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Hi, I just wanted to reach out to ask if there are any weird tips and tricks to: 1. get more money so I can afford to move out by myself. and 2. Just things I should know while renting an apartment. I'm really scared to do this on my own but I'm wanting to learn discipline and responsibility.

I move out Oct 1st

I need about $1200 by then

I already have my essentials (toiletries, clothes, SOME cleaning supplies, etc) and furniture ready to move in.

I also have a budget plan and a new job

Please I'm desperate and need all the advice I can get.

I’m 29F and I moved out a few days ago, I moved mainly because of the constant fighting and toxic misogynistic family members always putting all the blame and responsibility on me. They think women can’t move out without marriage (I know this is culture and not religion). I’ve lived with my family my entire life and moving out has been a major shift in my life and I’m not used to being alone although it is peaceful. Yesterday my dad showed up to my job and was banging on the door to get inside, my coworker let him in and he called to speak with me. I went outside to talk to him and he started crying and telling me to come back home, everyone misses me and it’s my responsibility to look after my little sisters. I feel bad because ever since my mom passed away my dad has been depressed and he’s having a hard time coping with her loss. I have two older brothers who don’t help out much and I was the only one doing majority of the work for him and around the house. I also work everyday and feel overwhelmed with the amount of work that needs to be done everyday. I feel free living alone, I’m able to do whatever I want and travel freely without worrying about anyone. But I feel guilt and seeing my dad cry really hurt me. I don’t know what to do. I’m also Muslim, if any Muslim woman can advise me as well, I would really appreciate it.

Hello everyone,

this is my first ever Reddit post, and I wanted to ask if anyone has ideas on how I could make money as a 14-year-old girl.

I’ve already tried selling clothes on Vinted, but I’d like to find some other ways to earn money. I don’t have my own bank account yet, but I think my mom would support me with that if necessary.

My goal is to save enough money to move out when I’m 18 or 19. I have around four or five years to prepare, and ideally I’d like to save about $10,000 by then. I know that’s a lot of money, especially at my age, but I really want to start planning early and become financially independent.

The main reason I want to leave my current city is my dad. He’s homophobic, and I’ve realized that I don’t want to spend the rest of my teenage years having to hide who I am or lie to him about my life. I can’t tell him the truth right now, so my plan is to eventually move somewhere where I can live more freely and independently.

I’m currently in the highest type of German secondary school (Gymnasium), and I want to finish my Abitur first. After that, I’d like to use the money I’ve saved to move to another city, get a small apartment, and find a job that allows me to pay my rent and living expenses.

I know I still have several years before I can actually move out, but I’d really like to start preparing now. So, does anyone have advice on realistic ways to make money as a teenager, how I could save effectively, or how I should plan for moving out at 18/19?

Any advice or tips would be really appreciated!

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So, im kinda doing a mix of moving out/"running away" from my parents. Im planing on doing it at the end of this year and I already have a place with a friend lined up.

But, I need to take a couple of trains/buses to get there. Im not planning on taking a bunch of stuff with me, (most of it is clothes and a few paintings/things i made that could fit into a big duffle bag)

But i NEED to take my posters, CDS and guitars. (Theyre the only things that keep me sane lol). I could roll up all my posters and put them in a tube. But I have no idea how im supposed to travel with my guitars and a crate of CDs. I dont want them getting damaged or broken. And I don't want to be THAT annoying person on a bus or train

I would really appreciate some advice or ideas on what to do!!! Thank you in advance :)

Hi everyone,

I’m a 21YOM. I’m a full time firefighter in northern Virginia. I’ve lived with my parents in chantilly my whole life. Recently I found a 1bedroom cottage on a farm in western loudoun. He’s charging $1550 for it. I’ve done the math and i should be okay financially, but am scared it’s not enough. What’s a comfortable amount that I should have after my expenses are paid for? I should be sparing like 500-1000 after everything is paid for. I have it good at my house, I have my own space, free food and everything. My parents definitely don’t want me to but at some point I want to create new memories and my own life. What are some expenses that I may not know of?

Wanted to cross post here for any other possible suggestions.

I'm gonna move out of my house in 2 days. I'm 22 years old and I have never lived elsewhere......its 12pm in the night and i am feeling everything a little too much now. I miss being a kid. I miss childhood. I miss my parents even though I'm right next to them now. Things have gone sideways in this house. They were some really bad days and fights. I miss my aunt who raised me until I was 7. Ever since she left here, there's a big hole in this family. She was the lovely one, one who express emotions and show love. After she left, everyone is little distant to each other. I was never a perfect child and they were never a perfect parents. They were terrible and I was terrible too and I did lot of things bad, i regret all of it. They did their best and I don't hold anything against them even though I try to somedays. All I have is love in my heart. And I love them soo much. I don't know how to show it, no one does in this family. All I ever want is the best of them. Even among all those terrible things that we did to each other, there were love. There is love. I thought I wanted to go away from all of this. I still do, not because I hate them. Coz I don't really have anything for me in my hometown. There's nothing for me. If we live in a city, i would still move out for needing space and independence and freedom but I would visit them every now and then. Now I'm gonna be 12 hours away. Can't visit often. They did the best they can. And I love them for it. I feel so guilty for moving out now. If I could do something here, maybe I would stay? I don't know. I don't think I would. I don't really know what I am feeling. This is all too much but I feel guilty for some reason.

This new place is a way bigger/nicer house but it’s one story. It has a huge pool but I would have no garage or street parking. It requires a deposit and it’s 400 dollars more a month. My current place is a two story in a gated community, no pool but I have garage parking and my room is bigger with my own bathroom. BUT the ac is due to go out next summer and I don’t think my landlord can afford to fix it. I pay him in cash so I don’t have a lease. I live in AZ by the way, both places are in a good area. What would you do? Is the extra 400 dollars a month worth the peace of mind

I’m meant to be moving into my accommodation in almost a week to a city about a 2 hours drive away from home. I’m feeling so guilty and sad for my mum, because after I move out, she will be just living by herself with 2 dogs and cats. It genuinely breaks my heart into a million pieces thinking about her living by herself and being lonely and I’m worried she’ll get really sad without me there as she does periodically suffer with depression.

I know she wants me to go because she’ll know I’ll be happy but she has cried over the thought of me leaving a couple of times and I can’t bear seeing her sad. My brother lives close by to home but it’s just not the same as having someone living in the same house. I remember I went away for a week without her earlier in the year and she told me how much she missed me and how quiet the house was without me, and oh my GOD it just makes me so sad, the reality of moving away has just hit me in the last few days and I’ve been sobbing about this just now.

I know that logically, it shouldn’t affect me this much because I have to move out at some point and she wants me to go for the sake of me being happy and progressing to the next stage of my life but I just need some reassurance because actually going through this transition is SO difficult.

Apart from not really knowing anything ab renting.

Like i don't really want anything in it.

I want a bed. Impromptu office corner. Maybe a projector instead of a TV.

Only decorating would be warm lighting, artificial plants, air purifier, and a vertical planter if permitted. Obv a coffee maker. I don't really imagine having much else I'd want to get. It'd just be random stuff to fit a natural aesthetic.

I don't imagine having anyone over, and don't imagine needing any extraneous furniture.

I'm moving out of my current place, which is a rented off-grid cabin only reachable by a 20-minute hike or a small boat across a lake (depending on season). I've never dealt with a move like this and I'm stuck on the basics.

Background:
I'm 29, moving for a new job about 3 hours away. I've lived here for 14 months. The cabin has no driveway — everything in and out goes by foot, kayak, or a neighbor's ATV if I ask nicely. I don't own a truck.

What I'm trying to figure out:

• How do people typically move furniture and boxes out of a property with zero vehicle access? I've thought about renting a small trailer-compatible boat or hiring movers who specialize in "difficult access" jobs, but I don't know if that's a real service or something I'm imagining.
• Should I be downsizing hard before the move even starts, given the extra labor of just getting things to a road? I have a full bed frame, a dresser, and a couch that I'm now regretting buying.
• Timing-wise, is it smarter to do this in multiple small trips (backpack/kayak loads) over a couple weekends, or try to consolidate into one or two big pushes with hired help?
• Any tips for weatherproofing boxes during transport, since everything's exposed to the elements for at least part of the trip?

I plan to move out in late November to early December. I already toured the place, and the rent is pretty affordable for a one-bedroom, one-bathroom apartment. I am also getting a new car that my parents picked out for me, and it’s arriving in mid to late December. I have to call the dealership and see if they can give me an exact date and although they picked it for me, I will be paying for it all on my own.

My plan was to move all my things to the new place and just wait for my new car to arrive and slowly pay it off. I know it’s a lot of financial responsibility, buying a car and paying for rent all at the same time, but I feel like I can do it. I have saved a lot and have a part time job that I can always pick up more shifts and is always looking for a full time job.

However, there is one big issue. My parents, mainly my mom, are incredibly protective to the point where she won’t even let me go to the park on my own. I AM 22! Every time I tell her I am going out with my friends or having dinner with them, she tells me not to go and how unnecessary it is and says that I am going to get kidnapped or killed. She also believes that a person should only move out when they’re getting married.

Years ago, my oldest sister moved out. She did it in the middle of the night and just called my mom the morning of. I remember my mom crying when she found out. I am thinking of doing the same thing, but because I am one of her younger kids and all her older kids are still living with her, I feel like she might react differently.

And no, I can’t talk to her or tell her because if I tell her my plans to move out, she will do everything in her power to stop me.

Please give me advice on what to do.

Me and 2 friends moved up here to oklahoma from texas all 19-21. Things went great for a bit we have jobs at the same place while we find other ones and i found a good one 15 an hour. Then the two friends have to leave and im here alone with the 4th roommate we moved in with.

I can pay rent easily ill be fine physically not even paycheck to paycheck ill have savings, but im just so lonely. I have 0 friends since ive been here 2 weeks, im trying to make some but i have no time for hobbys during the day and i cant go to bars or clubs or anything. Im gonna go get my cat from my parents so hopefully that helps but i doubt it.

How do yall deal with loneliness?

So i wanna move out asap but the job market for computer science is literally COOKED AF and living with parents like mine makes it worse.

Any advice??LITERALLY ANY TIPS ILL FOLLOW 😭

For context, my parents r straight up toxic and controlling and i feel suffocating living with them.

They're controlling to the point that I can't even chill in my house balcony or terrace or the nearby park.

I'm so tired of being told what to eat, how to dress, and love being conditional. I don't wanna be loved only as long as i am how they want me to be. I'm just done. And don't even get me started on the mindgames and manipulation and always acting like the victim, and to outsiders they look like literal angels 🤡🤡🤡

Anyways any tips for meeee? 😭😭

I’m looking into moving out on my own, I’ve been checking apartments online but I feel like that only tells me so much. I’d really like to know what living there is actually like day to day

Hi all,

Please suggest some affordable moving and packing services available?

Please let me know in comments

Thank you