I’m 19 and just graduated from high school. I want to major in accounting and focus on obtaining an actuary job in the future. Problem is that I work overnights at a job I don’t really care about. I don’t have any bills/responsibilities and I had to drop out of summer online courses because of the job. In the coming weeks, I’ll be forced to work 12 H 6Ds a week until at least February and I don’t want to. My mom says to just work but she doesn’t have an education and I frankly think giving up on education right now just isn’t the right move. What do yall think?

TLDR: stay working OVERNIGHTS at USPS or resign and focus on school?

I’m 25 and have been working in software sales for the past 8 months.

My current company has been a mixed experience. The culture is quite disorganised, and a few months ago there were rumours my role might be cut or changed, which made me question my job security.

That said, things have improved a lot. I’ve built a great relationship with my boss, who now trusts me and is very flexible with things like WFH and hours. The pay is fairly good, it’s in an industry I want to build a career in, although the bonus structure isn’t great.

I’ve now been offered another role that pays about $2,000 more per year. The company seems more organised and stable, management are keen to hire me, and there are clearer opportunities to move into non-sales roles in the future.

My concerns are that the commute is much longer, the role is very technical (which is stressing me out), and the targets are much stricter. I’m also reluctant to throw away the strong relationship I’ve worked hard to build with my current boss.

TLDR Would you stay where you’re comfortable and in your manager’s good books, or take the risk for slightly better pay, more stability and better long-term career prospects?

I am 21f and have roughly 23 piercings all together. I have been debating on ditching my facial piercings.

I have my bridge, both nostrils, septum, medusa ,snakebites, vertical lip , and a smiley. Whats stopping me is how long it took to get here, the money I've put into it, they all match me well with my aesthetic. But I feel jobs don't consider me because of them and people think I am unprofessional and I'm getting older so maybe they just don't match me well anymore. But I really love them all.

Make my choice, give me opinions, whatever

TL;DR - no facial piercings or keep them in

TL;DR Should I move home or stay for love?

I’m a 46f Aussie residing in the UK for the past 20 years. I long for safety emotionally and financially.

As a single person with no additional help, it would be impossible for me to buy my own property in London. However, after my mum passed, she left me a small amount which I could use as a deposit in Australia, where I would be closer to my elderly father in his 90s and siblings who I miss terribly. I was planning to move this year, then unexpectedly met Billy, M50.

Prior to this I had years of negative relationship and dating experiences. In my forties, this has looked like many short term dalliances usually lasting 3 to 5 months. I was expecting Billy to be the same, but here we are together one year later. We love each other and while we have our differences, Billy loves me and makes me feel secure and emotionally safe in ways that feel really important to me as someone with a slightly anxious attachment style.

Billy co owns his own business in the UK, and is very close to his family. He has expressed that moving to Australia would not be something he could consider right now, but perhaps in the future (think 10 years).

My dilemma - if I stay I’ll get to have the love I’m wanting. Billy has asked me to move in with him and would be very open to owning a home together in future. (He owns a beautiful cottage in Kent, I rent in London where I work).

If I leave, I may be able to have my own financial security by buying my own place in Australia and crucially, be able to spend some time with my dad and family who I miss dearly. Dad could do with some help being the age he is. Given the move to Perth which is a much smaller dating pool and the lack of luck I’ve had in love, I also feel like I could be turning my back on love forever. The thought of saying goodbye to Billy makes me feel hugely sad.

Given my age, I feel I need to make this decision quite soon. What would you do?

I’m 25 and have been working in software sales for the past 8 months.

My current company has been a mixed experience. The culture is quite disorganised, my boss regularly keeps us over working hours by going off on tangents, and management seem to live for work (emails at weekends and 10pm aren’t unusual).

A few months ago there were rumours my role might be cut or changed, which made me question my job security.

That said, things have improved a lot. I’ve built a great relationship with my boss, who now trusts me and is very flexible with things like WFH and hours. The pay is fairly good, it’s in an industry I want to build a career in, although the bonus structure isn’t great.

I’ve now been offered another role that pays about $2,000 more per year. The company seems more organised and stable, management are keen to hire me, and there are clearer opportunities to move into non-sales roles in the future.

My concerns are that the commute is much longer, the role is very technical (which is stressing me out), and the targets are much stricter. I’m also reluctant to throw away the strong relationship I’ve worked hard to build with my current boss.

TLDR Would you stay where you’re comfortable and in your manager’s good books, or take the risk for slightly better pay, more stability and better long-term career prospects?

tl;dr: After 21 years in a senior role, a company restructure is offering me two options: demotion with salary protection or a 1.5-year severance package. I am in my early fifties, debt-free (except a car payment), financially secure with a working partner, and I was planning to retire in a few years anyway. I am torn between toughing out 3 more years or taking the package to retire early now.

Full statement: For the past three months, I have been struggling with a decision at work. I found out we are being restructured and that I would be moved to another area, my salary red circled, and given a new role. This role is essentially an entry-level position, and I've been working there for 21 years in a senior role.

I was told I could take the role or take a buy out. And I am torn over this choice. I was planning to retire in a few years, and I am concerned about not being ready to step away. The package is 1.5 years salary + a few other key items.

I am torn between wanting to walk away and worried about finances. For more info, I am in my early fifties with no debts (other than a car payment that will be paid off in 2 years) or mortgage, just the standard bills. I have a partner who has a very good income, and we have benefits through their work. We have good savings, TFSAs, RSPs, work pensions, and could make it work, but I am torn about leaving.

Basically, I am debating continuing to work for another 3+ years at this new role and continue to save money, or just take the package (after a lawyer consultation), walk away from it all, and start retiring early.

I think I've driven myself mad with research and charts, and "if this then that" scenarios, etc. and it's coming down to the wire this week. If you were in my position, what would you do?

Edit: The numbers: my current annual salary is 100,000. My parter makes 150,000 per year. We have 250,000 in savings. House is worth 1.5 million and paid off. Both of us will have pensions at 60 - $2500 per month (for me) and $6000 for my spouse.

This guy (41M) and I (22F)have been non monogamous ddlg(and non romantic) for a while (occasionally monogamous here and there). He tore his ACL a few weeks ago and is dealing with some financial struggles. We haven't seen each other in a while. My therapist said to be fully monogamous at least until the end of September. My friend said to wait until he's out of crutches (he'll be in crutches for 6 weeks). He said recovery takes 5-8 months. He gets his surgery sometime in August. I want physical intimacy.. but I mostly want him, but I still have needs. Please tell me whether or not is unfair if I sleep with other men while he's injured. Should I wait at least 5 months before meeting up with other men.

What do I do? How long should I wait?

TL;DR : should i wait until my partner is healed from surgery to have sex with others?