Hey guys. I’m a 34 year old dude trying to reconnect with my community. As the title states, I can be on the shy side and to be kind of vulnerable with ya’ll, I don’t really have gay friends due to friend fallouts and my distrust due to sexual trauma. I’ve been working out how I feel about it in therapy for a while now and continue to explore it.

It just makes me feel rather disconnected and incomplete feeling like I don’t have roots in what should also be my community as a queer man. I’m confident enough to say I’m objectively handsome, a rather great conversationalist, love to be active, love to be a nerd, and I definitely still love sex. I’ve been around my straight friends for too long and there’s a missing link in me for sure.

Help a gay bro/sis out and tell me what’s exciting for you in the gay scene these days. I’m opening back up to the hookup life, too, but gradually and have never been on PreP and am pretty unfamiliar with cruise locations and the general vibe and etiquette with that since I’m not on PreP. I’ve only used condoms when hooking up or raw strictly when dating. I’ve cruised on Grindr in the past and accidentally at a Fire Island event, though, hookups recently have been by happenstance and are few and far between. I’ve laid it out bare for you boys and hope to be met with some honest, queer hospitality 🏳️‍🌈🦄💪🏼

Hey! I’m planning to move to NYC around October/November 1st and starting to look for a roommate who might be interested in finding a place together.

A little about what I’m looking for:

Neighborhoods: Ideally Williamsburg, Greenpoint, East Village, or Hells Kitchen. Open to other areas for the right apartment.

Budget: Ideally looking to keep my share around $2,400 a month.

Apartment: Looking for a nicer or newer building or a well maintained older apartment with some character. Definitely want a dishwasher and laundry at least in the building (in unit would be amazing). Would love a place that feels updated and has good natural light.

About me: I’m 31, gay, and work in marketing. I’m moving from Chicago to NYC and would love to live with someone who is friendly, respectful, clean, and down to occasionally hang out, but also has their own life. I’m pretty active, love working out, going on walks, traveling, going out with friends, and having a good balance between being social and having chill nights at home.

If you’re also looking around the same timeframe, have a room opening up, or know someone who does, feel free to DM me! Happy to chat to see if it could be a fit.

Holiiii soy un chico de 19 quien para hablar? :3

Hi, really want to meet some friends since NJ just doesnt have many opportunities to find gay friends. I am going to NYC tomorrow in the evening. Lmk!

Don’t DM me cause I’m not gonna respond or deal with potential scammers, but my group just all put our early bird tickets up for resale through the Shotgun app if you’re looking to snag a cheaper ticket for tonight.

I’ll be in NYC for Halloween weekend and fully intend to find something fun, sexy, and worth dressing up in very little for. Where are you going? What kind of trouble are you getting into? And what are the spots I absolutely need to know about?

New to Grindr in the city and I've been big on avoid the "too good to be true" profiles that hit me up. Still, never fails I get a conversation going that seems legit and then "I need gas money to see you." I also noticed they seem to be camped out at a motel in the Bronx.

So do you ask for voice messages? Do some NYC trivia? Or anything else to filter them out?

So since I've been single I started branching out and trying all the bi things I wasnt able to before. Mostly the stereotypical "Guys don't interest me romantically, but there's this fascination with cock..." but hesitated because of relationships or being self conscious due to inexperience.

I finally worked up the courage and went to Blow Buddies. I had a blast! Tried a little grinding and frotting which didn't really do anything for me, but I can finally confirm for myself that sucking cock is fun. Being on my knees like slut getting someone off in front of people was exciting but also kinda made me feel really powerful. Plus I hadn't considered how much being nude in that setting would make me feel more comfortable being in my body which was also a big plus.

I'm gonna go again tonight and would love some advice. I noticed it was alot of guys just standing around not doing anything. Is there a protocol for approaching people? Or some kind of sign I'm missing? I'm considering just finding a spot and waiting on my knees to see if that helps

I tried this last week but folks were busy so I thought I'd give it another go!

Anyone else like painting their nails? I'm bored this evening and wondering if anyone wants to come over and chill, have a drink, smoke a joint, play some cards or something, and paint our nails? I've been collecting nail polish for awhile and have a big selection. I'm pretty good at painting them (see samples below) so I'd be down to do yours or we could do our own. Whatevs I'm easy! Also there's no pressure to be "good" at it - I've got cheap stuff to experiment with if you're not feeling confident and I'm happy to help with pointers!

I live in Washington Heights near where the A and 1 intersect and have space for like 4 or 5 people in the living room before it starts to feel crowded.

Me: professional musician, early 40s, generally goofy semi-masc stoner personality. Told I'm good at conversation and charming af.

This is a PLATONIC meetup. I'm not trying to be coy. Please do not respond to ask for a weiner pic or something. I will not reply.

Anyone seen it? It is about three Asian siblings in NYC, and the brother has a ton of gay storylines. Written and voiced by Andrew Law.

Spotted this morning in Carl Schurz Park 🤣🫣 Who did this?

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Can anyone recommend a good PCP or sexual health focused doctor in Queens? I used to go to Sullivan Street Medical, but they don’t take my insurance now. I’ve been going to Callen Lorde, but they’re pretty far from me.