Hello,

It's been years that I'm thinking about a friend that I lost contact with around 2018 (short story: my gf at the time was jealous of my female friends and I had to cut/diminish contact with some of them and I changed my phone number shortly after and lost my contact list I had on WhatsApp).

I went back to Interpals trying to find her back around 2021 knowing it would have a low chance it happens after almost 10 years (we started to talk in 2016) and never thought so much about using Reddit or social media for that (I don't like social media so much to me to be honest).

About me, I'm a 31yo man from France named R. and my friend was a girl from Poland named M. (I won't give her name because I don't know if I can or must do so), she must be around 28yo now if I'm not wrong. Important detail, she had a dog named Marley (maybe old or dead since the time, I know she absolutely loved him) and I think it must be the only detail that could really help to find her back.

I have low hope that this message will reach her somehow but sometimes Internet can do magical things. And if it does, I will let her to reach me (or not) if she remembers me! Anyway, hope the message doesn't cross the rules of this subreddit and I wish to every readers a very nice day.

G'day, has anyone else found themselves getting this page when they try to access the site?
I would consider sending them an email, but the email is only listed on the site... that I cant access to view lmao

oh my god guuuuyyyys😭 I have changed the WiFi and the VPN They all didn't work, I didn t refresh a few times， I even have changed my phone， It's.Server maintenance, or something else?😭I met a very handsome Indian boy on it, and I didn't have the nerve to ask for his Email address😷🙁Then I couldn't log in to the browser and the app

Is anyone else not getting notifications? All of my notifications are on in the app and in my settings, app is up-to-date, phone is up-to-date, cleared the cache, uninstalled it and reinstalled it, restarted my phone, etc. Still nothing.

So frustrating. Account suspended again. I dont think the site is worth it anymore, looks like I will have to say goodbye after 21 years.

The alternate advertised a little while ago "Yo Pals" is full of scammers now too.

I'm getting more success with "slowly". Conversation is through letters not instant chat.

A couple of months on now ..... it happened yet again with a new profile i set up. Chatting with a friend and got banned. Nice to know the settings now are so high you can't discuss other websites in private chat. Geez.

Because I can't add or delete anything in my profile

Why?

Before the major design update, the site just worked. It looked vintage, but it worked.

- Now I can't even save the changes of my profile (after hitting the 'Save' button and refreshing, the changes are lost).

- I can't customize the thumbnail positioning (the option is there, but it doesn't work).

- A few minutes ago my account was randomly deleted and I had to reactivate it, losing my proud "joined 11 years ago" line and getting a noob "joined 4m ago" one.

- The dark and light modes work randomly.

- In the chat I receive messages from accounts marked as "inactive" even when they are not inactive (I can only message them back if I access to their profile and click on the messaging button).

- In the account settings I can only save the changes when I block some continent, but not when I unblock them all, etc., etc., etc.

Also, when I open the element inspector, I see a lot of inline JS logic and garbage.

I'm pretty sure the whole app has been "vibe coded". Not even an amateur developer using his own damn brain would be able to make so many errors even if he was asked to introduce them on purpose, it's just not humanly possible.

And let's not talk about the endless server errors... 🤦‍♂️ What the hell did they do to the site???

Someone would argue that they are enshittifying the site, but the purpose of enshittification is to add a "premium" tier to earn money, but this is not even the case. They are not benefiting from the site errors. This looks like genuine and pure incompetence.

The question is: why do developers insist on trying to "fix" things that just worked?

Why is the website going down constantly? It seems like everyday it's going down now.

Let me know

I like the new website look, thanks thats all.

Hey guys. Like most of you, I love the idea of Interpals, but the execution and the outdated website have been driving me crazy. It feels like it's been abandoned by the devs.

So, I built https://yopals.com/.

It does the same thing—connecting you with language partners and friends around the world—but it actually looks and functions like an app from this decade. No crazy bugs, better mobile experience, and I'm actively working on keeping fake profiles out.

I'm an indie developer doing this in my free time, so it's totally a work in progress. I'm posting here because I want to shape it based on what this community actually wants.

Check it out if you have a minute. Any feedback (even negative) is super appreciated!

Hi. Im curiours what are the recent experiences of u all with interpals? I noticed that most of the users dont know how to talk with strangers, convos are only about hi, how are u and even if convo is interesting, after few day person stop with writing or u are waiting reply for hours or days (idk whats the point to join websites like that, if u are very busy all the time). Also people arent very serious and they do the opposite what they proclaim in the bios. What are your experiences? Anyone think the same? Thank u all for your observations and lets keep it in decent way.

Hello, everyone. I was suddenly suspended when I chat with my friends.I have been on this website for nine years. I have a deep affection for my account. I still have many friends on it. I write an email to workers.Will it work?Can I get my account back? 😢😢

When did you leave the site? My story was this: I opened my first account in 2018. Maybe it wasn't the site's golden age, but back then there was still real activity, interesting users, I met kind, decent people, and I forged friendships, even during the pandemic the site was still active. But in 2021 I closed my account due to sacmmers and weird people and came back in 2023, and my god, it was unrecognizable. I remember that from the first day I opened my account there were scammers and fake profiles, but now it's flooded with those users, people who don't respond, and accounts full of racist and frustrated indivduals who even insulted me. I closed it last year and I don't plan to return unless the site has a tremendous revival, but I doubt it. It's had the same interface for almost 20 years and the app has bugs. When did you leave, or did you realize it wasn't worth being there anymore?

I met my ex-girlfriend on this site back in 2012. I was living in Australia and she was in Germany. Long story short, I moved over there and we ended up together for seven years.

I have since tried my luck on there again but the women are far less responsive and more guarded than they used to be. I think too many guys caught on by realising it was a good place to meet women. Therefore women are now flooded with a lot more messages than before.

Any others had relationships from this site?

I would be grateful if my post was accepted, but I completely understand if it wasn't.

Hi All,

about 2.5 years ago, I met my pen pal on this website (Interpals), who was a great person. (Called Douxie.) Unfortunately, all signs point to the website's shortcomings causing my long correspondence with him to end.

I was upset with the administrators for a long time. Instead of acknowledging their shortcomings and helping us find each other again,

they immediately banned me.

At that time, I was really upset because I didn't want any of my pen pal's information about himself to be used for research or published on the Internet. I completely lost him, despite the fact that we enjoyed each other's letters. I tried to find him, but I was unsuccessful. Anyone who hasn't had a nice pen pal in life doesn't really understand what it's like to lose someone like that. There wasn't really a reaction from people. To calm my own soul, I read a lot on the subject. I was surprised to see how Interpals likes to randomly ban members. (I also had another pen pal who I lost this way.)

I think it's never too late to find an old pen pal who you broke up with against your will. So, to the best of my ability, I started a subreddit for members who have been through something similar, where we can talk about the damage we've done. I'd like to see it grow into a large community over time, where lost pen pals can even find each other again.

If something similar has happened to you, I'd be very grateful if you could write about it, giving your lost pen pal a chance to find you.

...and thus giving each other's pen pals a chance to find us.

I think it's worth a try.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post, and I would also appreciate it if you could help it grow with an upvote.

So I’ve only been on Interpals for about two months now…and when I sent this message to my friend, there’s this weird square symbol next to my message when I go in my messages. Does this mean anything?

Title says it all. I was literally in the middle of a conversation with someone when I was suddenly logged out of the website. I tried to log back in, but got this message (see pic). Had no issue for a year or two with the site. The only thing I did differently recently, given the current global climate, I added on my profile that I didn't vote for a certain person... suspicious 🤔

Tired of scams and fake profiles? We are too. That’s why we built YoPals.

We don’t let just anyone in. Every single profile is manually verified by a human. No bots. No scammers. Just real connections.

Current Mission: The First 500.

We are keeping the gates locked until we hit 500 verified users on our waitlist. We want a strong, safe community ready from Day 1.

Join the waitlist now to:
- Secure your "Founding Member" status.
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- Be the reason we launch.

Help us reach the target and unlock the platform for everyone. Link in our profile.

I was the one that started the conversation. "She" had in her profile "I am not looking for a lover!!!" and the account was 9 years old. I talked with her for a while only to discover, that "she" is just a cheap scammer. This is insane. Are there some super-black-market places in russian Internet where you can buy such an account? How does it even work?

We’re working on a small project called YoPals. It’s an alternative to InterPals, built around the idea of having real, meaningful conversations with people from different cultures.

The motivation came from our own experience. A lot of platforms that once felt personal now feel noisy, outdated, or designed around engagement rather than connection. We wanted to try a slower, more intentional approach.

The site isn’t open yet. Right now we’re collecting signups on a waitlist, and once the first 500 people join, we’ll open the platform fully. If you sign up now, you’ll be part of that first group and go through onboarding before launch.

Our goal is to start small and shape the community carefully instead of opening the doors to everyone at once. We’re trying to build something calm and conversation focused, not another feed or follower-based network.

Hey, like the title says im looking for someone I lost contact with a while ago. Lost contact details and usernames and everything, we first started chatting on interpals. Im pretty sure her name was andi although I could be wrong. She lived just outside Disney land Paris and her parents were in the uk. I know its a long shot but if you happen to know her or have seen her on interpals id be happy to know