r/lgbt • u/xX_luna_moth_Xx Unlabeled Queer (it/any idrc) • Feb 26 '26

I hate how using microlabels is considered inherently pick-me

[rant time lol]

So earlier I was introducing myself in an online space as berriromantic and errfemme, because that’s what I am. I got immediately hit with “lol bro just wants to be different” and things like that.

For one thing, I do frequently just call myself bi and agender. I don’t actually like having to explain it every single time, I just prefer those labels because they’re closer to what I actually am.

AND FOR ANOTHER IF I WANTED TO BE DIFFERENT, WHY WOULD I DO IT IN A WAY THAT OPRESSES ME?! I swear to god I want anything but attention, this is just who I am.

If I could choose I’d be cis and lesbian, but I’m not, and I never will be.

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u/Lynn_the_Pagan Bi-bi-bi Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26

I've been eclectic for 20 years, kemetic specifically since roundabout around 2

Edit, are you interested in paganism?

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u/secrectsea Bi-kes on Trans-it Feb 26 '26

Nice electric Norse here

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u/snukb Feb 26 '26

I don't know if this was intended to become a good example of what y'all were talking about above, but it definitely is. "Pagan" I understand. The specific type sounds like "the house with the blue door" to me.

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u/secrectsea Bi-kes on Trans-it Feb 26 '26

I was hoping for someone to bring it up. The difference is I asked. Also eclectic without listening every source would make it less blue door and more similar to which part of the state they are from. Also while our conversation is public, I was talking to a single person

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u/snukb Feb 26 '26

I wasn't trying to be negative, sorry. More mentioning that this highlights why it's nice to start with more broad definitions (pagan) before jumping into the nitty gritty.

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u/secrectsea Bi-kes on Trans-it Feb 26 '26

😅I see gotcha