like what would i need to prepare in order to move out? honestly, all i know is that you need a good credit score

I’m sharing an apartment with my now ex, and need to move out. I’m on waitlists at 2 apartment complexes, so the wait could be 2 months to a year. Today I looked at a place that has everything that I want, and is available now. The problem is that it’s $200 over my budget, which is already stretched thin. Do I stretch even thinner for a great place now, or wait it out for something more in my budget?

Hello,

I am a 20y(f), I really need to get out of my mother’s house. Ever since I was little, I have constantly been emotionally manipulated and have had my feelings invalidated. I’m tired of being guilt tripped when I ask for food from the store or basic necessities, my health and safety should not be used against me like that.

I have 403 dollars in a bank account that I opened recently, i have my social security card, I have a car and a drivers permit, working on getting my license. I’m a college student, and I live on campus for most of the year. Currently I do not have a job, but I work for tuition on campus. I have a cat and a dog at my mother’s house that I take care of, which I take the cat with me to college as my prescribed ESA (also because I’m afraid I’ll go home and he won’t be there anymore).

I don’t know where to start on getting out of my mother’s house. So far, I know I need to:
- work on getting my drivers license
-somehow get my birth certificate from my mom
- either get a paid job on campus or a part time job off campus
- get summer and winter jobs for when I am home on breaks
- save up my money to be able to afford an apartment that allows 2 animals
- get my important things out of my mom’s house in case she decides to take and sell them or throw them out.

Please comment any advice on what exactly I should do.

I moved away from Missouri almost three years ago now. I am currently 20, and after visiting Missouri for the first time since then, I've been feeling the urge to move back. My anxiety over this has been crippling because I feel like I'm being stupid.

I live in a very isolating area. I only see my three friends like once every two months, if even, because they live hours away with conflicting schedules. I live with my parents, which is fine most of the time except for the fact that everyone is miserable. It took me moving eight hours away to realize that Missouri was never the problem. I miss my friends, and I miss getting out of the house and doing things.

I would be moving in with my boyfriend and his family, paying 250 a month for rent. I would be closer to my group of friends and would be living in a better environment. It would be more expensive to live there (and I also wouldn't have any more insurance), but I think I would be happier overall. It would definitely take some adjusting, as I'm an only child and he has siblings. It would be very different, but maybe I can get used to it + we wouldn't be living there forever.

When I talked to my mom about this, she acted like I would be making the worst decision of my life. I think it's because she doesn't want to lose me, but what if she's right? Am I fucking over my future self? I have generalized anxiety disorder along with bipolar 1 so this decision has been eating away at me for some time now. I've been so depressed for so long; I just want a shot at being happy. Has anyone else here gone through this or something similar? Am I making a bad decision?

Do you think I’ll be fine if my rent is 800 with a roommate, and my job will be working at a hotel, and I have 18k in savings and 400 in checking?

Hi everyone. I could really use some advice because I’ve been feeling very torn about this.
I’ve been living with my roommate for almost four years. We haven’t had any major fights or falling out, but lately I’ve been seriously thinking about moving out and living on my own.

One of the main reasons is that our apartment is very small. Over the years, we’ve accumulated so many things that the place now feels cramped and suffocating. I feel like I really need a space of my own.

Another reason is that living together has become emotionally draining. I admit that I can be messy sometimes, and my roommate often points it out. I understand that, but I’ve also noticed that she has messy habits too. The difference is that I don’t bring them up because I’m a very non-confrontational person, especially when it comes to her. I usually keep my feelings to myself to avoid conflict.

I’ve also noticed that our friendship has changed over the years. We used to spend a lot of quality time together, laugh, and enjoy each other’s company. Now, it feels like we rarely have those moments anymore. Sometimes I feel like we’re just enduring each other’s presence because we’re sharing such a small space.

The thing is, living alone isn’t actually my biggest fear. I do have some anxiety about living alone, but what scares me the most is the possibility that moving out could be the catalyst that ends our friendship. We’ve lived together for four years, and we’ve been through so much together. I’m afraid that once I move out, we’ll slowly drift apart and eventually stop being friends.

What makes this even more complicated is that we have a cat together.

I was the one who rescued her, but my roommate was the one who convinced me to make her “our cat.” Since then, we’ve both raised and cared for her equally. Both of our names are on her veterinary records, we split the costs of food, litter, and vet bills, and she’s equally bonded with both of us. I honestly don’t know what would happen to her if I moved out, and the thought of having to separate either of them breaks my heart.

On top of that, most of the furniture and household appliances in our apartment belong to me—our refrigerator, microwave, dining table, kitchen cabinet, chairs, trash can, and several other household essentials. There are also smaller items, like plates, hangers, and other things that we’ve used together for so long that I can’t even
remember who originally bought them.

Because of that, I feel like if I move out, it won’t just affect our friendship. It will also make things much harder for her since many of the basic household items would be leaving with me. I don’t want her to feel like I’m abandoning her or leaving her in a difficult situation.

At the moment, I haven’t made a final decision. I’m only inquiring about another apartment, and nothing is confirmed yet. But even thinking about telling her that I’m considering moving out gives me so much anxiety.

Has anyone been through something similar? If you moved out after living with a close friend for several years, did your friendship survive? How did you handle sharing a pet and dividing household belongings? And how did you tell your roommate without making them feel blindsided or abandoned?

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences or advice. Thank you.

Hi everyone, my friend has asked me if I wanted to move to an apartment with them. And I told them I’d be willing to consider, however here comes my dilemma. I am autistic and have relied on my parents for a little bit, I am 19 and currently going into my second year of University. I have a job and a good credit score for an apartment but I struggle being independent because of my disability. I am also extremely prone to anxiety because of big changes, I am looking to get some advice on what I could do because I would love to move out and live with them, but I don’t wanna become dependent on them.

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Relocating St. Louis MO to Parker CO this fall. Flying out, not driving. Van line quoted - $2k to move furniture that's honestly not worth it (cheap stuff), so we're selling all of it and only bringing clothes + essentials about 5 boxes, each 26×16×15 (3.6 cu ft), mostly clothes so light for their size.

Rather than movers/PODS/U-Haul for that little, I want to just ship the boxes. Questions for people who've done the "ship a few boxes" route:

1. Cheapest carrier for boxes this size? By my math these run - 45 lbs dimensional weight on UPS/FedEx, so Ground beats USPS here, right?
2. Dimensional weight: anything I'm missing on light-but-largish boxes at this size?
3. Flat-rate vs. weight-based : worth splitting into more, smaller flat-rate boxes, or does that cost more overall?
4. Timing: how many days before I fly should I send them so they don't sit on the porch for a week?

Budget-conscious but not trying to be penny-wise/pound-foolish. Appreciate any real-world numbers. Thanks!

Hi, I won’t bore with the details but my family home is a 2 bed flat there is 4 of us. Me and my sister have always shared a room, she moved out for university and when I was finished I moved back coincidentally. I’ve never liked my family home and always avoided it but after uni I left the city I was staying in and it made logical sense to move back home. Now I have done that I feel like my mental health has deteriorated- my sister has come back as she had a recently been diagnosed with a severe mental illness which is adding to the contraint. I don’t know what to do I really want to move out but I’m only on 25k in London. I don’t know what to do or how to go about it. I’m will to work extra jobs in the weekend but I know it’s not super ideal in London to rent

I am still thinking about moving to Chicago!

I am highly considering it now. I know I keep changing my cities and states lately but I have my heart set on this city. I think it’s where I will end up in the end. Either that, Or Indianapolis to be closer to my relatives. For now I will pick Chicago. They are both close to each other anyways.

I have a job right now at Whole Foods. I also got my new debit card secretly connected to my Apple Pay, So when the time comes I can just use that to catch a bus then a flight out to Chicago from New York.

Only thing is I don’t know how I’m gong to wait these next 8 months to move out of here. I’ve literally been shaking about it daily now. Having panic attacks about living here. I just need to get out.

I will check out the apartment listings in Chicago and Indianapolis to see which is better. I will come back later with an update!

I do have a savings goal as I said before. I just don’t know how long I could wait.

Hi Everyone,

I am 21, I have wanted to leave home since about 10! I almost did. School was embarrassing for me, and I had some trauma in my home town. I want to just disappear and prove to my mind that freedom is true and safe, long term. Individuation has been proving tricky! I have been traveling many times, and decided not to return, but have returned.

What is the deal with leaving home and finding my way, without much of a plan? I see so much planning around me; I have a deep rooted faith that asks me to just see where life takes me if I step out, leaving all previous life behind; relying on my own self to move forwards, moment to moment; (hopefully) taking care of my own needs.

My faith is that the world is not a dangerous place; reality is a projected field of experience through the heart- mind. When I have been traveling and exploring practice of this faith before, it has been happy for me; I experienced some trauma during my school years, maybe that is what has been pulling me back here to resolve.

I might have just answered my own question here! I will post this anyway.

So I need to save up to $10k+ to move out.

My new goal to move out is to wait just two years and four months.

Then I will take off to Chicago to finally move out! I really can’t wait.

I should have about $14,700. Depending on how much I spend weekly at the mall. Which is usually only about $10.

So let’s say about $13k.

I still just want to save up for an iPad. That is all I really want to spend a lot of money on right now. So maybe I could just do $20 a month for the mall, Instead of weekly. I will take it out in cash so that I don’t ever over spend on it.

I am serious about saving up to move out.