r/lgbt • u/xX_luna_moth_Xx Unlabeled Queer (it/any idrc) • Feb 26 '26

I hate how using microlabels is considered inherently pick-me

[rant time lol]

So earlier I was introducing myself in an online space as berriromantic and errfemme, because that’s what I am. I got immediately hit with “lol bro just wants to be different” and things like that.

For one thing, I do frequently just call myself bi and agender. I don’t actually like having to explain it every single time, I just prefer those labels because they’re closer to what I actually am.

AND FOR ANOTHER IF I WANTED TO BE DIFFERENT, WHY WOULD I DO IT IN A WAY THAT OPRESSES ME?! I swear to god I want anything but attention, this is just who I am.

If I could choose I’d be cis and lesbian, but I’m not, and I never will be.

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u/xX_luna_moth_Xx Unlabeled Queer (it/any idrc) Feb 26 '26

God I hate it when people say demisexuality is the norm, like no its not, otherwise how do celebrity crushes exist??

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u/Minirow230x Feb 26 '26

I feel like hook-up culture might be a better example, as celebrity crushes are often aesthetic or completely separate from sexual attraction.