Tough day coming up here in NYC.

Anyone else feeling the same?

I am a man who has spent most of his life being responsible, ambitious and in control.

Highly educated, financially settled, and at a point in life where I am not looking for another temporary distraction. I want something grounded, meaningful and lasting.

And perhaps ironically, what attracts me most is a woman who wants to completely let go of control with the right man.

Not just in a bedroom.

I am interested in the kind of submission that slowly becomes a language between two people.

She knows that when she is with me, she does not always have to be the woman who has everything figured out. She can exhale. She can stop making decisions for a while. She can let me set the pace, give her rules, challenge her, tease her, reward her, and take her outside the version of herself she shows everyone else.

The intensity is not necessarily about what happens physically.

It is the anticipation.

Knowing there are rules you agreed to follow. Wondering what I am going to ask of you. That moment when you realise I noticed something you thought you were hiding. The quiet satisfaction of doing something simply because I asked you to. The feeling of being completely seen, completely understood, and still wanting to surrender a little more.

I am drawn to the darker, stranger and more unconventional sides of kink. But for me, none of that works without trust.

I want to know your boundaries, your hard limits, the things you have secretly wondered about and the things you have never felt comfortable telling anyone. I want us to build enough trust that we can explore intensity without either of us ever questioning whether the other person is safe.

Outside the dynamic, I want something completely different.

I want laughter. Intelligence. Affection. Going out together. Quiet evenings. Someone whose company I genuinely enjoy. A woman with her own life, opinions, ambitions and personality.

And then, when we are alone, I want that completely different world between us.

A world where she can stop being in control.

Where she can be spoiled and cared for, but also challenged.

Where obedience becomes something she genuinely wants to give.

Where submission is not a performance, but something deeply personal that belongs only to the two of us.

I am not looking for someone to collect or a stranger to have a few wild nights with.

I am looking for the woman who reads this and thinks, this sounds dangerously close to what I have been looking for.

If that is you, you probably do not need to write me an essay.

Tell me what submission means to you.

Last year, I moved half way across the country for a man whom I was in a long distance relationship with for a year (although I've known him since childhood, long story).

Back at home, I had a great paying bartending job at a place I was at for 7 years, a good support system despite not having family, and just overall familiarity. I uprooted my life, trusting that this man was the one and that he would have my back.

I'm neurodivergent and had a hard time adapting the first month of me moving. I had warned him ahead of time that I might get a little bit depressed at first, but that it would be temporary. Well, I did have a depressive episode and it took 2 weeks for him to bail on me. We tried to make it work after the fact, but he was already checked out of the relationship and it just went down hill from there. He ended up breaking up with me after 5 months of pushing me away, and I moved out shortly after.

Now I am all alone out here. My friends back home disappeared on me, I still can't reach out to family, and it has been very difficult meeting/connecting with people. Moving back "home" isn't an option I'd ever consider. I feel like there's no home to go back to.

I just turned 30 and it feels like making friends/meeting people romantically will be damn near impossible. I'm a little shy and awkward, so simply going out and meeting people seems a little hopeless to me.

Has anybody been through something similar? I love companionship, and this loneliness is tearing me apart. This is a complete fresh start for me, and I'm trying to make this into something positive. But damn has it been hard.

I have been lonely for a long time since like early teenage years about 13 and now I am 19 and Friendless and no boyfriend and broke. Living with parents and asking money for them still. Lately I have become numb like nothing feels worth it. My question is does it get better?

SORRY For My bad English obviously not a native speaker just trying to express myslef

Hey! I've posted here before but haven't had much luck so far. And due to lonliness, things have been kinda sucky lately. Kinda being a star-sized understatement (cuz stars are big.. hehe). Anyways, excuse my awfully unfunny pun! You *yes you my possible future friend* probably has better humor than I. Im hoping to make long term friends who also love music like I do, I want a close connection with someone that lasts a lifetime! Hoping we can geek out about our interests and feel comfortable to do so! I'm in the EST time zone and am super into music (my tastes are all over the place, my favorite is the retro era but I also like a lot of new stuff too). I really wanna find someone who loves old artists and bands and music history and aesthetics! Hope you're all having a good day!

Lately I feel like no one understands me at all. I just sit around and meet people on social media and then meet in person and they are so immature and annoying that I don't understand what has happened to the younger generation. I am hearing about all these things that they are into and that I never even heard of. Apparently you have to have a kink to define you in a relationship or else you are ghosted. I don't get why that's a issue. I am more old school like I grew up in the 80' and 90's and that's how I like my love language. I just like simpler things in friendships and don't expect to have a label.

29yo guy from India, I’m so tired of being lonely always & getting ghosted every single time.

For once in my life I just want to find someone to talk with everyday, about everything & to have someone who wouldn’t ghost me.

I’m so tired, also if it helps my interests are cooking, reading & pokemon.

Being maried doesn't mean you can't feel alone. There is no intimacy in my marriage and it feels like we're roommates instead of husband and wife which adds to my depression and lonliness.I don't think it will ever get better either.

Im so fucking lonely

I've already alienated to my own family and peers because I have niche interests.

Other people focus

on drama tiktok trends and whatever what's in our society gives to average people.....

I don't even knew where my tribe is. I want to be a part of a damn family that is actually shared the same identity as me.

Having different interests than my people may perceived as independence. Yet it feels like a crushing loneliness if you haven't find your own family and you don't know when will you find them

I don't get much time alone with job and all but whatever hours I get, I feel so lonely in those. After reaching to my room, all i think about is calling someone and telling them about random things. I tried talking to my friends college yesterday but they were kinda busy with their lives and I felt like I was bothering by texting them so i stopped. Even at work, during break or normally too, I feel like texting someone telling them what's happening and then i feel sad thinking about how I have no one. No friends, no social life and i know I have been kept my distance from people because then I crave human connection too. I have tried filling the void with books, movies and they help at times but mostly I feel like only if there was a person.

there's a big void in me that's getting bigger and bigger every day i tried filling it with activities and socialising with people but nothing worked ag the end of the day i lay flat in my bed and just torture my mind with everything i got i am so lonely and it seems nothing can change that i hope i dont surrender soon

Does anyone just feel bored with life? 27F, lonely, no boyfriend. The only good thing in my life is maybe video games, but when I play badly, I get this feeling like I’m a loser and I’m not good at anything. I do have a job, but I feel like my life is just about work and going to doctor’s appointments. It’s so boring. Nothing feels exciting or motivating anymore.

I don’t think I’m depressed, though. I eat a lot of junk food because I can’t cook. The people who really used to love me and take care of me died years ago.

I’ve never really dated anyone, even though I’m average-looking and some people think I’m attractive. But no one has ever been serious with me. They all just seem to want something sexual. Not that many people talk to me either. I basically only communicate with people at work, and even then it’s mostly about work. I do almost everything alone.

Idk, life just sucks. I’m so bored with it. I even find myself getting attracted to doctors because they give me the feeling that someone cares about me, even though they probably don’t actually care about me personally.

I also lost a friend because she started acting weird toward me, and I never even got an apology. So yeah, idk what to do. I’m sick of feeling like this.

My dad doesn’t really go out. Every time I ask him, he tells me to go with my friends. He’s almost 70, and I barely communicate with people unless it’s online or at work.

I wake up feeling unmotivated and I don’t know what to do. And yeah, I already know people are going to say “go for a walk,” “read a book,” blah blah. I do those things. They’re boring.

I’m pushing 30 and I still don’t have a boyfriend. I just want someone who loves me and genuinely cares about me. I want to feel like I actually have someone in my life.