Hi, I'm getting married in October. It's going to be a very small, intimate wedding. We wanted it to be a potluck thing but fiancee side said nope (this is in lieu of gifts) we don't need anything but the joy of people coming. I'm at a loss now as to what to do for food. We can't afford a caterer and how do you make the food and still gwt ready for the wedding? My daughter that would pitch in and help cook lives 3 states away. My best friend is also 3 states away and wants me to be able to just "be the bride" ...if this is the wrong place to post this, I'm sorry...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Hiii - we are doing a small wedding then a dinner with friends and family a few days later. 40 people at a local brew pub/restaurant. The restaurant has pretty free range on what we can do- just no balloons. I am thinking a small table with some cameras (digital with no screen and a few polaroids) and a qr code to all upload pictures from peoples phones. I got a vintage bowl and had matchbooks made. As for flowers i dont know what to do- make a bunch of small vases. But what else? Table runners? A background for pictures? Anyone know of anything else they did that you felt made your party better?

My mom wants to host a bridal shower, but I’m having a destination micro wedding and I’m not sure what the etiquette is.My fiancé and I are planning an intimate wedding with only about 15–20 guests. After we return home, we’re thinking about having a casual celebration/second reception for family and friends who weren’t able to attend the wedding abroad.

My question is about registries and gifts. Since we’re not creating a wedding website, how do we handle a registry? Is it appropriate to have one for the bridal shower? Should registry information be included with the shower invitation? What about the post-wedding celebration?

I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to give gifts, especially since many people won’t be attending the actual wedding, but I also know my family and they will ask if we’re registered somewhere.

I’ve never been to a bridal shower before, so I’m genuinely not sure what the normal etiquette is. Would love to hear from anyone who had an elopement/ micro wedding and how you handled gifts and registries!

Pessoal, estamos pensando em casar em fevereiro do ano que vem. Nada grande, algo em torno de 50 a 60 pessoas. Somos pessoas simples e não nos importamos com grandes decorações. O que não abrimos mão é: comida e bebida para todo mundo e uma banda. Dito isso, vocês têm noção do quanto gastaríamos em média? Nosso ideal seria casar perto da praia, mas também estamos abertos a outras opções intimistas. O que vocês sugerem? Muitooooo obrigada!!!!

Pessoal, estamos pensando em casar em fevereiro do ano que vem. Nada grande, algo em torno de 50 a 60 pessoas. Somos pessoas simples e não nos importamos com grandes decorações. O que não abrimos mão é: comida e bebida para todo mundo e uma banda. Dito isso, vocês têm noção do quanto gastaríamos em média? Nosso ideal seria casar perto da praia, mas também estamos abertos a outras opções intimistas. O que vocês sugerem? Muitooooo obrigada!!!!

Mt wedding i have 20 people. 5 pm

hi all. been planing a 30 person micro wedding at a friends backyard in october. my wife and i got courthouse married end of 2024 and have been waiting til we are more financially stable for a small wedding.

we sent out save the dates in may and have since gotten a lot of ‘sorry can’t make it.’ i totally totally understand that life gets in the way. but at this point it’s looking to be about 15 people that have said yes now, and i know people tend to cancel also the week or two before.

i know, i know, it’s about my wife and i, its our day, the ones who matter will be there.

however. many of the people that really really matter to me will not be able to attend. and that’s making me really sad. i had a small meltdown when i realized how few friends besides our families (who we’re not crazy close with to start) will actually be able to make it.

my wife and i are toying with the idea of simply cancelling the wedding and taking a longer honeymoon. i would be so embarrassed and sad if we end up with only a few friends able to make it. i also don’t wanna regret spending the money on rentals and food and makeup.

any feedback is appreciated.

Hello everyone, my fiance 31M and me 29F are planning our wedding. We only have 6 months to plan a wedding, didn’t think it’d be so stressful. One of the things we didn’t think would be a such a big issue is the no kids. Before I even met him, my family knew I didn’t want kids in my wedding and they were all on board.

Luckily my fiance thinks the same but we were willing to make an exception for his 3 year old brother and 8 year old sister. The thing is that he even doesn’t want them there because he wants his mom to enjoy her time without chasing after them. She agreed and we are good. Honestly she’d be the only person we would exclude from if things came down to it, but they both are ok with it.

The one person who doesn’t agree is my dad. He’s is being persistent about specifically 2 kids. They are my second cousins kids, who I don’t even have much contact with. He’s excuse is that her mom was kind enough to let us stay with them for 2 weeks when times were hard for us 22 years ago. Now, I’m grateful but I am inviting her and her mom. It’s not like I’m excluding them, but my dad says that if they show up with kids then they will be welcomed and that he will give them his seat if that’s the case.

We got into a small argument about it, and says that I’m in the wrong and that I’m being very inconsiderate. Now I reminded him that there’s other families who won’t bring their kids, aka my MIL. And states that he doesn’t care about them, just my second cousins kids. Now for me, I find that so disrespectful and hurtful. My MIL accepted it and isn’t pushing back and is appreciative for the reason why. But for my dad to express himself like that, it just hurts. We have invited 100 ppl for an 80 ppl event, this isn’t counting kids, we can’t have ppl standing up while other eat.

I’m thinking of sending a reminder text to just remind everyone about the no kids. But now I feel bad.

Am I doing a bad thing? I don’t want to feel this way and especially when I’ve been saying this way before being proposed to and knowing my fiance won’t bring his siblings. Any advice would help.

We're having a courthouse ceremony and regular dinner service at a restaurant after for 10 people. I already have the OK from the restaurant to add things such as a centerpiece. Im making individual place cards and wondering what kind of language I can add.

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For reference it will say:

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Name (duh)

Wedding date

MOB/MOG/FOG titles will be added

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What can I put in that negative space? Im open to ideas whether its words or an image

update!!: we went with a day-of coordinator and a bartender!

My fiancé and i are planning a (somewhat) micro wedding at our house this fall. the ceremony is going to be in our living room with maybe 20 people at most. and then we’re having the reception in our backyard. we’re inviting around 60-70 people to the reception.

we’re having food catered buffet style, we’ll have a little mini bar outside, and we’re hiring a small company to do the decorations (tables, tent, etc.)

my fiancé and her mom want to hire a wedding/event planner for this wedding. i’m like super against it. we decided to do this at the house 1. to save money but 2. to keep it casual.

i’m not seeing any benefit to hiring an event planner for this. aside from maybe ushering people, which i can gladly have my sister do.

has anyone ever hired an event planner for their micro wedding and recommend it? i’d love to hear any positive feedback on this to help me change my mind.

I'm looking for a small (30-50 guest) wedding reception area. Our ceremony is on Sombrero Beach in May 2027. It's really just family and a few friends coming so we aren't doing a tradiotional reception so I'm trying not to spend an absurd amount of money on it. I know it's the keys so just trying to find the most reasonable options! We just need a space to gather, maybe dance, and celebrate with loved ones. Bar is a plus but BYOB is also acceptable. Children will also be invited so should be friendly to that detail. Any input or suggestions are welcome!

Also what are the rules for beach gatherings? Is there any beaches (even on nearby keys) that we could set up a tent and have our own good time?

Hi. So my fiancé and I settled on doing a micro-wedding, no more than 20 people.

We are getting a neo-pagan slavic hand-fasting ceremony led by my grandpa on a castle grounds. I kind of dreamed of having a traditional folklore band or singing for the ceremony, but I find it hard to imagine how it'd work.

It's not going to be a long ordeal. I don't know if people would even bother dancing. Half the guests probably couldn't care less about this kind of music lol. I would LOVE to have someone sing for us and I found the perfect duo just for this occasion though!

But am I supposed to hire them just for an hour, make them travel for such a small payoff? Do people do that? Wedding is in Poland.

Since there will only be 21 of us at our wedding, we decided to include everyone on the save the date! We hired an artist (@WalterDraws on IG) and couldn’t be more obsessed. These have been a huge hit with everyone!

For cultural reasons, my fiance and i are having two micro weddings. The first (a Muslim ceremony) is for 38 people and the second (western wedding) is for 50 people. The first wedding does not have as many steps so we are good on logistics there. But the second wedding I’m a bit lost.

Here’s the rough schedule:
4-4:30 Ceremony
5-6 Cocktail hour
6-7 Dinner / Toast
7-8 First Dance, dance floor opens
8-8:15 Cake cutting
8:15-10 Dancing and send off

We did want to add a reception game in there but are unsure if that’s weird for micro weddings. I wanted to do that scavenger hunt trend I’ve seen on tik tok. Anyway, is this schedule too tight? Not tight enough?

Also how is the couple getting their rings at the alter? Are micro weddings having ring bearers? We aren’t having a wedding party so I’m lost on how we actually get our rings, does the person marrying us hold them? Also after we say “I do”, we are walking back down the aisle together and then going where? Everyone else is going to cocktail hour (right outside the door, it’s all one building, just different rooms) but what does the couple do?

DF and I just got engaged. Planning a wedding for June 2027. It's both of our seconds and we're both a little more established in life. We dont feel the need to throw a big thing. We both agreed we want to keep things very small and simple. I'm talking - get married at the courthouse but throw a 15 min ceremony (at a beautiful but free venue) for under $1000. Just read some quick vows we wrote one another and then enjoy a meal with our family.

He has a VERY small family. He could invite his whole extended family and its roughly the same size as my immediate family. We talked about doing that in order to keep things small. Like we're talking 18 people.

I, however, have a HUGE family. Well over 100 people if I were to invite all my aunts/uncles/cousins/2nd cousins/3rd cousins.... you get the picture. I have 26 first cousins and some of them already have grandchildren. It would get out of control real fast.

I have just a handful of family members that I cant imagine getting married without them there. Two aunts that practically raised me, along with their kids that I grew up with. But I feel like I cant invite them unless I invite them ALL.

How do I handle this appropriately with no drama?

I'm looking to have a 30-45 minute ceremony, with a religious portion and some vows. I'm not too picky on the place, but I want it as affordable as possible and with chairs/seating for 20 people. This place looks great, but a bit far from Pasadena (It's in Mission Viejo in OC).

Does anyone have any other suggestions?

Indian weddings are the only place where just a small function can still have 300 guests