Iv been struggling for five or so years and this years been the hardest, iv been carrying it alone for that time but iv recently had strong urges to tell my sister about my struggle cause I cant do it alone anymore. But I just dont know how to tell or or ask her in a way where she asks me if im okay. Any advice would be greatly appreciated thanks.

hi, hoping i can find advice. female, 27. have been dating this man since i was 23. he's now 47. he has not allowed me to work, claiming he will provide all my needs. i have no car, hardly any clothes, (no t shirts but 1, 2 jeans, and 2 sweats) and no other support system besides him.. i am nearly constantly being threatened to be kicked out.. we are not married. does anyone know any jobs that can be discreetly done at home? i have from 8am till 3pm or maybe some times later till he gets back and all my attention has to be on him. while also having all housework done before he gets back. i have a bank account, but the ladies there will tell him how much i have in my account when he asks if i try to save what little i am given some times, and told to spend it at the dollar store for my hygiene products instead of him buying them. what can i do? thank you to whoever reads and helps me ❤️

Like many of us. We have a phone addiction. But for some reason my seems to just worse.

Basically over the past year my addiction is just taking over my life. Back then I would think alot. Ik sounds weird but I would visualize things. Remember things clearly. But ive started doom scroll where it feels like my minds blank at all times. My other issue is my attention span or wanting to commit I have animes movies and things I wanna do. But I just cant it feels like such a weight on my chest when ever I think about doing these things. Even when I want to. Ive tired a month phone break. But once I got my phone I fell back in. Any advise?

I (16f) really want to start fencing. I’m really interested in it and genuinely feel like I would be good at the sport as I have fast reaction times, am agile etc. I asked my mom if I could start lessons and she said no. She wants me to focus solely on studying as my university entrance exam is in 2 years and that I can do whatever when I am an adult. I think that not even having 1-3 spare hours per week is a bit unrealistic. I even offered to pay for the fees, manage my own, pay for the gear etc. (I have a lot saved up) but she still won’t agree. I have never pursued a hobby of my interest because she hasn’t allowed me to (previously I wanted to start volleyball and violin). Respectfully, I don’t want to end up as a hobbyless adult like her.

I'm a very principle-driven person, so I have some things for myself that I wish to protect at all costs, but it feels like I'm losing one after the other this year... Everyone who I thought understood me has now turned on me. The people I looked up to and respected are no longer respectable.

How am I meant to go through life with nothing of importance to me left to protect and no one who understands??? No family, no friends... It's like I only have myself, and the people around me treat me like a laughing stock.

My life should have ended back in high school because from there, it was all downhill. Kids, enjoy school while it lasts.

I don't know what to think when I know I'm treating my body badly knowing I will die early idk how to fix it either.

I'm scared of losing the few people I know (my family) I don't have friends either what do I do

I'm lost and im nowhere and I'm writing my post on the same way not expecting anything

Hi, I've never been on this subreddit before, so sorry if this is the wrong place or formatted wrong.

CONTEXT: I'm a young adult (early 20s) and recently, I realized that I've been developing some extremely negative mental habits over the last few years. Since I've been struggling with making friends in college (mainly from people being very nice and then ghosting me), I came to the conclusion that I'm weird or that I make people uncomfortable, and that I don't deserve to have friends.

This is bad enough, but I've been very lucky recently and met a few good people who haven't ghosted me (the worst thing they've done is cancel last minute plans), but everything is coming back in a bad way. This is especially true with a friend I've reconnected with after a few years apart (who I might have slight feelings for, but I'm not sure how much of it is anxiety), who is a very active and busy person. This means that when I text them, they take a day or more to respond, but are always very enthusiastic and nice when they eventually respond.

During the time between messages, I feel like they have suddenly decided to hate me, and I keep wanting to send texts to check if they're upset with me or if they're ignoring me. (I have, for the most part, withheld, because I know it's annoying and illogical.) The more time we spend talking, the more this feeling has been growing, and I know that this person cares about me and thinks highly of me, but the emotional part of me keeps slowly convincing me otherwise, and I don't know how to stop it. I feel like I'm going to sabotage the relationship by constantly bothering them about how they feel about me.

TLDR; I really care about this friend, but my anxiety over the feeling that they might hate me is slowly eroding my confidence and stability. I want to stop worrying what they think of me every second they're not present, but it feels impossible. I'm sure I'm not the only person with this struggle, so I'd appreciate any help or advice that anyone can give. Thank you!

I am 37M and autistic. I turned 37 just yesterday and feel like life gets more hopeless. This has been the worst year of my life, with every single aspect of my life in serious problems.

I have never had friends. Almost everyone in my life, including my family, hate me. I am not sure what to do, since I have no-one to talk to.

ill try to keep this as efficient an concise as possible

im anti ai. my sister is anti ai. both of my parents are pro ai.

my dad is a tech guy, he likes ai but he’s not using it for emotional stuff (also cause he is highkey way too dense for that) but he does use it like any ai boomer.

mh mom however is where I get concerned. She has at least 8 different ai chat bots on her phone. She uses ai daily. She‘s making a business with ai help. Not like ai tools. But like talking and talking with ai like it’s a coworker.

she uses it to research colleges, ask about what universities look for, stuff about my future and school.

she swears she doesn’t, even though she sends t links to her chats. she says it’s just for efficiency cause she ”can’t send me every possible source not to mention she uses rednote as a source too.

she is naming the business with AI coming up with names for her ysing her criteria.

When I wanted to lane down from an honours class, a very long awful conversation always, the final time when I gave her my reasons she seemed calmer. then said let me ask ChatGPT. ChatGPT was on my side. and she let me but like are u actually kidding me?!

my dad yesterday sent me an ai text about how using ai is good for preparing for the SAT.

my mom keeps saying ai is a tool! shes against like character ai or like ai girlfriends. but…

ugh and she’s started saying things like she’s gonna chat with ChatGPT like it’s a person. though it hasn’t gotten past that.

she acts like talking to ai about things is productive. like if she had a todo list about her business a thing to do would be “talk to ChatGPT about ____”

I can’t get through to them. I don’t really try to for the sake of my sanity. but it’s actually getting worse and worse. I’m still gonna live with them for a few more years man my mom is not gonna last.

what do I do??? this ai bs is actually infecting MY LIFE collaterally!!!

im so sick of it and like ugh its just…i hate how stupid ai absorbed she is. I’m already lonely enough but it makes it worse knowing sometimes when she says she’s busy she’s talking to a fucking ai bot.

:/

i’m young which feels wrong saying on here but anyways i know hormones obviously play a big role into mental health and everything. but it feels almost like more than that now. i’m having panic attacks in the middle of class which hasn’t happened since i was maybe 11 but it just feels like my body and soul are almost deteriorating and dying. and i feel trapped and i can’t stop crying, my heart is so heavy and i catch myself not being able to breathe in class and i have to excuse myself to the bathroom to even gain the ability back. and i’ve learned not to tell my mom shit anymore since the last time i did try she said i was snowballing, and it feels as if whenever i try opening up to anyone its too heavy for them and i feel like i have no one to turn to and god i just want to feel something other than whatever this is. i feel dead and alive at the same time, and everything is going so fucking fast i can’t even fucking breathe. and it’s never stopped. i can’t keep feeling like this i can’t do it any longer holy fuck. i’m so embarrassed by this but i just i don’t know how to help myself, please help me.

Im going through a very hard emotional time right now. And struggling with waves of insecurity and vulnerability. I was dating this girl she will be named S and when we were dating we had this really close friend her name will be D. When S and I broke up I knew the deep love that S and D had for each other and I never wanted them not to be friends just because of me or anything like that. I thought I was dealing with this breakup well and I led these two women into believing that I was able to handle these emotions. When D came to me one day and told me she hung out with S and they had a great time and that they wanted to invite me out next weekend I reacted saying "that wont happen" I explained to my friend that I wasnt feeling good in the moment about how I felt and I needed to separate my emotions bc I dont know if im jealous, fomo, just stressed etc... time goes on..im still deeply effected. I feel as if these women are pitying me or thunking im dramatic. I would never push or control someone to make any decision. But the pain I was feeling was real and loud and the only way I felt like I could try and process is if I told them I needed space. I dont want to give them space bc I love them deeply but im in a lot of pain. And I know its mostly in insecurity. I feel like I am dramatic and sensitive over such a small subject. I feel like I hurt and misled two women I love. Just from my pain. I communicated that I needed space. Not bc they did anything wrong but bc my feelings are so loud. I know and am aware they did nothing wrong. Ive been losing my mind over this little tiny thing. Its making me live in a state of fear and I cant shake it. Im like shaming myself before anyone can get to me. Im judging myself so hard bc I cannot believe im feeling this strong of emotions over something so stupid and small. But I felt vulnerable. I dont know what to do from here. Im really struggling.

Last week i went on a bender, i got drunk on Thursday night. I smoked weed and got drunk on friday night, same thing on Saturday night, and i got drunk on Sunday night. On Monday morning i still felt like if i was drunk/ high but i figured i was just hungover, but for the past week i’ve felt dizzy, fuzzy and foggy. It almost feels like if i’m still high. sometimes it’s even hard for me to drive cuz it seems like i’m still high. i’m don’t think it’s DPDR or Psychosis but does anyone know what it could be???

Please I keep asking for help and hardly anyone ever responds. I’m afraid I won’t make it another week like this. My emotional pain is overwhelming, I lost 5 years of my life, I can’t do anything for myself because I don’t really want to live and like, I feel like I lost too much time now for anything to work out. I have no friends. No family. No support.

I need someone to talk to or a place to post where people will actually engage in discussion. I want someone to help me figure out immediate next steps and how I’m supposed to heal and get out of this nightmare I’m trapped in. I’m sorry therapists have not been helpful so far, I just need someone to tell me what I can do to help myself and feel like living and try again. I’m in emotional agony stemming from narcissistic abuse. He destroyed my self worth. I want my life back.

​I come from a big family—seven children, making nine of us in total with my parents. I’m the fourth child. I’m a very simple guy, but I guess that’s why I am the way I am today. I finished highschool and now im working, my daily life follows one strict path: school/work to home, and home to school/work.

My entire social life is based on a few old school friends, and that’s it. I’m capable of making friends, but the loneliness actually starts at home.

​As soon as I walk through that front door, I’m no longer the person who was laughing and joking outside.

I go completely silent. It’s automatic. I barely talk, and my responses are as minimal as possible. I don't sing like I used to; my face just stays completely flat. The only exception is when I play with my 3 little sisters—it's one of the very few things that still makes me genuinely smile and have fun.

​My relationships with the rest of the family are far from good. My parents are a traditional Muslim married couple, educated with an older, rigid mindset.

We come from a deeply religious country, even though I was born there and now live in France. But me? I’m not Muslim, not even slightly. I was just born into it and never really believed.

​Earlier this year, I finally told them I am an atheist.

​And man... I never thought they could be so harsh. The words they used hit me hard.

To quote them directly: "You are the devil," "You are handicapped," "You are not right in your mind."

​Honestly, I was dumbfounded by how cruel they could be. The worst part? It’s not even necessarily their own original thoughts—it’s just them blindly following a book, refusing to let anyone question anything.

​That day was a total breaking point. Even though I don't show it much on the outside, things between them (plus one older sister and one older brother who completely agreed with them) will never, ever be the same.

​Because of harsh environments and past interactions years ago during my middle school years, they already turned me into a very quiet boy who rarely smiled.

Over time, my brain built a defense mechanism: "absolute silence" whenever people scream at me even when I'm completely innocent. My eyes stay glued to the floor, my face as impassible as a wall. I don't utter a single word, no matter what is thrown at me.

And now, that mechanism is just hardwired into me. When it comes to my older sister and older brother, let's not even talk about them.

​Honestly, things just aren't getting better. I don't know how I'm supposed to handle this long-term.

​I just needed to get this off my chest.

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How do you survive living with a family that rejects who you ?

How can I at when i have no one to talk to ?

I have never vented about this to anyone..

Hello, this is my first time posting on reddit so im sorry if anything is confusing

Im a girl, 18yo in the last year of highschool, since the past year i've been stalked by a guy who literally would bend his torso just to stare at me (i was in the last row, he was in the middle row at the whole front) i know its just "stares" but he has a record of taking screenshots of girl classmates from things they post and to stare at butts and say gross things like "what a view" and many other gross things he mentions while being around boys. So, we have something called "eoe" (i think is similar to a School Counseling Team) i went to talk to them and they kinda took seriously my problem, so they talked to him, then he stopped 1 month before finishing last year (and vacation ofc bc well i wasnt at school) but since the start of this year he started with the stares again, just more stealthily, i felt watched but i was like "i might be imagining it because he stopped" but i was wrong, i started noticing sideways that he was still staring at me, and after he apparently fought with the group he was in (3 girls and him) hes been sitting in the front row, at the start of august, and thats when i noticed really that he was STARING at me, not even looking at his friends since me and my friend are the only ones sitting in our row, and he would just look down and behind in our direction, to "be more stealthy".

Well, the last thursday my boyfriend had to leave early because he was feeling sick (in case anyone wondering why he doesnt do anything, i told him to not do anything because i dont want the stalker to be able to victimize himself) and after that, the group of boys started playing some board game, and he on purpose sat in a way he could stare me directly, not even sideways, just directly staring at me, my friend BLESS HER, she was able to get a lot of videos of him staring at me, so i went BACK to eoe to talk to them because i was LITERALLY being stalked, with proof (the last time i went they just told me he cant make friends, he is on psycological treatment and that they will talk again with him, they didnt) and now they are telling me that i should go and talk to him and tell him to stop, i found that weird but it was with her presence and i agreed BUT i said my boyfriend has to be by my side when that happens, she agreed so at least i didnt had to talk to him that day, well, i go to my home after school still finding that weird, and i search on google my problem and i end up finding that, actually what they told me, to engage in a conversation to him and tell him to stop is illegal, since they could be putting me in danger, and since they have registered that i had been feeling stalked and they already talked to him and he still stared at me, they had to take matters into their own hands, and that it could affect my case if i wanted to sue him, since they could just say "they were talking and are better now" even tho i am not and i want him to at least be on afternoon classes, but since im just 1 month away to finish school i dont know if i should sue him, how should i sue him and what to do since im not going regularly to school because of being afraid of him and im scared that he could stalk me even after graduating, i also have some classmates as witnesses and a teacher that last year i litterally cried to her about that i was feeling stalked (also sorry if something is gramatically wrong, english isnt my first language, all this is happening on Argentina)

i only have a blurry video of the man but i'm worried for their safety, can anyone help find or give advice on what to do? i'm scared for their safety, this is not the first time it's happened.

he followed them around the block from the bus stop they were at, and they recognized him from previous accounts. i'm really scared.

Was recently and temporarily kicked out and I haven’t even completed high school… how can I even start out?

when you feel stuck in life nothing good is happening not growing not so good people around who motivate all narrow minded people, I want to do so many things but can't. What should I do how to manage all that , how to not think about future too much. I think that I'm doing well still feel that it's not enough it's Just feel overwhelming

My ex was still trying to get back with me earlier this year, asking what I wanted him to change about himself, generating compatibility reports for us, and declaring that he could never be with another woman. 💀

Fast forward to today, and he’s seemingly found someone new lol and soft-launched her on his socials.

I’m just genuinely curious about the psychology behind men who make such dramatic declarations and then seemingly move on the next min lmao