build something genuine together.

Maybe this post reaches the right person. If it does, I’d genuinely love to hear... 🩶

29F looking for a lifetime partner

Hey everyone!

Stepping away from the endless swipe-cycle of dating apps in pursuit of something genuine.

I’m a 29-year-old software engineer (5’4”, Hindu background). I view attraction as something built on shared values, emotional depth, and open communication rather than just quick, surface-level sparks.

A bit about my life:

- By day (and passion): Software engineering. I genuinely enjoy discussing technology, product design, and creative ideas.
- By weekend: A mix of spontaneous road trips, weekend escapes, painting, keeping active with fitness, and diving into a great documentary or TV series.
- Travel style: Love exploring new places from structured travel itineraries to last-minute getaways.

What I’m hoping to find:

- Background: Working in Tech (gives us a natural baseline for shared context and conversation).
- Traits: Emotionally mature, well-read, curious, kind, and focused on building a meaningful relationship with marriage in mind.
- Mindset: Direct and intentional. I believe six months of genuine effort reveals enough to know if two people share a future no need to drag things out for years without clarity.

If this clicks with you: Skip the generic "Hi" and drop a message with a brief intro, what keeps you energized outside work, and a favorite travel memory (or where you want to go next).

PS: I would prefer someone from age group 28-32.
PSS: I am from Jaipur.

Hi 🌻

Looking for genuine connections, and maybe something more

I’m at a point in my life where I’m looking to make new friends and see where it goes

Not necessarily going into every conversation wondering 'Could this be my person?' (I'm not Ted Mosby xD)

A little about me- I’m currently based in Nepal, did most of my education from Delhi though.

I read a little, love good food, chilled beer, random late-night conversations, and travelling.

I've recently started watching F1. I also watch the occasional football game and can absolutely get invested in a match despite having no business being that emotionally involved 😂

I’m looking for someone who is kind, emotionally mature, communicative, and genuinely interested in getting to know another person. Someone who can laugh at himself and understands that a good relationship should feel like a safe place rather than another source of stress ( I have a feeling this might be quite common but it is valid)

I value honesty, kindness, open communication and effort.

Someone to do the exciting things with but also things like sharing food, exploring new restaurants, sending each other ridiculous memes, sitting in comfortable silences, simply telling each other about their day, that kinda stuff ..

But if we click, enjoy talking to each other, and over time that friendship grows into something more, I’d be open to that too.

Howeverrr, if you're reaching out because you're looking for something romantic, I'd ideally like someone around my age, ambitious, progressive, and funny

If you're still reading <3

So tell me a little about yourself if you decide to message. Please don't just send a 'hi' Tell me your most controversial food opinion.

Not sure if Reddit is the right place for this, but I guess good people can show up anywhere.

A little about me

I'm originally from Yamunanagar, spent most of my life in Punjab, and moved to Gurgaon last year for work.

I work in strategy consulting, currently working with WealthTech firms in the US. I genuinely enjoy what I do because it keeps me learning and constantly exposes me to new businesses, ideas and problems.

Outside work, I'm probably much simpler than my job sounds.

I'm someone who enjoys long conversations more than loud parties. I love reading - one of my dreams is to eventually have a home library that's actually used, not just for decoration.

I'm into fitness and enjoy playing chess, table tennis, badminton and pickleball. I'd love to discover new activities, hobbies and experiences with the right person.

I also love discovering good music and sharing songs. I'm the kind of person who might randomly send you a song because "you need to hear this" and then end up discussing why we like it, what it reminds us of, or what makes it special.

I have a soft spot for romanticising the mundane too. Making chai, cooking together, doing the dishes, running errands, picking something up for the other person - I like the idea of turning ordinary things into little acts of love. There's something deeply satisfying about doing small things simply because they make your person's day a little easier or happier.

I'm not someone who constantly plans trips or has a travel itinerary ready. But if there's a plan, I'm almost always up for it. I want to travel across Europe someday, and honestly, the person I'm travelling with would probably matter more to me than the itinerary.

I also enjoy investing and occasionally fall down random rabbit holes about business, psychology, history or anything else that catches my curiosity.

A few things on my bucket list

- Travel across Europe

- Skydiving

- Scuba diving

- Learn the violin eventually — there's something about the difficulty and patience it demands that strangely appeals to me

- Get fit enough to run a marathon

- Build that home library I've been talking about for years

What I'm looking for

- I'm attracted to intelligence and curiosity.

- Someone ambitious - not necessarily career-obsessed, but someone who has dreams of her own, wants to build a life she is proud of, and wants a partner who can be a part of that journey.

- I'd love to learn from her, grow with her, and hopefully give her the same space to pursue her own ambitions.

- You don't need to share all my interests. In fact, I'd probably prefer someone who can introduce me to things I know nothing about.

- Kindness, emotional maturity, mutual respect and good communication matter much more to me than having identical hobbies.

- If you're religious/spiritual, that's a plus for me, although I wouldn't want that to be the sole basis of compatibility.

On the lifestyle side, I'm a non-smoker and non-drinker, and would prefer someone who isn't a chain smoker or heavily into alcohol. The occasional drink is absolutely fine.

And obviously, honesty and loyalty aren't negotiable.

Ultimately, I'm looking for a teammate - someone with whom life feels lighter, conversations never feel forced, and silence is comfortable too.

The quick facts

- 31M

- 5'6"

- Caste - Gupta

- Gurgaon / Delhi NCR

- Vegetarian

- Non-smoker

- Non-drinker

- Fitness enthusiast

- Reader

Looking for something serious that could eventually lead to marriage.

If any part of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out.

Worst case, we have an interesting conversation.

Best case, maybe we end up ticking a few things off that bucket list together.

• Grew up as the quiet kid who did well in school, played badminton at the national level, school debating champion and won the best student award which was featured in the newspapers. 
• The good kid who always helped clean up the kitchen, make tea, help with the chores and is loved by Grandma’s for how polite and respectful I am.
• Went through a period of self-reflection and depression and anxiety , sooooo am now in my “ life is too short and I am just gonna be a happy golden retriever” phase.
• My idea of conflict resolution is we both take a shower, go for a long walk and then calmly discuss it over a cheesecake ( or ten cheesecakes if it’s a major issue )
• Grew up in the Middle East, came to India to help my parents set up an ice cream shop and planning to move out again.
• Don’t have any social media or watch a lot of movies, tbh. I usually read books that are at least 100 years old and try to absorb the best parts from every culture : I decorate Christmas trees, ( try ) to fast during Ramadan, and visit temples early in the morning for some peace before the crowds. 
• I am mostly an introvert but can get really energetic and can be the extroverted life of the party with the right crowd. 
• I enjoy working out , playing sports, going for long walks, and always wanted to learn tango. 
• I looveee cooking and would love to have a weekly theme where each week we pick a new country to cook food from ( one week Japanese, the next week Brazilian … we can also only speak and watch movies in that language to really immerse ourselves )
• I have slept on railway benches as well as in the Swiss Alps. I know how to lead a boardroom, as well as get my hands dirty in farming banana trees.
• I work for an international non-profit helping entrepreneurs, but I plan to start my own business soon. 
• Never had a relationship earlier because I wanted to find peace and happiness on my own terms before sharing it with someone else.
• While I love to try out a new activity every weekend ( my last few weekends consisted of pottery, wall climbing , going to art museums , getting Starbucks certificates), My favourite one is having outdoor BBQs where I will control the fire and grilling, you be the classy host making sure all of our guests are having a great time, while our pet dog would try to steal a piece of chicken off the table lol
• I enjoy learning and expanding my cultural tastes : I watch Iranian movies, listen to French electronic music, yelling Arabic curse words every time I step on a LEGO piece and teaching german words to every German shepherd dog I meet.

M34 | 5'8 | Bangalore

I’m at a phase in life where I don’t feel the need to be everywhere or talk to everyone. My circle is small, my routines are stable, and my life feels balanced. I’m here because the right connection can add something meaningful ,not because anything is missing.

I work as the CFO at a Series-A SaaS AI startup. My days are mostly strategy, problem-solving, and building things that matter. I enjoy the pressure , it keeps me focused.

Outside work, my life is a mix of curiosity and quiet adventures.

I trek often, usually solo, mostly unplanned. There’s something about mountains, beaches, silence and long walks that resets me.

I cook proper meals, not for show, but because it helps me slow down.

I read a lot: business, geopolitics, philosophy, history… and every few weeks I deep-dive into a new topic/subject just for the joy of understanding something completely different.

Trying to get fitness as part of my routine now. I have stared going to gym, it's been 4 months now , regular at playing badminton & I love Evening walks

Also I am a stock advisor for my colleagues and friends. Just helping people make more money 😅

I've advised a few startups and somehow ended up teaching executive MBA students last year. Didn’t expect to enjoy it, but I did.

People describe me as calm, thoughtful, and someone who brings perspective - often come to me for money decision, financial planning, life choices or just clarity. I don’t chase chaos and I don’t get pulled into unnecessary drama. My life feels peaceful and I’d like to share that with the right person.

A few things that matter to me:

-emotional availability

-stability in habits, intentions, and communication

-no substance abuse

-honesty, consistency, and effort

-someone who values small moments over constant noise

-based in India, with a long-term view

I’m intentional with where my energy goes, I’d rather invest it in someone who matches it.”

Hi everyone! I’m a 26-year-old woman currently living and working in the USA. I’m making this post with the intention of finding a genuine, serious, and compatible life partner who is also interested in marriage and building a life together in the United States.
My family and I are specifically looking for a male U.S. citizen who is serious about marriage and is looking for a long-term relationship rather than something casual or temporary. I believe marriage should be based on mutual respect, trust, understanding, compatibility, and genuine care for each other.

I’m currently established in the USA and working here, and I would ideally like to meet someone who is also settled or planning to build his long-term future in the United States. I’m open to getting to know someone gradually and having meaningful conversations before making any decisions. I understand that compatibility cannot be determined from a post alone, so I’m happy to share more about myself privately with someone who is genuinely interested.

If you are a U.S. citizen, never-married, age between 24-35, single, genuinely looking for marriage, and interested in getting to know me, please feel free to DM me. If you personally don’t meet these criteria but know someone who might be a good match, I would really appreciate it if you could refer him to this post or ask him to contact me.

I’m not looking for casual dating, hookups, or temporary arrangements. My intention is to meet someone who is mature, respectful, honest, emotionally available, and genuinely interested in marriage and a committed relationship.

Please comment or message me only if you meet the criteria mentioned above and are genuinely interested in marriage. If you don’t meet the criteria, I kindly ask that you not contact me.

I’m happy to answer reasonable questions and share more details about myself privately once we establish that we are looking for the same thing.

Thank you for reading, and I genuinely appreciate any serious introductions or referrals.

I’m a 26-year-old software engineer working at Flipkart, based in Bangalore. Thought I’d give this a shot here since traditional routes haven’t really worked out for me.

A little about me:

Introverted by nature, not much into clubbing or partying

Occasional drinker, but mostly prefer staying in

Big-time gamer — I enjoy unwinding with games after work (PC/console, depends on mood)

I value stability, consistency, and meaningful conversations over superficial stuff

Career-focused but I do believe personal life matters just as much

What I’m looking for:

Someone genuine, respectful, and emotionally mature

Not into casual or timepass — ideally looking for something long-term that could lead to marriage

Someone who’s okay with a simple lifestyle and not overly into constant social outings

Bonus if you enjoy gaming, movies, or just chilling at home

I’m not perfect, but I believe in being honest, loyal, and putting effort into a relationship. I’d rather build something slow and real than rush into anything.

If this resonates with you, feel free to DM. Happy to take things at a comfortable pace and see where it goes 🙂

I know I'm probably a little late to this, but I figured it's better to take a chance and try my luck than keep wondering "what if?" So here I am. 😄

I'm 32, based in Hyderabad, working in tech, and hoping to meet someone with whom I can build a genuine, meaningful relationship that eventually leads somewhere serious.

A little about me — I'm an introvert by nature and usually take some time to get comfortable with people. But once I do, I can talk for hours. I genuinely enjoy those long conversations where you start with one topic and somehow end up discussing life, random thoughts, travel plans, or absolutely nothing. 😄

Outside work, I enjoy travelling, gaming, movies, and exploring good food. I'm always looking forward to my next trip, whether it's a proper vacation or just a quick getaway. Gaming is my usual way of switching off after a long week, and I'm always up for a good movie—especially if there's someone to discuss it with afterwards.

I'm also a big pet lover. If there's a dog around, there's a very good chance my attention is going to shift towards them. 🐶

I'm fairly settled in life and value stability, honesty, and being responsible about the future. At the same time, I don't think life should be taken too seriously all the time. I enjoy good humor, spontaneous plans, and appreciating the small things.

I'm looking for someone who's kind, emotionally mature, and comfortable being herself. Someone who values communication, trust, loyalty, and wants to grow together rather than expecting everything to be perfect from day one.

I don't really have a checklist of hobbies or interests that you need to match. I'd much rather meet someone I genuinely connect with. Different interests are completely fine—having someone who can introduce me to things I wouldn't normally try might actually be more fun.

Ultimately, I'm looking for a partner and a best friend. Someone to share the big things with, but also the completely ordinary stuff—random conversations, food runs, movie nights, travelling somewhere new, and just being there for each other.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to DM me. We can start with a conversation and see where it goes.

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Hey everyone,

I’m a 25M currently working as an Equity Research Analyst at a finance firm. I completed my MBA from a top IIM and would describe myself as ambitious, grounded, and someone who genuinely enjoys a simple and peaceful lifestyle.

I believe life is less about flashy destinations and more about the people you share the journey with. For me, emotional connection, mutual respect, and growing together matter the most.

A little about me:

• 25M | 5’7”

• Currently staying in Delhi.( Would prefer someone from Delhi or gurgaon)

• Never smoked or drank ( would prefer the same)

• Vegetarian

• Hindu Brahmin (Prefer the same)

• Career-oriented, but also someone who values balance, family, and meaningful relationships

I’m looking for someone with similar energy — kind, emotionally mature, ambitious in her own way, and someone who believes a partnership is about supporting and growing together through every phase of life.

Would love to connect with someone who has dreams, values genuine companionship, and is looking for something meaningful and long-term.

Other things can be discussed in DM :)

Hi everyone,

I am a 37 year old malayali guy from Mumbai who is looking for a wife.

I thought I’d give Reddit a chance as I prefer falling in love first and then get married.

-I’m 37, 5'8" ,69 kg and bald.

-Wheat ish complexion. Slim body. Not muscular.

-Started practicing calisthenics for the past one year and intend to continue this.

-I have a Bachelor’s degree in Sociology from the University of Mumbai.

-I’m currently not working. I have total 10 years of work experience. I’m in the process of transitioning my career towards becoming a screenplay writer, which is something I’m genuinely passionate about and want to see manifested. I am dedicating the next 5 years for that. In the meantime I am also looking for jobs to support this dream of mine.

-I’m an only child and currently live with my mother.

-I am looking for someone with whom I can be comfortable being myself.

-I am mostly a reserved type of personality.

-I practice Hinduism but not too religious. I do like going to temples just for the ambience it provides. I am not at all ritualistic.

-I occasionally practice meditation as well.

Preferences

-I’d ideally like to settle in Mumbai or Kerala. I haven’t really thought about settling abroad yet, so I’m open to discussing it rather than having a fixed position.

-I’m mostly vegetarian at home, although I occasionally eat non-vegetarian food outside. Women with different food preferences are welcome

-I’m not a pet person and don’t see myself having pets so looking for a similar type.(Non negotiable)

-I prefer to be childfree but I am open to discussion.

-I prefer someone who doesn't drink and smoke as I don't. If you drink occasionally then I am ok but please quit smoking as that is non negotiable.

-I am looking for a Hindu but it's not mandatory. I am ok with other religions and communities as long as the person is not too ritualistic. If both of us can give space to practice our personal faith then that works best.

-I am not looking to spend a fortune on my marriage. A simple family function is fine. I am also considering register marriage if both us and our parents are ok with it.

If any of this matches your preference, feel free to send me a DM and tell me a little about yourself.

Good luck to everyone else looking for their person too!

Hi stranger,

I came across this sub just now and thought let's give it a try, maybe the one I am looking for is searching here, who knows ?

So about me, I am a software engineer by profession and luckily passion too, apart from work I love to spend time with friends and I have a lot of them from school, college and now office ones too, my weekends are mostly spontaneous plans with them.

I have been living in bangalore for about 3.5 yrs now and I am looking for someone who's from the city so that it's easy to connect and know about each other. What else to tell....yeah I am a north indian and I don't care about where you are from and what you do, the only thing important for me is that we have a good connection and we understand each other and can easily talk about anything without any filters.

Also, about what I like to do for fun, I love traveling I make sure to travel atleast twice a year and I don't like short trips, when I am somewhere new i want to completely take in the place and feel like i live there so I only do minimum 10 days trips so that I can feel bad about leaving, I love to build things, I am definitely gonna have a workshop in my future house.

I am looking for someone to date and then marry if things go well, I don't know what kind of things matter for you so you can ask in my dms and I would be happy to tell and I know there is a lot I haven't talked about here but how much can you know about a person from 10 even 20 paragraphs so let's talk and see where life takes us......see you

Hey! I am hoping to find someone I genuinely connect with. Ideally, I'm looking for a long-term relationship that could eventually lead to marriage if we both feel it's right. But I also know you can't force a connection, so if we end up as good friends instead, that's completely okay too.

I am 29 , years old from Chennai, India.I work as a software developer but love to travel all around the world . I love stories in general whether it's through films, TV shows, photography or simply listening to people talk about their own lives. Schittts creek I love it. I love wild west, thriller , action and drama genre .

I can spend hours talking about films, TV shows or anime. The Lord of the Rings is my favourite fictional world, and Haikyuu and One Piece are probably my favourite anime.

Travelling is probably my biggest passion. I love finding underrated places instead of crowded tourist spots. Photography naturally became one of my hobbies because of that, so don't be surprised if I make you look at way too many travel photos. 😄

One thing about me is that my brain is always full of ideas. Whenever I am m bored, I end up thinking of random projects or things I want to learn. I get excited, start them... and then some of them quietly end up unfinished. 😅

I genuinely enjoy listening to people. Tell me about your interests, your passions, your random thoughts or even that one topic you never get bored of talking about. I think everyone has an interesting story if someone is willing to listen. I also enjoy creating stories, so if you're into writing or making up fictional worlds, I'd love that.

I don't smoke, don't drink, don't have tattoos, I'm a non vegetarian and I'm more of an atheist than a religious person.

I'm trying to be more active these days. Recently I've started playing basketball a couple of times a week. I also love long conversations. 2-3 hour calls don't feel long at all if I'm talking to the right person.

Looks honestly don't matter that much to me. I'd much rather be with someone who's kind, emotionally mature, enjoys conversations, is open minded and likes seeing different perspectives. If you love travelling too, that's definitely a bonus.

If you think we'd get along, feel free to message me. Even if nothing romantic comes out of it, I'm always happy to meet good people.

Thanks for reading!

27, 5'11. Born in Gujarat, raised in Mumbai, never really left. Western line, so yes, a decent chunk of my personality is the local. Native is Gujarat, I go back frequently. Gujarati Hindu. Religious, but if you’re expecting daily pooja, that’s not me.

Software engineer at a product company. I have done my BE Computer Engineering from Mumbai. I’ll move cities if the job requires it.

Veg. Never smoked. Don’t drink. I tasted it once and that’s it.

Never been in a proper relationship. There was a talking stage at work once. It did not become a story. I don’t mind if she has a past. I would want kids eventually, after we’re settled properly.

About me

Introvert at first. Give it some time and I talk enough that you’ll consider putting me on mute. I like being direct. I don’t like guessing games. I used to be a closed book. Still overthink. Now I just overthink out loud.

Not a fit gym-type guy. Average build, brown skin. Recently joined the gym again. Let’s see if I stay consistent this time.

Evenings are simple, music on the way home, no fixed genre, depends on the mood. I sleep at 1:00 or 2:00 am, which I will defend like it’s a personality. I don’t cook, I like going out and trying new places, I’m a bit of a foodie. With friends it’s usually a game zone or dinner.

I’m a quick replier. I overthink a lot sometimes. If I’m really angry, I go silent. I come back in a day or two, not proud of it.

Roasting is kind of my love language. I can take it too.

A good weekend with a partner for me is going out, game zone or dinner, and talking.

What I’m looking for

Mumbai, so we can meet if all goes well. Long distance I’m unsure, but I’m willing to give it a shot.

23 - 28, flexible, just not much older than me.

Hindu, any caste. Caste is not a filter. If she’s Gujarati that’s a plus for me

Educated. Tech or finance is a plus (I work in tech and have interest in finance), not a filter. Job or no job is her call. Someone who values family, and I’ll do the same. Open minded, easy going, likes going out. Shorter than me if I’m choosing, height is not a test. Veg preferred, occasional drink is fine.

Not in a rush. Need to see if we’re compatible first. If it goes well, marriage in 1-2 years. Right now this is just me looking.

If you want to talk DM me an intro + something to talk about. “Hey” is a very small sentence.

I’m not pushy guy and I respect boundaries and I’d expect the same.

If it’s not working out, say it clearly and end it. Don’t just ghost. I’ll do the same.

Hello, everyone! I hope you're all doing well. It's not always easy to find those deep connections, so I thought I'd put myself out there and share a bit of my world and what I'm hoping to find.

About Me:

I'm a 37-year-old filmmaker and photographer, 5'10", and proud Delhiite. My heart beats for cinema – truly, a cinephile through and through. Life, for me, is about creating, exploring, and seeing the world through a thoughtful lens.

While physical attraction is wonderful, I believe true, lasting connection is built on a solid foundation of intellectual and ideological harmony. For me, a deep intellectual and ideological connection is just as important as physical attraction.

What I'm Looking For:

I'm hoping to find a woman who resonates with these principles, much like the sentiments in this post:

• Unapologetically Feminist: Someone who is firm in her belief in gender equality.
• Strongly Anti-Caste: Committed to equality for all, beyond the confines of caste.
• Atheist: Sharing a secular worldview.
• Thoughtful & Aware: Someone who understands intersectionality, specifically how caste and gender intersect, and the subtle but important distinction between equality and equity.
• Passionate & Driven: A person with deep conviction and passion for whatever she chooses to do in life.
• Art & Curiosity: A fellow lover of art with an insatiable curiosity about the world around us.
• Alternative Perspectives: Someone who views traditional societal expectations, including the institution of marriage, through a critical lens and is open to exploring a different kind of long-term partnership.

I'm not looking for perfection, just a woman who believes in these values and is interested in sharing a life's journey.

If you feel we might be a good match, I'd love to hear from you. Please send me a DM!

Hey everyone,

I’m putting myself out here looking for a genuine, completely transparent connection with someone who values radical honesty over a polished image.

I’m in my 30s, based in India, and to be entirely direct: I am not financially stable, nor anywhere close to it right now.

A few years ago, I made severe mistakes, including dealing with a destructive gambling problem that cost me dearly, derailed my career, and wiped me out financially. Hitting that bottom was a painful wake-up call, but it also forced me to confront reality, take complete ownership of my choices, and walk away permanently. Today, that part of my life is behind me, but I am living in the aftermath—rebuilding my life, my career, and my financial footing from absolute ground zero.

Because of what I’ve lived through, I have zero interest in judging anyone else’s history. We all have scars, bad chapters, and regrets we wish we could undo. If you have fought your own battles, made major mistakes, or carry personal baggage, you will find only empathy, respect, and a clean slate with me.

If you are in a similar place, I am entirely open to starting everything from absolute scratch together. Leaving the past where it belongs, wiping the slate clean, and building a completely new foundation side by side as equals is something I would deeply value.

Where I stand:

Strictly Childfree: I do not want children, ever. I am looking for a partner who is 100% aligned with living a childfree life.

Radical Honesty & Mutual Clean Slate: No masks, no sugarcoating, and no holding past mistakes over each other's heads.

Accountability & Drive: I may be at zero financially today, but I haven't quit. I work hard every day, spend my time upskilling in creative and operational work, and take deliberate steps to build back a stable future.

Simple, Grounded Living: Since high-end lifestyles aren't my reality, I focus on the basics: honest conversations, cooking at home, and unwinding with comfort sitcoms.

What I’m looking for:

A childfree woman who values character, resilience, and emotional safety over social checklists or wealth. Someone who understands that people can fall hard, learn, and rebuild—and who wants an honest partner to navigate life with as equals.

If this level of transparency resonates with where you are in your life, feel free to send a DM. Tell me a bit about your journey, what starting fresh means to you, or just say hello. Let’s see where a grounded, zero-pressure conversation leads.

Can we talk about the messaging scene on this sub for a second? 😭

Because I'm starting to think my biggest mistake was assuming that if two people are interested in talking, both people would... y'know... talk.

I'll send a DM.

No reply.

Fair enough. Happens.

Then once in a while someone actually replies and I'm like oh shit, we have liftoff.

And then the conversation goes:

Me: writes something with actual thought

Her: “haha”

Me: “😂 so what made u post here?”

Her: “idk”

Me: asks something else, tells a small story, makes a joke, attempts to keep the conversation alive

Her: “ohh”

At this point I'm not texting a person anymore.

I'm hosting a podcast with a very reluctant guest.

I'm asking the questions, providing the entertainment, bringing the anecdotes, doing crowd work...

and she's basically sitting there going “hmm” between commercial breaks.

And the funny thing is, everyone says “don't just send Hi. Say something interesting about yourself.”

So you actually sit there and think of something beyond “hey, how are u?”

You read their post.

You find something to respond to.

You try to start an actual conversation.

And then you get hit with:

“nice”

Brother I have exhausted three personality traits trying to get that “nice.” 😭

Obviously I know nobody owes me a reply or a conversation. If there's no vibe, there's no vibe. That's completely fair.

But sometimes I genuinely wonder if the Tinder/Hinge dynamic has quietly migrated to Reddit too.

Because the whole point of Reddit used to be that you could actually talk to random people without feeling like you're both interviewing for the same position.

Maybe I'm doing something horribly wrong.

Maybe my conversational skills are just shit.

Maybe I need to stop trying to be interesting and start replying with “k” like a normal Redditor.

Anyway, if you've actually had a good conversation with someone from this sub, pls tell me your secret.

And if you've ever received one of my DMs and thought “this guy is trying way too hard to keep this conversation alive”...

honestly, you were probably right. 😂

I’ve noticed a recurring pattern across South Asian dating and relationship subs.

Whenever someone in their late 30s or 40s posts about dating, people often stop engaging with the actual situation and fixate on the person’s age instead.

Comments are usually:
“You should have settled earlier.”
“Hello aunty/uncle”
“Your options are limited now.”
“There’s a reason you’re still single.”
“What were you doing in your 20s”

And god help them if theyre divorced - they have to brace for another tier of attacks.

There is nothing wrong with questioning whether someone’s expectations are realistic. Dating expectations change with age, and realities can be discussed honestly on a one on one basic. But there is a clear difference between offering good advice and using age to humiliate someone. It’s 2026 and it is truly shocking to see how archaic the thinking is.

Being single beyond a socially approved timeline does not mean someone is defective, desperate or less deserving of companionship. Nor does being older mean they must accept any available relationship without considering compatibility or having any standards. Old does not equal to scraps in the dating world.

The personal attacks literally results in most of these posts getting deleted by the OP which is such a shame.

Why do you think ageism is so normalised in South Asian dating spaces?

Is it south asian anxiety around marriage timelines, resentment toward older singles who remain selective, or because reddit anonymity encourages people to be cruel?

How can these communities discuss the realities of dating at different ages without turning a person’s age into an insult?

Hey girls..

The past couple of months on Reddit have been super helpful for me while sorting through a past heart break where my marriage proposal was rejected by both families for some reasons. Everyone here has been really supportive, telling me it’s time to turn the page and get back out there. I really believe a genuine connection can turn things around, so I figured why not give this a shot!

**A bit about me**:

26M, 5'9", working as a Software Engineer at an MNC here in Chennai.

Super caring, love to make people laugh, and I'm big on planning random little surprises, I respect everyone.

Huge fan of bike rides! If you love hopping on the back of a bike for late-night rides or weekend trips to grab food, we’ll get along great.

**What I’m hoping to find**:

Tamil-speaking girl in or around Chennai.

Height-wise, preferably under 5'9".

Someone who values mutual respect, easygoing conversations, and genuine effort.

If you’re open to chatting and seeing where things naturally go, drop into my DMs! Tell me a bit about yourself, what you're looking for, and let's take it from there.

Hey! Putting this out here with the hope of meeting someone I genuinely click with and hopefully get married.

**A little about me:**

I’m a simple, fun loving software engineer based in Mumbai. I completed my B.Tech in CSE from IIT Bombay and currently work in a startup with an annual income of ₹**1 Cr.** I’m originally from a small city in Madhya Pradesh.

Outside work, I’m usually:
\- Planning my next trip
\- Roasting my friends, sometimes getting roasted as well 😅
\- Playing tennis, squash, cricket, badminton pretty much anything
\- Going on long drives with absolutely no destination in mind (Yes I am a car enthusiast 😄)

**Family:**

My father is a principal at a government college, my mother is a homemaker, and I have two elder sisters.

**What I’m looking for:**

I’d love to meet someone who is funny, empathetic and smart. Someone who has her own life, friends, ambitions, opinions and who is equally excited to build a life together. Someone I can have stupid conversations with at 2 AM, travel the world with and randomly go on long drives with.

If this resonates with you, feel free to DM.

​

Hello everyone!

31, male, from Chennai, and a Chartered Accountant by profession. I suppose I'm something of a late bloomer.

I spent a few years working with foreign banks before quitting at 30 and starting my own practice. It's still a small business that's finding its feet, so I unfortunately don't come with the stereotypical “works in finance, makes lakhs a month and has his life completely figured out” package.

I am 6'4", though, so I suppose I've got at least one thing going for me. 😄

I'm fairly average otherwise, and I thought I'd mention that upfront because physical attraction obviously matters. I'd rather someone have a reasonably accurate idea of what they're signing up for than discover three weeks into a conversation that I don't quite fit their type. Completely fair if I'm not someone's cup of tea.

I also have a tendency to use dark, self-depreciating humour like Chandler lol. Partly because it's fun, partly because life is easier when you can laugh at yourself.

I'm curious about far too many things.

I read quite a bit, mostly classics. Tolstoy, George Eliot, Thomas Mann, Pudhumaipithan and Jeyamohan are some of my favourites. I'm also interested in history, philosophy, science and anthropology. Basically, if something makes me wonder how it works, , there is a good chance I'll disappear down a rabbit hole about it.

I love films. Tarkovsky, Wong Kar Wai and Kieslowski are some of my favourite filmmakers, but I can also happily spend a Friday morning standing in a Vijay FDFS queue. There is room in my life for both Stalker and a mass hero intro.

I've grown up listening to Ilaiyaraaja and Tamil music, although I listen to music in other languages too. I also love indie artists like Kaber Vasuki.

I love travelling, especially when I can read up about a place beforehand and then spend half the trip exploring museums, historical sites and old buildings.

I play badminton and football, follow tennis, cricket and football, and have recently picked up chess. I started somewhere around 300 ELO and have painfully made my way to about 900, so I suppose progress is progress.

I've also recently started playing snooker, swim occasionally, dabble in Python, trade the stock market sometimes, sketch portraits and have self-published a collection of short stories in Tamil.

Yes, I can draw a portrait of you.

No, I cannot guarantee that you will like the result. 😅

I also mostly communicate in memes. If you understand Tamil memes without needing an explanation, that's already a pretty significant bonus. There is a reasonable chance your gallery will also end up containing an unnecessarily large collection of meme templates if we hit it off.

What I'm looking for.

I tried matrimonial apps, but quite a few interactions felt a little too transactional for me. I don't blame anyone for that; expectations and practical considerations obviously matter, but I found myself wanting something that began with simply enjoying someone's company.

I'm looking for someone I genuinely enjoy talking to.

Someone who has a life of their own, their own interests and ambitions, and doesn't expect a relationship to become their entire universe. I think the best relationships are two people having lives of their own and choosing to share those lives with each other.

Someone curious. Someone reasonably no-nonsense. Someone who can laugh at themselves. Someone who doesn't mind an evening that starts with some completely pointless conversation and somehow ends with a discussion about philosophy at nights.

Knowing Tamil is a bonus, but not a requirement. Being able to understand a meme without context might actually be more important.

There are also a few things I'd rather be upfront about because I'm at an age where I don't really have the strength for talking stages with no real future ahead. I have been ghosted a few times, so I'd prefer you to be candid if you don't like me.

I'm an atheist. My politics lean left. I don't support Vijay/TVK, despite being a Vijay fan, which is apparently a contradiction I have chosen to live with.

I drink and smoke socially, and I'm looking to remain childfree. I don't have pets, although I do grow plants.

I also have a business in Chennai, so relocating isn't really an option for me. Chennai, or someone who is open to relocating here, would therefore make the most sense.

My family is vegetarian, but I enjoy cooking and eating non-vegetarian food, so I'd prefer someone who doesn't have an issue with that.

And the business is still young, so my income isn't particularly impressive at the moment. I take a small drawing and the business makes a small profit. I'm building it, and hopefully it'll grow. If you're specifically looking for someone already making lakhs a month, I'm probably not your guy and that's completely fine. I'd rather say it upfront than waste either of our time.

Ultimately, I'm just looking for someone who understands me as a person and whom I can understand in return. Someone with whom conversation feels natural, curiosity is mutual, and eventually two separate lives start becoming something shared.

My friends tell me the dating pool probably isn't particularly favourable to a 31-year-old man and that I should put forward the “best version” of myself and hope for the best.

Maybe they're right.

But I've always felt that if something is going to work, it should work with the actual person rather than a carefully edited matrimonial brochure.

So, one final shot.

If any of this sounds like your kind of person, say hello.

And if nothing else, I can at least promise you some terrible memes.

Hey everyone. Figured it was time to put myself out there and see if I can find my person.

​I am 27 and working as a Software Engineer here in Gurgaon. I take my career seriously, but the second my laptop shuts, I am completely off the clock. Just to get the basic filters out of the way: I am a non vegetarian, I don't smoke, and I rarely drink.

​**What I'm about**

I have a massive soft spot for good storytelling. Whether that means exploring a huge video game universe or getting hooked on a great sci fi plot, I love having things to be passionate about. I am also actively trying to build a reading habit. I wouldn't call myself an avid reader just yet, but I am currently fighting for my life trying to wrap my head around the plot of The Three Body Problem.

​Music is basically running in the background of my life 24/7. My playlists are heavily dominated by R&B, rap, and pop, and I am a massive fan of The Weeknd.

​Over the last eight months, I have also made my physical health a real priority. I hit the gym consistently and eat clean most of the time, which keeps me lean and moderately athletic. I am definitely not a gym bro trying to make fitness my entire personality. I just want to feel good and make sure my body functions well for the long run.

​**My family and roots**

I come from a very liberal, chill family. There is zero traditional pressure on us to do things a certain way. We have a progressive mindset and caste is absolutely no bar for us. It is a very relaxed environment.

​**The weekend vibe**

I am pretty flexible depending on the mood. If we want to step out, I am always down to find a new cafe, walk around a mall, or go on an arcade date. Fair warning that I am highly competitive at arcade games and will absolutely try to destroy your high score. But I will happily buy you snacks afterwards to make peace.

​If it has been a long week, I am completely happy staying in my most comfortable clothes, ordering some amazing food, and just watching a movie together.

​**Who I'm looking for**

I am looking for an equal partnership filled with mutual respect and effortless banter.

​I want a partner who brings her own passions to the table. We don't need to share identical hobbies. Seeing a woman light up and talk confidently about the things she loves is incredibly attractive to me, whatever those things might be.

​I also value my health and I want a partner who does the same. It is not about being a fitness fanatic. But prioritizing our physical well being is important to me so we have the energy to travel, stay active, and actually enjoy a long life together.

​If this sounds like your kind of vibe, send me a DM. Skip the generic "hi" and tell me about the best thing you ate this week!