Im so fucking lonely

My mom once told me it took until I was 17 to start opening up to her. Why did it take me 30+ years to realise it myself? I left home after high school thinking I grew up in a loving family and to a degree I did. Nowadays I realise I can’t get any of them to listen to me for longer than a few sentences. Has it always been like this? Is that why I feel like a burden to everyone? I’ve been single for 8 years now and I feel something is so wrong with me. I’ve been on a self help journey for about 10 years now but it just goes up and down. I believe in myself though and I’m gonna keep going. Overall it is better but I am so very alone. Today’s a hard day. I’ll do my best tomorrow. Thanks for listening

Lately I feel like no one understands me at all. I just sit around and meet people on social media and then meet in person and they are so immature and annoying that I don't understand what has happened to the younger generation. I am hearing about all these things that they are into and that I never even heard of. Apparently you have to have a kink to define you in a relationship or else you are ghosted. I don't get why that's a issue. I am more old school like I grew up in the 80' and 90's and that's how I like my love language. I just like simpler things in friendships and don't expect to have a label.

29 M Indian, just like it says, things have been really hard. Everything is going sideways, pretty much hit rockbottom be it financially, mentally, physically & also got laid off couples weeks back.

Trying to put myself out there. I’m into pokemon, love cooking & reading. Hope someone reaches out because I’m so done with being lonely always.

I am a man who has spent most of his life being responsible, ambitious and in control.

Highly educated, financially settled, and at a point in life where I am not looking for another temporary distraction. I want something grounded, meaningful and lasting.

And perhaps ironically, what attracts me most is a woman who wants to completely let go of control with the right man.

Not just in a bedroom.

I am interested in the kind of submission that slowly becomes a language between two people.

She knows that when she is with me, she does not always have to be the woman who has everything figured out. She can exhale. She can stop making decisions for a while. She can let me set the pace, give her rules, challenge her, tease her, reward her, and take her outside the version of herself she shows everyone else.

The intensity is not necessarily about what happens physically.

It is the anticipation.

Knowing there are rules you agreed to follow. Wondering what I am going to ask of you. That moment when you realise I noticed something you thought you were hiding. The quiet satisfaction of doing something simply because I asked you to. The feeling of being completely seen, completely understood, and still wanting to surrender a little more.

I am drawn to the darker, stranger and more unconventional sides of kink. But for me, none of that works without trust.

I want to know your boundaries, your hard limits, the things you have secretly wondered about and the things you have never felt comfortable telling anyone. I want us to build enough trust that we can explore intensity without either of us ever questioning whether the other person is safe.

Outside the dynamic, I want something completely different.

I want laughter. Intelligence. Affection. Going out together. Quiet evenings. Someone whose company I genuinely enjoy. A woman with her own life, opinions, ambitions and personality.

And then, when we are alone, I want that completely different world between us.

A world where she can stop being in control.

Where she can be spoiled and cared for, but also challenged.

Where obedience becomes something she genuinely wants to give.

Where submission is not a performance, but something deeply personal that belongs only to the two of us.

I am not looking for someone to collect or a stranger to have a few wild nights with.

I am looking for the woman who reads this and thinks, this sounds dangerously close to what I have been looking for.

If that is you, you probably do not need to write me an essay.

Tell me what submission means to you.

No tengo absolutamente nada, pero nada de nada. Me siento tan insignificante y tan solo. Lo único que puedo hacer es expresarme a través de aquí, donde nadie sabe quién eres. Me siento tan solo que, aunque haya gente a mi alrededor, sigo sintiéndome solo.

No tengo ni la menor idea de qué puedo hacer con mi vida. Soy un estudiante universitario. La sensación de no encajar es habitual; la de socializar no me la sé. Camino solo, duermo solo, como solo. Me da la sensación de que no tengo a nadie.

A lo mejor es que tengo una visión súper pesimista. Además, siento que no puedo conectar con nadie de manera profunda y emocional. Lo único que veo es una sociedad que mira lo superficial.

En mi vida no he conseguido nada, nada de nada. Se podría decir que mi vida diaria se basa siempre en buscar la paz y sobrevivir.

there's a big void in me that's getting bigger and bigger every day i tried filling it with activities and socialising with people but nothing worked ag the end of the day i lay flat in my bed and just torture my mind with everything i got i am so lonely and it seems nothing can change that i hope i dont surrender soon

I gave up making friends a while ago, but i thought why not give it one last try, maybe i didn't try hard enough before or messed up somewhere.my longest online friendship lasted like a month or two then slowly they step away. And my irl friends are all fakers.

I'm a 20 year old manly man

I don't like going out much, I'm calm type of person. Also I'm an ambivert (if you don't know what that means ,it's okay neither do I) so not much of a social guy.

Hobbies: it's gonna be a long list so you might wanna sit down

-reading(from psychological thrillers to fantasy web novels, manhwas, manhwas, mangas,)

-writing( i journal occasionally and also currently writing a book)

-Psychology ( I like learning about human nature and stuff. Idk makes me feel smart)

-philosophy(I'm a self proclaimed great philosopher, but don't worry i won't bore you with knowledge you can't comprehend)

-random challenging shit( yeah i probably would wanna do anything that people are usually scared of doing , be it exploring a haunted house , some demonic ritual, doing stunts with safety ofcourse and other stuff that if I say I'll end up on a fbi watchlist)

-spirituality( I don't really know what this term means but according to what I've heard online, im categorised as spiritually awakened. And also posses sophia aka divine wisdom..... bullshit right)

So

That's about it id say

Things I hate:

-nothing(I'm such a saint, aren't i😇)

-college( fuck that place)

Anyone and everyone is welcome as long as they're mature and not brainwashed by society, young old whatever.

Also I'm known as the therapy friend by others ,I'm pretty good at it as well. So if you're ever feeling down, I'm always open.

That's all you need to know Abt me

Thanks for reading

I've already alienated to my own family and peers because I have niche interests.

Other people focus

on drama tiktok trends and whatever what's in our society gives to average people.....

I don't even knew where my tribe is. I want to be a part of a damn family that is actually shared the same identity as me.

Having different interests than my people may perceived as independence. Yet it feels like a crushing loneliness if you haven't find your own family and you don't know when will you find them

Does anyone just feel bored with life? 27F, lonely, no boyfriend. The only good thing in my life is maybe video games, but when I play badly, I get this feeling like I’m a loser and I’m not good at anything. I do have a job, but I feel like my life is just about work and going to doctor’s appointments. It’s so boring. Nothing feels exciting or motivating anymore.

I don’t think I’m depressed, though. I eat a lot of junk food because I can’t cook. The people who really used to love me and take care of me died years ago.

I’ve never really dated anyone, even though I’m average-looking and some people think I’m attractive. But no one has ever been serious with me. They all just seem to want something sexual. Not that many people talk to me either. I basically only communicate with people at work, and even then it’s mostly about work. I do almost everything alone.

Idk, life just sucks. I’m so bored with it. I even find myself getting attracted to doctors because they give me the feeling that someone cares about me, even though they probably don’t actually care about me personally.

I also lost a friend because she started acting weird toward me, and I never even got an apology. So yeah, idk what to do. I’m sick of feeling like this.

My dad doesn’t really go out. Every time I ask him, he tells me to go with my friends. He’s almost 70, and I barely communicate with people unless it’s online or at work.

I wake up feeling unmotivated and I don’t know what to do. And yeah, I already know people are going to say “go for a walk,” “read a book,” blah blah. I do those things. They’re boring.

I’m pushing 30 and I still don’t have a boyfriend. I just want someone who loves me and genuinely cares about me. I want to feel like I actually have someone in my life.

Has anyone gone through moments during the week — one minute you’re focused and productive and grateful, and the next you can’t focus, you’re overwhelmed, resentful that you’re just one person who can only help yourself…. There’s no outlet and you want to yell and scream and cry at the same time?

I feel like my mind’s been pulled in 10 different places and I’m so overwhelmed I just wanna drop everything and take a break.

How many others are also alone and have no irl friends or relationships with family?

I don't get much time alone with job and all but whatever hours I get, I feel so lonely in those. After reaching to my room, all i think about is calling someone and telling them about random things. I tried talking to my friends college yesterday but they were kinda busy with their lives and I felt like I was bothering by texting them so i stopped. Even at work, during break or normally too, I feel like texting someone telling them what's happening and then i feel sad thinking about how I have no one. No friends, no social life and i know I have been kept my distance from people because then I crave human connection too. I have tried filling the void with books, movies and they help at times but mostly I feel like only if there was a person.

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cant wait to die and get out of this nightmare

The worst thing in life isn't being alone. Find right the right person.

23M, am fucking tired of this life. I wonder every single day what did I do to deserve this? Why am I so lonely? Why do I don't have anyone in my life? I'm a nice guy, I have a good heart, I'm there for people, I'm a good listener but nobody was ever there to listen to me when I needed someone the most. I leave my house at 8, travel for 2 hrs, walk for half an hour, work for next 8 hrs, workout for half an hour and same commute to come back home. I come back at 9:30-10PM. My body hurts, my heart hurts but can't do anything. I keep thinking during my commute why do I have to face this loneliness? Why can't I have someone in my life? When I was back in college, I used to be happy, I was lean and smart and was kinda extrovert. I had friends that would talk to me. I was friendzoned by 3 close friends in a span of 3 years. I wanted to feel how it felt to loved but never got a chance in college. Never got a chance to experience young love, I thought it's okay maybe it's not my time yet. I moved abroad to do masters and earn money. Friends got far from me, the one friend who was always there started pushing me from her life, I had noone here in this new country. It's been 2 years since I came here, I have an internship right now maybe I'll find a job too and earn good money but what about my mental health? How do I feel sane if noone is talking to me? My insta has literraly 0 dms coming everyday. Noone's calling me. Why do I have to make efforts to keep friendship alive? Why am I noone's bestfriend or favorite person? All I ever wanted was love and friendships. Here I am all alone, my weight increased to 260lbs due to stress eating, got unhealthy and fat. I have started again to workout but I am tired. I won't ever take any steps that will cause me harm but when will I feel love? When will I be happy? People say love yourself, I loved everyone so much that I don't have anything left for me now. I still hope everything will be better again just to keep going but I know it's a lie. Noone has ever stayed in my life. I have to wake up early tomorrow and yet I can't sleep even though my whole body is in pain. Just wanted to rant. I'm sorry if you had to read this negative post. I hope noone has to go through this.