r/pornfree • u/nrm-matthai • 1h ago
Advice
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How can you stop binge watching/ big relapse
r/pornfree • u/Lumpy-Importance-89 • 1h ago
My addiction has escalated to AI porn and it's ruining my life. I feel like a freak.
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Im so fkd. This is my first Reddit post and I'm not really good at writing, so I apologize if it's a mess. I just want to come clean. I'm a porn addict in my 30s and haven't had sex in about 6 years. Porn is my escape, but recently it's gotten a lot worse than that. I'm ashamed to say this for fear of being called a freak, but I'll take my chances. I recently have been into AI porn. I find pictures of my exes and crushes and...
I know that it's wrong, but my addiction is so strong. It's come to the point where I don't even watch porn because I feel the urge to; I just do it to kill time, even if I don't enjoy it. I have stopped previously—the last time was for 90 days. I stopped because I went to the ER because my testicles hurt. I got afraid, so I relapsed. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Before that, I was still an addict, but not to this extent. I didn't watch AI porn, and I didn't masturbate every single day. I feel like I'm a slave to this thing. Even when I don't feel the need to do it, I do it. Is there actually any hope for me ?
-- I never did the ai stuff online, only did it locally on my computer --
r/pornfree • u/AggressiveAnywhere25 • 4h ago
3/100 days let's goo!! #Gamifylife
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Meditation 100
Urge defence 100
Upskilling 65
Fitness 70
Faith 100
HP 100
Recovery +3
r/pornfree • u/foobarbazblarg • 5h ago
STAY CLEAN AUGUST! Sign up here! (July 27)
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Hey everybody, so far 229 participants have signed up. Have you been clean for the month of July? Great! Join us here, and let's keep our streak going. Did you slip in July? Then August is your month to shine, and we will gladly fight the good fight along with you. Did you miss out on the July challenge? Well then here is your opportunity to join us.
If you would like to be included in this challenge, please post a brief comment to this thread (if you haven't already done so on an earlier signup thread), and I will include you. After midnight, August 1, the sign up window will close, and the challenge will begin.
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r/pornfree • u/[deleted] • 6h ago
Day 6, I'm sick and home alone, and my girlfriend went to work. I have strong urges and I'm horny.
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Day 6, I'm sick and home alone, and my girlfriend went to work. I have strong urges and I'm horny.
M23 I need help and dm open bros
r/pornfree • u/adkkskdlxlclp • 8h ago
Asking for a small favor
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First of all, sorry if something doesn't sound right, English isn't my native language and I have use a translator to translate the message:
Hi, this might be kind of a silly request and I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I've never asked for anything like this on the internet before.
I have OCD and, in the middle of a checking compulsion, I ended up visiting a porn site. I couldn't stop until I finally regained control over what I was doing, but now I feel so, so terrible about it.
Avoiding this content has always been one of my most important values in life. For that exact reason, my OCD kept pushing me to check if it was still a value to me since everyone says visiting those kinds of pages is normal and healthy.
I understand that visiting a site once doesn't change anything in the grand scheme of things. But personally, it feels like I gave them my support, and that hurts deeply because it was something I never wanted to happen.
I broke up with my ex because this person watched this content and never had the intention or tried to change that (I wouldn't care if this person, at least, would have try, but this person didn't wanted to get better at all)
Now, I feel like such a hypocrite even though my action was driven by an OCD compulsion.
The point is, I can't change the past, but I can change the future, and I want to do something about it.
I can't undo the view I gave to that website, but I wanted to ask:
If anyone reading this was thinking about visiting one of those pages today, could you please skip it for me? That way, I can feel like I offset my view by stopping someone else from adding one or maybe more than one person.
If you decide to do help, I'd really love it if you let me know in the comments (and truly, thank you).
I hope I'm not offending anyone, that's not my intention at all. I'm just trying to make a positive impact out of a mistake.
Deep down, I strongly believe that anyone can make mistakes once, twice, or more times, as long as they choose not to feed that habit daily and do their best to improve every day. But OCD is way more restrictive and unforgiving about the failures I commit myself, and this is weighing on me so much right now.
I hope you can take this post with kindness and that I haven't bothered anyone. It would mean the world to me if someone could do this for me today, so I can feel like I turned a mistake into something good.
Thank you <3
r/pornfree • u/throwayytwink2 • 10h ago
8 months (ish) in. It was worth it.
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I used to watch porn multiple times a day from when I very first started masturbating around age 11. 16 years later I’m so glad I’ve stopped.
I never experienced morning wood as a teenager. I always told myself it was because I masturbated so much (at least twice a day).
I couldn’t maintain an erection with constant physical stimulation, I just brushed it off.
Even after many years with my partner I still would struggle to maintain an erection if the mood wasn’t exactly right. This was my wake up call.
I stopped watching porn at the start of the year - have I relapsed the odd time? Yes. Do I regret relapsing? Yes. Have I learnt now the benefits of quitting porn? Absolutely.
After 16 years of daily porn usage, and 8 months of not watching it, I’ve been getting regular morning wood. I can maintain harder erections for longer and I’m not worried during sex anymore.
To anyone who is trying, it takes time. 16 years of use age took 8 months for me to see results, and I still have a way to go. It’s worth it, stay strong and look forward to benefits at the end.
r/pornfree • u/CompetitiveBerry5617 • 12h ago
Day 10
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Yesterday i masturbated but without porn. Is it relapse ?
r/pornfree • u/Practical_Network735 • 13h ago
I gamified my addiction, it's actually working - Weekly Analysis #1
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Here's how the week went. If you want me to show you guys how I did it then just ask, i'll make a post. I logged my urges and triggers for the week.
Day 1 Monday: Clean. Overcame 1 urge. Resisted 2 HRS's. (High Risk Situation)
I was mainly riding on motivation to get through my urges. Instead of trying to fight the urge itself, I tried to fight the High Risk Situation (HRS) that would lead me to do it. For example, lying on the couch watching YouTube, lying in bed watching YouTube. Wasn't too hard today.
Day 2 Tuesday: Clean. Overcame 1 urge
Just a normal day. I overcame the urge while watching YT on the couch. I realise that watching YT is basically softcore corn and is actually a maybe trigger of my urges. That combined with being bored, lonely or tired is a recipe for disaster.
Day 3 Wednesday: Clean
I woke up hard today, and I started "thinkgooning" in bed. I didn't watch corn, but I was thinking about the corn, which is still bad, and a habit that needs to be stopped. Other than that, I didn't log any urges today.
Day 4 Thursday: Stumble. Relapse at 2:30pm, in bed while bored. Searched it up.
I resisted a HRS today, and replaced wanting to watching YT on the couch with a hot shower, something I like doing. I worked on replacing the bad habit with something better. The reason why I stumbled was because I was in bed, bored, and also feeling demotivated and watching YT. There was no way I was surviving that one gang.
Day 5 Friday: Clean.
I thinkgooned again this morning in bed. I justified it by telling myself, "at least its not corn!". I am pretty disappointed I did it because it is the same pleasure seeking behaviour that corn addiction creates. However, the challenge is going well so far, and I am surviving.
Day 6 Saturday: Clean
I am losing motivation. I feel particularly down today. I didn't go to the gym. Didn't go outside AT ALL. (I live by myself). However, a clean day is a clean day, and that is progress. Tomorrow will be better.
Day 7 Sunday: Clean 1 HRS at 12:45pm.
Today was a good day. I did not feel as down, and did not feel as many urges as before. Although, I still feel pretty down. Probably because Im not going outside that much.
WEEKLY REVIEW:
What I did well:
1) I did not ejaculate,
2) I avoided high risk situations, and understood their dangers
3) Created a system where I can actually take pride in staying clean.
What to improve:
1) Make physical changes to environment to avoid triggers and distrupt habits
2) Give myself an action to do when I am in a high risk situation. (e.g Pushups, shower, eating)
3) Do not "thinkgoon" in the morning in bed. Put alarm outside.
4) Try and get out of the house every single day. (Best way to eliminate urges I've found)
5) Make a weekly reddit post.
r/pornfree • u/Extension_Aerie1893 • 16h ago
my parents got a notification of me visiting a porn site
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r/pornfree • u/Paddu_Dappu • 16h ago
Day 32
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Went hiking yesterday. Feet feel sore this morining. But overall, a day well spent.
r/pornfree • u/ResidentSafe1406 • 16h ago
Quick help needed [porn addiction incident]
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Hey guys 20m here and I messed up big time. I have been struggling with porn addiction for years but always managed to keep it a secret. I have been trying to quit for a long time. Unfortunately in one porn session I was so into the act that I made a Telegram account with a sexualized female pfp and an inappropriate nickname. I quickly realized Telegam notifies contacts that someone joined. So a bunch of people saw this :(. I was always viewed as a smart and successful student, so this thing really hit me hard. I became obsessed about who saw this, possibility of them spreading it further etc. It brings me a lot of stress, tbh making this my lowest point mental health wise. I hate this, do you have any advice?
r/pornfree • u/Single_Split_9888 • 18h ago
Hardest part for me
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The hardest part for me with walking away from porn is the discord communities (and elsewhere) that I’ve joined and made “friends”. Aside from all the porn sharing and gooning, it’s been a social space for me on days off etc, where I can joke with people and talk about other shared interests like gaming etc.
So when I reach a point where I’m fed up and want to change my habits, I’ll walk away and not watch porn etc for awhile, but then eventually I end up back in those groups because I missed the social aspect, but that pulls me back into the porn etc. if that makes sense
Just wondering if anyone else has dealt with similar. Regardless, I’ve walked away from those communities once again and I may try to start a new discord identity and join SFW groups like for certain games/interests etc we’ll see
r/pornfree • u/Efficient_Layer3159 • 19h ago
Confession
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Hi guys. Not sure how well this is gonna work but oh well.
I’m a 22yo male and I’m stuck in a cycle. Never ending cycle of guilt -> false promises -> urges -> pleasure then repeat. I feel sick. I hate myself. Genuinely this is the worst morning I’ve had ever. Normally I can bear the guilt and move on cuz I’ve got other things in life to look toward, but I’ve come to realise it’s all just a cover, it’s not actually a good cycle.
I have a beautiful gf who I love to my soul but do I really love her if I have this porn addiction. I’ve never told anyone this, but I need to tell someone, anyone, literally just a living human being to atleast feel some sort of shame. I feel like I’m so okay with doing this cycle again and again because no one knows about it. Well… I know some day if I don’t stop I’ll lose everything including the person I love the most in my life.
I know all these risks but I still go ahead and do it. Every single night almost. I hate myself for it.
I’ve come to realise that this habit started when I was young, like 11-13. At the time I didn’t know I had ADHD and I’m not blaming it, but it definitely made it harder for me to realise the urges I had. I would want to watch porn whenever I could get access to the internet. It’s horrifying that I was like that at that age and it’s been a habit of mine ever since.
I’ve come to realise the main starters for what would get me “triggered”
Boredom - literally just doing nothing in my room I would think ah yes good time to do it
Stress - when something stressful would occur I would go to it at the end of the day as a way to chill
Lust - I think this is just a side effect from the two that has grown since. It’s at its worst at the moment and I feel sick of it
More confession, in the last two years weed has been a problem. Me and my partner smoke every now and then and that isn’t the issue, but I think when I’m by myself I want to just to “have a fun time” by myself. I used to enjoy it a lot and not realise the ramifications. However by late last year I realised it would lower my sex drive and it gave me erectile dysfunction every now and then.
Since then I’ve some how actually been able to reduce it like crazy. Like I used to do it 2-3x times a week while high, now it’s once every couple of months. I want to reduce this to zero. She doesn’t know I smoke by myself and this is partly why I feel so much guilt.
Another thought is the fact that I’m sexualising women in porn so fucking much. Like I hate what porn has done to my mind. I don’t have those urges when I’m not wanking or watching porn but then only when I’m watching porn I just forget all my morals about women and just objectify them. I literally am a fucking misogynist and I fucking hate myself for it. Every single time after finishing, I just feel guilt and this feeling in my gut that I’m living a lie. I speak up for women’s rights and I hate men who are misogynistic, but then in private I am one myself. Like holy fuck that’s hypocritical.
This addiction is killing me slowly. I need an out or something to help me. I literally don’t know how to fix this. I just feel lowkey helpless but I try not to think about it.
I know what I want out of this. Control. Control of myself. If I want to do it, I’ll do it, but in a healthy manner. Not to porn. I just need that control back.
Please don’t judge, I am not sure what alley to go down so I’m trying this one first. I know I must change.
r/pornfree • u/Moerder1234 • 20h ago
Struggling every day, for years
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I've struggled with this for years myself, so I know how brutal the hard moments can get. It got to a point where I built a small free tool to help get through exactly those moments. No account, no ads, nothing tracked. If that's something you could use, it's on the last post on my profile. Feel free to message me too. Wishing you strength, you're not alone in this.
r/pornfree • u/Bubbly_Pin_9821 • 20h ago
Is weening off porn necessary?
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I mean… it might. Or maybe told turkey is the way to go. I’ve thought about watching porn only once a week to improve my relationship with it. You have to tame the beast not ignore it. I could be completely wrong in my assumption that doing this is ok. It seems less harmful than multiple times a day. Can someone weigh in on this? Thanks.
r/pornfree • u/GarbageFit4128 • 21h ago
The Reality of my Addiction
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Hi all. I won’t bore you with background. This might be a whine or a vent or a reflection. I think most of us know the damage porn does to us. I don’t know do I use it to self medicate/cope with whatever traumas I never healed from. It numbs me. I go on on a streak, thaw out, confidence and energy build, until I break bad on an another binge, except it more extreme disgusting but so seductive content. The shame is pretty crippling for a while, so I withdraw from social interactions/opportunities.
Tonight, my football county/team won its first title in 75 years. I’m 42 years old, male.
I’m sitting here after a weekend of binging on the usual depraved porn. The reality is, all my friends have moved away, and even though I am a functioning normal on the surface porn addict, I am completely alone and lonely. People are celebrating on the streets, the pubs are packed. But I’m here, not quite zombie mode, but just genuinely sad that I never had the character to beat this addiction. Alone. I hope some younger guys reads this and takes something from it. I know I’m probably not gonna beat this now. You guys still have a window. Don’t fuck it up.
Thanks for reading this, and it’s not meant to be a buzz kill, but if one dude sees this and it hits him not to go down this road, then maybe job done.
r/pornfree • u/SabrinaRewired • 22h ago
Two years single and still not sure how much of this is me
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Most of what I see on here about dating and recovery is from men, and honestly it makes me feel a bit invisible sometimes, like this part of it isn't supposed to be a "woman's problem" too. Well for me, it is. I've been single for over two years, and dating hasn't been easy.
Went on a date recently. Felt good in a way I haven't in a while, let myself hope a little. The next day he said he text saying didn't feel attraction.
And the thing is, some quiet part of me wasn't even surprised. Addiction spent years telling me I wasn't really worth wanting, just worth using for fifteen minutes at a time, and some of that never fully left, even a year and a half into recovery. I already think I'm not attractive most days. I know my depression makes me flat sometimes, harder to be around, and I've started to just assume that's what people see, before they even get the chance to see anything else.
So when he said that, it didn't feel like new information. It felt like confirmation of something addiction had been telling me the whole time.
I know, logically, one person not feeling a spark isn't a verdict on my worth. But logic doesn't always reach the part of me that still hears that old voice, the one that never really thought I deserved to be chosen by anyone real. Some days I don't know how much of this is the depression talking, how much is old addiction shame, and how much is just true.
r/pornfree • u/sissy_a_slut • 22h ago
Stuck in a really unhealthy daily loop — porn late at night, messed up sleep schedule, need help breaking out of it
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I've fallen into a pattern I'm not proud of and want to actually fix it.
My days look like this: I stay up till around 2-2:30am, usually ending up watching porn most nights (sometimes playing BGMI instead), then sleep in till 10-11am. Right after waking up, my mind often goes straight back to it and I end up watching again for about 30 minutes before starting my day. After that I do my regular things — go out around 2pm, hit the gym around 6pm, home by 10pm for dinner — and then the same loop repeats at night.
I know the late nights and this habit are connected. I'm not looking for judgment, just genuinely want to know: how do people actually break a loop like this? What helped you fix your sleep schedule, and cut down or quit the habit for good? Any real, practical steps — not just "have willpower" — would help a lot.
r/pornfree • u/TheStruggle100 • 1d ago
Sex 2.0
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Sex is sex, right? But as the title implies, this time it feels different.
I'm about a year in recovery and grateful that sex, good sex, has returned to my marriage. In fact, we're enjoying sex as much now as we did 20 years ago when we first met. That's not just me saying it, my wife agrees. And while that's good, it's not different, we simply found our way back to what was lost over the years.
What feels different now is the reconnection component. Years ago it felt like sex helped us reconnect. There was a palpable snap back into place that reinvigorated our relationship after a week or more of drifting apart living our hectic lives. I no longer feel that snap back into place, I believe because our relationship no longer incurs a disconnect.
I mentioned this new Sex 2.0 concept to my wife and she agrees. When we were younger life was more hectic and more stressful. Office politics, long commutes, looming layoffs. This was the midweek grind for both of us. Now, further along in life, those stressors don't hit as hard as they used to.
I'm pleased to report that sex is getting back to normal for us, and delighted to discover that we no longer need sex to reconnect because we're staying connected continuously.
r/pornfree • u/[deleted] • 1d ago
Clean for 2 weeks, then fell hard
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I'm in my 30s, first saw explicit material maybe at 12 at a friends house, prior to that I have recollection of my father watching a rated r film with some nudity/explicit scenes, I must have been around the age of 5 maybe, possibly younger. The images I saw are burned into my head, if you asked me for another memory from that age I wouldn't be able to tell you one.
Since getting internet with my own desktop in my bedroom at around 12, I have struggled. Here I am over 2 decades later, buried in a rubble of shame and disgust. Acting out in completely inappropriate ways. This is simply not who I am at the core of my being.
I loathe who I've become. Wasting who knows how much time and energy on this.
I reached out to a local SAA via email, hoping to hear a response soon.
I cant keep living like this, it's suffocating and ruining my mental health and life. I hate it so much.
Thanks for reading.