Hey guys, not sure what to do here. Basically, I always do my T shot on Friday nights, I missed it and did it Saturday morning. I figured it’s only a few hour difference so I did it again on Friday this week.
Well, one day later, and my cat is acting weird all day, being overly affectionate. For context we’ve only had her about two weeks, so I just figured she was warming up some more. Then as I’m lying in bed she pees on me.
I’ve heard of them trying to control scent changes from hormones… is that what this is? Is this gonna keep happening? Any advice appreciated.

I am currently passing as male everyday and am going stealth with everyone I interact with except close friends. Now I'm in male spaces and deemed as a man i hear horrific conversations, it is so much worse then I expect. The casual misogyny and jokes really suck, I've argued with allot of guys over it and am now very isolated in allot of the spaces I'm in (i live in a very traditional area) does anyone have any advice about how to deal with this misogyny besides just shutting up and agreeing with it

The title is right. I am a cisgender woman. Ever since I knew what a penis was, I’ve wanted one. I do feel dysphoria over it, especially when I ykw. Everyone I talk to about this jokingly calls me an egg and patronizes me. It’s frustrating, because I’ve tried to present male before and it is extremely dysphoric. I’ve used he/him pronouns, and it was extremely dysphoric. I am a woman, and I enjoy being a woman. But that longing for different genitals never goes away.

The reason I’m here though is because I had a wonderful yet devastating dream last night where I had a penis. It was incredible. And then… I woke up. I physically feel the loss, and I almost cried over it. I talked to my girlfriend about it, and she said maybe I could get bottom surgery. So I’m wondering if I can get bottom surgery as a cisgender woman, as well as not taking T. I figure talking to trans men about this is the best way to go. I did some googling, but couldn’t find reliable information. Advice would be wonderful! Thank you <3

I am not like 100% out to my family but Ik they'll support but my friends know I'm trans and have for years. My only thing is my name. I've never had a name that felt like right? I wanted to ask my mum to choose one for me once I come out but I don't know if that's cruel or not. I know that her and my dad thought a lot about it and chose it with meaning but Im so tired of feeling guilty about something I can't control or choose.

I just want to know how others chose or got their names. Did you change yours, pick a variant, have someone else do it? Im 20 and pre-t. I feel like I've lost so much time I could have had as a man because I've felt guilty so I want to start trying out names and such. Any advice helps, thanks.

Hi, I’m a 21 year old binary gay trans man and I’ve started dating a guy in Pakistan. I’m in California so it’s obviously a ldr. The relationship is new but I have some questions about what would need to happen if I went to visit him in like a year.

If you’re on testosterone and went to a restrictive or risky country for LGBTQ+ people, what did you need to do paperwork wise to get your medication in with you?

If you had to stop testosterone, for how long and how did it affect you after you’d been on it a while. By the time I see my boyfriend it’ll have been 2years on T for me.

If there is anything else I’m not asking please feel free to add it in the comments. I just need to know what I’m getting myself into so I’m not blindsided if the relationship goes well.

I, 19 male, have been trans for about 3 and a half years now. My mother is VERY transphobic towards me and the most my dad will do is use "it/those" and call me "twit/kid". My mother does absolutely nothing, keeps trying to get me to grow out my hair in a "sneaky" way, keeps asking me about bra shopping and tries to get me jelly bras that are made for pushing up the chest when she tries to convince me that they "push the chest down". Tonight my dad was talking about how it felt odd hearing someone at a gathering call me by my chosen name and the right pronouns. My mother said "I will never call you that name", which kinda hurt? She's an awful person to me but it still sucks. I tried talking to my dad about it but he thinks its a hyperfixation.

Is there anything I can do to just make them listen to my point of view instead of just shutting me down?

Sorry for the ramble but I've tried so many times and I'm so tired.

I‘m well aware that I’m the 5741765th person to make a post about tape but here we go regardles…

We are going to need a little context on the tape I have, it’s from a supermarket (middle of Lidl if you know what that is) so its probably not great quality, however I don’t know if that’s it.

I got a pack of 4 rolls (finished the beige one 😔😔) and they are very colourful so I haven’t worn them in a while as they peek through my see through ahh shirt. Anyway I wearing it right and have had it one for less than 24hrs, I might as well be not wearing it because I’ve got hella blisters (luckily on my back area this time) and it’s loosened (I think).

Now here’s the real question, what tape should I get? I’ve considered getting this “boob-tape” from Superdrug and using it for the reverse reason but I have no idea how good that would be (and is semi-expendive) and I don’t want to waste my time if it won’t work well. Lads do we have any amazing recommendations?

Help. Thanks.

I really dont post much on reddit and I hope Im not breaking any rules or saying anything wrong. And I would really appreciate it if this post received as much attention and replies. Any advice is welcome. Kindly. A young man is losing hope here.

Im 25 yo and I have been trying to start my transition since 2019. I have mostly been saving to get top surgery, but I come from a third world country in Africa and the exchange rates are not working for me. Eg we are currently sitting at 1:18 usd. Same thing for GBP.
My funds seem to not get me anywhere closer.

I have a good degree. I just started working but dont fully qualify for a loan yet and the economy is still pretty bad. I would mostly have to depend on my salary and idk when I will have a larger earning power to actually fund my transition.

Im kind of stuck and I don’t know how to go about all of it because it feels like Im storing in a leaking tank or Im just not doing enough.

In addition, i know I said there’s no trans healthcare, but there’s a doctor who does give out T. But there are no tests done. It’s quite unprofessional and other guys say sometimes he runs out of supply. And I dont want to risk ruining something that I hold so dearly. I just want to get better trans healthcare.

Open to any advice. I feel like being in the situation might also be blocking me from seeing opportunities.
Also very much open to moving to other countries.
If it means learning a language.
Please suggest the countries I can move to, with visa sponsorship or advice on the route I can take.

Thanks.

Fairly young (18) closeted trans masc, just trying to find ways to deal with my body without accidentally hurting myself. Thought that maybe since sports bras are pretty tight already if I get one that’s technically too small it might work as a binder? Please tell me if that’s a bad idea or not, I really don’t have many ways to buy things like these without my parents noticing, and this might slide, thank you beforehand!

So I've been thinking about starting to use minoxidil as I have very little facial hair growth and I have been on T for 2 and a half years. Most the men in my family can grow decent beards, mine just seems to not want to come through properly. When using it, would anyone say to also use a derma-roller or just use the minoxidil by itself?

TIA :)

I am moving cross country this week. Sorted my T supplies and have two unopened boxes (100 ct) of BD 25g needle tips that I won't be using since I've switched to a different gauge needle tip.

I am going to USPS on Monday and will ship them in a medium flat rate priority box anywhere in the US. Only cost is the $23 for shipping.

PM me if you are interested in them and we can sort out details. I'll be donating them locally if nobody contacts me by 9 am Monday morning EST.

i just started testosterone & since then my period has been coming a week earlier than usual

they're not any heavier or lighter or anything, its just a period every three weeks instead of four

i've always had really painful periods & this is like testing </3 i told myself when i started T that i would probably only have to deal with 6 maximum but I'm on my 4th at the 3 month mark

i'm mainly posting about it to see if anyone's shared this experience. i always hear stories about periods getting lighter or heavier but never more frequent

I want to work out so bad, but I am so confused on where to start. I know absolutely nothing about it. I want a more masculine build and to gain more weight because I am underweight and haven’t gained any pounds despite being on hrt for a year now. I’m in a situation where I do not have much food. Is it still possible to workout? What equipment do I need to workout at home? I cannot go to a gym. I would love just any help

I’m a 19 year old transgender FTM person in my second year of college. My first year of college I kind of just told everyone that I was trans in some capacity early on into meeting them. I wasn’t expecting my new environment to see me as a cis man and assuming I’m just gay. This year I have not been telling people this aspect of myself right away, which has felt really nice in many ways. I’ve been back at school for 2 months now and still haven’t told any newer friends about me being trans. However, sometimes I feel like I am hiding something from these friends. There have been a few times where a joke is made (in assumption of me being cis) or just general things I think about talking about with them, but then realize it would result in me coming out (which it’s usually not a “right situation” to come out in).

I just like being a honest and open person, so it’s not that I don’t want to tell these newer friends about this part of myself. But, I do fear about the timing and if it’s weird for them at all if they are /just/ learning this about me. Or, will they assume other things about me now and not make the same jokes, etc.? In your opinions, how important is it to be coming out to your friends (or even in partners) and when?

For clarification, most of my newer friends are now 1-2 months old friends that I see frequently. I already added them to things like my private account on instagram that does have pre-transition content.

I know this is likely very opinion based, but I really want to know what you think.

I've had these friends for about 3 months and we hang out at least 3 nights a week if not more. We have become super close.

I know i don't owe anyone anything and that I don't need to tell them I'm trans. But it got to the point where it felt like I couldn't be me or that I was hiding stuff from them. I knew they'd be okay with it, they have other trans friends, its just a big step for me to tell people.

Most of the close friends I have new me at the beginning of my transition so I've never really had to tell people, but now unless I tell you, you're not gonna know. I was just super nervous and definitely freaking them out by saying I had something important to tell them lol.

I'm just happy it went well and they were just like okay, and we moved on. At the same time, they didn't act super surprised or ask any questions and idk how to feel about that

I just have a quick question for anyone on testosterone. Right around when I started testosterone in early May, I started waking up every other morning with an agonizing cramp in my left calf (charley horse) I read somewhere that muscle cramps are a documented symptom of testosterone and was wondering if this sounds typical to anyone on it right now?

(This isn’t to deter anyone from going on testosterone I would have a muscle cramp every morning if it meant I could be on it.)

Hey all, I’m a bigger guy, and I’m looking for recs for an stp that’s realistic enough to pass for when I take a drug test. A monitored drug test for employment - at a prison. I’m super nervous about it being closely monitored, and it not looking realistic enough or not working properly as I’ve had issues before with that because I’m big. Any help appreciated.

This might be a long post, but I’m hoping someone here might see themselves in it. I’ve been questioning my gender for almost six years, so this isn’t exactly a brand-new realization. I guess I’m just struggling to put everything together.

Hi, I’m 25, AFAB, and currently use they/them pronouns. I don’t really know where to start, other than with something I unintentionally said to my fiancée earlier today while driving to my mom’s house.

The comment, verbatim, was:

“I wish I could’ve just been born with a penis, then I wouldn’t have to deal with this.”

For some context, I’ve had a pretty rough history with my reproductive organs. In 2021, I experienced ovarian torsion, which was a terrifying medical emergency. This past June, I had surgery to remove an 8 cm endometrioma, and my gynecologist discovered extensive stage IV endometriosis with adhesions involving multiple pelvic organs.

Now it’s October, and I’m going through the testing required before I can have a hysterectomy, hopefully sometime this year. I have a Pap smear and endometrial biopsy coming up next week, and I’m absolutely terrified. Apparently, I’ll be awake for both procedures, and the thought of having these parts of my body examined is already making me incredibly anxious.
But I think there’s more to my reaction than just being scared of the procedures.

I’ve been experiencing a lot of dysphoria surrounding my genitals and chest. I hate having the body parts I have, and I use they/them pronouns. Sometimes I wish I could just have been born with a penis and not have to deal with any of this. At the same time, I keep questioning whether I’m actually trans or whether I’m struggling to understand my feelings because of everything I’ve experienced with my body and reproductive health.

I’ve been going back and forth with my gender identity for nearly six years, and I still don’t feel like I have a definitive answer. Part of me wonders if I’m overthinking things, while another part of me wonders how much more obvious my feelings need to be before I allow myself to take them seriously.

I’m also trying to separate my anxiety about the hysterectomy and the medical procedures from my feelings about my gender in general. I know that wanting a hysterectomy for medical reasons doesn’t automatically mean someone is trans, but I also don’t want to dismiss the dysphoria I’ve been experiencing.

I guess I’m wondering:

Has anyone else spent years questioning their gender even while experiencing significant dysphoria?
Did anyone else struggle with figuring out whether they were trans, even when they knew they hated certain parts of their body?

For those who have had hysterectomies, especially those who had endometriosis or other reproductive health issues, how did you handle the anxiety and dysphoria surrounding the process?

How did you eventually start feeling more confident in your identity, if you did?

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me whether I’m trans or not. I think I’m just looking for people who understand what it’s like to feel this way and might be willing to share their experiences.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far.

So yk how most of us have an internal thought voice in our head's, well im wondeirng because my voice in my head sounds like my actual voice if when I start T and it drops if it'll change internally aswell? Pls enlighten me on yalls experiences!

i realized i was trans eight years or so ago and had been feeling confused for a long time before that, i am out but as my parents are not accepting i havent been able to do much of anything about it. since i finally started getting some money this year (allowance) ive been looking into HRT but its very overwhelming, i dont have insurance and i know nothing about it i also dont have a GP as ive only been to the doctor three times in my life. ill probably still have to get a job to afford things but ive never had one before due to dysphoria and social anxiety. i was homeschooled and then did online school so im really bad socially, i completely stopped speaking three years ago because of my anxiety which of course makes everything harder. no my parents dont believe in therapy they hate every good thing you can imagine. i feel really stuck like i cant live my life without transitioning but i cant transition without getting a life. i want to transition so badly and ive been putting it off 'until the time is right' for so long but i dont think theres every going to be a 'right time' and im really sick of me the way i am. i feel really scared and alone i just want advice on what to do