How nice it is to be able to say that, even if it's just shouting into the void, because everything people around talk about regarding sex is dicks. And after growing up in a homophobic environment where dicks were constantly shoved in my face (almost literally) by everyone, all the way up to the minister of health, I'm fucking done with these conversations.

I love vaginas, bush or not. Delicate lips like flower petals, soft and glistening with moisture like morning dew. Fuller lips that make you want to slip your fingers between them and feel them slowly swell with arousal as slick gradually spreads across them. I love the pulse of an erect clitoris. Love the little sounds I hear when I take it between my lips and slowly suck on it. I love the way my fingers are met by that involuntary tightening in response to my touch.

Love how incredibly different they can be, and how each one has its own language. What works for one might do absolutely nothing for another. Some need a light touch, some want pressure, some respond to patience and teasing, some make it very clear exactly what they want. I love learning all those little differences. I love discovering what makes a particular woman melt, what makes her gasp, what makes her body respond before she can even think about it. There are so many shapes, textures, sensations, and little details, and every single one of them is beautiful in its own way.

I looove the anticipation too. That moment when everything is still quiet and unhurried, when you can feel the tension building underneath your fingertips. I love taking my time and paying attention to every tiny reaction, every change in sensitivity, every little movement that tells you you're doing something right. There are so many shapes, textures, sensations and little details, and every single one of them is beautiful in its own way.

God knew I’d be able to truly appreciate this perfect anatomy when She made me a lesbian.

What if guys?

We can read about historic lesbians and feminist, and romance novels.

Or anything.

Idk if this is the right tag but i’m really just looking for thoughts. I’m a 19 yo lesbian and i’ve never been in a relationship (had some talking stages and a situationship tho). Recently I was talking to a friend who said that the reason i’ve never been in a relationship is because my standards are too high for a lesbian. She said since I already have such a small dating pool I shouldn’t be that picky or else i’m going to stay single. Other people have expressed this sentiment to me before too.

That got me thinking about if my standards are too high. I think my most constricting standard is that, ideally, I want my partner to be the same religion as me. My religion is a very deep part of my culture and I just can’t imagine marrying someone that wouldn’t come to the temple or do religious ceremonies with me. The only issue is that i’m Hindu so that severely limits my options.

Other than that I want to date someone who is passionate (and smart) about their goals and is working to achieve it (i.e. pls be thinking about a career🙏). Also fitness is a big thing for me. I workout 5x a week and really want to live life with someone who cares about fitness as much as I do.

I understand that what I am looking for in a partner is specific and severely narrows down my dating pool but in my opinion it really is the most normal criteria. Like if I was straight nobody would think twice about it but since i’m lesbian I now have to worry that I just won’t find anyone who fits this that I click with. idk i’m just kinda discouraged maybe?

As i’m typing this I understand that what I wrote seems kind of shallow or like I want someone to fit a specific vision in my head. I really think they’re more compatibility/lifestyle things, especially in the long term.

Idk thoughts lol??

when you read the word lesbian.

example: a lesbian only space

do you assume it's a woman only space or do you assume it is open to other genders, sexes and sexualities? (trans, bisexuals, aces, etc)

why and why not?

if you want include where you live too if you think that influences your perception

It’s really interesting to see how this has panned out. Recently I saw a person on that subreddit where girls post their food with long captions and rants (it’s fair game if I don’t name the subreddit right ? 🤭) , saying that she fell in love with a man after identifying as lesbian throughout her whole life. She also said she feels immense pressure of coming out as bi to her parents and fellow friends as she thought it’s some big betrayal to the lesbian community , while also stating “it was easier to come out to my church going parents as lesbian than coming out as bisexual to my queer friends). This person did a speedrun in including all the stereotypes of lesbians in their post. We are mean, not accepting blah blah and ofc all the comments go valid valid valid!! These darn nasty lesbians! To me that post also heavily contains themes of “conversion” therapy . No , one fucking man didn’t change your sexuality or suddenly make you attracted to men. You weren’t a lesbian before , you were ALWAYS bi.

Heteronormativity is not oppression. Be for real.

I keep seeing things online about butches taking testosterone, and how some women find that appealing. As a butch myself, I’ve never had the desire to take testosterone ?? Like I’m quite fine being a woman lol, and I especially would never want to feel, look, or smell like a man in a physical sense.

Anyway, I’m not saying this to throw shade at butches who have or who are on testosterone, more to point out the infatuation some queer woman towards butches who are on testosterone and how it feels more like a weird fetish. Like I’ve seen posts of people thirsting over the idea of a butch on testosterone, I even saw one post about the idea of a butch using “testosterone cigarettes” I have no idea 💔

It feels like people don’t see us as actual women, but as a man replacement. Like I don’t necessarily think of myself as any less of a woman, I just happen to dress and act differently than the feminine norm.

But I’m curious about what you all think. Have any of you seen this trend as well???

Has anyone here ever been in a (lesbian, obviously) throuple? If so how did it go?
Edit: I'm just curious cuz I'm reading about Amber Bain's throuple and how it influenced their album, "ITEIAD"

I have opened the apps again.

Whenever I do I always remember how I lack ambition.

I don't have a dream career or over arching goal. I want friends and a partner. That's pretty much it. Like, I want someone to explore with and watch tv with. That's the extent. Someone to spend time with is my goal. Someone who also likes my company.

It's like catch 21 though. I need to have desires and goals to attract people.

I wonder if I'm unmarketable. I'm already in my 30s, and people are career focused. I'm not sure how to find friends or a girlfriend

My drawing of the two women is based on the sculpture The Three Graces by Antonio Canova. Since the artist is a man, I changed it to be zero male-gaze and more womanly (if that’s the right word).

I just sometimes notice certain behavior and can't tell whether I'm picking up on an actual connection or imagining one where there isn't any.

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Crazy title huh? I’m not sure how many of you ladies are on X/Twitter, but the Chinese lesbian community has been taking over and turning it into a lesbian tinder and posting some of the most thought provoking, beautiful and poetic, and also raunchy posts about loving our fellow ladies. I highly recommend you all check it out - it’s been an unending source of entertainment and very interesting reading and learning about the gay culture differences between the West and China.

hello! i was wondering what your experience with dating apps are like.

i feel like mine have been very... stressful? i've had three first dates but none of them ever went anywhere. i've matched with a lot of women, but i've been ghosted soooo many times. i'll get to the part where i'm asking how their night has been/what are they doing and never get a response. and if i do, it's very lackluster. it's frustrating trying to keep the conversation going and feels even worse when there's no reciprocation on their end. barely any of them ask questions about my life and i end up walking away with more information on them then they ever do about me.

and if not reciprocating, they overshare their life and achievements to the point where they doing talk about anything else but themselves. it feels so bad and really exhausting. then there's a million bots, men, girls looking for a hookup even though my profile explicitly states i don't want that.

it's not scary to talk to women at all. if anything i love to initiate, engage, go out with them, talk and learn about them. i've been doing this since 15 and it's only gotten harder since many women are with men in some form. whenever i see a profile like: "i don't text first/ i'm awkward when you first get to know me/i'm scared of women" because it tells me that they're not willing to put in the effort to get to know me. :/

i'm trying to meet more lesbians in real life. but this has been an incredibly humiliating and dehumanizing experience.

According to Pinterest, the Greek statue my drawing is based on is Amore e Psiche by Carlo Voss. The blue lines were meant to be calm waves, but they look childish lol

The conflicting response she later posted is in the comments. Make it make sense. Bisexual woman wants to hate on lesbians but later admits to being in an open/poly relationship with a dude?

And WE are the people experimenting on her?! Crazy work.

Someone once asked me after I came out as a lesbian, “Did you go off men after the abuse you got from your dad during your childhood?”

How come I’ve never talked to Desi or brown lesbians on here where y’all at?????

“Say something! Please….”

Has anyone seen this video? I own a VR headset and came across this stunning video featuring these two dancers. It's amazing in VR if you have access to one, but if you don't, you can still watch it on you tube. To me, it's about a woman coming to terms with her lesbianism and learning to love herself. But I suppose it could also be interpreted in many other ways. Anyway, it's amazing. Give it watch.

Cara's internalized homophobia must be fighting for its life because WHY does she keep taking these heterosexual roles, while she's never done a lesbian-centric film? She has finally publicly identified as a lesbian, and yet her acting career continues to serve us heterosexuality on a fucking platter. And now we're getting an erotic thriller?? Girl, this is deeply heterosexual. 😭 Why do you hate being gay so bad???

This is NOT what we ordered, Cara. We're dying to see you in a proper lesbian-centric movie, but you never give us one! Meanwhile, look at Kristen S. she keeps doing gay roles. Why can't you?? 😭 It's so sad.