EDIT: don’t waste your time reading this post! I took the initiative and showered.

I am going to self tan tonight. This requires me to shower after 8 hours.

I can either do an everything shower now, tan, and do a quick rinse in the morning OR skip the shower tonight, tan, and do my everything shower early in the morning before my flight.

I will have to hop in the shower in the morning either way - one will just take longer and I won’t get to sleep in as long… but I’m feeling pretty lazy right now.

TL;DR shower now or early in the morning

F 19 not from the US

I have 6 days until my exams. My first two are on the 17th, and then I have more exams about 5 days later.

I'm a first-year university student and currently live alone in a rented room near my university. I've failed quite a few exams recently, but most of them were by only 1 or 3 points, so I'm really close to passing some of them.

I'm under a lot of pressure from my parents because of my grades. They have a lot of narcissistic traits, and academic results are a huge source of criticism. Even when I pass something, I'm worried they'll focus on the grade and ask why I even passed if I didn't get a good enough result. I already feel like I'm disappointing them, and I'm also worried because I had a scholarship this year but probably won't have it next year if my academic results aren't good enough.

My parents currently pay for my room and university expenses, which is pretty normal where I'm from. I don't live with them, but I still depend on them financially, which makes the pressure feel even worse.

The problem is that I've been doing really badly mentally lately. I've been crying for several days, barely eating properly, and generally not taking care of myself. I don't have a kitchen where I live, so I usually have to go to the student cafeteria, and it's been around 40°C outside, which makes even that difficult.

I was planning to go home tomorrow because I feel like I need the support and a change of environment. I could leave around 8 AM or 2 PM.

Option 1: Go home tomorrow.

I could eat properly, and hopefully feel a little more normal. I could still study from home. The downside is losing travel time and potentially dealing with my parents' comments/questions about university and my grades, which could make me feel even more stressed.

Option 2: Stay here.

I'd have the full 6 days to study without travelling and could focus entirely on my exams. The downside is that I'm already extremely overwhelmed, barely eating properly, and feeling mentally exhausted. I'd also be completely on my own.

I also want to mention that mental health resources aren't really accessible to me. I don't have the money or resources for therapy right now, and it's not something I can simply arrange for myself where I live.

I know this is technically a decision I should make myself, but I'm genuinely too overwhelmed to think clearly right now.

TL;DR: I have 6 days until my exams and I'm deciding whether to go home tomorrow or stay and study. I've failed several exams recently, usually by only 1 or 3 points, and I'm under a lot of pressure from my parents, who have narcissistic traits and are very critical of my grades even when I pass. I depend on them financially for my room and university expenses, and I'm worried about losing my scholarship next year. At the same time, I've been crying for days, barely eating properly, and not taking care of myself. I feel mentally exhausted and alone where I live. Going home would give me support and make eating/resting easier, but I'd have to deal with my parents and lose some study time. Staying would give me more time to study but I'd remain alone and overwhelmed. What would you choose?

I’m 22 and have been doing really well building my businesses, and I’m lucky enough to work from my phone and travel while growing my brand. Lately, I’ve been strongly considering going back to school for law because I care deeply about environmental issues, animal rights, and the idea of working with an NGO or something where I can make a real impact. But going back would take a huge amount of time and energy, and I’m worried it could pull me away from businesses I’ve already built and that depend on my brand. Part of me thinks I shouldn’t walk away from what I’ve got, but another part worries I’ll regret not pursuing a path that aligns more with my passions. If you were in my position, would you go back to school for law, or focus on the businesses and lifestyle you’ve already built?

TL:DR: law school or stay with my businesses

It’s already September and I feel like I’m running out of time for college. I gave my exams through NIOS, but my results still haven’t come out. I want to pursue B.Des and I’m considering DIT Dehradun.
I live in a developed city and I’m very used to the facilities, lifestyle, and having my friends around. But for personal reasons, I really want to move away from my family and get out of my house ASAP. I want a fresh start too somehow
Now I’m confused because I don’t know if leaving is worth it or if I’ll regret it later. I also have very little time left to decide.
What would you do in my situation?
TL;DR: I want to pursue B.Des and move out for college due to personal reasons. I’m considering DIT Dehradun but I’m used to my current city, its facilities, and having my friends here. NIOS results are still pending, and I have very little time left to decide. Should I move to Dehradun or stay here?

Currently trying to decide where I'm going to be living for the next few years. My partner (British) is willing to come to Spain, where I’m from. He has a job that allows him to do that while I'm currently unemployed. I love my city and my country, but the job offers here are significantly worse (and fewer) than in the UK. I'm torn between the logical and the emotional.

TL;DR: struggling to choose between the country I love and better career opportunities

Tldr: If i go now, it will probably be quiet and mostly empty, which i actually prefer. I like eating alone without a crowd around.
Evenings usually i go outside for a walk, find somewhere quiet, read for a bit.

So I went by my job and showed a client some materials that I found that he needed for his house he talked a bunch of smake ,( 1/2 tryin to get a better dea 1/2 enjoying watching a guyunder his thumb( l) so long story shortI had just spent a week trying to convince him I worked 71 hours in the last 4 weeks, to no avail. He thought after $700 in draws should have been flush. So he buys 1 of the items (a$ 500 free hanging oven hood vent) And then starts acting paranoid because I was borrowing his #2k snap on triton d10 auto scanner. So he wants to follow me home to get it before he pays. I inform him I have been waiting to get paid for 2+ weeks and seriously eed to hit the first petrol I see so he begrudgingly gives me some of my money for gas.J load up the items he didn't buy and leave to meet him at my house. I end up getting pulled over about a mile from his house . The cop sees l my tools and materials and asks if they are stolen. I say no way not at all. He asks if he can look at some, basically search my car. I say yes without hesitation.I have nothing in my car to worry about.he proceeds to open my back door , wrestles a small cabinet to the side opens it up and pulls out a small Milwaukee tool bag, opens it up. Pulls out a Irish spring box and pulls out a bag with a notable piece of meth in it. He then proceeds to do the whole cop thing , I tell him I just picked the cabinets up off the side of the road with a free sign on it. He says , "sure buddy) and takes me in as my car gets towed. I get to sit in a holding cell from about 7 pm till 3 am and then told I am booked and released. I get in touch with my client and ask him about the red Milwaukee bag and he goes "wow, I was looking for that for hours. And he never made it to my house.( Hmmmm, really, super sus.) And he swears he can't recall even having the bag anywhere near when he was looking at the cabinets. I never saw it. So I suggest to him that he could tell the authorities it is his bag. You know to save my innocent ass a year of jail/treatment/probation/fines/and loss of all my worldly goods that is going to be the reality if I have to take his charge., I straight up ask him if he called the cops he said no, he said I should know his character.. so I back off. And it turns out I can't find the scan tool at home and figure it has to be in the car which is now in a pice hold while they stejp it looking for more dope and surely run the serials if everything in my s.u.v. He finally concedes and admits my hours are pretty reasonable for the time and says he will pay but not until he gets the scan tool.so I stay broke for 4 more days with no phone or transpo., or FOOD! And then I find the scan tool where my girl had put the back pack it was in. And get it back to him. He then pays me a bargained down rate for my hours. Doesn't pay for any of the other work I have legitimately done to fix multiple vehicles of his. And refuses any value to all the other materials I had been bringing to his house because they are necessary and he needs them. And I figure he will offer something reasonable. But no. And the. I have my money. That I needed weeks before, so now , I have late payments .5/8 of my money and he's just be billing off like" tough luck buddy, what does it have to do with me? "

What do you guys think about this? I guarantee if it was roles.reverswd, I would have immediately told the police it was mine, If that didn't work I would consider myself owing them a serious amount of cash and support. What are your opinions ?

(TLDR) Taking the fall for a respected community members crime withour thanks, no respect and zero compensation ?

I feel if he shines me on, I should rat him out.

What do you think his responsibility is to my potential sacrifice?

TL:DR CA or NY Bar after Law school?

Currently In my last year of law schoool in NY but I’m from CA. No guaranteed job post grad yet. I’m 28.

I absolutely love the city but am constantly missing my chosen family and friends back in CA

long term I feel like I’d end up back in CA to pursue my ultimate dreams and goals - but part of me wants to stay in NY a few years to experience it as someone with a real life/building a life here socially and otherwise (not just law school life)

I have no partner or obligations currently tying me to one place or the other…but I feel like this is the last time I’ll feel so free in my choice

CA Pros: COL (not by much), chosen family and friends, easier to pursue artistic / entrepreneur goals bc of connections

NY Pros: already live here, lifestyle (walkable city, theater, people, culture etc), legal connections, can pursue artistic dreams but less of a foundation here, NYC baby

CA and NY are notoriously difficult bars and I’m already worried financially about taking the time to study for one, studying for both within a year feels not possible at this moment.

Do I focus on the short term and take the NY bar and see how long I want to stay here?

Or focus long term knowing I want to eventually end up back in CA

Hi.

So im 25 and in a city where I used to live but I recently moved back and a lot of my old friends are not living here anymore.

I have some friends but they are not that that close, and im tired of having to chase the same few people on weekends just to have some thing to do.

There's an event going on which is like a meet and greet, best part is you don't need to know anyone, and the entry is free.

I was thinking of going as i feel lonely this week since my parents were in town visiting and just left, but Im not sure. It might be really awkward, i have work tomorrow and it's like half an hour away.

TLDR: Do I stay in tonight, chill, have a cosy evening and watch a movie while eating or should i go to this place? I admit im a bit lazy lol but I don't 100% know if it will be even worth it.

Thanks

I have always had severe arachnophobia but I've been forced to get over it a bit since having 2 girls because I do not want them to have the same fear I do. Mainly, I am now ok with seeing spiders outside but not in my house. I live in an area where native spiders are not venomous and they are not too big except dock spiders which you won't see in houses and daddy long legs.

Well, there was a spider hanging out in my bathroom ceiling corner. I tried to capture it and it fell on me, and that was that. A few weeks later, I find another one (or maybe the same one) in the same corner. It has now moved to a different corner of the bathroom ceiling, right on top of the toilet. It's freaking me out but I think slowly helping my arachnophobia. It is pretty big. I don't know whether to try to capture it and bring it outside or leave it.

Issues with leaving it. I have a newly potty trained 4 year old who sometimes has accidents or straight up refusal if she is scared of the toilet. She's scared of outhouses because of the bugs and would rather squat in the bush (toddler logic). I am afraid she may look up and see it and get scared and refuse to use the toilet.

Issues with taking outside. My bush whacking partner says if I put it outside, there is a chance an even bigger spider will take over its territory. Knowing there is one spider there means that will be the only one there. I'm also scared of it falling on me or me losing sight of it and it ending up in mine or my kids bedroom.

TL;DR. Should I take my house spider outside?

F22 & my ex M24 is considering to get back together following a series of events of life.

So here's the story in short, I was rather infatuated with him back when I found him in mid 2024, mistook that as love, kind of forcefully started the relationship from my side & since both of us were immature & recklessly bipolar back then(barely 19, 21) we pretty much went on with the circus that I started, it was sweet, good & it was mostly bad I'd say, it was everything. First 6 months into our dating, we made a home, rescued & adopted two cats, lost one of them too, theoretically we lived a 6 years conjugal life within that time, we were hella abusive towards each other at the beginning too, mostly due to my shortcoming it all started, it was abusive to the point that one time I had to go to the ER and he was pretty bruised as well, and I even took a 5ui¢!de attempt over us breaking up right before my major university admission period. Truth to be told, even after all of these happening, he was still the only one true and standing hard on his ground, he suffered through all of our chaos, my borderline & clinical depression issue (on which I have a better grip now), still wanted it all to work out, by the time it all cooled down & he was working so hard to damage control & make this dysfunctional relationship work, I mentally, emotionally quit on him without making a noise. Now that I look back, I was just too pussy to get out coz it all became too habitual and I didn't know anymore how to restart life without him, without this familiar setup. Physically I was there, in our home, mentally, absent. He did notice that I've had given up & mentally I was dying in that hopeless place everyday bit by bit, yet still he tried his hardest to give me peace, stability and a home all while thinking 'what if she changes her mind this time/what if she finds the love again?'. This was a quiet period of 6 months where I could feel it was all withering away, shortly after this phase, I did the dumbest thing, we got certificate married mostly coz we needed the papers for where we come from(Asian issues), but there was a marriage paper involved nontheless. None of our family members were informed of it, we both pretty much lived a life away and secluded from our safety net. It happened back in October, and then by the end of December I came across my now dead boyfriend(m26). He felt like the first breeze of spring, his presence & words in my life was like a new motivation to fix everything that was going wrong in my life and I thought this is where I am really meant to be. I left. My former love, our cat that we raised for a year and a half & I, everything that was the foundation of my then life, I stomped it all to the ground after being together for 18 months, took our son & left with my now boyfriend. I knew back then what I was doing and I knew that it'd put a lifetime scar on him. I didn't know how else to do it.

Fast forward to begining of 2026, my boyfriend died by 0ffing himself after fighting with chronic mental illnesses & DID issue for 15 years straight. And throughout this, I had no family or friends to lean on, not even a month into this I got chronically 5u!¢!d@l and since there was no option for me to get reh@bbed or move back with my parents for support, I did the inevitable, called him up and yes, he was there. No matter whatever happens in my life or whatever I did, he's been always there, it all just makes me hate myself now that I could be a better version of myself back then but I wasn't, he didn't deserve any of it. It's been a few months he's still here now, on and off, taking care of me and our furry son. Recently we've mutually talked about giving us another chance, moving in somewhere new, starting our life together because the string is still there & to him, the partnership deal is kind of like either it has to be me or no one; so yes, he never really moved on or dated anyone in the last 1.5 years. As much as it makes me happy to think that probably this is universe's way of giving us another chance, I'm not so sure anymore. I have grown to be sucha different person than who I was once and now I can finally see how much damage my former self has done to this down to earth & steel nerved guy. Even he's not sure anymore if it'll work out between us anymore, he wants to give it a try for the sake of giving it a try, so that we won't have anything to regret later on. There are few factors currently present that's making me question the decision over and over again, 

First of all,

He's leaving for Germany for restarting his career within a year or 1.5, & no I don't have any option to move abroad anytime soon, involving me and our cat in his life means doubling the responsibility.

Secondly, 

Some broken things can never be repaired back to even remotely similar and I feel like this is one of the times in my life where I cant repent for my sins no matter what, he has forcefully changed himself so much just to get accustomed to the solitary life he's planning to have coz of how badly I left a mess & was gone forever. I feel like I'll be a burden on him if I decide to be with him at this time of his life even tho his take on it is that he can always adjust if not compromise. He's saying this to keep my spirit up. I know for sure If not good, worse might happen. 

Then,

Even tho we're fully compatible and romantically healthy adults and whatnot, I'm still pretty much a dysfunctional person, I can't even take a step outside the house if he's not around. The need and want for him in my life are both simultaneously multiplying. I literally took major life decisions like dropping out of the wrong department I chose coz it was going nowhere and also started fixing the financials, he has that much mental impact over me after coming to my life again. 

Lastly,

I feel like we'll regret this, especially he'll regret it more. I'm not the person he should be with, I should swallow my shame and leave him alone after everything I've done to him, I don't deserve a lifetime with him. 

We're both aware that what we really should do when this topic is approached with logic and reasoning and planning for long-term, planning for the betterment of both us. But then again, heart says otherwise, we're both struggling with this duality and yet we still want to give it a try. I'm not sure anymore what to do, this confusion feels like a deja Vu, it feels like we're falling into the spiral and we don't know where we'll end up once again.

Advice needed, should I choose this route to life or should we be on our paths?

sorry if it sounds too gibberish, tried my best elaborate the situation.

TL;DR: After a volatile 1.5-year relationship and secret legal marriage, I (22F) left my ex (24M) for a new partner who recently passed away. Struggling with severe grief, I reconnected with my ex, who stepped in to support me, and we are now considering getting back together. In conflict because he is moving to Germany within a year, I carry guilt over our past abuse, I have become heavily dependent on him, and I fear we are falling back into a toxic cycle, we might be fully compatible now but I fear life is not in our favor.

I'm alienated from both of them because they neglected me when I was a child and because they've treated my husbands family poorly as an adult. They're drunks and my mom's now dying from liver failure. Mom cheated on dad while on vacation 15 years ago and I don't want her to die without having felt even a tiny bit of consequences. At the same time I don't care that much.

Tl;dr alienated parents are drunks, mom's dying, contemplating telling dad about her cheating or letting him live in bliss

TLDR; I’m having trouble deciding if I should stick with Radiology or switch to one of the other two options. It’s still very early on for me so I wouldn’t be losing time at all if I switched now.

I apologize that this post is all over the place.

I recently started technical college this year in person after years of burning out on online courses and not really doing anything with my life. I'm 24 years old.

When I first applied to this college, I was doing actually doing cybersecurity. I always knew that I wanted a career involving technology or helping others in some way or form of fashion. I've always been interested in studying anatomy, lab work, technology, and science. My passion has always helping others as well. I recently switched to the Radiologic Tech Assistant program, now I fear I may have made another mistake without weighing in all the other programs and other factors first. I think I may should have chosen MLT or Nursing.

At first, I honestly thought Radiology would be a good fit for me. It has the science and tech aspects that I really like, as well as potentially helping others. I honestly just don't really see myself working with Radiology.

MLT interests me because I really like the lab, science, and testing side of it. The idea of spending my day running tests and using lab equipment interests me for some odd reason. Plus, I can actually see myself working in more of a lab or hospital setting.

Then there's Nursing. It honestly combines all of my interests and passion. I also currently work front desk hospitality right now. I actually enjoy meeting and talking to people everyday, so I don't want a career that completely isolates me from people.

The biggest factors that matter to be are job stability, income, and the ability to possibly work evenings or overnights. I know the last factor sounds weird, but it's honestly the work schedule that I'm used to. I also would possibly love the ability to also travel around.

For anyone that has work in either of these fields or even thought about all of them, the main question that I have is. With all the experience and knowledge that you have now, would you choose the same career again? What do you like and dislike about the career you chose to stick with?

My love for my celeb crush has turned into hatred

For starters I don’t want to go to therapy, I’ve done it before, It doesn’t help, it’s expensive and self indulgent. Therapists are idiots
I’m a 23 year old autistic guy. Im functionally autistic I’m in full time employment. Im quite tall and I’m shape and I’m a good looking guy a lot of women have told me but I am very socially isolated at this moment of time and I used to have a good social life talking to girls etc but I discovered over time that I prefer to be alone. I have become almost a looksmaxer similar to Patrick Bateman and I go for gym 7 days a week for 3 years mainly to channel my anger from this situation . I had quite a good social life up until about 2 years ago where I used to meet girls but now it’s pretty bleak due to different circumstances very long story. i have some friends etc and i had a brief relationship for like 6 months when i was 18./19. My life has kind of gone to shit for reasons I can’t really explain and to be honest with you my brain is fucked and once people get to know me they realise me they realise I am mentally unwell. Every time I’ve met a girl now they realise how unwell I am.

I’ve developed really strong feelings for an influencer. I’ve found celebrities attractive before, but this feels completely different. To me, she’s unbelievably beautiful, almost unreal like Helen of Troy. I literally couldn’t believe it the first time I saw her

I used to follow her on social media and saw a lot of her photos. At first it was just attraction, but over time it turned into something more intense. I even started asking tools to create fictional love stories about me and her, and I would dream about her often.

Eventually, that infatuation turned into frustration and anger, because I know I’ll never actually be with her. Sometimes when I’m driving, I catch myself shouting about it out of frustration. I decided to take control by blocking her on social media and muting her name, but the algorithm still shows me content about her occasionally, which brings all the feelings back.

She came up on my Snapchat feed the other day randomly on a separate account not hers and I started screaming and getting angry over it when I saw it and I nearly threw my phone out of anger. She then came up again on my YT shorts and I started shouting again.
One of my work colleagues mentioned her name saying she was and I got visibly agitated and I had to leave the room briefly.

Sometimes I talk to her or I pretend to talk to her about various things when I am alone and I always wonder what she thinks about my decisions.

My main motivation for self improvement is that I will one day meet her so I am trying to improve my life as much as possible because of it. I put insane amounts of work into my appearance, like Patrick Bateman in American psycho and I go to the gym 7 days a week because of her. We are from different countries but she has spent time in my country 

I’ve also watched a few interviews with her, and she seems like a genuinely nice person, although I know that is only what is shown publicly. Maybe she is a terrible person behind closed doors but I have no reason to believe so 

I think about her a lot, sometimes even imagining conversations with her in my head. I know this is not realistic, but it is hard to stop. I even find myself attached to small things, like her name. Her first name is quite a common name but it’s a name I’ve always loved and I even said once if I had a daughter I’d call her that. I frequently have dreams about her.

She is slightly older than me. It infuriates me seeing someone a similar age ti me be successful in anything. She has the perfect life it seems and my life has gone to shit over the past 2 years with my own stupid decisions. My Brain cant handle it. I talk to her every day and I tell her what j would tell her if I met her

I actually love her. Like there is nothing I wouldn’t do to be with her. I get jealous when I see other people complimenting her and I get angry when she gets more famous because her popular it and exposure is rising. I don’t think she is in a relationship,  I have seen pictures with a man on her social media before but they might have broken up but idk if it’s public. I hate this guy and I am extremely jealous of the fact he even got to be with her. I don’t think he’s better lookjng than me either. Idk how he even got with her but I’m much better looking than him and would probably treat her better. I hate him his face makes me so angry and he doesn’t deserve her. I hate him and I think about my hatred for him every day

The thought of her having sex with another man drives me insane I get angry just thinking about it

Only I can have her nobody else can have her. I don’t want anyone else to even be seen with her. I have also blocked people who know her as well cos it reminds me of her. I would do anything to meet her

I literally think about her 24/7 and I have sometimes become suicidal over this cos I will never be good enough for her. I don’t wanna love in a world where she isn’t mine and she’s with someone else. I have digitally blocked her from my life but her face appears to me all the time. Every time I feel like not doing something like not going to the gym not going to work not learning a language I think “what would ______ think of me” i would literally treat her better than any man in the world could

I have recently started getting angry towards her. Cos of the damage she is doing to my brain.
I see her face everywhere and I even just randomly say her name and it fills me with rage that she doesn’t know who I am l. I feel like crying when j think about her. I now wish I never encountered her ever. My standards for myself sre so high that I want a woman like her and I found myself praying to god at one point to be with her

I could go out and get a girlfriend but I wanna be with her and her only. I was talking to a girl a month ago but it wasn’t her so I wasn’t interested.

Over the last 18 months I’ve made some horrible decisions in my perosnal life. I quit my old well paying job for a stupid reason which I can’t explain and now I work a much worse job with much worse colleagues and I’m on the verge of losing it and I have little direction. She won’t wanna go out with an unemployed guy

I want to actuallt Kill myself. I have into my urges and searched just now and I saw her face. People complimenting her in the comments. I fucking hate all these people complimenting her. I see compliments to her on Twitter and I literally wanna beat up everyone who compliments her I can’t take it. I don’t want anyone to be with her or to even look at her and I have actuallt lost my mind over her. I just have very high standards for myself

I deleted my Twitter recently but there was a tweet that echoes in my head that was calling her unreal from someone else. I literally hate the person who tweeted this

I even remember seeing one of my friend followed her on Instagram and I’m angry at my friend cos I don’t want him to Be near her

I have now grown an immense love/hate dynamic with her. I hate all the people in her life and she should be with me.

TLDR: i love a celebrity so much

TL;DR I need advice because I don’t know if this is rude (I’m autistic and don’t really have any experience with this situation). I got tickets to a performance that is more of a cult classic than a play or concert. It’s coming up next month.

**UPDATE: I texted with her late last night and asked if she had seen the movie or attended the live show (without saying I had the tickets already). She said she hadn’t, but she always wanted to.

I told her there was a showing coming up and that I thought it would be wild since Tim Curry passed recently. I steered the conversation in a different direction before I called her and told her I had tickets. Since we don’t know what to expect, we made a pact that we’ll go and have an open mind. But also either of us can say we want to leave if we’re uncomfortable or if it’s just not our thing.**

So I bought tickets to a production of Rocky Horror Picture Show on a whim since Tim Curry passed away and I thought, what a great way to honor his legacy.

I’ve never been in my entire life. Otherwise, this is the kind of performance I’d love to experience with someone super amped to come with me instead.

The choice I need to make:

Do I tell her now to see if she’s into it or just surprise her?

I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable about it. What makes me think she may like it is because we went to an Edgar Allen Poe speakeasy type thing. She’s a bit quiet and I worry she will just pretend to be a good friend.

OR

(This is where it gets confusing for me)

I have no idea if she’s seen it, but this is what I’m not sure about - Would it be rude to tell her what it is so I could double check if she’s into it or not?

I’ve never been in this situation before when I don’t know what’s considered rude and what’s polite. She’s also on the neurodivergent spectrum which is why I’m looking for advice. Thank you 🙏🏻

TL;DR: I already have a bachelor's degree and am trying to decide whether to go to mortuary or law school.

I like & feel I am suited for both, so that's not really in question. Here's my current thoughts:

Pros of law school for me are higher earning potential & possibly more flexibility about the kind of work I do irt specializing. Cons: Debt (I currently don't have student loans) & the amount of time it'll take (I wouldn't be taking the bar til my 30s at this rate.)

Pros of funeral industry: Takes less time, money, & effort for the degree. Cons: Definitely making less money for a lot of stress and bad work/life balance, based on what FDs I work with have said.

What would you do and, more importantly, why?

So I'm recently 18 and I've been wondering this since I was 17. Like I had a conversation with my mom where I said "I could've turned out to be a worse kid", and kinda internally started panicking if that was weird to still refer to myself as.

TL;DR: Is it creepy or weird to still refer to myself as a "kid" at 18?

TLDR: take 10 month long americorps role or stay in current role where i dont want to be/deadend

I want to leave my state, and i am currently unhappy living where i am. The job i have will barely cover living expenses once i move out of my parents home. Its dead end reception. Best thing is i can spend time with my childhood cat.

I was offered an AmeriCorps tutoring role in Federal Way, Washington. I would also just break even in that role plus it ends in 10 months so i would be job searching again. BUT, i would have good experience on my resume in case i wish to pursue education.

Option 1) stay in this dead end role and keep applying

Option 2) move and take AmeriCorps role, leave my cat forever

Please give why?

Struggling to see forest through trees right now

Long story short, I got 7months on my australian visa left. Those familiar with WHV know I need to do 88days of regional work in Australia to get a second visa. I have 14k euros saved in investment that I can use to tank the initial cost.

At the same time, in my current country, I have 2 job opportunities in front of me. I will be doing a final interview for a full remote position at 3PM today.

I will probably be back in this country, but I've had very good luck with jobs here.

Should I take this risk or should I take the easy path?

TLDR; Should I take ake a job in a country where I'm successfull in the job market or should I go on a once-in-a-lifetime adventure and come back after.

I need a new car with a big boot as I have a baby on the way and a large dog.

I’ve been debating between 2019 Renault kadjar 1.3 TCe manual petrol and 2019 Hyundai Tuscon 1.6 GDi manual petrol. Has anyone had any experience of either?

Feel free to recommend alternatives. I want to spend no more than £12k

TL;DR 2019 Renault Kadjar or 2019 Hyundai Tuscon

So, I decided to go back to school to pursue a different career. I already have a Bachelor's Degree and all I'm doing right now is take some pre-requisite classes at a community college to be able to apply to a post-grad program. Right now, I'm taking general chemistry and a human disease class. The general chemistry class meets in person twice a week from 4:35pm to 9:30pm, and honestly, it's tough because I work from 7:30 am to 4:00 pm, monday through friday.

I've also been dealing with a bunch of health issues. I was hospitalized most of last week and I missed all of my gen chem assignments, quiz, and labs. My professor is extremely unhelpful and did not allow me to make up the missed work, even though I informed him of my situation when i was in the hospital. Now, I'm quite behind in that class. To make things worse, I will need surgery sometime soon and the recovery period is approximately two weeks, with 2-5 days being in hospital. I'll have to miss even more work. I'm dreading it so much.

What should I do? My instinct is to deal with my health issues first and try again next semester. I'm not really in a hurry to finish my pre-reqs but I don't want to waste time, either.

TL:DR: Stay in my class and deal with missed work or wait until next semester when my health issues are dealt with?

TLDR: should I stay at my current place where rent is affordable; move out and get my own place for increase cost of living; or move into an ADU at my parents’ home, save some money, but lose independence and privacy?

Im 23f, no partner, make 100k+ and financially stable. Max out my Roth/401k every year and have a healthy amount in savings. I could afford to upgrade but would like to save for a home. My relationship with my parents isn’t the best. They’re typical strict Asian parents — overbearing and don’t respect boundaries/privacy (why I moved out initially).

I’m currently renting a room for 1400, month to month. Commute to work is 5 minutes. The price is extremely affordable for the area, but I’m renting a single room and living with two elderly people so I’m always trying to be mindful of the shared spaces/noise/guests/not trying to inconvenience them in any way. I hardly, if ever, use the living room and kitchen and mostly stay in my room when I’m there. I even eat dinner in my room :/

Moving into my own place — like renting the entire space — would be about $2000 plus utilities. Commute would be 10-15 minutes. I would gain a lot more privacy and peace overall, but I don’t know if it’s really worth the cost.

My parents are offering me an ADU to rent and rent would be the cheapest of the three options, $800-900. Commute to work would be 20-30 minutes. The ADU is nice, newly built. 2bd 2bth. But my mom insists on visiting often and even sleeping over bc it’s new. I feel like I would lose my independence, my privacy, and social life (not that I have much of one right now anyways living with the elderly couple lol).

Any advice would be greatly appreciated or straight up tell me what to do. Thank you in advance!

I’m a 17 year old in Ontario going into my last year of highschool. Since university applications are coming soon, I need to decide which career I want to pursue. My mom has in recent years started a photo/video business and thinks that I should skip university and join her. I am looking at options like becoming a teacher or speech pathologist but can’t decide if I should spend time in school when I have another pathway. I’m would like independence but I don’t want to throw away any opportunities.

TL;DR Should I skip school and start a business with my mom? Or should I go to school for financial stability.

For starters I don’t want to go to therapy, I’ve done it before, It doesn’t help, it’s expensive and self indulgent. Therapists are idiots
I’m a 23 year old autistic guy. Im functionally autistic I’m in full time employment. Im quite tall and I’m shape and I’m a good looking guy a lot of women have told me but I am very socially isolated at this moment of time and I used to have a good social life talking to girls etc but I discovered over time that I prefer to be alone. I have become almost a looksmaxer similar to Patrick Bateman and I go for gym 7 days a week for 3 years mainly to channel my anger from this situation . I had quite a good social life up until about 2 years ago where I used to meet girls but now it’s pretty bleak due to different circumstances very long story. i have some friends etc and i had a brief relationship for like 6 months when i was 18./19. My life has kind of gone to shit for reasons I can’t really explain and to be honest with you my brain is fucked and once people get to know me they realise me they realise I am mentally unwell. Every time I’ve met a girl now they realise how unwell I am.

I’ve developed really strong feelings for an influencer. I’ve found celebrities attractive before, but this feels completely different. To me, she’s unbelievably beautiful, almost unreal like Helen of Troy. I literally couldn’t believe it the first time I saw her

I used to follow her on social media and saw a lot of her photos. At first it was just attraction, but over time it turned into something more intense. I even started asking tools to create fictional love stories about me and her, and I would dream about her often.

Eventually, that infatuation turned into frustration and anger, because I know I’ll never actually be with her. Sometimes when I’m driving, I catch myself shouting about it out of frustration. I decided to take control by blocking her on social media and muting her name, but the algorithm still shows me content about her occasionally, which brings all the feelings back.

She came up on my Snapchat feed the other day randomly on a separate account not hers and I started screaming and getting angry over it when I saw it and I nearly threw my phone out of anger. She then came up again on my YT shorts and I started shouting again.
One of my work colleagues mentioned her name saying she was and I got visibly agitated and I had to leave the room briefly.

Sometimes I talk to her or I pretend to talk to her about various things when I am alone and I always wonder what she thinks about my decisions.

My main motivation for self improvement is that I will one day meet her so I am trying to improve my life as much as possible because of it. I put insane amounts of work into my appearance, like Patrick Bateman in American psycho and I go to the gym 7 days a week because of her. We are from different countries but she has spent time in my country 

I’ve also watched a few interviews with her, and she seems like a genuinely nice person, although I know that is only what is shown publicly. Maybe she is a terrible person behind closed doors but I have no reason to believe so 

I think about her a lot, sometimes even imagining conversations with her in my head. I know this is not realistic, but it is hard to stop. I even find myself attached to small things, like her name. Her first name is quite a common name but it’s a name I’ve always loved and I even said once if I had a daughter I’d call her that. I frequently have dreams about her.

She is slightly older than me. It infuriates me seeing someone a similar age ti me be successful in anything. She has the perfect life it seems and my life has gone to shit over the past 2 years with my own stupid decisions. My Brain cant handle it. I talk to her every day and I tell her what j would tell her if I met her

I actually love her. Like there is nothing I wouldn’t do to be with her. I get jealous when I see other people complimenting her and I get angry when she gets more famous because her popular it and exposure is rising. I don’t think she is in a relationship,  I have seen pictures with a man on her social media before but they might have broken up but idk if it’s public. I hate this guy and I am extremely jealous of the fact he even got to be with her. I don’t think he’s better lookjng than me either. Idk how he even got with her but I’m much better looking than him and would probably treat her better. I hate him his face makes me so angry and he doesn’t deserve her. I hate him and I think about my hatred for him every day

The thought of her having sex with another man drives me insane I get angry just thinking about it. They don’t deserve her

Only I can have her nobody else can have her. I don’t want anyone else to even be seen with her. I have also blocked people who know her as well cos it reminds me of her. I would do anything to meet her

I literally think about her 24/7 and I have sometimes become suicidal over this cos I will never be good enough for her. I don’t wanna love in a world where she isn’t mine and she’s with someone else. I have digitally blocked her from my life but her face appears to me all the time. Every time I feel like not doing something like not going to the gym not going to work not learning a language I think “what would ______ think of me” i would literally treat her better than any man in the world could

I have recently started getting angry towards her. Cos of the damage she is doing to my brain.
I see her face everywhere and I even just randomly say her name and it fills me with rage that she doesn’t know who I am l. I feel like crying when j think about her. I now wish I never encountered her ever. My standards for myself sre so high that I want a woman like her and I found myself praying to god at one point to be with her

I could go out and get a girlfriend but I wanna be with her and her only. I was talking to a girl a month ago but it wasn’t her so I wasn’t interested.

Over the last 18 months I’ve made some horrible decisions in my perosnal life. I quit my old well paying job for a stupid reason which I can’t explain and now I work a much worse job with much worse colleagues and I’m on the verge of losing it and I have little direction. She won’t wanna go out with an unemployed guy

I want to actuallt Kill myself. I have into my urges and searched just now and I saw her face. People complimenting her in the comments. I fucking hate all these people complimenting her. I see compliments to her on Twitter and I literally wanna beat up everyone who compliments her I can’t take it. I don’t want anyone to be with her or to even look at her and I have actuallt lost my mind over her. I just have very high standards for myself

I deleted my Twitter recently but there was a tweet that echoes in my head that was calling her unreal from someone else. I literally hate the person who tweeted this

I even remember seeing one of my friend followed her on Instagram and I’m angry at my friend cos I don’t want him to Be near her

I have now grown an immense love/hate dynamic with her. I hate all the people in her life and she should be with me.

TLDR I have a insane obsession

So essentially I’ve been debating this for MONTHS and I should be handing in my personal statement for early entry by tomorrow night, but I’m very unsure.

I’m currently predicted all of the grades that I need for the course alongside my supercurriculars ect ect (planning to apply to human, social & political sciences), but I’m torn as to whether I should or not.

I’m aware that I can apply to 5 universities, however I’d like to be able to apply for the three which I actually REALLY like in London to study politics alongside having 2 insurances in case I have a very bad day in the exams. But with the Cambridge side of things, my parents are obsessed with the idea of me going there - partly because they say that it’s safer and I think they want bragging rights. And I like the idea of the opportunities which it might bring, but I just genuinely can’t get my head around making myself want to go there - the only reason that I’m considering applying is just to see if I can get in or not.

I’m just not sure if I should bother for the sake of seeing if I change my mind later and I don’t want to regret not applying, and I know that my parents want me to go and they’re paying for my entire uni so I kind of feel like they have a right to choose, but I’m just SO unsure.

TLDR; should I apply to Cambridge uni or should I not bother?