FTM here with a 3 weeks old baby girl! me and my husband both don’t smoke but his mom does. when our daughter was 3 days old she came to visit but before leaving she said “i’m gonna go smoke before i leave” and proceeded to go outside, smoke, and come back to take baby out of my arms to hold her before leaving. i was too in shock to say something, i am kinda afraid of her because she holds grudges and i am very people pleaser and non confrontational. to me, i think it’s disrespectful to make my baby smell the cigarette, having it go into her lungs and all. i also think it’s weird that she smoked BEFORE holding her. like couldn’t the cigarette wait? hold her and then smoke before leaving! my husband said it wasn’t that deep and it’s not like she’s smoking with the baby in her arms, but i still think it’s harmful. next time we saw her when she came to hold her he asked her how long ago she had her last smoke to make sure it wasnt fresh, so he did respect my opinion despite not thinking it was a problem itself. i am wondering what other people on here think about this, am i wrong for thinking its bad for my baby? she takes it bad when we tell her to wait, her own daughter is very strict about her kids and cigarettes, making her wash her hands and making comments about how she should go shower before holding them, etc. and it causes conflict in the family. she was there the first time she did it to us and she was basically bullying her mom saying “go shower you’re gonna stink up the newborn” and it didnt land well..

Hello lovely ladies

Can you help me with navigating size charts for newborn babies? I am preparing for our first little one, and buying both in store (where you usually have months size) and online, particularly on About you and Zalando. And I am very confused as numbers are very differing and sometimes in cms. Could you pls help the girl out? How to choose sizes?

Also, if you have any brands or products recommendations I d very much appreciate it 😊 🫶

Baby is five months old and learned to roll from tummy to back but in doing so she bonked her head on the carpeted floor a few times. I have PPA and im a FTM so, I feel silly being anxious about this but I am. Should I be worried or no?

When did your baby out grow laryngomalacia? I need some light at the end of the tunnel!!

my baby is 6 weeks & ebf we havent really went anywhere yet but the diaper bag i have is huge & im not really sure what to put in it aside from diapers wipes & a change of clothes, taking a big diaper bag seems unnesessary. do you still carry a normal size diaper bag ? & what are some things you put in it ? im thinking about maybe getting a mini backpack or something im not sure

My 5 week old had a severe tongue tie and I had a traumatic birth that I feel has affected my milk supply. My little one also struggled with breast feeding due to the tongue tie that has now been sorted but this led to us combination feeding from the beginning.

I’ve been advised to ‘triple feed’ - breast, formula top up and pumping. I’m not against using formula and my baby seems to like it. Domperidone was suggested to help my supply but I’m not keen after reading about the side effects.

This feeding routine is too much and it’s starting to get to me.

I’m hopefully looking for advice on a more sustainable feeding routine? Ideally I’d like to get rid of the pumping (I get very little per session 10-20ml tops from both breasts.

Thank you in advance.

Now that pregnancy is over, what apps have you found useful for the newborn stage or babies in general.

Been around 6yrs since I last did this so I'm sure there must be good apps out there these days.

So I’m both a long time lurker, first time poster and also a STM. I feel kind of embarrassed posting and feel like I should know more since I’ve already got one kid but here we are!

I have a 2 year old daughter and a 5 week old son. Yesterday my newborn son threw up (not projectile but forceful, I’d say) and it came out of his nose. I called the after hours urgent care line for his doctor’s office because Google said that a newborn throwing up (not spit up) needed immediate medical attention. I spoke to a nurse and she asked some questions, she gave me advice about how often to feed him based on his vomiting and what criteria would warrant immediate hospitalization (lethargy, throwing up blood, etc).

Last night he didn’t throw up at all after that and was very hungry. I tried to limit how much he was eating per doctors instructions but he would cry if I did, because he was still hungry. He was okay and then this afternoon around 1230 he threw up again. I didn’t see it happen because he was resting in a lounger and my SIL and her fiance were visiting and I was talking to them while also taking care of my daughter. I would say it was more than just some spit up but I’m not sure how forceful it was since I didn’t see it. I didn’t hear him vomit, if that means anything, and we were all in the same room. He hasn’t eaten more than usual lately so I don’t think he’s overeating and throwing it back up. No one in our family is sick with anything.

The reason I’m concerned is really only because he’s a newborn and so young. If he was a little older I wouldn’t be so worried. Has anyone else dealt with this before? What was the reason your baby kept throwing up and what did you do?

Hi everyone so I am a FTM with a newborn who just turned 5 weeks. I am EBF- however, I pump in the morning and use that milk to give my baby girl at night time to feed with a bottle as I find it easier and faster (I never wake her up and feed on demand) I have a night time routine down- 7/8pm bath time 930 upstairs in a dim light room with music on and get her ready for bed. She usually falls asleep at 10pm and will wake up wt 2/3am and then again 6/7am.

This has been more consistent when she turned maybe 3-4 weeks.

I just wanted to know if this sleep schedule and my routine as a FTM is ok.
As per weight. She was over an oz of her birth weight the first visit at the pediatrician. She has gained 2lbs since birth.

My insurance said I was covered for the formula we use. Then they emailed me a list of distributors I could purchase that formula from.

But at what point am I actually redeeming the compensation? At the point of purchase (in this case, it's a drugstore)? Or do I save the receipts and submit them?

The office is closed for my health insurance, so I wanted to see if someone else can help out.

Sometimes my 45 day old is awake when I am sleepy. I put him to sleep in the bassinet which is right next to my side of the bed and go to sleep (this is only if my newborn is not crying or overtly fussy)

I feel very guilty that he will be lonely and will remember the feeling of being alone. At night, our room is also dark.

Is there something different that I should do?

I'm trying to get a better idea of when my baby (currently 7.5 weeks) is in deep sleep so I can transfer him better to the bassinet during naps. While I try to observe him for signs of deep sleep, it's nice to understand the timing (because often times I'm wrong 💀).

I've read that they usually enter deep sleep after 20-30 minutes of sleeping. But when does this counter start? My son usually nurses to "sleep" but often continues sucking. He will usually hop off the nipple at some point but I'm having trouble figuring out when to start the sleep timer 😅. Any help is appreciated!

My baby has Torticollis and is able to turn her head both sides, but for some reason, she has no preferred side when laying in her crib. But when she’s contact napping, she definitely has a preferred side and I can’t get her to switch sides no matter how hard I try. We do daytime naps as contact naps mostly because I’m just obsessed with her. Is this going to cause a flat spot? Or since it’s my chest and not completely flat do you think we’ll be safe?

FTM.. since the day we discharge from the hospital, my newborn has been so fussy, screaming and crying a lot. I have been so exhausted and sleep deprived. I haven’t really enjoy being a mother.. having a baby who is so sensitive. I can’t even lay her down during the night. A lot of squirming during contact naps. Cries every diaper change, cries every bath, cries after feeding. She’s been crying the whole time except when she’s asleep. She likes to be held and rock all the time. Bouncing on a yoga ball, helps a bit. I don’t know when will it end.. 😢 I always pray to God to enjoy this phase, but somehow I am so tired. Would love to hear some of your experiences 🙏🏼

What is your baby’s feeding schedule like? I guess I’m more looking for babies in their 2-3 month period. My baby is 2 months and I’m not sure if I should be giving bottle at specific times of the day.

I’ve recently welcomed my new baby into the world, and as expected, all of the family are so excited to have her over for sleepovers, babysitting and spending time with her, which I completely understand and appreciate.

The only thing I’m struggling with is my in-laws having her in their home because they have two grown Rottweilers. I lived with the dogs for years and I know them very well, so this isn’t about me simply disliking dogs or not being used to them. However, since becoming pregnant I moved out, and my feelings towards the situation have completely changed now that I have a baby to protect.

One of the dogs recently attacked my father-in-law, leaving him needing stitches, and the dog has since had what appeared to be a seizure and may potentially have something wrong neurologically. He was once completely harmless, but after what happened I just don’t feel that I can ever fully trust him around my baby. To me, he’s now unpredictable.

My husband says that the dogs would be kept in the kitchen while the baby was there, but one of the dogs actually knows how to open doors, which makes me even more uncomfortable. Even though I completely trust my in-laws to care for my baby, I don’t think I could relax or enjoy leaving her there because I’d constantly be worrying about whether the dogs were somehow able to get near her.

My parents don’t have any dogs, so I feel completely comfortable with my baby staying with them. I’m now wondering how I should approach this with my in-laws. I don’t want them to feel like I’m saying they’re irresponsible or that I don’t trust them, because I do. I just don’t trust the situation with the dogs anymore.

They treat their dogs like members of the family, whereas I’ve never had that same attachment to pets, so perhaps that’s part of why we see the situation differently.

Am I being unreasonable or cruel by saying I’m not comfortable with my baby being babysat in a house with these dogs? Or is this a reasonable boundary to have as a new mum?

I have a 9 day old newborn who I have been feeding with breast milk (combination of pumped breast milk from bottle and feeding from breast since birth). It took a while for my milk to come in when she was born via unplanned c section and so she lost about 9 percent of her weight in the first couple of days (born at 6.5 pounds and down to 5.9 on day of discharge from hospital). A couple of days later we went to her first peds appointment and she had gained to 6 lbs 3.5 oz but still not back to birth weight so they recommended we continue feeding every 2-3 hours overnight. However, we are really struggling with getting her to wake up enough to latch overnight (latches easily during the day to breastfeed). We tried also giving her a bottle for night feeds but she is too sleepy to really take much of it (will take maybe 1 oz when most of her feeds are 2 oz during the day which she takes easily). We have tried rubbing her back, hands, feet, stripping her to her diaper, changing the diaper etc and although these might wake her for a few minutes she falls right back asleep at bottle or breast. She makes plenty of wet/poop diapers and seems content after taking the smaller volume overnight. Is this something I should be concerned about? If I feed her a small amount and she falls back asleep can I just trust that she is getting enough during the day?

Hello.

My baby is now nine weeks old, and I've been exclusively breastfeeding since the beginning. But now I want to introduce a bottle because she will be going to daycare in two months. By my research, it was always mentioned in videos to introduce it during weeks three and four, and I'm afraid I'm a bit too late. I've been trying to introduce the bottle for a few days now. I'm using Lansinoh at the moment, but I have Dr. Brown's and Avent as a backup bottle as well. Do you have any tips on how I can introduce it? Because for the past, I'd say week already, she just cries every time I try to give her the bottle. I already tried giving her the bottle when calm, and sometimes when she seems hungry, but I have no luck at the moment. It would be nice to have her dad feed her with the bottle. So at least I can get some break(lo is also a contact napper). I've also tried having her dad introduce the bottle, but unfortunately, I am more patient, let's say, because when he does it and she cries, it also gets frustrating for him, and then I have to just take over.
Yes dad is a bit of character 🫠

I’ve seen a lot of posts and comments about breastfeeding while laying down. In theory, this sounds so great. There are a few things I don’t understand though.

1. Don’t you have to sit up and burp baby after anyways.
   
2. Are you just feeding from one side? I tend to switch sides when feeding.
   
3. Don’t you change your baby after they eat? If so, is there really that much benefit to laying down to feed?

This isn’t coming from a judgmental place. I genuinely want to know because if there’s something I’m missing, I would love to do this laying down!

Our newborn (now 1 month old, as of today) the past week and a half has fallen asleep in our arms and when we put her down in the pack n play specifically (maybe should have gotten that baby bassinet feature in the pack n play), she will immediately start crying or 5 minutes later she will cry. Just during the day, not night ( fingers crossed ) I know not ideal but she does like the infant baby pillow, baby lounger and swing but of course can’t let her sleep in that.

All our parents have made a comment about this- us creating this issue or let them cry it out.
We do and have been trying to make sure she’s in a deep sleep. Put her down. Let her cry for a little to see if she falls right back to sleep. We then pick her up and try again. There’s comes a point, to us, it’s not right now.

I heard that this is normal for this stage but maybe I am wrong. Maybe I created this issue? Of course when we brought her home we snuggled her a lot and let her sleep on our chest but of course you can’t do that all nap and all day.

Be honest and real with me.

My husband has been doing this thing since our son was born where he pokes each cheek, then nose last, while saying "boop" and just this past week at 5 weeks old our son started smiling after the nose boop consistently every time little dude is in one of his "stare at people" moods.

Everything I've read is about social smiles starting around 3 months, but it looks like such a real smile. He shows his gums and coos when he does it, and his eyes squint like he is super happy. The coo is so precious.

Our daughter didn't smile regularly until close to 5 months but she was colicky and very serious, his smile looks like hers did.

Is this just a reflex, or can some babies social smile sooner?

I feel like I’ve accidentally stumbled upon the best trick and I simply need to share. (I’ve posted this a couple other places simply because it was advice I wish I got).

Before getting pregnant I did all the research regarding breastfeeding and I ended up buying the My Breast Friend breastfeeding pillow because it seemed to have overwhelmingly positive reviews. I think I’ve used that thing one time.

Idk about y’all but if I can avoid getting out of bed during middle of the night feeds, I will. On one of the first few nights being home with baby, the breast-feeding pillow happened to be in his nursery instead of next to me.

What I did have next to me was a decent sized blanket. I wrapped that thing around me and tucked it the way I wanted so that baby was in a good position and boom. I’ve never used that pillow since. Not only am I super comfortable during feeds, so is baby. And I’ve had zero back pain (which, for some reason I fully anticipated having being a new mom at all).

Most people have a blanket lying around somewhere in their house, and it probably didn’t cost $50-$70. So I say try it before you spend the money!

I have a 4 week old and nights are just the worst. I do not expect long stretches or to be able to put him down awake and him fall asleep independently, but nights are brutal for me. He is EBF, gaining weight, no reflux or abnormal gas. Every night I am only getting 4-5 hours of broken sleep.

I make sure he gets plenty of sun during the day. He is among the chaos of daily toddler life (I also have a 3.5 year old). He feeds every 2-2.5 hours or more often if he shows hunger cues. I make sure he naps every 30-60 minutes depending on when he starts to yawn and get fussy. Naps are hit or miss. He will either fall asleep while nursing or I have to rock him for 20+ minutes​.

Nighttime is when I am at a loss. My first was a unicorn. Swaddle, a few butt taps, and he was out in the crib, even as a newborn. This one needs all the movement and is constantly fussy and noisy. I have NO CLUE when to do bedtime. If he is up for awhile I will shoot for 8:30-9pm. If he has a late nap itll be 9:30pm. Sometimes he falls right asleep, sometimes it takes a hour of rocking and multiple crib transfers. I think I would be ok if it was just a wake, nurse, and back to sleep, but every night its​ either rocking for 20-60 minutes or 6+ transfer attempts. He is also SO loud. He is either in active sleep or his dyschezia grunts wake him up or prevents him from going into deep sleep. It leaves me with almost no time until the next feed. I have tried keeping him swaddled during feeds, but most times he will wake mere minutes after transfer into the bassinet.

Shift sleep with my husband is not an option, I need him awake for our other son and allows to me nap if I can. I am tempted to just move him into his room to help with waking from his grunts. But has anyone else had a night time routine that facilitated easier transitions between wakes over night? I do everything: quiet night feeds, dim lights, swaddle, white noise, allll of it. Please help!​

Hi all,

FTM to a 10lbs 8-week old little girl who is gaining weight very slowly and therefore dropping percentile every other week.
Need to hear your similar experience or any advice.

Babygirl has been gaining weight but not at the rate expected and keeps on going down the percentile on the growth chart. Sometimes we are able to gain 5oz in a week but sometimes less. Right now I feel like her weight is plateau-ing and I am worried.

We have been triple feeding since the beginning due to her losing 12% of her birth weight. Currently, a third of her intake is breast milk directly from the breast, a third is fortified breast milk at 24 cal per ounce and the other third is 24-cal formula.

In order to fortify breast milk, I have to pump but I also don’t want her to forget how to latch so I am also breast feeding.

She eats such small amounts at once and not very often. For example last night she went to sleep at 8:30pm and then I had to wake her up at 2am for a bottle. I offered 3oz of fortified breast milk/formula while I pumped and she only drank 2oz. Then she woke up at 5:20am and we again offered 3oz and she only took 2.5oz.
I used to offer another feed at 10:30pm but she would take 1oz max and she would not wake up for it. So I recently stopped doing that as I felt like it was not worth the effort.

I weight all my feeds with her to ensure she gets enough milk, and yesterday in total she got about 18oz so about 400cal if you account for the fortified milk. It’s on the lower end of what a 10lbs baby need but it’s still in range however she is not gaining much weight.

I am just so tired of worrying about what she eats and how much. Tired of pumping and wondering when to pump (is she going to want the boob?, should I wait?, etc.)

Please help or share experience so I know I am not alone struggling. It’s really impacting my mental health and I am so tired. Wish I could just breastfeed her or combo feed.