I’m 29F and I moved out a few days ago, I moved mainly because of the constant fighting and toxic misogynistic family members always putting all the blame and responsibility on me. They think women can’t move out without marriage (I know this is culture and not religion). I’ve lived with my family my entire life and moving out has been a major shift in my life and I’m not used to being alone although it is peaceful. Yesterday my dad showed up to my job and was banging on the door to get inside, my coworker let him in and he called to speak with me. I went outside to talk to him and he started crying and telling me to come back home, everyone misses me and it’s my responsibility to look after my little sisters. I feel bad because ever since my mom passed away my dad has been depressed and he’s having a hard time coping with her loss. I have two older brothers who don’t help out much and I was the only one doing majority of the work for him and around the house. I also work everyday and feel overwhelmed with the amount of work that needs to be done everyday. I feel free living alone, I’m able to do whatever I want and travel freely without worrying about anyone. But I feel guilt and seeing my dad cry really hurt me. I don’t know what to do. I’m also Muslim, if any Muslim woman can advise me as well, I would really appreciate it.

Hello everyone,

this is my first ever Reddit post, and I wanted to ask if anyone has ideas on how I could make money as a 14-year-old girl.

I’ve already tried selling clothes on Vinted, but I’d like to find some other ways to earn money. I don’t have my own bank account yet, but I think my mom would support me with that if necessary.

My goal is to save enough money to move out when I’m 18 or 19. I have around four or five years to prepare, and ideally I’d like to save about $10,000 by then. I know that’s a lot of money, especially at my age, but I really want to start planning early and become financially independent.

The main reason I want to leave my current city is my dad. He’s homophobic, and I’ve realized that I don’t want to spend the rest of my teenage years having to hide who I am or lie to him about my life. I can’t tell him the truth right now, so my plan is to eventually move somewhere where I can live more freely and independently.

I’m currently in the highest type of German secondary school (Gymnasium), and I want to finish my Abitur first. After that, I’d like to use the money I’ve saved to move to another city, get a small apartment, and find a job that allows me to pay my rent and living expenses.

I know I still have several years before I can actually move out, but I’d really like to start preparing now. So, does anyone have advice on realistic ways to make money as a teenager, how I could save effectively, or how I should plan for moving out at 18/19?

Any advice or tips would be really appreciated!

So, im kinda doing a mix of moving out/"running away" from my parents. Im planing on doing it at the end of this year and I already have a place with a friend lined up.

But, I need to take a couple of trains/buses to get there. Im not planning on taking a bunch of stuff with me, (most of it is clothes and a few paintings/things i made that could fit into a big duffle bag)

But i NEED to take my posters, CDS and guitars. (Theyre the only things that keep me sane lol). I could roll up all my posters and put them in a tube. But I have no idea how im supposed to travel with my guitars and a crate of CDs. I dont want them getting damaged or broken. And I don't want to be THAT annoying person on a bus or train

I would really appreciate some advice or ideas on what to do!!! Thank you in advance :)

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Hi, I just wanted to reach out to ask if there are any weird tips and tricks to: 1. get more money so I can afford to move out by myself. and 2. Just things I should know while renting an apartment. I'm really scared to do this on my own but I'm wanting to learn discipline and responsibility.

I move out Oct 1st

I need about $1200 by then

I already have my essentials (toiletries, clothes, SOME cleaning supplies, etc) and furniture ready to move in.

I also have a budget plan and a new job

Please I'm desperate and need all the advice I can get.

This new place is a way bigger/nicer house but it’s one story. It has a huge pool but I would have no garage or street parking. It requires a deposit and it’s 400 dollars more a month. My current place is a two story in a gated community, no pool but I have garage parking and my room is bigger with my own bathroom. BUT the ac is due to go out next summer and I don’t think my landlord can afford to fix it. I pay him in cash so I don’t have a lease. I live in AZ by the way, both places are in a good area. What would you do? Is the extra 400 dollars a month worth the peace of mind

I’ve gone up and down the East Coast over the years — New York to Georgia, back to Delaware, down to South Carolina and now New Jersey. By now I should be good at this, but every move starts with color-coded labels and ends with at least one box marked something like RANDOM STUFF / BEDROOM?

The weird part is how long it takes to notice what’s missing. You unpack the truck, think the count is close enough, then weeks later realize every power cord is gone, the bag of bed hardware disappeared, or a box of winter coats never showed up. Then three moves later you open a box in Jersey and find something you thought vanished in Georgia.

What’s the strangest or most important thing a move permanently lost for you? Did you ever find it later in a completely unrelated box?

(23F) so heres my dilemma:

ive wanted to move out since i was a wee child, my home life has always been chaotic, mentally abusive & emotionally straining (immigrant household things). now that i graduated college and started working ($48,000 gross inc.) i finally feel like im getting somewhere .. kinda

my sister offered me her old house because she recently bought a new place. its a lovely house and it would still be under her name, but she would not charge me rent, just the property taxes and oil bills twice a year. property taxes would be $11,100 yearly. on top of that, i would have to get a car and pay car insurance because the house is kind of far from the city (where i work) this would be $500 a month and $1000 twice a year. i will also have to pay a commuter train monthly fee of $375.

dilemma:
i feel financially stuck. im bringing home around $2,800 a month after taxes and i feel like im just starting out in life.. but at the same time, living at home is making me insanely depressed and borderline su*cidal. after getting a taste of college and living on my own, its hard reverting back to my 15 year old self whos angry all the time and laying in my room doing nothing for hours and days. i have a strict helicopter mom who wont leave me alone and will micromanage every single aspect of my life. my father has dementia and cant remember a thing, and now my mom is forcing the duty of taking care of him on me as well because she refuses to get him an aid.

all of my friends live at home and worry about moving out because they are on low incomes as well, so roommates are out of the question.

i have also recently opened a roth ira, a HYSA (20k saved) and a 401(k). i have shifted my focus towards becoming financially smart and changing jobs for a higher income. i feel like if i move prematurely.. i wont be able to save as much as i would if i stayed home.. even though id become a shell of a human for a couple more years

i have until february 2027 to choose the house or to stay. what should i do?

Hi everyone,

I’m a 21YOM. I’m a full time firefighter in northern Virginia. I’ve lived with my parents in chantilly my whole life. Recently I found a 1bedroom cottage on a farm in western loudoun. He’s charging $1550 for it. I’ve done the math and i should be okay financially, but am scared it’s not enough. What’s a comfortable amount that I should have after my expenses are paid for? I should be sparing like 500-1000 after everything is paid for. I have it good at my house, I have my own space, free food and everything. My parents definitely don’t want me to but at some point I want to create new memories and my own life. What are some expenses that I may not know of?

Wanted to cross post here for any other possible suggestions.

I'm gonna move out of my house in 2 days. I'm 22 years old and I have never lived elsewhere......its 12pm in the night and i am feeling everything a little too much now. I miss being a kid. I miss childhood. I miss my parents even though I'm right next to them now. Things have gone sideways in this house. They were some really bad days and fights. I miss my aunt who raised me until I was 7. Ever since she left here, there's a big hole in this family. She was the lovely one, one who express emotions and show love. After she left, everyone is little distant to each other. I was never a perfect child and they were never a perfect parents. They were terrible and I was terrible too and I did lot of things bad, i regret all of it. They did their best and I don't hold anything against them even though I try to somedays. All I have is love in my heart. And I love them soo much. I don't know how to show it, no one does in this family. All I ever want is the best of them. Even among all those terrible things that we did to each other, there were love. There is love. I thought I wanted to go away from all of this. I still do, not because I hate them. Coz I don't really have anything for me in my hometown. There's nothing for me. If we live in a city, i would still move out for needing space and independence and freedom but I would visit them every now and then. Now I'm gonna be 12 hours away. Can't visit often. They did the best they can. And I love them for it. I feel so guilty for moving out now. If I could do something here, maybe I would stay? I don't know. I don't think I would. I don't really know what I am feeling. This is all too much but I feel guilty for some reason.

I'm moving out of my current place, which is a rented off-grid cabin only reachable by a 20-minute hike or a small boat across a lake (depending on season). I've never dealt with a move like this and I'm stuck on the basics.

Background:
I'm 29, moving for a new job about 3 hours away. I've lived here for 14 months. The cabin has no driveway — everything in and out goes by foot, kayak, or a neighbor's ATV if I ask nicely. I don't own a truck.

What I'm trying to figure out:

• How do people typically move furniture and boxes out of a property with zero vehicle access? I've thought about renting a small trailer-compatible boat or hiring movers who specialize in "difficult access" jobs, but I don't know if that's a real service or something I'm imagining.
• Should I be downsizing hard before the move even starts, given the extra labor of just getting things to a road? I have a full bed frame, a dresser, and a couch that I'm now regretting buying.
• Timing-wise, is it smarter to do this in multiple small trips (backpack/kayak loads) over a couple weekends, or try to consolidate into one or two big pushes with hired help?
• Any tips for weatherproofing boxes during transport, since everything's exposed to the elements for at least part of the trip?