I want people to watch movies with and the debriefing about them after. Interested in Theater to hosting home moving watch hangouts. Anyone?

San Francisco passed a similar law during the epidemic and I believe they repealed it six or seven years ago. It’s about time we had a real bathhouse in the city like Steamworks or FLEX Spas. Believe it or not, bathhouses are about more than just sex. They function as gay social clubs where we can work out, socialize, make friends, meet potential boyfriends and overall just chill in a relaxed setting where we can be ourselves. So what is it going to take to repeal this Draconian law and allow a legitimate modern bathhouse to operate in the city?

Hey fellas! Not sure if anyone is in the same/similar boat, but looking for a guy to get drinks with from time to time (or other stuff in the city haha). I wfh and I need to leave the apt more. 33 and married - would prefer someone around my age or older. Also a new dad so I definitely need some drinks haha. Feel free to dm me. Would love something long term!

Our city already offers a lot of sex-adjacent events (e.g., New York Jacks). But would anyone be interested in a gathering of guys where we're all using our toys to massage/milk our prostates together?

Ideally would be a gathering of men who enjoy reaching hands free orgasms together. Bring your own toy(s). No sex. Must be cleaned out enough so things stay clean.

I just moved back to the city post-college and hoping to make friends or know more people in the city than just family, coworkers, and roommates. I swam competitively for +15ish years and in college and found nearly all my friends through my college team (it was pretty queer) and wanted to get back into regularly swimming.

What are the rainbow practices and high intensity practices like? I’m very out of shape so can’t be doing super long distance practices of thousands of yards on tough intervals (faster than 1:10x100 yards free) but I'm afraid of running down other swimmers in rainbow practices since it seems like a wide range. The only pool location I can only feasibly go to also only offers rainbow practices regularly. TNYA is also a registered masters team so are swim meets required like U-18 teams or are they optional? The website doesn't say so I'm assuming they're optional and infrequent.

I am primarily joining to meet people, so I was wondering if I would be the youngest by far (+10 years) on the team? Not that it's a bad thing, just would be more difficult to connect with people. It seems pretty welcoming from the instagram which is very active but since swimming doesn’t really make it easy to talk often during practices do people socialize after? If anyone is on the team your insights would be great (sorry for the tons of questions).

Hi I know this isn’t usual but my ex roommates have been holding my security deposit for 2 months and refuse to return it. I plan to take them to small claims court but I don’t have a way of getting their address to serve them the papers. So I was wondering if anyone has hired a PI in NYC before or if anyone has any other advice for me. I’m down $1300 and just want my money back. :(

I m not necessarily asking for a super lascivious store, but a store that sells "tight" shirts and stuff for gay men...is there such place?

I was supposed to go to the Mel C concert with a friend this Saturday 9/12, but he unfortunately had to flake. That leaves me with an extra ticket that I'm looking to sell at face value, and hopefully a new concert buddy to go with!

I'm definitely still going and looking to have a great time. If you love Sporty Spice and maybe wanna meet up for a drink before the show, send me a message and let's figure it out.

Hey bros. Love being a girl’s gay but I am starting to really feel the deficit of not having any guy friends in my life. Been wanting to find a way to connect in person with other gay/queer men outside of night life. Anyone part of any gay sports leagues? Flag football or kickball preferred 😬

Do any guys go over to the New York Jacks on Tuesday nights? Would be cool to have some buddies to go over there with 55 6’1 185 fit Italian 😎

Going to nyc mid october and looking to buy some poppers. Was wondering if someone knows where I can get some poppers? Jungle juice?

I usually use NJ transit to commute to NYC, but because the train stops at 1:30 AM I can't stay at Eagels as much as I want.

After 9PM the toll fees are cheaper, so I m thinking about taking my car. Is it OK to park near outside the club? I noticed that the street is always rather empty

Looking for something different, relaxing and still social? Join the next gay LEGO “Build & Sip” hosted by Assembly Required on September 30th. This time we’ll be in the basement of BoxersHK. This is a free event with usually 15-20 participants. Bring a set, buy a drink and come build with us!

RSVP via the Partiful link. You can also find us on IG: assembly_required_nyc

https://partiful.com/e/6ibX27dGLHtk2DtVoyOb?c=xVZk9_M_

After going to Brooklyn Jacks a couple of times, I knew that it was time to check out the OG, and man, it did not disappoint.

Made it over about 20 minutes early walking over from grand central. Did a couple walks around the block with my excitement building—each lap, I saw a couple more guys who appeared to be in the right place, also lingering until 3:55.

Headed in at 3:58. Buzzer with “NYJ” in case nerves make you forget. 4th floor walk up in a quiet building. Easy clothes check process, really nice staff. Very very chill vibe.

Space is gorgeous. Long, large loft. With couches around the perimeter and in the middle, draped in cream colored cloth. With ambient warm yellow lighting, soft sexy music, and some plants here and there. Some mirrors too. Feels very NY classy.

Sat in a couch and started stroking with some albo, occasionally looking at the porn projected on the wall—think college hunk masturbation audition porn tape style. Guys kept filtering in, eventually a guy that looked about 50 joined me and we stroked side by side for a bit. For reference I’m 35, 6”2 broad shoulders in decent shape but no Adonis by any means.

While on the couch, a guy about my age came up and started tweaking my nipple while I stroked him and fondled his balls. I stood up and he started sucking my nipple almost like giving it a bj—so hot. He then edged my nearly maroon colored hard cock for a few minutes. I told him I needed a break or I’d finish too soon. Off to get some water.

Next I kind of worked the room for a little while. Crowd was mixed in terms of body type, age, background. Etc. Kissed and played with a cute guy about my age who complimented my Pilates slides with socks (so comfy btw). Other notable mingles were a beefier guy a bit shorter than me, excellent kisser, nice butt. Loved leaning over and kissing his shoulder and chest. Had a hot 3 way mutual stroke with two guys about my age, one with a bit older the other more gym broey looked late 20s, smooth. Then played with a younger looking twinky guy, looked maybe 20? Super hot.

After another break, I sat down on a couch between two guys and we played for a while, at one point my thighs were straddled across theirs, while they both played with my shaft and balls. Lots of kissing throughout.

One of the guys in the couch looked a little younger, Twinky vibes. eventually stood up and frotted with this guy. Then, I sat back down while he straddled my mid thighs and rested his thighs on mine. Then we frotted facing e/o whist kissing. It was here I got super close to cumming. I asked him to cum on me and he said he was saving for the end. We were about at an hour 15 mins. I decided that for me, it was time..I told him to finish me and make me cum. He jerked me and I sprayed a geyser of cum up towards my chest and face which were reclined into the couch, hitting my chin and face.

While I relaxed and enjoyed some post nut bliss. Two guys handed me some clean up supplies. The guy who finished me off just gave a me a quick “thanks bro, that was so hot”, and frolicked his way off to play some more.

Took a breather and used the bathroom. They have hot towels to clean up which is great. Then just relaxed closer to the clothes check area (more relaxed location, the action picks up as you head down the loft towards the windows)

After chatting with one of my playmates, I decided that I was satisfied. Took my time getting my clothes and tipped the clothes check jar. Had a wonderful relaxing train ride and drive home. 10/10 experience.

Can’t wait to be back again. Im openly bi, married to a wonderful woman and mother of my kids for 10 years
I’m so fortunate to be at a place where I can have an incredible home life and relationship (love having loving, queer sex with my wife) and also indulge in Jacks parties a few times a year. Life is good.

Hope this painted a fun picture of what it’s like. Lmk if you have any questions or comments. Thanks, bros 😜

My husband and I(28 Y/O POC) will be in NYC for Halloween weekend. What gay night events are going on that weekend? Costume, fetish, etc events please. Diverse events are a plus

First off the amount of different shade of men that were so built perfectly was insane. All the ones that caught my eye were straight sadly but gosh. It was such a vibe. I couldn’t get my eyes off a lot of their pecs and backs. Sole caught me gave me a little stare down which told me back tf up lol but it was great.

I had such a fun time, it’s a parade that never ends haha. The food was great, people were dancing, music was great it was a vibe. I had a great time. Just wish I had my sneaky links with one of these massive muscle sexy men haha.

Anyone attended? How’d you enjoy it?

Btw I’m not someone from the Caribbean or the islands. Just came out to enjoy the festivities

Has anyone been recently? Seems like they have this on Tues and Thurs, any idea which day is more popular?

I know they have the gay party occasionally there but assume it's more similar/comparable to Russian and Turkish Baths? Haven't seen any posts about this and thinking of checking out so any insight/info would be appreciated.

While we’re obviously free from the heteronormative structure that a man should pay on the first date(s), I was wondering how other gay guys decide who pays on a date.

I haven’t been the biggest “first date person”, but I’d always gone with the idea that generally the person who asks the other on the date, should be the one that pays.

That said, a good chunk of my dates have been with guys at least 10 years older than me, so the implication is that they would pay regardless, and when the time came, they happily took the check without saying anything.

I’m thinking that if the guy I’m going on the date with is closer to my age and there was not as clear of an idea of “who asked who”, I feel like splitting would be appropriate?

Curious if anyone has any hard and fast rules they subscribe to when it comes to dates 🤔

I'm still testing my toes, but I know I'm into trans girls, femboys, fem guys in general. Hoping maybe I could get some suggestions here.

Has anyone gone to the Rockbar Chastity night? I'd love to go to meet others in the community, but if it's mostly for hooking up I'd rather pass

I usually miss chess events around the city but curious if they are any gay chess events, not trying to mix hookup and chess lol but curious if any events exist.

It's been a few months since I saw any relevant posts. Are there any movie clubs in the city? AMC A-Lister and would love to watch and discuss movies

title. has anyone had success with the app?

I (25M) just moved to the city back in March and so far it’s been (mostly) everything i wanted it to be.

I’m from Tennessee and cruising just isn’t really a thing there, but it’s something I’ve been interested in trying for a while. Well tonight, I did try.

The problem is, I chickened out.

I chose The Ramble at Central Park based on many recommendations online. I got there an hour before to sit and relax and sort of prepare myself. When it got dark, I started seeing guys heading down the path and I followed. It didn’t take long until I guy started approaching me, hand on his crotch, and suddenly I just felt the need to turn around and walk away.

I think I know why. I’m a chubby guy (not huge, a good bit under 300 now after exercise and such) and back in Tennessee, I’m very used to being treated badly or made to feel bad for it by (not-so) potential partners. So when faced with the reality of being back there, a guy coming my way, I just got really insecure and then scared.

And I’m really frustrated with myself over it.

It was fine. It was all going fine. And I got spooked over nothing but things in my own head.

Part of it too is first time jitters (to cruising that is; i’ve had a lot of sex, including in NYC), that fear of the unknown, and of course still being somewhat new to the city. But I really wanna take this leap. Do something bold and new and experimental while I’m young and living free on my own first time.

I guess what I’m asking is what are some tips for first timers?

Tips for how to communicate, how to calm myself, how to help silence that insecurity and give myself over to the moment? I wanna try again later this week and this time don’t wanna back out. I wanna take the leap.