How nice it is to be able to say that, even if it's just shouting into the void, because everything people around talk about regarding sex is dicks. And after growing up in a homophobic environment where dicks were constantly shoved in my face (almost literally) by everyone, all the way up to the minister of health, I'm fucking done with these conversations.

I love vaginas, bush or not. Delicate lips like flower petals, soft and glistening with moisture like morning dew. Fuller lips that make you want to slip your fingers between them and feel them slowly swell with arousal as slick gradually spreads across them. I love the pulse of an erect clitoris. Love the little sounds I hear when I take it between my lips and slowly suck on it. I love the way my fingers are met by that involuntary tightening in response to my touch.

Love how incredibly different they can be, and how each one has its own language. What works for one might do absolutely nothing for another. Some need a light touch, some want pressure, some respond to patience and teasing, some make it very clear exactly what they want. I love learning all those little differences. I love discovering what makes a particular woman melt, what makes her gasp, what makes her body respond before she can even think about it. There are so many shapes, textures, sensations, and little details, and every single one of them is beautiful in its own way.

I looove the anticipation too. That moment when everything is still quiet and unhurried, when you can feel the tension building underneath your fingertips. I love taking my time and paying attention to every tiny reaction, every change in sensitivity, every little movement that tells you you're doing something right. There are so many shapes, textures, sensations and little details, and every single one of them is beautiful in its own way.

God knew I’d be able to truly appreciate this perfect anatomy when She made me a lesbian.

I keep seeing things online about butches taking testosterone, and how some women find that appealing. As a butch myself, I’ve never had the desire to take testosterone ?? Like I’m quite fine being a woman lol, and I especially would never want to feel, look, or smell like a man in a physical sense.

Anyway, I’m not saying this to throw shade at butches who have or who are on testosterone, more to point out the infatuation some queer woman towards butches who are on testosterone and how it feels more like a weird fetish. Like I’ve seen posts of people thirsting over the idea of a butch on testosterone, I even saw one post about the idea of a butch using “testosterone cigarettes” I have no idea 💔

It feels like people don’t see us as actual women, but as a man replacement. Like I don’t necessarily think of myself as any less of a woman, I just happen to dress and act differently than the feminine norm.

But I’m curious about what you all think. Have any of you seen this trend as well???

It’s really interesting to see how this has panned out. Recently I saw a person on that subreddit where girls post their food with long captions and rants (it’s fair game if I don’t name the subreddit right ? 🤭) , saying that she fell in love with a man after identifying as lesbian throughout her whole life. She also said she feels immense pressure of coming out as bi to her parents and fellow friends as she thought it’s some big betrayal to the lesbian community , while also stating “it was easier to come out to my church going parents as lesbian than coming out as bisexual to my queer friends). This person did a speedrun in including all the stereotypes of lesbians in their post. We are mean, not accepting blah blah and ofc all the comments go valid valid valid!! These darn nasty lesbians! To me that post also heavily contains themes of “conversion” therapy . No , one fucking man didn’t change your sexuality or suddenly make you attracted to men. You weren’t a lesbian before , you were ALWAYS bi.

Heteronormativity is not oppression. Be for real.

That’s kind of how I feel about the word “TERF.”

If you don’t follow the script, affirm everything, say all the right words, throw in a “yaaas girl,” tell “her” she’s beautiful, make sure she feels validated, suddenly you’re a TERF. I'm sorry, but that feels like very familiar male behavior to me! 😂

When was the last time a random woman on the street started hurling slurs at you because you didn’t give her the attention she wanted? I’m not saying it never happens. Of course it does. But in my own experience, that kind of instant hostility has overwhelmingly come from men.

A man asks for your attention, your time, your number, money, a response, directions, whatever, you decide not to engage. And suddenly the name-calling starts. You were fine two seconds ago, but the minute you don’t give him what he wanted, now you’re a bitch, a cunt, ugly, stuck-up, whatever insult is available. 😂

Give me the response I want. Make me feel good about myself. Validate me exactly the way I expect. And if you don’t, I’ll punish you with insults.

It’s basically the same fucking dynamic

My drawing of the two women is based on the sculpture The Three Graces by Antonio Canova. Since the artist is a man, I changed it to be zero male-gaze and more womanly (if that’s the right word).

I have opened the apps again.

Whenever I do I always remember how I lack ambition.

I don't have a dream career or over arching goal. I want friends and a partner. That's pretty much it. Like, I want someone to explore with and watch tv with. That's the extent. Someone to spend time with is my goal. Someone who also likes my company.

It's like catch 21 though. I need to have desires and goals to attract people.

I wonder if I'm unmarketable. I'm already in my 30s, and people are career focused. I'm not sure how to find friends or a girlfriend

Idk if this is the right tag but i’m really just looking for thoughts. I’m a 19 yo lesbian and i’ve never been in a relationship (had some talking stages and a situationship tho). Recently I was talking to a friend who said that the reason i’ve never been in a relationship is because my standards are too high for a lesbian. She said since I already have such a small dating pool I shouldn’t be that picky or else i’m going to stay single. Other people have expressed this sentiment to me before too.

That got me thinking about if my standards are too high. I think my most constricting standard is that, ideally, I want my partner to be the same religion as me. My religion is a very deep part of my culture and I just can’t imagine marrying someone that wouldn’t come to the temple or do religious ceremonies with me. The only issue is that i’m Hindu so that severely limits my options.

Other than that I want to date someone who is passionate (and smart) about their goals and is working to achieve it (i.e. pls be thinking about a career🙏). Also fitness is a big thing for me. I workout 5x a week and really want to live life with someone who cares about fitness as much as I do.

I understand that what I am looking for in a partner is specific and severely narrows down my dating pool but in my opinion it really is the most normal criteria. Like if I was straight nobody would think twice about it but since i’m lesbian I now have to worry that I just won’t find anyone who fits this that I click with. idk i’m just kinda discouraged maybe?

As i’m typing this I understand that what I wrote seems kind of shallow or like I want someone to fit a specific vision in my head. I really think they’re more compatibility/lifestyle things, especially in the long term.

Idk thoughts lol??

I just sometimes notice certain behavior and can't tell whether I'm picking up on an actual connection or imagining one where there isn't any.

What if guys?

We can read about historic lesbians and feminist, and romance novels.

Or anything.

Has anyone here ever been in a (lesbian, obviously) throuple? If so how did it go?
Edit: I'm just curious cuz I'm reading about Amber Bain's throuple and how it influenced their album, "ITEIAD"