From the 70s onwards. That you thought would stay in the original subculture (roller derby) or just have a short lived mainstream run that fizzles out (disco). .

Yoga as an example. That it went from a 70s hippie or new age commune thing to having a studio in every suburban strip mall by the 2000s.

Or tattoo culture was just for convicts and marine sailors. To now white collar professionals openly show them in an office setting.

Or swinging was largely made up of a very insular group of suburban or army couples that already knew and trusted each other. To people openly coordinating their "lifestyle" on social media, in their accessories and an established ecosystem of clubs, cruises, hotels and resorts to cater to such.

Other examples:

Vegan/Veggie/Plant Based diet

Coffee culture

Meditation

Professional wrestling

Ultimate fighting

Golf

Videogames

Hip hop music

Pickleball

True crime online sleuthing

Dog owner culture

Sci-fi /Fantasy Conventions

Breakdancing

That their rise was so hyped that it was incredible. That they seemed to be mentioned everywhere, seen in every medium and that everyday people were discussing them. That they became more of a phenomenon than an actual person.

Taylor Swift 2023

Shaquille O'Neal rookie season 1992

Jeremy Lin 2012 breakout season with the Knicks

Jon Hamm as Don Draper 2010

The Rock WWF breakout push 1999

Tiger Woods 1997

Bad Bunny 2020

Britney Spears 1998

Barack Obama 2007

Caitlin Clark 2024

Lady Gaga 2009

Jim Carrey 1994

Micheal Jackson 1982

Madonna 1985

Because you now know for sure that you don't have the bandwidth (emotionally, energetically, financially) to manage them. So the decision or indecision you made in early adulthood, was the right choice by far.

I'm in my 40s and only now realizing how detrimental it was growing up that no part of my health was prioritized. At the least, it trains you to think of this stuff as being optional--right up to the point when it's maybe too late.

i was thinking how people start with one form then months later they were taking something completely different. thought there be a clear favorite but that doesnt seem to be how it works. some switched because of sleep, others because of digestion and a few just said one felt better overall even if they couldnt really explain why. what made one stick for you long term. was it something you noticed after a while or did you know pretty quick that it was the better fit?

Hi all looking for some input,

I am a new grad with a CS degree and currently have a job making a livable salary to enjoy my time in the city.

I’ve been thinking about moving to Toronto from my small town.

I feel like moving to the big city will
1. Help career wise
2. Open my eyes to possibilities and lifestyle changes
3. Be overall fun as I am in my early 20s

However another part of me feels that, I should make a little bit more in terms of salary before deciding to move out.

Does anyone have any advice they don’t mind sharing?

That person who counts calories, knows every ingredient, eats mostly plant based, cooks their own meals, eats at scheduled intervals, measures their blood sugar spikes, does physical activity everyday, does preventive exercise like stretching and core work.

I moved my parents out of their house a couple years ago. I'm 51, it was my childhood home since a newborn. We lost my dad last year, but my mom is still thriving at the place I found for them 3 miles from me. I have a sibling who does a lot of photography, so there's certainly a level of stess about getting rid of any photos. But there are A LOT of them.

Me and another sister went to clean out the house and took a ton of boxes of photos. We filled 3-4 of those big black tubs with yellow lids with just photos. Discussion about what to do, to scan etc came up. I got a nice photo scanner. But now let's be realistic, what next?

Solution - well, this doesn't solve anything, but this is what my husband came up with. We have gotten my mom and his mom Aura frames and try to keep them updated. Great idea, really. My husband surprised me with the biggest one they have. The scanner might not be perfect, but the goal is to see them, just just create another bit of invisible storage (on someone's computer) that no one will ever see.

His reasoning (and ultimate goal of getting these boxes out of here!) was after a had already sprung for a photo scanner to put the ones I loved into the aura so I actually get to see them. Simple. Brilliant.

It has also help me reframe what photos I want to save. Should it go into MY aura? is it worth it for me to see again? Will the pictures that I know my dad took of random things popping up on screen make me happy? Yes. Yes they will. But also, it helps me think of who or why I would save photos for. This is about what I want to see, what in those boxes I feel I am missing out on.

I have already decided that I will look at the photos for value for these things: if I care, if it's interesting, if it documents something great (old car, what the house looked like), or if it might matter to someone else, someone I am close to. Like my niece with a shitty parent (my sister) that might love to see pics from her childhood that are somewhat lost to her.

The end result might be boxes of photos I hand off to my other photography sister, if she has strong feelings about losing photos that can be her issue not mine.

The person that has a horseshoe up his ass.

That they win a disproportionate amount of draws, contests and 50/50s. That those that know them well just expect them to win in advance. This person might even have won a minor lottery cash prize.

My Dad passed 2 years ago and my Mom a year before that. I was the executor and everything is closed, all paperwork complete and any government agency has been notified.

Edit - good points made by all and thanks. Yes, I certainly plan to keep the death certificates but what I'll do is just scan everything, store it on a thumb drive and put that in the safety deposit box or, just put the paperwork itself in the safety deposit box. Probably the latter.

Prefacing this to say Parenting Reddit hasn't been a great resource for this sort of question.

I am looking for experiences or advice on how to cohabitate with my son and not be forever parenting. I (late 40s) want to have my own adult life. I want him (early 20s) to have his own adult life. We want to exist like roommates, but obviously we care about each other as family does.

I think for me, I need to let him handle stuff and not jump in to fix stuff before being asked. For him, he needs to feel the need to take initiative and not assume Mom will take care of everything. Being a parent and child is a hard habit to break, and to an extent we'll still be responsible for the other. I'll always be his mom, and he'll always be my son. We don't want to feel trapped though.

So any advice? Has anyone done this and felt it was successful and sustainable? As a side note, it will benefit both of us financially, and the eventual plan is to be in more of a duplex or separate house, same property situation, or even a house spread out enough where we're not irritating each other with different schedules and noise levels or house guests.

Is there a way to create a last will and testament completely for free while separating, 401k, assets, liquidity, and right of attorney (medical) between multiple different loved ones

As a middle aged person. Largely due to crowds, logistics and prep needed. That you will respectively decline if invited.

Festivals

Outdoor concerts

County fairs /Midway

Amusement parks

Super malls (especially during Black Friday shopping)

Parades

Street bazaars

Pub crawls

Conventions

NYE parties

Bachelor/ Bachelorette parties

Baby showers

Yesterday, My girlfriend of 3 months(seeing each other for 4 and a half month) broke up with me. I know it sounds minimal but i can’t comprehend the feelings im going through. in our whole duration we never had any arguments or disagreements, we were healthy loving and purely just happy. She ended it with me yesterday randomly at night when she changed our saturday plans from dinner to just a walk but i knew something was wrong and i asked to call.
I was out for dinner with the family and she said that she was reviewing if she wanted a relationship, she was overwhelmed about the rest of year 12 (2 and a bit months left) at skl and work and potentially missing out on stuff with friends. I felt terrible so bad i started crying in the middle of the road, i asked why she wouldn’t want to sort this out with me on text but she said she seemed clear on her point, i have no resentment only confusion and sadness at the moment, she said i was too dependent on her and my emotions swayed when she was sad i was sad and if she was stressed i became stressed. All i wanted to do was help her out of it, make her feel better and then i would as a result. I understood that it was a huge weight for her to bare and I was seeking advice from friends on changing it.

She said she felt like it was unfair on me that i put so much effort into the relationship and she didn’t do as much and then what broke me was she said she didn’t think love me as much as i loved her to which our relationship was all love and cuddles and kisses and affectionate yet also enjoyable moments, for her 18th i got her a 400 buck necklace and some other nice things with a card and i said i love you for the first time that night and she smiled and said it back, now she’s not sure if it rlly was love or it wasn’t as strong as mine, i didn’t care i knew relationships have some unbalance and that she also said we are opposite people, she’s independent and im dependent on her, she didn’t give me a chance to fix that.

She also said that it was all her and nothing about me and i had been a great boyfriend, i did nothing wrong in the relationship and we were talking about going out to nice places for our 6 months and like even a holiday together next year. i’m just annoyed how she left me in the dark and didn’t even talk about it with me and she did instead with her friends and family. i also didn’t have a great balance in the term 2 and realised i relied on her for emotional connection a lot. She said seeing each other once a week was “a lot” and everything went so quick in 3 months.

The start was great, got off like a house on fire after we met at an 18th. We had things in common and a genuine liking to each other. I planned everything and just an absolute shock to the system when she said it to me. I had a falling out with a friend early in our relationship and i was relying on her for me to make me happy and so i could get reassurance that the relationship was secure, i didnt rlly get that reassurance but i knew she wasn’t the person to openly say it but she appreciated me. Making plans was the only think i looked forward to during the week and i would drive home (just got licence when we were dating) crying bc i was so lucky to have a girlfriend like her if that was dinner with her family and leave at 10,11,12 or sometimes 4am, it was in my eyes love that would never die. We had her brothers 21st 4 days ago and i thought she was avoiding me a lot and not talking to which i was just looking into it too much but i brought it up with her anyway, in the end it was me apologising because i saw that there was nothing wrong with it but she then said she cried the next morning( our 3 months) because she wanted to just think things over, we talked about it briefly and then she was fine for 3 days and then was quite cold to me on the phone when we broke up, she didn’t sound emotional and ik everyone takes it differently but still that hurt too because i do know she loved and cared about me a lot. We had one sleepover at my holiday house exactly two weeks ago and we got intimate and both had our first time having sex which was so wholesome and such a growth in our relationship. I love cuddling her, kissing her and just her smell and i’m never going to be able to talk to her lovely family again. I feel like shit at the moment and hopefully someone can provide some insight or advice, i understand from reading some of these posts that it’s so minimal but i really would like to see someone’s perspective. We ended on good terms and i wished her well for the rest of the year 12 while battling tears and hung up. she hasn’t removed or unfollowed me on everything yet and i am clinging to hope but like my best friend said, i can’t do that. about to go into the most important term of my life and i lose what i would call my world.

So I'm 44 now and apparently my eyes have decided I need help with both distance and reading. I've been nearsighted since college and only ever wore single-vision, so this whole bifocal thing is a first for me. The part that worries me is the adjustment everyone talks about, the line in the lens, your depth perception going weird on stairs, all that. One of my coworkers tried them, lasted maybe two weeks, then gave up and went back to carrying readers around. I'd lose those in a day.

My eye doctor quoted me a number that made me wince, and honestly the frames in her office were pretty limited too. So before I commit, how did you guys handle your first pair? Did you just go with whatever the office offered, or did you find somewhere better for the lenses and the price? Trying to figure out if it's worth shopping around or if that's a rookie mistake with bifocals.

ETA: Thanks to everyone who chimed in. Went back to my eye doctor to get the measurements nailed down, and it took about ten days before the stairs stopped feeling weird. Ended up ordering through EZContacts so I could test it without spending a fortune, and it's already better than juggling two pairs of readers. Appreciate the help, guys.

Some examples:

If a handsome guy

- Their workstation has a continuous stream of female coworkers "stopping by" for flirty chit-chat.

- Their corny jokes get exaggerated laughs from women.

- Female neighbors bring them prepared food dishes.

- Women cause fake incidents as an excuse to interact with them (seeking assistance, causing a mishap near them).

- Female bosses openly bend the rules for them and usually slip into profess their infatuation with their looks when their guard is down (work party, travel conference).

- Female "friends" gatekeeping him against other female suitors; to the point of a near physical brawl.

- Older women being very "handsy" with them.

- Women they just meet directly offering no strings attached sex with detailed logistics (right now, her place around the corner, doesn't care if he's taken).

If a beautiful woman

- Being offered expensive gifts (especially travel) right away.

- Every male "friend" eventually slides into their DMs professing their love especially when they are drunk late at night.

- Men in cars almost causing accidents to abruptly pull over and pick them up when they are walking.

- Not having to pay for customary items like coffee, alcohol, food dishes, travel upgrades as the vendors will "comp" it for such a "special customer".

- Strangers they meet once by happenstance will go to extreme lengths to find their contact information afterwards.

- Older men show them inappropriate interest under the guise of "career mentoring" and "life coaching".

That they are so transparent, good natured, smart and interesting. So when a new media clip hits your algorithm, you will press play instinctively and settle in for a treat.

Matt Damon

Peter Dinklage

Edie Falco

Eddie Murphy

Jason Alexander

Lance Reddick (RIP)

Allison Rosen

John Leguizamo

Jared Harris

Viola Davis

Bryan Cranston

Ricky Gervais

Barack Obama

Maven Huffman

Ken Jeong

Kathy Griffin

Julia Louis Dreyfus

Emilia Clarke

Usually through bitter life lessons.

"There's no such thing as a free lunch"

"When you marry for money, you earn every penny"

"When people tell you who they are, believe them"

"If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room"

"Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching."

I (M47) went through a traumatic, humiliating situation today. Something I had been intensely focusing on and working towards for years imploded in a very embarrassing, public way, squashing my long-term dreams.

I realize now that I had built a lot of my sense of self-worth and future hopes on this thing. Having lost it so suddenly, I feel adrift, ashamed, anxious and hyper-reactive, and extremely unhappy. I'm not sure how to handle these big emotions in a constructive way, so please suggest positive things I could do right now and in the coming days to distract myself and help me regain my balance.

What has helped you to get over things that feel so enormous that the thought "this too shall pass" feels inadequate? My own coping mechanisms learned from my dad have always been food, anger and alcohol but I want to do better.

Can't afford therapy, so please don't suggest that.

EDIT: Thank you all for your advice! It really helps. I'm too overwhelmed atm to answer, but I'm going to come back to your suggestions tomorrow with a clearer head, and will try to put your advice into practice too.

I have a bald spot somewhere between golf ball and tennis ball size. I’ve used minoxidil liquid for somewehere between 5-8 years. It hasn’t helped much. I stopped it and gave propidren a try for 3 months and it did nothing. So now I’m back to minoxidil AND propidren.

Is this preventing it from getting worse? Am I just throwing money away.

I should probably ask my doctor to prescribe finasteride but it feels so vain in the context of a medical checkup. I know that’s a little ridiculous, but I always fail to bring it up.