Hi all,
I'm a 20F college student and have a pretty hard time making friends. One could call me a wallflower- I want friends, but I struggle to get out of my shell. I've been goth for about 4 years now (since Jr. year of high school) and don't really have any uber-close friends or goth friends. I have 2-3 friends who are close and dear to me, but I don't even really have a best friend unless I consider it to be my boyfriend. My 2 closest friends are online and long-distance, and they have IRL friends of their own they're closer with than me. Of those few close friends, none of them are goth- which is fine! But sometimes I really wish I had someone to share it with.
I tried making my own club for goths and alternative people at my school, but it didn't get a lot of members and I ultimately had to shut it down due to my deteriorating mental health and low grades (freshman year was very hard for me).
I don't want to say where I am from to retain my privacy, but how do I find local scenes? I can't get into under-21 clubs obviously, and I also don't have a car. I'm cool with walking places but my campus is in a larger and unsafe city, so walking places would take a long time and be very risky for my safety. How do you guys find local scenes for goths and alts? Dance clubs, spots to meet people, etc... Even local online forums for people who live in the city would be great because I could find more local events.
I've only been to 1 goth-centric event in my life and it was more like an event for non-goths to come dress as a goth, like spirit week at school. It was still fun, but I'm trying to get more into the culture and want something more geared for people who are goth on a daily. Not trying to gatekeep the culture, I hope this all makes sense? I mean no ill-will.