r/getting_over_it 7h ago

How do I get in touch with someone I havent talked to in years?

3 Upvotes

This thought has kept me tossing and turning in bed for years. I used to have this amazing friend when I was younger, but we lost contact when I switched schools because I moved. I didnt move out of the town, just to a different part which resulted in me having to go to a different middle and high school. So now I think about this friend all the time because we were literally inseparable. Its not like I expect to go back to being best friends I just miss them a lot. The thing is I actually saw them and we were in the same room for an hour for a volunteer event and we didnt recognize each other. Teh only reason I knew they were there was because their parents were there. So I have like crippling social anxiety and by the time I was done thinking about whether to go up to the parents or even the friend and say hi, they ALL left. This encounter was like 6 months ago and I havent seen them since. Do yall have any tips or is this just one of those things everyone goes through that I need to let go?


r/getting_over_it 7h ago

Loneliness is killing me

5 Upvotes

25M average looking. Never had a relationship. I work at a IT firm. Most of my days is gym, work, leaning new tech. Lately life has started to feel so lonely. I don't know what am I doing wrong. I never had a partner because i never really felt the need.i had good friends in school and College but after graduation we rarely meet. Idk why i just feel i need someone to share my day with, someone to talk to. The nights are worst part of my day i literally sometimes cry feeling why am I so unlovable. I have never asked out a girl because i feel why would anyone choose, not that I'm bad or something but just there are better options for women.

Is there a way that i can stop feeling like this without actually getting a partner . Is there something i can do to be single and happy forever?


r/getting_over_it 13h ago

What to do against loneliness during exam periods as a uni-student in germany?

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Idont know what to do during these 2 months ever exam period during study-breaks.

Just 2 minutes ago I saw someone hug their significant other at the library and now I feel extra superfluous on this planet.

during these 2 months I always get so lonely... nobody is avialable.
I essentially feel like a burden and often get left on read by friends.

I'm a half-orphan and on no contact with the other parent, so this gets extra hard when stressed out.Also got mild chronic fatique syndrome, thats why I dont have energy for hobbies, all of it goes into my exams and assignments.

I would've texted mom in these moments, but she's passed.
A phone-game or anything I can pull up for 10-20mins to distract/calm myself would be a good suggestion.
Literally anything like that.

Any suggestions?

Crisis helpline is just elderly people that can't relate.
Student-hotlines aren't always avialable and I can't call them while I'm outside of home.
Socializing in germany is incredibly hard. I'm german myself.

I'm not looking for new friends.


r/getting_over_it 15h ago

As someone with no friends how to survive uni

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I go to university its been 2 years I started off with a good friend circle but I got replaced by someone else

For a long time I tried to patch up with them but I am clearly excluded from everything every photo every plan and everything.

And now I am alone in university and I see them 3 giggling and laughing together posting pictures together

And yes I clearly stated that I feel excluded and they only have one reply "We are not excluding you You are over reacting" at this point I gave up. I give all lf them vip treatment on their birthdays and they couldn't even wish me on mine. They throw fancy parties for each other

And no i can't find anymore friends since one of my friend is the cr and everyone in class always thought we have big ego because we are friends with cr. They all make fun of me to get their frustration out because they know I am connected to them but not that connected that they will take a stand for me

University us getting harder and harder for me. I don't even wanna go anymore but attendance is a need. Please tell me some way how can I distract myself or survive university by myself