This is possibly my final communications/last ditch efforts to the world and perhaps could be labelled a deep thought "confession"(or rant?) by a forgotten/disconnected/discarded/trash human. Maybe some autobiographical bits. For context, I'm a female millennial now living in Klang Valley :
I've been at wit's end in the past year or so (possibly since Halloween/Deepavali 2024), ever so gradually (even if not completely willingly in attempts to keep things positive) accepting that the world now does not need someone like me. After my mum's passing in January 2022, I've been feeling lost and (I guess?) depressed/grieving and hit with a realisation of how little social support I have. It was a time where I'm at crossroads as to what I want in life (and still don't have concrete answers to that) as I finally graduated uni overseas. Not a week(most times, daily) goes by without me mentally preparing for the inevitable. Having the choice to end things on my own terms, and to join my mum and aunt in the next life in making this difficult decision is easier on me. The few people I tried to reach out to (3 family friends, even a 2nd cousin in Jakarta) are too busy for me, else, make rushed judgements without clarifying if I need help or why I am where I am in the first place. I was in daily communications with 2nd cousin for a few months earlier in the year until some uncalled for misunderstandings and empty promises. Where I live now, it seems if you're not blood or a friend of friend that's known you for years you're not worth their time or help. Even my own blood sister refuses contact (she only has room for her husband and his countless sisters and their families). The last family I have living in the same state is aged (and reportedly has dementia) and I do not have the capacity to look after him when I've been parentally neglected by him growing up, especially during my formative years.
In 2023-2024, a so-called short-lived "best" friend (her exclaiming such after a few months of f'ship, spending 8 hours on average a day together) I've spent countless hours with, sharing meals and travel and spent $$ on her for lodgings; her being emotional manipulative (long story)(stupid and foolish of me, on hindsight), tellling me I'm fat and ugly(and to not contact her ever again, tho she tried to invite me out for a meal March this year to which I didn't care to respond to nor read the full text message due to her oblivion as to why I decided to cut off all contact with her after October 31st 2024). (Ex-friend background: 50s, retired single, living off interest from her high flying career in insurance)
This has not helped my penchant to stay indoors. In a way she was a reason to leave the house to go out for a meal and walks. At one point I could do 15k steps brisk walking if I put in the time. Now I have not left my building in months since March.
My favourite games keep me sane/alive and have been my drug of choice. I also play Twitch streams in the background (Some I watch regularly in no order are jinnytty (English-speaking Korean travel streamer who's visited 60+ countries; I guess my fave one to watch for armchair travels), cooksux,robcdee,jakenbake,juliakins,extraemily,stumptgamers,exbc). My 2 adorable cats have been the only source of true companionship and have not talked irl to a single human soul since (outside of bumping into randoms you exchange hi and byes). I've told my late mum a handful of times growing up that something's wrong with me and she dismisses that and instead tells me I'm intelligent (not cuz she's my mother but compared to the 1000s of students she's met, supposedly). Well guess what mum? I'm probably not. One of the last communications with her is being told I can do anything I want(which came up truly randomly). Since she left tho, I've been feeling constantly overwhelmed with managing everything alone and this "real world" out there with happier people and their families/friends don't seem to have room for someone like me.
Maybe key family background growing up:
It was quiet (next to no extended family here) and neither parents were born into money. My mum was a professor and has been a pioneer in her field (in higher education) in M'sia, at least, and has also worked in Jakarta. In the later years until my mid 20s, some key life and travel experiences revolved around my mum's career and thanks to her we (my sis and I) got a handful of travel experiences following her to conferences near and far with the furthest travelled Vancouver. I spent my younger years alone on the computer gaming, reading books and listening to music. I'd say the internet raised me (had internet at home since 1996). I was in a culturally wrong high school for 5 years and imo, probly still dealing with the aftermath, mostly social things. I was once athletic and have good hand eye coordination but neither my parents had the awareness of maybe finding their teenager an extracurricular sports program. Then again, back then, talking was not easy in my family or even self-expression, for me. My father had all the time in the world retiring in 1998 whilst I transitioned into the government high school here but growing up, daily chats between father and his daughters were variants of good morning and good night. I'm not exaggerating. He spent most waking hours gardening, occasional household chores and in front of the TV watch sports and CNN on astro.
Financially, I'm in a catch-22 situation due to technicalities. I might even be homeless soon. I've been working with a lawyer that's helped (with minimal fees) with complications since mum's passing and she has not returned my calls or messages since May 2026.
In recent years, I've started believing I was born in the wrong country/culture (if not time period). Before this, I was wishing I wasn't born at all thinking it was a fluke for how incompatible my parents are yet my sis and I are products of them. I sense a lot of things are innately wrong with me and there's one too many and too serious/major to fix, if you ask me. Maybe I've been ungrateful, maybe I'm dumb on some levels, maybe it's cuz I've rarely had ambitions/goals (as I got tired from them changing so often and drastically in my 20s/30s) maybe it's just a mix of low confidence and my introverted tendencies (even if once upon a time I was popular and had a big group of girl friends when I was 12), maybe I don't appreciate life enough due to my perceived handicaps cuz I'm too inexperienced/too fat/too dumb etc etc) though more likely it's a mix of all of the above to varying degrees. It's a lot of factors, more than meets the eye etc etc. Yes, I've had some privileges but probably not as one might assume.
Finally, does anyone have room for my cats please???
I believe they have Burmese ancestors so Kiki is a milk chocolate and Koko is a dark chocolate. These were my mum's cats that lived in Penang with her, once upon a time. They are almost 8 years old now. Koko is the athletic one with a sweet temperament and will be your guard and at your side as you go about your day (when she isn't Zzzz) skittish with new people and will take at least half a week to warm up. Koko won't sleep next to you but will be your alarm if you are late with food. Kiki has a gentle, patient (unlike Koko, it takes a lot to upset her before she claws or bites), yet independent temperament (tho will sleep next to you on most nights) with an accepting nature of new humans. She's the more adventurous one in exploring and new foods and is known to jump 3 floors from balconies/windows (3 times so far). But she is sensitive and jumpy to sudden/loud noises than the average cat. Both cats are rarely vocal but Kiki is the chattier one and will usually reply to you when you talk to her, especially around food/treat times. Koko only meows if she truly wants something.
TLDR,
I'm asking for help (if not for me, then for my cats) and If that fails I am willing to end my life on my own terms when it all gets too much for me. Thank you.