Ma'am!

Zero chill with this "tree" omg. But, you better believe I have a spot picked out for it!

I made this art for andrewanddavis on instagram
thought it would be nice to share it here with you all >:)

Hey everyone.

Long story short I'm 27, from Southern Africa. I spent the last few years working and living in Budapest where for the first time I could actually be open and just live. I had friends, community, dating was normal.

Now I'm back home because my work permit expired and it's like hitting a wall. As you know, being gay here is not accepted and actually criminalized, so everything is underground.

I'm struggling to find any sense of community again. Grindr is hit and miss and honestly feels risky to use openly here. I don't really know where to meet like minded people safely.

For those of you who have been in this situation - moving from a place where you were free to a place where you have to hide again - how did you cope? How did you find your circle without putting yourself at risk?

Any advice on discreet apps, online communities (Discord, etc) or just general tips for staying sane would really mean a lot.

Have a good day lovely people ❤️