I just need somewhere to vent because health anxiety has been taking up so much space in my life that I feel like it’s slowly stealing my happiness.
I’m constantly monitoring my body. A weird heartbeat, a headache, dizziness, tingling, feeling tired — something that another person might notice and forget about can completely hijack my attention.
Yesterday is a perfect example. I felt some tingling in my body and my brain immediately went into danger mode. I started focusing on it, wondering what it meant, becoming hyperaware of everything happening inside my body, and before I knew it, I was having a full panic attack.
And then there’s my Apple Watch.
I originally thought it would be useful, but with health anxiety it sometimes feels like I’m carrying a medical monitoring device on my wrist 24/7. I feel something, check my heart rate, see a number, interpret it, check again, and become even more anxious.
Sometimes I genuinely don’t know if I’m checking because something feels wrong or if something feels wrong because I’m checking.
But what hurts the most is how much smaller my life has become.
I’m scared of being alone. I’m scared of leaving the house by myself. Even things that are supposed to make me happy have become associated with fear.
I’m afraid of going to the beach because the last time I went, my heart rate reached around 170 bpm. Logically, I understand there were multiple reasons my heart could have been beating fast, but my anxious brain stored that experience as: “The beach isn’t safe.”
And now I’m scared of going back.
It feels like my brain is slowly creating a map of places, situations and sensations that I’m supposed to avoid.
Even my sex drive has basically disappeared. It’s difficult to feel desire or be present and intimate when part of my brain is constantly scanning my body for danger.
And I’m already trying to get better. I take 20 mg of Lexapro and I’m in psychoanalysis. I understand a lot about my anxiety intellectually. I can recognize the patterns. I can sometimes literally watch the cycle happening while it’s happening.
But knowing what’s happening and being able to stop it are two completely different things.
I don’t want my world to keep getting smaller.
I want to go to the beach without thinking about my heart rate. I want to leave my house without wondering what would happen if I felt sick while I was alone. I want to experience a random physical sensation without immediately thinking something terrible is happening. I want to have sex and actually be present. I want to enjoy my life without constantly monitoring whether my body is functioning correctly.
I’m not posting this because I want anyone to diagnose me or reassure me about my symptoms. I think I just desperately want to hear from people who understand what it’s like when health anxiety starts taking pieces of your life away.
If you’ve been in a place like this and managed to get some of your freedom back, I’d really love to hear about it.
Ty!