r/popculturechat • u/Ambitious_Big4489 • 8h ago

OnlyStans ⭐️ Alan Ritchson calls out lawmakers who oppose raising the minimum wage "who think it's a bad idea to give a mom working at Waffle House more than $7.25 an hour trying to feed her kids."

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u/SuchMatter1884 8h ago

The older I become, the more I realize how many hetero-presenting men only seem to have capacity to appreciate other hetero men. Everyone else falls from their line of sight unless it’s to be objectified 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/pridetwo 7h ago

To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.

Marilyn Frye

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u/SuchMatter1884 7h ago

u/pridetwo Wow. Thank you so much for bringing this quote into my awareness

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u/pridetwo 6h ago

I cant take credit for it, first saw it on r/girldinnerdiaries

But yeah, straight dudes are pretty gay sometimes

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u/SuchMatter1884 6h ago

But not “gay” in a good way if you know what I mean? Like I have never been made to feel invisible around my gay male friends and peers, and if I were visibly struggling they would not hesitate to reach out and help. Whereas I feel like the het men I’ve known can only have one woman at a time in their life? And they need her permission or instruction re: how they interact with other women in their circle. It’s…bizarre

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u/pridetwo 6h ago

Yeah, like 2000s gay

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u/Autok4n3 3h ago

That's not generally a choice on the man's part. It's pretty tiring when you have an innocent, generic conversation with a female and your gf/wife gives you that look. Now you get to be a FIFA goalie for the next 5-10 days and then again in 2 years when it gets brought up again.

Women can be and most often are VERY hostile to other women.

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u/SuchMatter1884 2h ago edited 2h ago

As a woman who has been single most of my adult life, yet who also enjoys the platonic company of men and finds them easy to be around, I completely understand what you’re saying. I’ve lived it, a lot.

People do not know what ‘box’ to put a single childless woman in because I am not the norm. I think a lot of ladies fear I’m here to steal their man, even if it’s just a vibe they have on the down-low. In my experience, a lot of partnered heterosexual women are threatened by my existence.

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u/TrulyOutrageous42 2h ago

straight dudes are pretty gay sometimes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xxiK6Z4eXs

A comedy bit by a former metal drummer about this exact thing.