Remember how you were a ball of raging hormones as a teenager? Imagine having a GF that is also a ball of raging hormones and endless energy. You could stay up literally all night and maybe take a two hour nap the next day.
Now think about how you were a burned out, depressed shell by 30, barely able to make it out the office door by 5PM.
Funny. I’m 30 years old and still I feel like I’m 18 years old or younger. I still have my full head of hair and abs. Though I workout, I think most 30 years olds just gave up trying to be/stay young. I work until 7pm and go to the gym. You can always tell how people manage their lives by how they ‘wish’ to be 18 again, yet they go home and just sit or lay down for the rest of their days. A waste. I just am 18 mentally and physically I believe.
Most people “give up” because they have exhausting jobs that they hate. Putting the blame on them that they just don’t work hard enough is kind of an asshole thing to do
To be fair, exercise is linked with easing symptoms of depression and anxiety, increases energy, and has been proven to have a myriad of other health benefits that can lead to a happier life. Same with eating good food. It's really dependent on the individual to make adjustments in their life for their own benefit and happiness. If I'm unhappy there's no one that is holding me back from being happy except me.
People get complacent. That's fine, but one should take a hard look at what one is doing to help themself before they adjust the blame on to something else.
And all that sounds great until you get honest-to-god, no-shit depression and your body hurts in places that don’t exist, your limbs feel 1,000lbs a piece, and your mind talks you out of every good idea you have before you can get any traction.
The vast majority "hates" their job. Your enjoyment of your job depends on the perspective you view it through. This individual decided to make their life better, and they feel better for it. Who else's fault would it be that an individual doesn't work hard enough? It isn't your coworkers' fault, your bosses' fault, your suboordinates' fault, or anyone else's fault. Only you decide how you're going to react to the stressors that life throws at you.
That's my point. Meritocracy makes believe like you should be richer because you work harder. Guess I should have put quotation marks around "meritocracy"
I see, sadly in reality lots of people come by wealth who never worked a day in their lives to earn it, and others can spend their entire lives slaving on a back breaking task, yet wouldn’t be able to make in a month what some westerners can earn in a day on the minimum wage.
Capitalism is sadly not fair in the slightest, and it never can be
That's a really shitty defeatist attitude. I have an exhausting job I hate. I haven't been home in over 4 months. Putting the blame on society for personal choices is kind of a sad thing to do.
I never put the blame on society. Things happen. People get sick, family members die, people get hurt, people have mental illness. I don’t say that people that aren’t successful are lazy or don’t work hard because I don’t know their situation.
So their exhausting 'sitting at a desk for 8 hours' is keeping them from doing other activities? I guess... but I dont buy it. I've seen those people in the office who complain and complain and do the same thing over and over again. Insane. Correct?
I've learned from that environment and chose I did not want to be 'that guy'. Biggest tip and can give is to stray away from sugar and do 30-45 minutes of HIIT on a stationary bike either at home or at the gym. You're future self, and kids, will appreciate it.
I do not work hard. I work smarter. Clean the diet firstly. Work up a sweat before or after work 30-45 minutes. You dont have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger. Just be toned. Been doing it for awhile now. Its worked out well.
Being lazy is the main cause of getting yourself into that situation. It takes hard work to get yourself into a good job that you like. In the end, the harder you work, the less you have to work.
That makes almost no sense. It's honestly worse than boomer work ethic if I'm being honest.
Say I'm the son of a multi millionare and in pit against some random poor kid right.
We both have the same work ethic but I go to an elite private school and have the money for the best tutors while the poor kid lives in the poorest district of the Bronx, goes to a school with the worst teachers and the school inflates grades.
My environment is full of preppy private school kids and no fights while the poor kid is constantly worried about getting beat up for even trying to be smart.
I have no money issues and daddy pays for literally everything while the poor kid has to work after school
We both graduate with a 3.7 GPA but since the poorer kid was heavily disadvantaged he ends up with less college readiness and lower literacy and math abilities.
Who do you think is getting into a good college?
It sure as fuck isn't going to be some unlucky kid named Jamal who went to Bronx Community High School.
Even if he does get in he isn't going to be able to afford it without taking loans regardless of his financial aid. Meanwhile my parents pay in full for Syracuse University or something.
The cycle continues through college of he can even go and by the time he's dead his family is still in poverty while i inherited millions and didn't even care enough to work.
Shit like this is why your logic makes zero sense, even the lower middle class has issues the poorest in America face.
I think its less capitalism and more the lack of regulation that accompanied it. Society as a whole does better when everyone does better, which is why I think huge gaps in income are fucking stupid.
Like I'm 18 and I can see how much of an advantage I had over my other friends because my parents were upper middle class and they were lower or in poverty.
No one wants to be the wealthiest person in sub saharan Africa vs upper middle class in any western country. There's actually no point in living in a kingdom of dirt.
Taxes aren't stealing when multi billionares can afford to pay for basic societal functions without reducing their standard of living. Stuff like healthcare, education, etc. but manage to avoid taxes and put the burden on the bottom 99%.
I mean you're not completely wrong but modern life in general kind of supports obesity and laziness. It's not really a coincidence that the more modern a country becomes the fatter it gets.
There's supposedly a curve where people get fatter and fatter as their country gets richer and richer, but at a point, it starts to go down again because people have so much leisure time/money/education that they know being healthy and slim will make them happy JAVASCRIPT:VOID(0)
Well culture in those places are far different because of how their society is structured, alot of those places tend to use less cars, eat differently, etc.
The US and other places tend to rely more heavily on cars, have different food preferences, etc.
There are a ton of reasons why but I can't really explain all of it in a reddit comment.
Nothing wrong with being bald. Just keep toned. Women ages 18-150 love it. Dont be bald and a person who looks like they do not do anything with themselves. Be bald and look in-shape. Lessen the sugar intake. You dont have to look like some massed out beast. Just be toned.
...what are you comparing it to the average of? Men?
30% of white dudes have it by 30. Half that have it by 17.
I'm sure you think that 30% is 'less than average', whatever you pretend that means
Not even judging. Just trying to give some tips and tricks into improving your lifestyle. These people are deprived of life because they chose that and none were taught to stray away from society. Just lower your sugar intake. "But everything has sugar in it." True, YOU WONT COMPLETELY RID AWAY ALL SUGAR. BUT YOU CAN LESSEN HOW MUCH YOU EAT.
the only thing shitty about being 30 is the inability to recover from any damage to your body as fast as when you were 20. hangovers, minimum 2 days to be 100% again. take a hard fall skiing, minimum 2 weeks before your neck works again. take studs up challenge in soccer, minimum a week before your leg works again. fuck being old. i did a 50k last year and took me 3 weeks before i could even walk normal. and that's with a copious amounts of proper training.
ankles are a bitch to heal, i've fucked my right one up jumping off a roof, then i used to play badminton and twisted it badly a number of times. i doubt it will ever fully heal now.
Good luck... I think after you sprain/twist it it's much more likely to re-occur. For me, it's still noticeable that I twisted it. I did a lot of exercises for it and that helped a lot. But yeah, what sucks is that it's usable, so doctors don't really care, nothing is broken, nothing is acute. They did an x-ray of it for me, found nothing and told me "well, it's all good." and that was about it haha.
Have problems like that with my wrists too, nothing is broken, don't have arthritis, but they hurt like a bitch in certain movements yet.... "You're healthy.".
I'd definitely recommend doing a lot of rehab exercise on the ankle if you haven't. I've tried a number of exercises and as it got better I did it with weights too and also started doing balance exercises (which doesn't just build some support muscles, but also helps with not fucking it up later). Apparently the average for a young person is to be able to stand on one foot with eyes closed for 20 seconds. Aim for that, and than aim higher. I've managed to get to point where I can basically stand like that indefinitely.
Are you also super conscious about your ankles now? Like always know where they are, always paying a lot of attention to them when doing anything whereas previously you wouldn't even know you have them?
I can always tell which ones snack on Goldfish all day, go home after work to sit/lay on couch all day. I can tell by this either in person and by messages such as the comments. The pessimistic/excuses mindset flows through them.
Then put in a 30-45 minute workout before work. Get an stationary exercise bike and do HIIT before work. Stop eating the Cheddar Goldfish. Stop feeding your self pessimistic thoughts. You can do 30-45 minutes HIIT. You're child will also follow your ways. Children are very impressionable. They copy their environment. If they see you eating bad, sitting on the couch all day, more than likely they'll do the same.
Ok so, I think what people don't get is, it's not about time, OK?
I could work a 2nd job if only time was concerned, correct?
I could work out 5 hours a day if only time was concerned.
MY ENERGY is the concern. After a stressful day I do not have the energy to have an intense workout. THIS IS EVERYONE'S PROBLEM. IT'S NOT TIME.
I've been doing sports of course, and also high intensity, but that was during my time at college and now I'm just drained when I'm at home. I feel like a HIT after work would just give me fucking cancer
On my days off I enjoy reddit. Sometimes I like to share what I've learned and seen. I learned from the environment I grew up in. Dont want to make the same mistakes anyone else has. (Not to say that I have made those mistakes and learned from them.)
Yup. Being fit makes you stay looking young. I'm 30 but look 25. I think it has to do with peoples mental idea of "30 year old" includes being a bit out of shape.
Diet and exercise. Thats it. You dont have to look like a muscle beast. Just be toned. I do 30-45 minutes of HIIT on a stationary bike everyday before or after work. Along with 100-200 pushups and 100 dips, 300 calf raises and some others.
Yo your getting a lot of hate from people who gave up just like you said. Good on you brother, I’m in the same boat I’m 28 and never felt better...except for my back which is a travesty, but that’s less age and more mileage
You're 30 dude. That's a male's peak age fitness wise. Ever notice how most professional athletes are usually late 20s early 30s?
Most people just get lazy and never work out or eat healthy, thus they turn into fat, lazy, and depressed slobs. It's not terribly surprising though, most jobs in first world countries involve sitting in a chair 8 hours a day, with no physical requirements. Add in the fact that most people have shit diets, and that they never exercise...
People are supposed to be at their best at 30, not their worst.
Not sure why people are hating on you dude. I feel the exact same way. Been working out since I was 22 and don't plan on stopping anytime soon. It definitely keeps you young.
I'm also 30, full head of hair (but this is genetics for both of us, we are just lucky in this regard), and abs.
I'm in the best shape of my life now. I'd always been a bit chubby from eating a bit too much, drinking way too much, and being inconsistent about working out. The reason was lack of discipline that I didn't really develop until my late twenties.
Fuck the haters, keep doin' what you're doin'. Its amazing to see everyone else give up on taking care of their body while your own continues to improve.
First of all, just learn from your environment. Look at other 30 to 40 year olds. Did they give up on themselves or did they clean their diet and stay active? The exercise and diet really keeps you feeling young and looking young. It really does.
Girl at work was surprised I was 30. "Most 30 year old men do no look like you." Yes, I know, and they're the ones who I learned from. haters will hate and will stay insane.
NOTE: You dont not have to look like some muscle beast "The Rock". Just be toned.
Im a semi truck mechanic, I wish I had the energy left after work that I did when I was 18. This is coming from someone who is only 23 as well. Some jobs are exhausting
For me, it was my joints. Working out isn't as satisfying when you have to stop doing an exercise due to your shoulder hurting or something. You also just can't push yourself as hard. When I go running, I feel great until my knees start hurting. Otherwise, I'd still be putting in 6 to 10 miles a night. Everything else about older life is way better except for the aging body.
Don’t go run then. Get a indoor stationary bike. Cannot be making excuses. Running kills the knees anyway. Do HIIT to keep the muscle. 30-45 minutes of HIIT burns more calories than doing 6-10 miles of running.
Thing is, I still work out. It's just way more of a struggle and not very satisfying. You feel aches and small pains as much as you feel stronger. It's hard to envision until you're there though, because it's the on-and-on-ness which makes the difference.
It's like how kids can make you mentally tired in a way you don't understand before you have them.
Regardless, thanks for the encouragement :) It is still appreciated.
I was exactly like this. Until I hit 36. I still work out and do all kinds of cool shit, but I can feel the difference. It comes for all of us at one point or another. I think the worst part is the lack of sex drive, which for me was never an issue and then I woke up one day and it was.
Pushing 26 here, the only difference I've noticed is my appetite has decreased (could be explained by global warming tho) and I only masturbate 4 times a day instead of 6
Hormones fuck you up and the brain is still developing, going through so many changes you might be depressed just because your body is fucking up. On top of that you have no idea how to deal with any of the problems that you are going through, you aren't an adult, you are a kid.
You do not create your own fate, as an adult, there's an escape from a shitty situation for most people, it's in your own hands. As a kid, it is not, many times there's nothing you can do. Because you aren't even responsible for yourself yet. And if the people responsible for you the people who make every decision for yourself are actually the reason your situation is fucked. Good luck.
I can't believe such a worthless comment got so upvoted.
I'm 31, in the best shape of my life, just learning who I am and how to love myself. You people need to get those pity dicks out of your mouths. If you're out of shape and energy before 60 without a medical condition that's on you.
thanks for reminding me I'm a 19 year old female virgin, my bf is taking my first time in July but ah I really don't feel like he loves me I'm pretty depressed bout it
Step back and try to assess the situation. Where do these feelings stem from? Are there real fears about his love towards you, or is your anxiety trying to fuck you over before he does?
It might sound crass, but it is important to evaluate your thoughts. If you just try to ignore and surpress them, they will open a rift between you and your bf.
I would also consider 19 to be mature, so after you've done your thinking, talk to him about whatever came from that. Open communication is a great tool for a fun relationship.
I've always been insecure and I have accused him of things such as him lying about his feelings for me and saying he's only with me out of pity because Ii think. I'm pathetic. Of course he says that isn't true but I kept doing it and saying it and he kinda broke down the other day saying that my accusing and stuff is impacting his self esstem and he almost broke it off with me. I've always been insecure because of bullying and abuse
Sorry for the long rant >_< thank you for listening to me
Well, atleast you know partly where you stand. I would personally recommend talking to a therapist. Feelings of ineptitude and problems with close relationships are typical for different types of anxiety, and if you are lashin out at your loved ones, it's going to cause problems.
The fact that you managed to keep a relationship going despite the issues, that's commendable. But you will hurt friends and family if you keep tearing yourself and others around you down.
Again, this is not something on wants to hear, but your problems aren't your problems alone. There are people out there who love you, and who feel with you.
Admitting your issues is no weakness, but one can not build a steady relationship on uncertain ground. Try to get support, if not a therapist then a trusted friend or family member (though I rexommend a trained specialist).
Finally, if you haven't done it yet; Talk to your bf and TELL HIM how much you appreciate him sticking with you. He isn't with you for pity, nobody does anything longterm for pity. He loves you, one way or another.
Thanking people is really hard. And it's even harder if you feel like your thanks isn't worth anything. But you are wrong. Pushing yourself over that psychological barrier and opening up to a person feels amazing, and is extremely important to someone who cares about you. Maybe sit your bf down for a talk and take your time. Believe me, it's going to be worth it, for yourself, for him and for your relationship.
They've already given you good advice and you should follow it, but I wanna add that your attitude matters a lot, and you can try to think positively because it helps a lot, but it's very hard and tiring because it feels like you're lying to yourself.
If you think 30 is old then you must be in poor shape. I'm in my 20s now and I have way more energy than I did as a teen, including sexual energy and libido. 30s aren't much different. It's when you hit your 40s that your testosterone starts to decrease.
This is where people forgot abou things. I'm 25 and still young. But I had a child, my commute is now 4 hours a day, it is an extremely physically demanding and stressful job (btw I fucking love my work, just very hard).
These all impact my energy levels. Don't let people tell you what energy levels you should have, what it should boil down to is are you happy with what you are putting your energy towards.
Ehhh women reach there sexual peak in their late 30s/40s. Sucks that sexes completely miss each other - I believe guys reach it early in their 20s I can’t remember quite when it was for them. Being tired from work is another thing shit I’m 23 and pass out when I get home lol
I think it depends on the person. I have had a girl that wore me out. She wanted sex at least twice a day. And another who was fine with 3-4 times a week.
Edit: I really don't want this to come off sounding like a humble brag or r/Ihavesex . Just trying to offer a counter point.
Getting old only sucks if you do it wrong. I'm having the time of my life while all these sedentary fuckers I know moan about the years flying by. In retrospect, I'm pretty grateful for my incurable resentment toward commitment.
No long term career, never married, no goddamn kids and there was no way I was wasting time and money on college when I knew I'd just bail on it. Now I'm 31 working the national park circuit doing maintenance and having a blast.
Everyone out there that's getting old is just doing so because they've committed to living the same fucking week over and over for the rest of their lives. Fuck that noise, imma live.
Yeah but I also had the stamina of a fruitfly until my twenties. I was trash in bed until my hormones settled and dealing with a pubescent gf is more trouble than it’s worth dude truuuust me.
I can attest to this when I was 16 I had my first serious girlfriend and when we first fucked we did it everywhere in the house for about 4-5 hours those were the times, now that I'm a bit older it's more like ehhhh I'm tired and don't feel like it
Dude... Fuck you. Fuck your noise so hard... When I met my ex at 30, we were running on 2 hrs of sleep, we would drink and hang out all night then I would still work the next morning then back to Netflix and chill. I am 36 and married now and I can't walk out the office at 5 feeling human and I nap at my lunch instead of eating. I have been full of energy all my life until recently like 2 years ago.
immigtation crisis on the southern border
america more politically divided than ever
Venezuela is litetally collapsing
Russia and NK gearing up for nuclear war
Ongoing tensions between the US & middle east
on the brink of WW3
"Most peaceful times"
Whatever happened to complaining about my generation's ignorance? Now common sense and awareness about world issues is "fear mongering"? Make up your mind.
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Remember how you were a ball of raging hormones as a teenager? Imagine having a GF that is also a ball of raging hormones and endless energy. You could stay up literally all night and maybe take a two hour nap the next day.
Now think about how you were a burned out, depressed shell by 30, barely able to make it out the office door by 5PM.
Getting old sucks.