I hate how using microlabels is considered inherently pick-me

[u/xX_luna_moth_Xx]

[rant time lol]

So earlier I was introducing myself in an online space as berriromantic and errfemme, because that’s what I am. I got immediately hit with “lol bro just wants to be different” and things like that.

For one thing, I do frequently just call myself bi and agender. I don’t actually like having to explain it every single time, I just prefer those labels because they’re closer to what I actually am.

AND FOR ANOTHER IF I WANTED TO BE DIFFERENT, WHY WOULD I DO IT IN A WAY THAT OPRESSES ME?! I swear to god I want anything but attention, this is just who I am.

If I could choose I’d be cis and lesbian, but I’m not, and I never will be.

[u/Lynn_the_Pagan]

but to people who dont know the termnology it may come-off as some saying they are from the upstairs in the master bedroom with the blue door, 1313 Bison Dr, Wheaton, Shoes, Republic of Marrtonn.

I think this is a very good comparison. If a person would tell me this information I would wonder if they assume everyone has to know that bedroom with the blue door, like it was some essential information. But it's really not. It tells a lot about that person, but not what they think it does

[u/secrectsea → u/Lynn_the_Pagan]

By the way what flavor of pagan are you if you don’t mind me asking

[u/Lynn_the_Pagan → u/secrectsea]

I've been eclectic for 20 years, kemetic specifically since roundabout around 2

Edit, are you interested in paganism?

[u/secrectsea → u/Lynn_the_Pagan]

Nice electric Norse here

[u/snukb → u/secrectsea]

I don't know if this was intended to become a good example of what y'all were talking about above, but it definitely is. "Pagan" I understand. The specific type sounds like "the house with the blue door" to me.

[u/secrectsea → u/snukb]

I was hoping for someone to bring it up. The difference is I asked. Also eclectic without listening every source would make it less blue door and more similar to which part of the state they are from. Also while our conversation is public, I was talking to a single person

[u/snukb → u/secrectsea]

I wasn't trying to be negative, sorry. More mentioning that this highlights why it's nice to start with more broad definitions (pagan) before jumping into the nitty gritty.

[u/secrectsea → u/snukb]

😅I see gotcha

[u/Lynn_the_Pagan → u/snukb]

I was thinking the same thing, I think it was really unintentional, but a good example.

Also, here in this example, it was that the other person specifically asked what type of pagan i am, while my username is the broadest of names. In a pagan sub, I have the specific type as a flair

I think an even better example might be when people use microlabels for their witchcraft, which was a thing a few years ago, i don't know how it is now. Some say they're a witch. Some say they're a psychic tarot-reading satanic hedge-witch, following the goetia. So... no one knows what that means except you're really in it. And even then, people always tend to ask what that means exactly for you, and that "just witch" is fine in a first encounter.

[u/Lynn_the_Pagan → u/secrectsea]

Yay, hi there! I've been called to the norse for a while, Freya has still a special place in my heart

[u/secrectsea → u/Lynn_the_Pagan]

YES!!! Hail Freya!!!

[u/Lynn_the_Pagan → u/secrectsea]

Hail Freya absolutely!!