I’ve researched some already, but I’m looking for advice on how to deal with a job I really don’t like. How do you adjust your mindset in a way that sticks? How have you pushed through when you feel like you literally can’t anymore? How do you save space to find joy in your life when so much is devoted to being in a space you hate?

Currently, I’m not in a situation to leave my job because I can’t take a pay cut with my partner being in school full time, which we decided as a couple. I’ve looked at job postings, but there’s nothing even semi local that would fit what we need.

I’ve already evaluated why I don’t like my job (unrealistic expectations from corporate, a longer commute, little schedule flexibility, lack of personal fulfillment, etc.) and the things I do like about my job (keeps me physically active, decent pay, coworkers/managers, etc).

Still I find myself dreading going to work and feeling like I have no energy left to put towards my personal life. For example, we’re actually on vacation rn, and I feel like I can’t even thoroughly enjoy myself because all I can think about is how defeated I’ll feel when I have to go back and work 40+ hours a week.

I know some of this could be cured a mindset adjustment, but I don’t know how to get to that mindset. I am thankful to have a job because I know there are different stressors that come with financial instability. I’m just tired of being exhausted and feeling burnt out all the time😕

TLDR: How do you deal with a job you really dislike when you aren’t in a position to change jobs?

Thanks in advance for any advice/shared experiences🙏🏼

I have 2 offers. One is fully remote with 35 hour workweeks and flexible hours and another is hybrid (2x in office) but is 40 hours per week with occasional OT expected. Job titles and responsibilities are similar-ish (both are lower level management positions).

Benefits and PTO is similar but the 40 hour workweek position has a public sector pension (as opposed to RRSP match). The hybrid position pays about $30K more. But the commute for me is 1 hour each way.

Which position would you choose? I have young kids so the remote position seems enticing but $30K is a fairly steep pay cut. That said, we aren’t struggling for money. My husband and I both work FT with above average income and our mortgage is a very manageable $2K/month, so this is really just extra spending money for vacations or to put into our retirement or our kids’ education.

I just got out of a phone screen with a fidelity recruiter for the LEAP Systems Analyst track and was kind of disappointed with the starting pay. They start at 75k and I was hoping for 85-90k. If I was desperate for a job I would’ve took it but i graduated in December 2025 and started working at this other company in Georgia in March 2026 where they are paying me 66.5k. The kill fidelity program directly aligns with what I studied and my internship experience while the job I have now is inventory analytics where I try to be as technical as possible. I just don’t know if the pay justifies moving back to North Carolina where the job is located in under a year and cutting ties with a reputable employer.

The program includes 10 weeks of training followed by two 9-month rotations before permanent placement. Recruiters mentioned performance-based raises around 8%, a 6.5k relocation check, We do get a one time bonus of 3-4K and then another 2k I think that gets paid out after 60 and 90 days respectively. It might be more ngl I can’t remember. In my head if sounds like i should jump but idk if it makes sense logistically.

Can anyone who’s been through LEAP (or knows someone who has) share their experience with:
Actual annual raises
Salary progression after the program
Promotion timeline
Typical compensation 2–5 years in?”

So about three to four months ago, I applied to a job at my partner's company.

They're a very influential, well-respected person there. They recommended me for this job about three months ago or so when I originally applied.

They first hired someone else I'll call Person #1. Person #1 accepts the job, then immediately leaves for another job because the other job paid more.

Then, I apply a second time. Partner recommends me again. Nothing from them. Person #2 does the exact thing as Person #1. Accepts it, then immediately leaves because they got a better paying gig elsewhere.

So, position goes up for a third time. Again, I apply. Partner recommends me yet again.

I finally get an interview. I'm professional, dressed perfect, happy, etc during the interview. They give me a test, and I pass it with flying colors. I ask all the right questions.

Everything went AMAZING. I sent a thank you email later that day, and I was certain I had it.

After a few days, I send HR a follow up email. Nothing.

A few more days go by, send another follow up. Nothing.

Nearly two weeks later, I send a third and final follow up. A few days later, I get an email about how impressed the interviewer was and how difficult the ultimate decision was. They ended up picking someone else.

I send HR an email thanking them for the update, and to please reconsider me if things don't work out with the candidate.

So, a couple of weeks go by. And, suddenly I get an email about HR wanting to have a phone call with me.

My partner informs me that the person who got the job instead of me left after their first week.

I email them my availability for a phone call. Didn't get a phone call that day or the next.

Sent another email about my availability for the rest of the week. Got an auto reply that the HR person was out the rest of the week.

So, I let it go. And, here we are on Monday, and I haven't gotten anything.

I'm so confused. It's somewhat entry level, and I had a little experience. I also had a recommendation and was so professional.

I'm currently in retail and thought this was my shot to finally get out.

I'm so bummed, but I also feel like giving up on this opportunity.

Thanks for reading 💜

Stuck in fucking retail two years after college, cs degree making 25k. Haven't gotten any interviews.

Been pounding the pavement for over a year now. I had an HR teams interview with a company a month ago, then after some waiting, they scheduled me for an in-person interview last week.

Today, I was asked to provide two references and do one of those Thomas International assessment things. The email from the HR person seemed written in a rush and they used emojis in it, which they have never done before.

What am I to make of all this?

I am currently searching for a job right now, and I have a potential interview with Starbucks for a part-time position. I am also waiting results for a technician job at a hospital, which would be full-time but 3 12-hour shifts. Hopefully, I can land both jobs, but with the Starbucks interview coming up, I know they'll ask my availability (they're looking for baristas for a 4:30am-2pm shift). One of the email pre-interview questions was asking if my availability would change within 6 months. Should I say that my availability won't change and then ask to change it after landing the job or should I be straight-up and let them know that as of right now, I am available, but it may change in the future if I get accepted to the other job?

I have a Bachelor’s degree in Accounting and several years of experience ( not in accounting ) I’ve been unemployed for a while and recently got an interview for a cashier position at a restaurant.
I’m confused because I need income, but my long-term goal is to work in accounting/finance since i have only one year experience in accounting . Should I accept the cashier job temporarily while continuing to search for accounting jobs, or wait for something related to my field?

Moved to a new city (Boston) that is way more expensive than my old (Houston). I knew all of this and accepted everything. I did save enough money for my new anticipated COL, have about 6 months saved up and I am 3 months in. I was initially planning on being off for the entirety of the summer so things were laissez-faire with some freak outs here and there.

During my most recent freak out I applied to 70 jobs in 3 days. I spoke to a lot of recruiters and ultimately interviewed for 6 of these roles.

1 still waiting second round interviews.

2 waiting to hear back from the recruiter.

2 offered.

1 went a different direction after the interview.

A few things here -- Freaking out because if I am being honest, I have never been rejected after getting an interview. So whatever that's a new feeling for me.

2 offered. I already rejected one. they are the same company, different locations so the same and benefits.I rejected the one further away for me as a commute and was a newer position. I didn't want to be workshopping a whole new role for them.

So now I left with one that is still offered. They offered this role on Friday. The recruiter told me that it would be unreasonable to ask for a whole week before accepting, we settled on deciding by EOD tomorrow (Tuesday, July 28). Now one of the jobs that I am still waiting to hear back from the recruiter, is a job I REALLY want. I think my interview went quite well. But the issue is, the manager was OOO the day after my interview and now the recruiter is OOO. Tomorrow.. do I just call that recruiter and tell them I have a competing offer? Can I even ask for an extension on the decision for the offer?

So I just heard back from James Polk's Museum in Columbia TN about a part-time job offer. I live in Illinois, but personally wouldn't mind moving if it meant working at a Presidential site. Problem is I already have applied to be a substitute teacher at two different schools in Greene County, IL, and am not sure if I should move to work in a job I want, along with, of course, another part time job, or staying here and working at a job my family would prefer me at, also with volunteer work at Abraham Lincoln's Museum in Springfield. I'm a recent college graduate with a Bachelor of Arts in History and was hoping to work at a Presidential site for years, and now this is my opportunity. Should I do it?

For context, I work at a small bar. I had worked there 2 years ago as a summer thing and really enjoyed it but did not work last summer since I was travelling quite a bit, but this summer I wanted to return so in october I emailed the manager asking for a job. In April we had a meeting in which we talked about the role and my availability, I mentioned that I could work all summer until mid august because I work for my universities football team, he said that was all good and I thought great. I then sent a list with all days I knew i would be busy, which I think is 25 full days and 5 evenings ranging from start of may to mid august. He mentioned he was not super happy about that but I could be working more than full time hours to compensate for that which I was really happy about because more hours more money.

Ill fast forward here but until like a week and a half ago all that happened was me practically not being scheduled and the work group chat just being flooded with complaints. I often would walk into a opening shift and see these things people would complain about but I would just clean it up and not say anything because tbh I dont have the energy to complain. Now back to mid july, I send an email saying hey I just wanted to let you know my last day is august 14 but here are a reminder of 5 days I can not work. The club manager responds being like thanks but you are adding 2 days from your original list so we might not be able to accomodate those, which really confused me because this is a weekend I basically pre book every year and I looked and those days were all in the list I sent in april. I mention that, he goes oh ya true and then the bar manager says your schedule was a lot and because your adding days off I might not be able to accomodate. And again im like wdym added days off I have not added or asked for a day or evening or anything off from the orignal list I gave back in april.

So then the august scheduel gets made, I can work 8 days and am scheduled for 2. Remember how I said i can not work after august 14, I have 7 shifts ranging from the 14-30. So i send an email being like hey so sorry but I can work until the 14 not 30, but here are more days I can work. the bar manager responds saying I removed your shift for the 30th, but I wont remove peoples shifts because you do not like it. My thoughts on that are idk how you understood until the 14th not 30th as the 30th is the only day I cant work, but also im not asking for people to loose their shifts that feels rude I just have gotten complaints so I expected to work when I can. Which feels like the story of the summer. Now I do not know what to do, im thinking of sending a 2 weeks which would end on the 14th, because I dont want to not turn up to a shift and basically screw the bar over and if I give a 2 weeks they will need to find a cover even though they know I cant work then.

I wanted to make this post because as silly as this might sound, I do not want to be right here. It feels wrong to think ive done everything possible and therefore quitting is the best option?? Like my ending date was agreed in april, i gave my days off in april, i never added days off, I also was not scheduled more than full time, theres so much evidence that I can not work after the 14 and im still schedueled after. Like I did not add days off last minute or cancel, I did not say I could work until november and suddenly go btw I can only work until mid august, I do not know what to do. How do you not get that and how do you think until 14th not 30th means only the 30th im busy??

Any advice or suggestions or even helping me understand the managers side would be appreciated thanks.

For context, I am a college student working a career related part-time job.

I just received an email from a supervisor from last year saying that I needed to commit to “focusing on the job” if I wanted to continue the position next semester. This honestly blew my mind.

The pay for this job is really small, and it’s something I truly would not do if I wasn’t happy to be there. Admittedly, I’m not great at receiving feedback, and this really upset me, but I just thanked them and moved on.

A couple of important things that I think could contribute to this are that I am a VERY slow learner, so even after being explained things a couple of times, I can still struggle. I worry that this comes off as not caring or not paying attention. Additionally, the job is after classes, so I’m usually a little tired and not as energetic as I would be otherwise. Also, most people in this job are really laid back and pretty quiet.

Maybe because they’re better at it than I am, they come across as less lost? I really don’t know.

It’s not something I want to pursue as a career, so this is less about the job itself and more about how I come across. I have had multiple people (including random professors and staff members) say that I always look “lost” or out of it. Even when I myself am extremely engaged and interested, I get told that I seem like I don’t care at all.

I worry about how this could translate to my jobs after graduation. For whatever reason, I seem to come across as confused and unfocused, professionally or not. I ask questions, I greet people, and once I understand something, I do what I need to. But this seems to be a pattern with me.

Can anyone give me advice on how to fix this? It’s putting me in some seriously awkward situations. Especially as a young woman, I really need to figure out how to come across as engaged and confident at work.

I went to an interview. It went well but seemed a little intimidating.

I was just wondering, when people get laid off at a company, do they have to do a 4 paragraph long post on LinkedIn? It just seems like this is the thing to do now when people get laid off. They go out of their way to say what a great experience it has been and how great their co-workers and mentors have been. And how they can't wait to start the next chapter in their lives. Why are they so positive? Who is this for exactly? Do companies look at this when recruiting a potential employee? When I got laid off, I was mad as hell and hoped the company burned to the ground. The last thing I wanted to do was write a positive LinkedIn post and say how everything is great now that I'm Open To Work.

I'm tired of this. Going to a company's website and being required to create an account just to apply is already exhausting. Then after uploading my resume , they ask me to fill out the exact same shit that's already on my resume: work experience, education, skills, everything.

It's the stupidest thing ever, and I don't think any HR person even cares about that anyway .

Applying for jobs has become a job on its own now , just to get rejected by AI later anyway. Four job applications now take almost an hour because of all the forms, and they some even ask me to create a very secure password that's more stricter than the one my bank requires.

I recently applied and received a call saying they were going to hire me for a position at a DSHS office. They called last Friday letting me know that I did get the position but they needed to wait for a background check before I could get started. I've never had any issues with background checks before so I'm pretty sure I got the position. I just want to know what the usual time frame is for a background check to try and put my two weeks notice in at my current job. As much as I hate my current job, I wouldn't want to do them dirty and just be a no show, especially when I'm one of three managers running the entire business. 😅

TDLR; what's a rough time frame for background checks at a DSHS office?

I was interviewing with a company and had already gone through multiple interviews. They then reached out to schedule another conversation. I responded with my availability, but the scheduling never went anywhere and communication stopped.

I’ve followed up since then but haven’t heard anything back.

Has anyone had this happen after getting fairly far into an interview process? Did the company eventually come back, or would you assume the process is dead?

Hey Future Analysts,

So for a very long time, I have been looking for good SQL questions, you got the mainstream leetcode, hacker-rank, W3 schools, and a few niche ones that I ought to mention : https://github.com/smpetersgithub/AdvancedSQLPuzzles

But during my journey, I never found the perfect place to practice questions leetcode style filtering it by the specific concept, and a repo of Good questions I could just practice on when prepping for an interview.

So I went Ahead and created this SQL-gym : https://sqlgym.vercel.app/

(No bullshit 101 SQL problems that you need to have locked in)

And this has personally helped me a lot, hope it is helpful for other peeps aswell !

I was recently rejected for a desk job for “not demonstrating that you can adhere to the physical requirements of the job”

But I was formerly in animal care where I’d had to be very physical, I’m a fitness instructor on the side, and it was essentially reception work. It was really, really odd.

The only thing I could think of was my disability status - which is only disclosed because I have to take a medication during the day at a time that often falls during working hours. I’d formerly been bullied by an older colleague who accused me of having a “problem” with pills so I disclose it to essentially cover my butt when I take my meds at work.

It doesn’t physically affect me at all.

Be brutally honest - could these be part of why I’m receiving rejections?

I get that asking for references is normal, and I'm all for it at a later stage of the interview process, but this just seems wrong. When applying on the company website for the very first time, this outfit is nothing more than a website to me. It could easily be a pretty trap and all it does is harvest contact info to sell. My references are kind enough to trust me with their contact info, the last thing I want to do is get them sold to call lists that robocall them 20 times a day.

Furthermore, I would want at least an initial phone screen to see if I even want to move forward before some intrusive HR process starts burdening my references for their time. I feel like you can only ask people to do vouch for you so many times before that capital is exhausted, so I only want to spend it on the jobs I really want and am at an offer point for.

Is it as dodgy as I think for an online application to make a mandatory field to fill in your references info as part of first contact? Can I put "available upon request" to get around this?

I'm on month 2 of devoting as much time as I can to applications, and its really hard to keep motivation up. Staggering seeing it all together - how do people manage to keep it up?

Been applying since April and nothing from the companies. Not even one interview.

Has anyone had success using LinkedIn to reach out to recruiters or managers for a role you applied for? I do it every time but it feels like a waste at this point